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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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What’s the most frustrating thing about this site these days?
For us, it’s the amount of massages offered, the amount of photo sessions offered, and the obsession with socials over sex.
This is a swinging site, and swinging is sex! |
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I would say the opposite, people who want to jump straight into sex. Yes it's a swinging site but it's still important to know someone a little bit before taking that next step so social things are essential beforehand. Maybe there's more protection as a couple but as a single, I wouldn't be meeting someone and getting straight down to it. |
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"I would say the opposite, people who want to jump straight into sex. Yes it's a swinging site but it's still important to know someone a little bit before taking that next step so social things are essential beforehand. Maybe there's more protection as a couple but as a single, I wouldn't be meeting someone and getting straight down to it."
I love a good social, I consider it all part of the extended foreplay. Exciting and sexy as hell 🤤 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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Socials are ruining the scene though: if you google the meaning of swinging, it certainly isn’t social. We’ve lived in Germany recently and the scene here is vibrant, and not a social to be heard of. It’s purely carnal sex |
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"Socials are ruining the scene though: if you google the meaning of swinging, it certainly isn’t social. We’ve lived in Germany recently and the scene here is vibrant, and not a social to be heard of. It’s purely carnal sex"
In a club = sure no problem. Verified identity, CCTV, witnesses. Let's go.
From fab? Probably not. Some people on here should be medicated.
Also, a social can just as easily be code for "I want to make sure I'm not being catfished". |
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we would not and will not just fuck with anyone.. so for us it is chat on here to start and if all good then we have a social to be face to face with the person and if all parties agree then it can move to the next level.
if we are ruining for others by living our life as we see fit then aww diddums  |
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We are very happily " Obsessed" with socials and not just let's get jiggy wiggy with it straight away ! and the endless messages asking if we fancy "Fun" ? we know what it's code for ? but the endless no shows/excuses we encounter we only promise we will show up as arranged but seems despite what most say that's not good enough ? and should be site for everyone but sadly turning out not to be and who doesn't like a good sexy session but ...xx  |
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"I would say the opposite, people who want to jump straight into sex. Yes it's a swinging site but it's still important to know someone a little bit before taking that next step so social things are essential beforehand. Maybe there's more protection as a couple but as a single, I wouldn't be meeting someone and getting straight down to it."
100% this
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"What’s the most frustrating thing about this site these days?
For us, it’s the amount of massages offered, the amount of photo sessions offered, and the obsession with socials over sex.
This is a swinging site, and swinging is sex!"
I keep saying that fab is getting more like tinder than swinging |
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Aye socials are important for us too. The guys who send one word messages, or can't spell properly tend - from our personal experience - to lead to crap meets where it's wham bam, thank you ma'am and gone. Not pleasurable, not respectful. Not for us.
Appreciate everyone's different though and that's absolutely fine, it's just something we've found out s out the bad ones (mostly).
For us, there's definitely a huge amount of fakes - blokes pretending to be couples etc., but they're easy enough to spot. Just wish we had better control over who could message us to save time deleting them. |
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By *j188Couple 6 weeks ago
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"I would say the opposite, people who want to jump straight into sex. Yes it's a swinging site but it's still important to know someone a little bit before taking that next step so social things are essential beforehand. Maybe there's more protection as a couple but as a single, I wouldn't be meeting someone and getting straight down to it."
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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Really old photos... Some people send me the same pics they were sending me on my old profiles from many years back...
Plus people who don't read profiles, one liners, the usual... |
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Anyone can write a thread or comment on a post But you must never criticise a woman for anything she says or anything she may do, If you do, you will be lambasted by the ladies and by the hierarchy of men, couples you can comment on as most are read and replied to buy the male of the couple and anyone with a single profile is definitely bottom of the pile |
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No one wants to connect, you show interest, you mention something from their bio to show you are one of the few and still nothing. I do not expect to be everyones cup of tea, howver a little conversation costs nothing  |
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"I would say the opposite, people who want to jump straight into sex. Yes it's a swinging site but it's still important to know someone a little bit before taking that next step so social things are essential beforehand. Maybe there's more protection as a couple but as a single, I wouldn't be meeting someone and getting straight down to it."
