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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Unless the guys a hung like a donkey Adonis do women ever EVER message first on here?!?!?!? Or have they got absolute free range as guys always message first?!?!? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless the guys a hung like a donkey Adonis do women ever EVER message first on here?!?!?!? Or have they got absolute free range as guys always message first?!?!? "
Yes we do..
Well i do so there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women message first!  "
Only on nights when there is a blood moon and cake and chocolate are given out for free on the streets...other than then no we dont!!  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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If men EVER bothered to have a decent profile of course I would message first if they caught my eye. Unfortunately MOST are just soo shite with a lack of pictures yet come to the forum bemoaning the fact of their 'lack of luck' look at home first before you start moaning about the lack of success on here, the clue is almost always there!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If men EVER bothered to have a decent profile of course I would message first if they caught my eye. Unfortunately MOST are just soo shite with a lack of pictures yet come to the forum bemoaning the fact of their 'lack of luck' look at home first before you start moaning about the lack of success on here, the clue is almost always there! "
You sound jaded ! |
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"If men EVER bothered to have a decent profile of course I would message first if they caught my eye. Unfortunately MOST are just soo shite with a lack of pictures yet come to the forum bemoaning the fact of their 'lack of luck' look at home first before you start moaning about the lack of success on here, the clue is almost always there! "
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"If men EVER bothered to have a decent profile of course I would message first if they caught my eye. Unfortunately MOST are just soo shite with a lack of pictures yet come to the forum bemoaning the fact of their 'lack of luck' look at home first before you start moaning about the lack of success on here, the clue is almost always there!
You sound jaded ! "
Whatever gave you that idea? Oh wait, the fact I have been repeatedly saying so of late? Damn I need to start holding somethings back |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If men EVER bothered to have a decent profile of course I would message first if they caught my eye. Unfortunately MOST are just soo shite with a lack of pictures yet come to the forum bemoaning the fact of their 'lack of luck' look at home first before you start moaning about the lack of success on here, the clue is almost always there!
You sound jaded !
Whatever gave you that idea? Oh wait, the fact I have been repeatedly saying so of late? Damn I need to start holding somethings back "
Thanks for messaging me first though !  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get a fair few opening messages from women. I think the key is to not be pushy and just chat to people as you would anywhere else. I never turn the conversation to sex unless it’s obvious that’s what the lady is after. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they don't I ain't messaging them. I've found messaging simply doesn't work and only adds to the piles in women's inboxes. So they pretty much have to at least wink at me for anything to happen. If they don't. And I don't. Then nothing happens on here for me. I'm fine with that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they don't I ain't messaging them. I've found messaging simply doesn't work and only adds to the piles in women's inboxes. So they pretty much have to at least wink at me for anything to happen. If they don't. And I don't. Then nothing happens on here for me. I'm fine with that "
He waits, that what he does. |
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"Unless the guys a hung like a donkey Adonis do women ever EVER message first on here?!?!?!? Or have they got absolute free range as guys always message first?!?!? "
Who gave you that idea that all women like the same ! I don't like guys hung like a donkey !
And sometimes I do message first ! If someone is what I am looking for !
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless the guys a hung like a donkey Adonis do women ever EVER message first on here?!?!?!? Or have they got absolute free range as guys always message first?!?!? "
yes in a way but they never message first because they are in high demand on here so u got to have the perfect profile to get there attention |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"If men EVER bothered to have a decent profile of course I would message first if they caught my eye. Unfortunately MOST are just soo shite with a lack of pictures yet come to the forum bemoaning the fact of their 'lack of luck' look at home first before you start moaning about the lack of success on here, the clue is almost always there!
You sound jaded !
Whatever gave you that idea? Oh wait, the fact I have been repeatedly saying so of late? Damn I need to start holding somethings back
Thanks for messaging me first though ! "
You wish |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I get a fair few opening messages from women. I think the key is to not be pushy and just chat to people as you would anywhere else. I never turn the conversation to sex unless it’s obvious that’s what the lady is after. "
That is what works for me! Just a normal conversation so we can both suss each other out to see if we both want to maybe meet other |
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"If i come across a fit guy black or white and love their pics i will message and compliment them "
I do that as well. They don't necessarily have to be sexually attractive. If they have really great pictures and a profile, I will drop a note to say it's really nice.
