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Do you meet "locally" or not?
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Just a question out there - probably more to those of you who meet/host privately instead of club meets only; do you only try and meet people within your locality/certain radius or would you rather stray a bit further afield?
For example, we're in a very small area in essence where the pool of people is quite slim pickings and there's always a chance you'll know of them through some degree or another. So maybe branching out of the immediate 20/30 mile radius zone brings not only more result's but reduces the chances of bumping into people you know. |
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Clubs are too far for us here in Cumbria, and rarely (in my experience) worth the effort or expense. I have no issues meeting people close to home, and still see previous meets in the street. We're all adults, and a cheeky wink as we pass brings back pleasant memories....
Finding genuine people who will actually meet will be your biggest challenge. Many talk the talk, but few walk the walk...  |
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When I was doing 1:1 meets, my rule was nobody further than 40 miles or 1h drive. I never set the limit the other way, but I don't think I'd be overly comfortable with someone within a mile or so. Anyway, I'm only meeting in clubs now so it doesn't matter. |
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When I was single years ago, i used to meet someone and I could walk to his house in 15 mins.
Never any issues with it.
I wouldn't meet anyone really close to me now, as some don't seem to have any idea of discretion on here. |
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By *mmaleiaWoman 7 weeks ago
East Northamptonshire |
I like to stick within an hours drive, otherwise it’s all about trying to find time that matches with the other person, as it becomes harder to arrange.
Saying that, I have been known , & will travel further |
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I have my own car and drive around the UK a lot for work so distance isn't really a concern.
Obviously when I look on here you mostly only find local people anyway, but if I found someone I really liked and they were hours away I'd be up for the drive.
I'm south wales and met a girl in glasgow before  she wasn't from here but still |
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"I like to stick within an hours drive, otherwise it’s all about trying to find time that matches with the other person, as it becomes harder to arrange.
Saying that, I have been known , & will travel further "
An hour eh 🤔🤔 |
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"I like to stick within an hours drive, otherwise it’s all about trying to find time that matches with the other person, as it becomes harder to arrange.
Saying that, I have been known , & will travel further
An hour eh 🤔🤔"
That's a quick bike to reach East Northamptonshire in an hour ...but she will never know when you set off  |
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"I like to stick within an hours drive, otherwise it’s all about trying to find time that matches with the other person, as it becomes harder to arrange.
Saying that, I have been known , & will travel further
An hour eh 🤔🤔
That's a quick bike to reach East Northamptonshire in an hour ...but she will never know when you set off "
Unless the tracker is on 🤣 |
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"Apart from clubs and holidays, all of the rest of our meets have been with people we have known for a while locally."
Same. Local is just way easier. If theres a cancellation then ive not wasted time and money travelling miles and miles. |
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"Apart from clubs and holidays, all of the rest of our meets have been with people we have known for a while locally.
Same. Local is just way easier. If theres a cancellation then ive not wasted time and money travelling miles and miles. "
For us it's also that we don't actually pre arrange meets due to anxiety, things just tend to happen after nights out. |
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By *ucka39Man 7 weeks ago
Newcastle |
Well I'm not alone given amount of users whom are local from 10 minutes walking distance, to a little further, and it works well if the connection and chemistry is there
Have come across someone closer and that was a definite no from me. There's close and too close |
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Initially I intended not to meet anybody within 20 miles, then I met a lady in Kendall only 7 miles away and we’ve been seeing each other intermittently for five years. You just have to trust each other to remain discreet. |
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I tend not to meet if someone is very local, declining interest. Unless someone is potentially the best thing ever 
Some can become a little obsessive and a distance may help to alleviate or prevent it |
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By *mmaleiaWoman 7 weeks ago
East Northamptonshire |
"I like to stick within an hours drive, otherwise it’s all about trying to find time that matches with the other person, as it becomes harder to arrange.