Completely agree..and I am part of a couple. When I go to the club I wouldn't dream of approaching a random.woman or couple I've not spoken to and asking to join because it's a massive pet peeve when I'm there with my wife. Admittedly we don't play with single guys and it's not a common occorunce a random.woman will try to join but even so.. women or couples..have a drink and a chat first before heading off to the play area.
It's how you make freinds and repeat play mates.
But what works for us dosnt work for others.
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By *avinci4Man 6 weeks ago
East Midlands |
"People who cant handle rejecton."
There are some indeed.
But I would argue that the shear number of rejections/male is driving most men towards "inpatience". Imagine writing up to 100 thoughtful, funny, engaging emails, after reading every profile beforehand. And then all of them are just deleted, or not even read. Show me a lady on fab, who was rejected like this 100 times in a row, and has not given up? |
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"I would say the opposite, people who want to jump straight into sex. Yes it's a swinging site but it's still important to know someone a little bit before taking that next step so social things are essential beforehand. Maybe there's more protection as a couple but as a single, I wouldn't be meeting someone and getting straight down to it.
Completely agree..and I am part of a couple. When I go to the club I wouldn't dream of approaching a random.woman or couple I've not spoken to and asking to join because it's a massive pet peeve when I'm there with my wife. Admittedly we don't play with single guys and it's not a common occorunce a random.woman will try to join but even so.. women or couples..have a drink and a chat first before heading off to the play area.
It's how you make freinds and repeat play mates.
But what works for us dosnt work for others.
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We understand where you're coming from, but we are the opposite! When at a sex club we absolutely expect people to come and try to have sex with us and we are not shy about showing the same enthusiasm if we find someone hot. If they're not interested, or we are not, no harm done!
Perhaps it's because we are not so interested in the friends side of things at random clubs?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 6 weeks ago
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Glad you agree with us! We go to have sex with others. Yes of course if we don’t like the look of anyone we won’t fuck them, but our number one intention is to fuck people. That’s what clubs should be about. There’s a club near us, Uniquez, that is now as inactive and non-swinging as you’ll find. But, thankfully real swingers are finding other places to go. |
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By *uzzleMan 6 weeks ago
Hastings |
People's sense of entitlement and rules on profiles. I refuse to contact anyone whose profile reads like a person specification.
* No face pic no reply
* Socials first or party invite
* No facial hair
* Excess cock pics on profile = block
* No single males
* We won't host and no hotel meets
The list goes on.....
I can't take Fab seriously, I am just on here for the crack and see what happens. If someone likes the look of my cock/body then great, if not jog on.
If I were to put on my profile, my preference is women of size 10 or less, I'd get reported to admin!
Happy fabbing y'all!
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Timewasters, or those who are obviously only interested in your pictures.
Those who think just because your're on a swinging site your're easy and you'll jump into bed with them after a couple of messages.
Those who do message wanting to "meet now" even though it says obviously on your profile that won't happen. |
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Men changing the boundries. When we offer a meet, for example, meet at your place. They agree, we set a place snd time ect.
They then starting messaging, changing the boundries, for example, saying they prefer a car meet, so instead of his place they want a doggin meet. |
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Yes it is a swinging site but being a single woman I am not going to meet strange men in strange places..
I like to meet them first in public.
In this day in age women need to feel safe and be safe.
Majority of men on here understand but there are those that think don't
Social before sex ! |
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By *host63Man 6 weeks ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"What’s the most frustrating thing about this site these days?
For us, it’s the amount of massages offered, the amount of photo sessions offered, and the obsession with socials over sex.
This is a swinging site, and swinging is sex!"
Mine is people who.answer your message positively and then blank you when you reply or you don't reply straight away.
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"I would say the opposite, people who want to jump straight into sex. Yes it's a swinging site but it's still important to know someone a little bit before taking that next step so social things are essential beforehand. Maybe there's more protection as a couple but as a single, I wouldn't be meeting someone and getting straight down to it."
Agreed! |
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"I would say the opposite, people who want to jump straight into sex. Yes it's a swinging site but it's still important to know someone a little bit before taking that next step so social things are essential beforehand. Maybe there's more protection as a couple but as a single, I wouldn't be meeting someone and getting straight down to it."
