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Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites?  |
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites? "
I started using fab more like a dating site when I saw all the swingers and poly using dating sites for hook ups rather than dating. Can be more open about sexual preferences here than on bumble |
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By *abluesbabyMan
over a year ago
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"Why not? If you can meet someone on the scene and make a relationship out of it, I think that’s pretty cool. Don’t understand why it bothers people what others do on here."
Absolutely. Could not agree more.
But many - certainly I've come across - feel it 'clogs' Fab up and in particular irks many single guys who'd really like Fab to be Dial-A=Shag |
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites? "
Probably when single swingers decided they'd like to be a couple who swing.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fabs something different to different people
Just because someones single (I’ve seen men and female profiles state they want a relationship), and looking for more serious doesn’t mean they aren’t also swinging… |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
It’s always been that way. A lot of swingers stay on the scene after the end of a swinging relationship and want that element in new relationships. In a world where half of marriages end, it’s completely predictable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites?
I started using fab more like a dating site when I saw all the swingers and poly using dating sites for hook ups rather than dating. Can be more open about sexual preferences here than on bumble "
Dateing sites should be for people who actually want to date. The sex pests who flood dateing sites spoil it for the genuine who want to date. Different sites should be kept seperate |
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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago
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"I’ve got that on my profile, doesn’t mean I’m not a swinger, because I am, but I want to find a swinging relationship. There’s nothing wrong with that. "
Agree with this.
I'm not looking.
But if you are non-monogamous, then Fab is a brilliant community where you can find people accepting of that and many people have found long term partners and there have been many Fab weddings.
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites?
I started using fab more like a dating site when I saw all the swingers and poly using dating sites for hook ups rather than dating. Can be more open about sexual preferences here than on bumble
Dateing sites should be for people who actually want to date. The sex pests who flood dateing sites spoil it for the genuine who want to date. Different sites should be kept seperate"
Does that mean I shouldn’t be allowed to date from fab when I’m looking for others with similar kinks to mine? There are plenty of swingers looking to date and I can’t see why the two can’t go hand in hand. I wouldn’t have thought to use fab in this way a few years ago but I’m not looking to settle for a vanilla sex life when I’m dating so when I saw a good few guys from here using bumble and such for swinging I opted to use fab to find what I’m looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find fab to be a better place to find someone similar to date than a dating site. People on fab are more likely to be more open, and if you are meeting someone regular and you are both enjoying each others company then why not date. I think it's great it people end up together through fab. X |
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites? "
Nothing wrong with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites? "
It makes perfect sense that if you'd like a relationship based around the swinging scene, to look for one in the swinging scene.
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites? "
It looks like you've been here 2 months or so ! Womens profiles or anyone else's are none of business. |
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites?
I started using fab more like a dating site when I saw all the swingers and poly using dating sites for hook ups rather than dating. Can be more open about sexual preferences here than on bumble
Dateing sites should be for people who actually want to date. The sex pests who flood dateing sites spoil it for the genuine who want to date. Different sites should be kept seperate"
Wooooah there who you calling sex pests? Swingers and poly people? Lolol present company excluded?
OP, the irony of you mentioning ye've had meets off tinder  As long as people are clear and forthcoming about their wishes/intentions, I don't see what is the problem?
Truth is, there are swingers who date, poly people who also swing, mono-inclined people who fuck casually while searching for the one, people who are looking for short-term relationships... This divide between "casual" and "serious" is not like it used to be 20-30 years ago. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites?
I started using fab more like a dating site when I saw all the swingers and poly using dating sites for hook ups rather than dating. Can be more open about sexual preferences here than on bumble
Dateing sites should be for people who actually want to date. The sex pests who flood dateing sites spoil it for the genuine who want to date. Different sites should be kept seperate
Wooooah there who you calling sex pests? Swingers and poly people? Lolol present company excluded?
OP, the irony of you mentioning ye've had meets off tinder As long as people are clear and forthcoming about their wishes/intentions, I don't see what is the problem?
