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Do you ever look at a profile and feel intimidated, because they look too perfect? With not a hair out of place , lol and then because of this you don't message so maybe miss out on some fun?
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Nope.
The only person who's intimidated me recently was a consultant I saw just before lockdown. Something about her just scared me and I can't tell you why. Part of it was she only smiled with her mouth not her eyes. |
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"As the general consensus seems to be here, not intimidated, maybe lack the belief I’d be what they would be looking for "
I don’t think it’s lack of belief maybe constraints of stereotyping from the vanilla world where the stakes are different |
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"As the general consensus seems to be here, not intimidated, maybe lack the belief I’d be what they would be looking for
I don’t think it’s lack of belief maybe constraints of stereotyping from the vanilla world where the stakes are different "
Perhaps, or lack of self confidence |
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"As the general consensus seems to be here, not intimidated, maybe lack the belief I’d be what they would be looking for
I don’t think it’s lack of belief maybe constraints of stereotyping from the vanilla world where the stakes are different
Perhaps, or lack of self confidence "
For some I agree |
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"As the general consensus seems to be here, not intimidated, maybe lack the belief I’d be what they would be looking for
I don’t think it’s lack of belief maybe constraints of stereotyping from the vanilla world where the stakes are different
Perhaps, or lack of self confidence
For some I agree "
True, it’s subjective of course |
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"As the general consensus seems to be here, not intimidated, maybe lack the belief I’d be what they would be looking for
I don’t think it’s lack of belief maybe constraints of stereotyping from the vanilla world where the stakes are different
Perhaps, or lack of self confidence
For some I agree
True, it’s subjective of course "
Of course as they say horses for courses |
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"As the general consensus seems to be here, not intimidated, maybe lack the belief I’d be what they would be looking for
I don’t think it’s lack of belief maybe constraints of stereotyping from the vanilla world where the stakes are different
Perhaps, or lack of self confidence
For some I agree
True, it’s subjective of course
Of course as they say horses for courses "
Indeed.. what one my find ‘intimidating’ others wouldn’t |
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No we don’t feel that way these days. This is essentially a platform where people ‘market’ themselves. So showcase themselves in their finest light so to speak (everyone does it!)
So best way to approach is to make contact with someone and see where it goes. And if there is any conversational interest there see how it progresses and consider a RL meet in the form of a social etc.
Best way to gauge suitability and mutual attraction is through face to face interaction.
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Intimidated by the profiles?
You should see some of the events we go to on here. The private chat groups... OMFG it's like mixing it up with porn stars on there!
The reality though is you go to the event and everyone looks great but not 'ABSOLUTELY AMAZING'
It takes 1/125 of a second to take a photo and if you take a thousand you may only have one that you think looks great that makes it to the profile. We've got loads of ugly photos of us with lumps and bumps because EVERYONE has those as well!
Remember all the gorgeous famous people who nasty photographers get photos of looking less than perfect that are in the papers?
No one looks beautiful all the time so send that message to those gorgeous people on your Hotlist and see what happens.
Remember a beautiful personality will get you a very long way  |
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By *xixWoman 6 weeks ago
Coventry |
I've been lucky enough to have received visits from some outrageously fit and good looking men from here, some of whom have been to see me multiple times... and these guys probably wouldn't look twice at me in the real world.
So what I'm saying is the "out of my league" thing doesn't apply here; what applies instead is the matching interests. |
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I think when you align with a kink and a natural chemistry we end up connecting with people we may not of thought we would for various reasons.
We all have our own outlook on it and how we feel about ourselves. The right connections will naturally nurture that without effort 👌 |
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I was approached by a gym fit couple asking me to join them which I turned down due to feeling so intimidated by their Hollywood looking bodies. They looked great, don’t get me wrong, but figured I would have felt ridiculous naked in front of them both. Lack of confidence in this respect I guess |
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"I think when you align with a kink and a natural chemistry we end up connecting with people we may not of thought we would for various reasons.
We all have our own outlook on it and how we feel about ourselves. The right connections will naturally nurture that without effort 👌 "
This thread is a big part of what makes me stay here, the way everyone has contributed so eloquently humbles me. And yes I sometimes feel intimidated, out of my league. |
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"As the general consensus seems to be here, not intimidated, maybe lack the belief I’d be what they would be looking for
I don’t think it’s lack of belief maybe constraints of stereotyping from the vanilla world where the stakes are different "
Good point., stakes and attitudes |
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"There's people who we think are our of our league, but intimidated isn't the right word. Just not likely it would happen. "
100% agree with this ^^
I have people on my hotlist that I would never ever message because I feel they are out my league. I like to admire from afar. If they messaged to meet me I would probably fall off my chair  |
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"Do you ever look at a profile and feel intimidated, because they look too perfect? With not a hair out of place , lol and then because of this you don't message so maybe miss out on some fun?
Thanks M and V "
Looking at your profile I’d rate it as one of those where the people look perfect without a hair out of place. I see no reason for you to feel intimidated in anyway whatsoever, if you do. I am sure that it is natural to feel a little insecure. Xx |
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"There's people who we think are our of our league, but intimidated isn't the right word. Just not likely it would happen.
100% agree with this ^^
I have people on my hotlist that I would never ever message because I feel they are out my league. I like to admire from afar. If they messaged to meet me I would probably fall off my chair "
100% this |
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"Nope.
The only person who's intimidated me recently was a consultant I saw just before lockdown. Something about her just scared me and I can't tell you why. Part of it was she only smiled with her mouth not her eyes."
Shes seen some shit and is masking normality |
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"There's people who we think are our of our league, but intimidated isn't the right word. Just not likely it would happen.
100% agree with this ^^
I have people on my hotlist that I would never ever message because I feel they are out my league. I like to admire from afar. If they messaged to meet me I would probably fall off my chair "
Absoloutely spot on occasioanlly i write them a message and its not perfect enough I delete |
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By *C44Man 6 days ago
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The need or desire to present yourself as perfect often comes from a place of low self confidence or a belief in inferiority. A lot of those profiles will have people behind them agonising over every single pixel as they themselves believe themselves to be less than what they present.
Some are just up themselves though. You can tell pretty quickly |
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Always try to just give it a go if we are attracted but this has got us burnt before people say they are interested and then change their mind down the line can be a fickle beast this ol fabbing malarkey |
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