This. Even as a couple. |
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There is more to swinging than the sex. The social part is a big part for most. Meeting others with the same interests and making friends.
My biggest bug bear is people that don’t read your profile. I only attend clubs. I don’t use fab for meeting.
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By *reasyMan 6 weeks ago
Caerphilly |
"I would say the opposite, people who want to jump straight into sex. Yes it's a swinging site but it's still important to know someone a little bit before taking that next step so social things are essential beforehand. Maybe there's more protection as a couple but as a single, I wouldn't be meeting someone and getting straight down to it."
Absolutely agree, so many think the site is “Instafuck” attraction chemistry and manners are so much part of swinging 😃 |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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The husbands claiming to have wife’s, then it turns out they have wife’s but want them to play and then start sharing pics of a wife who is totally unaware of the entire situation |
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"Socials are ruining the scene though: if you google the meaning of swinging, it certainly isn’t social. We’ve lived in Germany recently and the scene here is vibrant, and not a social to be heard of. It’s purely carnal sex"
In my experience the Germans aren’t fussy and there’s two different takes on that |
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"we would not and will not just fuck with anyone.. so for us it is chat on here to start and if all good then we have a social to be face to face with the person and if all parties agree then it can move to the next level.
if we are ruining for others by living our life as we see fit then aww diddums "
Yeh I don’t understand this take at all. In the vanilla world I’ll probably find that maybe 2-3/10 I’m actually attracted to the person I matched with online when I actually meet them in person.
And that’s not counting personality.
I’m definitely not going to make somebody think that they are getting to play with the goodies on a first meet and then find out there’s zero spark. |
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"we would not and will not just fuck with anyone.. so for us it is chat on here to start and if all good then we have a social to be face to face with the person and if all parties agree then it can move to the next level.
if we are ruining for others by living our life as we see fit then aww diddums
Yeh I don’t understand this take at all. In the vanilla world I’ll probably find that maybe 2-3/10 I’m actually attracted to the person I matched with online when I actually meet them in person.
And that’s not counting personality.
I’m definitely not going to make somebody think that they are getting to play with the goodies on a first meet and then find out there’s zero spark."
always a no expectations social,there is no promise of a play |
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I have to agree to so many want endless messages and a social after social , lots just want to talk about anything and everything except about swinging eg sex.
I have been to clubs and seen some just sit there and talk and pass judgemental comments about oh look they are having sex in a swinging club. |
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"I have to agree to so many want endless messages and a social after social , lots just want to talk about anything and everything except about swinging eg sex.
I have been to clubs and seen some just sit there and talk and pass judgemental comments about oh look they are having sex in a swinging club. "
so if we go to a club we "HAVE TO" fuck with someone? and is your own post not a judgemental comment on people doing it a different way to you?
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I have to say although it's a swinging site, many like socials before jumping into sex with others. If you don't that's fine, but it's OK for others to want one.
The things that annoy me are those just nearby for a night who think I'll head over to their truck or hotel, that's still miles away cos they're horny.
Also pushy feckers annoy me. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 6 weeks ago
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The most frustrating thing? People.
People who can't accept that others do things differently.
If you don't want to do socials that's fine.
If you see it as important, also fine.
If you want sex with no connection or conversation that's your prerogative.
If you need to have more than just physical attraction and need some element of mental connection, all good.
And most of all.....people who insist their way of swinging is the only correct way and that everyone else isn't a swinger. 🤦♂️🤦♂️ |
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For me, being a mature gentleman, I have to say age filters. I appreciate that people have certain preferences but when I’m only a couple of years too old it’s very frustrating not to be able to strike up a conversation |
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"For me, being a mature gentleman, I have to say age filters. I appreciate that people have certain preferences but when I’m only a couple of years too old it’s very frustrating not to be able to strike up a conversation "
Exactly that! |
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Personally I’d always have a social first as there has to be that spark and mental stimulation. Plus it’s a good opportunity to ask questions and get to know more of what the other person or couple are wanting. There is much more to swinging than just sex but how you live the lifestyle is up to you and there should be no judgements.
One thing that i do hate is being ghosted. I guess it’s more of a respect thing. I’d rather people just say they are not interested after speaking for a while. |
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