Truth is, there are swingers who date, poly people who also swing, mono-inclined people who fuck casually while searching for the one, people who are looking for short-term relationships... This divide between "casual" and "serious" is not like it used to be 20-30 years ago."
You took what i said out of contex. What i mean by sex pests is people on dateing sites who are wanting to find a actual bf/gf dont want to pestered by those who just want a shag. Its hard enough for genuine people to try and date as it is thats why in my opinion things should be seperate. As soneone who has been single years trust me i know what im talking about. |
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By *ihmMan
over a year ago
West Wales |
"You took what i said out of contex. What i mean by sex pests is people on dateing sites who are wanting to find a actual bf/gf dont want to pestered by those who just want a shag. Its hard enough for genuine people to try and date as it is thats why in my opinion things should be seperate. As soneone who has been single years trust me i know what im talking about."
Maybe you would have better luck looking on fab for someone to date. If it's been years of hard work trying to find a genuine someone on dating sites, could be time to try something different?
The Mrs and I met on a similar website to this, we are actual "bf/gf". We met through our common interest in quite enjoying pestering people for sex! Use whatever site you choose for whatever you are looking for, as long as you are honest about what you are after nobody gets hurt  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of single guys say they’re wanting “long term” or FWB arrangement with couples.
Don’t understand it, or necessarily believe it.
It’s a red flag for us. |
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I would love a swinging relationship.
I'm married and fully open about that on my profile.
I'd love to have weekends away, meet others, have holidays, and then we come together when we want and meet others when we don't.
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites? "
Are you guys not in a LTR?
Here's prob the best place to look for a swinging relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites? "
You're a bit late to the party. I've been using this site for dating for around a decade. Met my ex here and hope to meet the future Mr moralminx  |
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I met my other half on here, we’re both still here now we’re together (we just have w joint profile too now).
It wasn’t my original plan, but I can’t think of anywhere better to meet people that actually understand and enjoy swinging.
It makes total sense. |
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I met my partner 6.5 years ago here ,I wasn't looking for more but it happens .
I don't see why it's a problem if people seek a partner here ,at least they know they're like minded and as long as everyone's upfront no problem
People can still meet others whilst searching . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met my husband on here as we where both in boring relationships and having to hide wanting sex with other people and for me I could never disclose my bi side to my previous husband. So thanks to fab it saved us both really and gave us the kick up the arse needed to change our lives and be who we are and wanted to be. Xx |
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites?
I started using fab more like a dating site when I saw all the swingers and poly using dating sites for hook ups rather than dating. Can be more open about sexual preferences here than on bumble
Dateing sites should be for people who actually want to date. The sex pests who flood dateing sites spoil it for the genuine who want to date. Different sites should be kept seperate"
Maybe I want to date a sex pest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites? "
well some women prefer someone in bed than your social status. Hence thier choosing a. |
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites? "
It's social media .... |
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites?
It's social media ...."
People and the bloody boxes... |
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites? "
Can’t say I’ve noticed this tbh…….? |
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites? "
Does it matter then ?
People use fab for all sorts of reasons and some may choose to meet someone long term to enjoy the scene with ?
I met my OH in the scene 7 years ago |
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
Lincoln |
I think I’d rather see people wanting a relationship on here than wanting plenty of casual sex on a dating site? Just feels like it’s better that way round!
Mind you, we met on here starting off as casual and then progressed to buying a house and getting engaged  so it can work! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I’d rather see people wanting a relationship on here than wanting plenty of casual sex on a dating site? Just feels like it’s better that way round!
Mind you, we met on here starting off as casual and then progressed to buying a house and getting engaged so it can work!"
same here. Known each other on here 10 years via chat, finally arranged a social and been together ever since. Now engaged |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve actually found that it’s been the single guys wanting long term or relationships and me that wanted one offs.
Not just on here, just in general."
I found this when I had a single female profile, 80% of meets would result in a message asking me to just meet them, even the married ones! In fact I had more genuine meets/hookups on POF lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites? "
Well it's probably a lot cheaper than a dating site we guess that is one factor. 
