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By *al985 OP Man 4 weeks ago
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I know there are lots of (hot, fun, sexy) women on here but honestly the ratio of men to women is ridiculous! It seems like women without any pics, info or verifications up still get bombarded. But (if my experience is anything to go by) have most of my messages ignored (maybe that's a bit about my messages/ profile I dont know) but it seems what chance do most guys have if women are bombarded so much they don't really have the chance to read messages and enjoy the experience here 🤷♂️
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"Learn to play the game. Fab is just a small part of the swinging world.
There are lots of fantasists out there, but it would be difficult to eliminate them 
What? Like with an injection?"
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"Some guys wouldn't get a meet if they were the only guy on here🤷♀️
The good ones stand out very easily"
Exactly this!
I always read over any message I get, and it’s very easy to see the guys who are respectful and have actually read your profile. They will get a reply even if it’s a polite no thanks.
They are the ones who don’t send a first message that says “put your flaps on my face” or “want some of this” accompanied by a pic of their dick beside a remote control/deodorant can/pint glass.
Eh, naw. |
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"I know there are lots of (hot, fun, sexy) women on here but honestly the ratio of men to women is ridiculous! It seems like women without any pics, info or verifications up still get bombarded. But (if my experience is anything to go by) have most of my messages ignored (maybe that's a bit about my messages/ profile I dont know) but it seems what chance do most guys have if women are bombarded so much they don't really have the chance to read messages and enjoy the experience here 🤷♂️
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"I know there are lots of (hot, fun, sexy) women on here but honestly the ratio of men to women is ridiculous! It seems like women without any pics, info or verifications up still get bombarded. But (if my experience is anything to go by) have most of my messages ignored (maybe that's a bit about my messages/ profile I dont know) but it seems what chance do most guys have if women are bombarded so much they don't really have the chance to read messages and enjoy the experience here 🤷♂️
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As a couple we’re not particularly bombarded with messages. Women are obviously different but depends what guys are looking for.
Few people seem to be consistent. We’ve talked to guys who seem promising but then they’re hardly on the site or take days to respond to messages. If you are looking to meet people you have to be serious about it and have time to put in the legwork on Fab. Many don’t. |
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Being a guy who always struggled to get meets on fab and from the statments that good guys stand out, I guess that puts me in not a good guy category.
Suppose I will just have to live with that, to old to change now even if I wanted to.
Going back to the OP's post, I think there are too many guys on fab, well the wrong type of guys. But tieing that in with my previous point, if I am not a good guy, the wrong type of guy to me must either be good guys or really bad guys.
So who knows.
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"I know there are lots of (hot, fun, sexy) women on here but honestly the ratio of men to women is ridiculous! It seems like women without any pics, info or verifications up still get bombarded. But (if my experience is anything to go by) have most of my messages ignored (maybe that's a bit about my messages/ profile I dont know) but it seems what chance do most guys have if women are bombarded so much they don't really have the chance to read messages and enjoy the experience here 🤷♂️
As a couple we’re not particularly bombarded with messages. Women are obviously different but depends what guys are looking for.
Few people seem to be consistent. We’ve talked to guys who seem promising but then they’re hardly on the site or take days to respond to messages. If you are looking to meet people you have to be serious about it and have time to put in the legwork on Fab. Many don’t. "
So true.
And having spent time and energy on new friendships, they are invariably more fulfilling and much longer lasting. Club meets and casual one-offs not on our agenda. |
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By *opeyXWoman 3 weeks ago
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"Being a guy who always struggled to get meets on fab and from the statments that good guys stand out, I guess that puts me in not a good guy category.
Suppose I will just have to live with that, to old to change now even if I wanted to.
Going back to the OP's post, I think there are too many guys on fab, well the wrong type of guys. But tieing that in with my previous point, if I am not a good guy, the wrong type of guy to me must either be good guys or really bad guys.
So who knows.
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Your definitely one of the good guys from fab that I've met from the socials. |
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"The women and couples are so picky you nerd lots of men so they can get their ultimate wish list for a meet. "
Why shouldn’t women and couples be picky though? I don’t want to fuck just anyone, I want to fuck people who turn me on, both mentally and physically.
There are plenty on here who are not my cup of tea, and there are plenty on here that I won’t be their cup of tea. And that’s perfectly fine. |
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There is an imbalance between the number of men on here and the number of women. Men far outnumber the women, clearly.
To say that "there are too many guys on fab" is a negative connotation and I disagree. Instead there are fewer women on here. Indeed, far too few would be the perception.