Sometimes I let them know that their fantastic composition of their photos have inspired me to take better pictures of myself.
I expect nothing more, nothing less. I've made some great friends on Fab this way.
Sometimes I get a DEATHLY silence, which can make me laugh sometimes. And, sometimes they even attend the same social... And disappear pretty quickly!
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By *apstarMan
over a year ago
Harpenden |
"Unless the guys a hung like a donkey Adonis do women ever EVER message first on here?!?!?!? Or have they got absolute free range as guys always message first?!?!? "
Home hung like a field mouse and get plenty of messages first from beutifull lady's |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do, usually on FPF though!
One of my Fab besties is a guy I sent a face pic to on FPF
What's FPF?
Sure you don’t know Doc or just forgotten? "
Never forget important things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm more trogladye than Adonis and yet I do recieve first messages from women here despite my lack of six pack body like a melted welly and face like a ruptured spleen.
Seems your premise needs some wodk OP.
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I stopped msging woman on here a couple of years ago unless it's forum related. Guess I'm just to proud to scramble round for crumbs and I refuse to be the normal sad single male on here and in answer to the question yes some women do but it's rare.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I send a wink. Sometimes I'll drop someone a message.
I most certainly don't throw a hissy fit/send a follow up message/put up a bitchy status if the guy doesn't reply. I just assume they're not interested |
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Of course we do! I've been very proactive in the past about finding what I want If I stumbled across a well-written profile that intrigued me and matched my preferences, I had no hesitation in sending a first message |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless the guys a hung like a donkey Adonis do women ever EVER message first on here?!?!?!? Or have they got absolute free range as guys always message first?!?!? "
Don't hassle them if they want you they'll let you know.
I very rarely message first they come to me because I don't pester them.
It's that simple |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes I send a wink. Sometimes I'll drop someone a message.
I most certainly don't throw a hissy fit/send a follow up message/put up a bitchy status if the guy doesn't reply. I just assume they're not interested"
And that’s the main difference between men sending the first message and women sending the first message in my experience |
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I get messages from women all the time, in this modern chauvinistic society we live in why the hell should I make the first move!
If they want a peice of me they can stop whatever housework they’re doing and come find me!!!
Tongue placed firmly in cheek.
In reality I’ve had a few in the past, predominantly it’s winks, then I send the first message. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Unless the guys a hung like a donkey Adonis do women ever EVER message first on here?!?!?!? Or have they got absolute free range as guys always message first?!?!? "
Yes OP, women do message first and fortunately this has happened often with me. You don't have to be an Adonis but your profile has to be appealing and put out a good vibe. Sadly, yours needs a lot of work to stand out from the crowd.
You didn't ask for profile advice, however whining and complaining in your profile text does you no favours. Be engaging. Use the forums, participate, leave a good impression and emphasize your strengths and who knows....you may find a message in your inbox some time. |
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"Unless the guys a hung like a donkey Adonis do women ever EVER message first on here?!?!?!? Or have they got absolute free range as guys always message first?!?!? "
I've messaged first several times
If a profile interests me...
Oh, and if you're ever in Glasgow give me a shout because I'd happily tie you up and play MarioKart at you
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If i come across a fit guy black or white and love their pics i will message and compliment them
I do that as well. They don't necessarily have to be sexually attractive. If they have really great pictures and a profile, I will drop a note to say it's really nice.
Sometimes I let them know that their fantastic composition of their photos have inspired me to take better pictures of myself.
I expect nothing more, nothing less. I've made some great friends on Fab this way.
Sometimes I get a DEATHLY silence, which can make me laugh sometimes. And, sometimes they even attend the same social... And disappear pretty quickly!
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There is one guy i messaged said how wonderful his pics where and it would be our pleasure to meet him. I sat with baited breath he read and deleted. Gutted for all of 2 minutes then thought pah his loss |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If i come across a fit guy black or white and love their pics i will message and compliment them
I do that as well. They don't necessarily have to be sexually attractive. If they have really great pictures and a profile, I will drop a note to say it's really nice.