Just checking do people still meet and use here for swinging? It seems very quiet (excluding the floods of single men) in our neck of the woods PMSL |
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites?
Well it's probably a lot cheaper than a dating site we guess that is one factor.
Just checking do people still meet and use here for swinging? It seems very quiet (excluding the floods of single men) in our neck of the woods PMSL"
I do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why not? If you can meet someone on the scene and make a relationship out of it, I think that’s pretty cool. Don’t understand why it bothers people what others do on here."
totally agree. If you wanted to find a partner who was into this kink, far better to find one on a site like this rather than risk an ordinary dating site and risk being ridiculed or even dumped (as happened to me twice!) for just bringing the subject up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And is there an issue with people finding someone who they can be in a relationship with and understands the swinging dynamic? Not being funny but one can hardly rock up on match and look for someone and say oh but I want us to have sexual encounters with other people together too - will that work for you?
Not sure whereas if it works in here why moan?! |
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"Why not? If you can meet someone on the scene and make a relationship out of it, I think that’s pretty cool. Don’t understand why it bothers people what others do on here."
Exactly this guys hate a sexual woman but cheat on the "good" girl for the girl that's kinky.. THEY can't have their way they deem caring about who and how often you fuck as dating . |
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Surely FAB is a lifestyle website, not just a hook up site? Therefore naturally this a great place to look to date others who are on the scene and into the lifestyle.
Sometimes I wonder when people comment about this site being a dating site if there's an element of sour grapes going on, even if subconscious (especially in the context of when women looking for dating). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You took what i said out of contex. What i mean by sex pests is people on dateing sites who are wanting to find a actual bf/gf dont want to pestered by those who just want a shag. Its hard enough for genuine people to try and date as it is thats why in my opinion things should be seperate. As soneone who has been single years trust me i know what im talking about."
In my experience, dating sites are worse! Profile blurb covers up the one night stand or "I'll fuck anybody" personas... That's scarier! At least here most people are crystal clear in regards to what they want.
Just as another forumite said, it's no one else's business as how an individual wants to use their membership here in Fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dating sites are rubbish these days, and being bisexual and open to swinging makes it easier on here. I’ve got that I’m open to finding a relationship. With the goal of maybe one day finding a lady who’s after the same thing. |
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"Surely FAB is a lifestyle website, not just a hook up site? Therefore naturally this a great place to look to date others who are on the scene and into the lifestyle.
Sometimes I wonder when people comment about this site being a dating site if there's an element of sour grapes going on, even if subconscious (especially in the context of when women looking for dating). "
Glad you said it. I've often thought the same myself. |
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites? "
I know this is a swinger’s website but what is wrong with looking for a partner on here? What is wrong with wooing the woman? What is wrong in enticing her? What is wrong with missing things like kissing, cuddling, romance, me cooking romantic meals for two, making each other laugh, being there for each other during the good and bad times, etc? I am sure there are women on here looking for a partner. I miss the romantic side of a relationship as well as the sexual side.
What is wrong with people on here wanting to date? There is no rule on Fab that says you can’t look to date and you have to swing. Maybe single men and women hope by using Fab to look for a date they hope to meet somebody who enjoys sex? Of course, you may meet somebody who loves sex on a regular dating website. However I think it is more likely you will meet somebody who loves sex on a website like Fab.
What is wrong with a woman wanting to be loved? What is wrong with a woman looking for a good sex life? Why should single women be expected to swing with lots of different people? Why can’t a woman be looking for a regular meet rather than a string of one-off meets? Why can’t single guys be looking for the same?
Lots of people on Fab have formed proper relationships. I hope to myself one day. I want to meet a woman who wants to be adored and loved. I want to meet a woman who misses things like kissing, cuddling, romance, me cooking a romantic meal for us both, surprise weekends away, Having fun together, laughing together, etc. As well as good sex I miss romance and intimacy.