Saying that, I have been known , & will travel further
An hour eh 🤔🤔
That's a quick bike to reach East Northamptonshire in an hour ...but she will never know when you set off
Unless the tracker is on 🤣"
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By *an1978Woman 7 weeks ago
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I would say 20 miles is a good distance.
I've stepped away from a while, and as I rarely meet local, I don't have to be bumping into meets in Lidl.
Though I admittedly met someone there on purpose before. |
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I only do local as I can't plan very far in advance. In 10 years its never been a problem.
Went to a club once, got talking to a couple and turned out they lived opposite us and our kids were playing rugby together the next morning.
As long as everyone behaves like a grown up it really doesn't matter |
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We wouldn’t mind meeting couples/single ladies near us. BUT and we all like BIG BUTTS  lol single guys deffo not local. Although to some this could be a blessing,having a regular hard dick to bounce on or face to ride it’s not ideal. From previous experiences not just hear say. They see you around town think they can say hey when your with “Family” message you hear saying they see you around,and the odd one outs your workplace in a fab status as they noticed you. So not all as it would seem unfortunately |
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I would be a little extra cautious but not completely rule out meeting very close folks.
In my experience though, so far they ALL self-select themselves out of the running by sending messages along the lines of "ur really close, im on *road name*, where ru? Lets meet now" . 🙄 |
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Well I don't do like or involve myself in one offs so if there's no connection or opportunity for more I don't and won't meet regardless of distance. Plus I don't care if I bump into them in Tesco because I will know them for more than just their body part. If I just want an object I'll satisfy myself with a toy and involve zero risks or disappointment. |
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it's always nice to nibble on a bit of Kendal mint cake
We will not meet anyone in the same postcode area that is the PR Preston area & it is quite a vast area.
We want to have fun but don't want fingers pointing or any gossiping from locals
Like you we know a lot of people and you don't know who has seen you entering the local swingers house & neighbors soon pick up on these things.
We have also been stood up a few times and don't want to travel to far so it's a balancing act.
Good luck let us know how you get in  |
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Particularly after having wasted time and fuel driving to meet men who are time wasters/pathetic little bluffers who get cold feet at the last minute I won’t normally go more than 30 minutes drive at the most.
In general the closer the better, although someone in the local village would require discretion and I am careful now about the local town. If they are on here they have as much as or probably more to hide than I do, as my wife knows that I am on here and encourages me to go out and have fun. I am wary of some younger men being idiots and becoming a nuisance but I usually work that out before meeting and block them. I have met young men who are very nice and sensible however.
One of several reasons why I don’t accommodate is that I don’t want horny men turning up without notice, and if they were local that would be difficult and annoying. Although I haven’t yet if I found people very locally who were fun that would be great.
I work some distance away and I avoid people from that area as I keep my work and social (and sexual) lives very separate. |
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I don't have an issue meeting locally, though there don't seem to be many interested parties in the area so far. I did have a lovely social with someone nearby that has a good chance of developing into something fun in the nearish future, though! |
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It makes no difference to me where my playmates live. When I lived down south one of the couple's I played with lived five minutes away and it wasn't a problem. As far as anyone outside the swinging world knew, we were just friends and neighbours. |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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Not fussed but then I have an ace up my sleeve I always plan any meet of any kind on a parkrun day then if it don't happen and so far nothing has then my beloved parkrun comes too my rescue long live parkrun  |
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We used to worry about this ourselves but over time we realized that we're all on here revealing ourselves to each other & they have as much to "risk" as we do by recognizing each other.
So far everyone has been lovely & respectful when we've bumped into people locally.  |
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By *isa2018Couple 6 weeks ago
East Northamptonshire |
We avoid single gents that are too local but would consider a couple if we clicked. We had a local public facing business and once had a gent come in then message us to say what a great places he had. He was someone we'd met for a social, not realising he was local. S didn't take a fancy to him and we politely decline any further meets, then received the message to say he'd been in her shop.
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