Sometimes I let them know that their fantastic composition of their photos have inspired me to take better pictures of myself.
I expect nothing more, nothing less. I've made some great friends on Fab this way.
Sometimes I get a DEATHLY silence, which can make me laugh sometimes. And, sometimes they even attend the same social... And disappear pretty quickly!
There is one guy i messaged said how wonderful his pics where and it would be our pleasure to meet him. I sat with baited breath he read and deleted. Gutted for all of 2 minutes then thought pah his loss "
must of been blind  |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"Unless the guys a hung like a donkey Adonis do women ever EVER message first on here?!?!?!? Or have they got absolute free range as guys always message first?!?!? "
I've get the odd messages hear and thar. But it's allways just been for a quick chat about sumthing in a thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If i come across a fit guy black or white and love their pics i will message and compliment them
I do that as well. They don't necessarily have to be sexually attractive. If they have really great pictures and a profile, I will drop a note to say it's really nice.
Sometimes I let them know that their fantastic composition of their photos have inspired me to take better pictures of myself.
I expect nothing more, nothing less. I've made some great friends on Fab this way.
Sometimes I get a DEATHLY silence, which can make me laugh sometimes. And, sometimes they even attend the same social... And disappear pretty quickly!
There is one guy i messaged said how wonderful his pics where and it would be our pleasure to meet him. I sat with baited breath he read and deleted. Gutted for all of 2 minutes then thought pah his loss must of been blind "
Aw thank you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless the guys a hung like a donkey Adonis do women ever EVER message first on here?!?!?!? Or have they got absolute free range as guys always message first?!?!?
Yes we do..
Well i do so there "
We have a rare earth element here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, most of my meets have been from women messaging first.
It’s a compliment as women get plenty of messages, so the fact my profile pic/profile has stood out enough for them to message me, means a lot |
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By *MP3Man
over a year ago
Between Scylla and Charybdis |
"Unless the guys a hung like a donkey Adonis do women ever EVER message first on here?!?!?!? Or have they got absolute free range as guys always message first?!?!? "
Women do message me first and I'm hardly a 'hung like a donkey adonis' as you put it, OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I message 1st if I've had a wink and they have viewed my profile lots, if I like the look and sound of them but they seem to be dithering I'll send the 1st message...I have no patience |
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"Unless the guys a hung like a donkey Adonis do women ever EVER message first on here?!?!?!? Or have they got absolute free range as guys always message first?!?!? "
We do. Most guys who message us aren't what we're looking for. |
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By *iger.10Man
over a year ago
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"I prefer messaging first. My very favourites I've messaged first because they've made me laugh on the forums (oh and hot pics) "
Message first with that 3rd July photo on your profile and there's a damn good chance of a positive response
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer messaging first. My very favourites I've messaged first because they've made me laugh on the forums (oh and hot pics)
Message first with that 3rd July photo on your profile and there's a damn good chance of a positive response
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thanks |
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By *iger.10Man
over a year ago
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"I prefer messaging first. My very favourites I've messaged first because they've made me laugh on the forums (oh and hot pics)
Message first with that 3rd July photo on your profile and there's a damn good chance of a positive response
thanks "
A well fitted pencil skirt always always gets my attention but that's another level |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds |
Ladies who are confident and wish to be proactive will.. after alle they know better than anyone what they seek..
Those ladies with fragile egos and or who can't accept rejection very unlikely they'll message first
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"I think it's about time the ladies send the first message
Do you really think that? Like really really think that? "
Love your profile if ever you do feel the urge to message first then head my way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ladies do message first, if they have something that they want to message about or want to say. It may not always be about meeting and rarely if ever about sex but yes it does happen.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ladies do message first, if they have something that they want to message about or want to say. It may not always be about meeting and rarely if ever about sex but yes it does happen.
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If that's was the case every man's inbox would be full to the point bursting!  |
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I’m more a 1 on 1 kinda guy...greedy like that 