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites? "
I could say its the other way round tinder looks more like fab. But some profiles here now look more like Facebook lol |
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites?
I know this is a swinger’s website but what is wrong with looking for a partner on here? What is wrong with wooing the woman? What is wrong in enticing her? What is wrong with missing things like kissing, cuddling, romance, me cooking romantic meals for two, making each other laugh, being there for each other during the good and bad times, etc? I am sure there are women on here looking for a partner. I miss the romantic side of a relationship as well as the sexual side.
What is wrong with people on here wanting to date? There is no rule on Fab that says you can’t look to date and you have to swing. Maybe single men and women hope by using Fab to look for a date they hope to meet somebody who enjoys sex? Of course, you may meet somebody who loves sex on a regular dating website. However I think it is more likely you will meet somebody who loves sex on a website like Fab.
What is wrong with a woman wanting to be loved? What is wrong with a woman looking for a good sex life? Why should single women be expected to swing with lots of different people? Why can’t a woman be looking for a regular meet rather than a string of one-off meets? Why can’t single guys be looking for the same?
Lots of people on Fab have formed proper relationships. I hope to myself one day. I want to meet a woman who wants to be adored and loved. I want to meet a woman who misses things like kissing, cuddling, romance, me cooking a romantic meal for us both, surprise weekends away, Having fun together, laughing together, etc. As well as good sex I miss romance and intimacy.
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Yes exactly. I love to find a kinky boyfriend who shares my kinks which makes fab more the right place to find someone like that. Swingers get matched up here too, to me it's the right place to explore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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in think it's a good thing,
I for one would love to find a lady who enjoys the same lifestyle. and if it turns into a LTR, then all the better.
people use fabs for for what ever reason they want. who are we to judge |
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites?
I know this is a swinger’s website but what is wrong with looking for a partner on here? What is wrong with wooing the woman? What is wrong in enticing her? What is wrong with missing things like kissing, cuddling, romance, me cooking romantic meals for two, making each other laugh, being there for each other during the good and bad times, etc? I am sure there are women on here looking for a partner. I miss the romantic side of a relationship as well as the sexual side.
What is wrong with people on here wanting to date? There is no rule on Fab that says you can’t look to date and you have to swing. Maybe single men and women hope by using Fab to look for a date they hope to meet somebody who enjoys sex? Of course, you may meet somebody who loves sex on a regular dating website. However I think it is more likely you will meet somebody who loves sex on a website like Fab.
What is wrong with a woman wanting to be loved? What is wrong with a woman looking for a good sex life? Why should single women be expected to swing with lots of different people? Why can’t a woman be looking for a regular meet rather than a string of one-off meets? Why can’t single guys be looking for the same?
Lots of people on Fab have formed proper relationships. I hope to myself one day. I want to meet a woman who wants to be adored and loved. I want to meet a woman who misses things like kissing, cuddling, romance, me cooking a romantic meal for us both, surprise weekends away, Having fun together, laughing together, etc. As well as good sex I miss romance and intimacy.
Yes exactly. I love to find a kinky boyfriend who shares my kinks which makes fab more the right place to find someone like that. Swingers get matched up here too, to me it's the right place to explore."
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites? "
Perhaps they want something similar to what you've got - and why wouldn't you want them to have it?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Has anyone else noticed, that over the last few months that their are a lot of single women's profiles stating that they are looking for longterm relationships? When did the swingers sites become dating sites?
Perhaps they want something similar to what you've got - and why wouldn't you want them to have it?
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Sounds a bit like sour grapes. Bloody unicorns not putting out.
This is a great place for dating if you want to be in a relationship and stay in the scene. And dating is perfectly legit IMO on here. It's a lifestyle site for many aspects of the scene, not just for hooking up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds a bit like sour grapes. Bloody unicorns not putting out.
This is a great place for dating if you want to be in a relationship and stay in the scene. And dating is perfectly legit IMO on here. It's a lifestyle site for many aspects of the scene, not just for hooking up."
I agree. |
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