There are no "good guys" or "bad guys". They are just guys - guys that would meet some women's preferences and not so much other women's (and vice versa because men too are allowed to be discerning).
Equally so, there are a few 'unsavoury' women. Women, who from my experience, have no issue bombarding my inbox with photographs of their pussies. They are not bad women; they simply don't fit my demographic or preferences. However they would appeal to those men who also send unsolicited filth. Each to their own.
To say that there are too many men on here smacks of sour grapes.
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By *opeyXWoman 3 weeks ago
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"There is an imbalance between the number of men on here and the number of women. Men far outnumber the women, clearly.
To say that "there are too many guys on fab" is a negative connotation and I disagree. Instead there are fewer women on here. Indeed, far too few would be the perception.
There are no "good guys" or "bad guys". They are just guys - guys that would meet some women's preferences and not so much other women's (and vice versa because men too are allowed to be discerning).
Equally so, there are a few 'unsavoury' women. Women, who from my experience, have no issue bombarding my inbox with photographs of their pussies. They are not bad women; they simply don't fit my demographic or preferences. However they would appeal to those men who also send unsolicited filth. Each to their own.
To say that there are too many men on here smacks of sour grapes.
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You get bombarded with pussy photos. I've only had a women once send me a photo of her toilet..🤣 To be fair I don't get sent many dick photos either. Very wise words though Mr Nero. |
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"There is an imbalance between the number of men on here and the number of women. Men far outnumber the women, clearly.
To say that "there are too many guys on fab" is a negative connotation and I disagree. Instead there are fewer women on here. Indeed, far too few would be the perception.
There are no "good guys" or "bad guys". They are just guys - guys that would meet some women's preferences and not so much other women's (and vice versa because men too are allowed to be discerning).
Equally so, there are a few 'unsavoury' women. Women, who from my experience, have no issue bombarding my inbox with photographs of their pussies. They are not bad women; they simply don't fit my demographic or preferences. However they would appeal to those men who also send unsolicited filth. Each to their own.
To say that there are too many men on here smacks of sour grapes.
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It's a rare breed of a man who finds his inbox bombarded with pussy pics |
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By *hyme2020Woman 3 weeks ago
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I think that for me, I have met a few really good guys over the past few years and then a whole heap of guys who have turned out to be pricks while chatting. Now if I have free time I tend to contact the ones who I had good experiences and good friendships with rather than anyone new. |
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"There is an imbalance between the number of men on here and the number of women. Men far outnumber the women, clearly.
To say that "there are too many guys on fab" is a negative connotation and I disagree. Instead there are fewer women on here. Indeed, far too few would be the perception.
There are no "good guys" or "bad guys". They are just guys - guys that would meet some women's preferences and not so much other women's (and vice versa because men too are allowed to be discerning).
Equally so, there are a few 'unsavoury' women. Women, who from my experience, have no issue bombarding my inbox with photographs of their pussies. They are not bad women; they simply don't fit my demographic or preferences. However they would appeal to those men who also send unsolicited filth. Each to their own.
To say that there are too many men on here smacks of sour grapes.
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You get bombarded with pussy photos. I've only had a women once send me a photo of her toilet..🤣 To be fair I don't get sent many dick photos either. Very wise words though Mr Nero. "
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Thankfully it's not a frequent occurrence, but it happens. 😑 |
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"There is an imbalance between the number of men on here and the number of women. Men far outnumber the women, clearly.
To say that "there are too many guys on fab" is a negative connotation and I disagree. Instead there are fewer women on here. Indeed, far too few would be the perception.
There are no "good guys" or "bad guys". They are just guys - guys that would meet some women's preferences and not so much other women's (and vice versa because men too are allowed to be discerning).
Equally so, there are a few 'unsavoury' women. Women, who from my experience, have no issue bombarding my inbox with photographs of their pussies. They are not bad women; they simply don't fit my demographic or preferences. However they would appeal to those men who also send unsolicited filth. Each to their own.
To say that there are too many men on here smacks of sour grapes.
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You get bombarded with pussy photos. I've only had a women once send me a photo of her toilet..🤣 To be fair I don't get sent many dick photos either. Very wise words though Mr Nero.
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Thankfully it's not a frequent occurrence, but it happens. 😑"
I didnt realise you were such a lightening rod for the uncouth and vulgar women of fab |
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By *halynmCouple 3 weeks ago
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There is not enough real genuine guys with a decent profile. If they put more effort into the profile and in sending messages they would stand much more of a chance. We have been looking for single guys but have had to clear that from our preferences as it’s just to much junk mail to sift through. |
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Think it’s more a case having the patience to build an understanding between people like you would in any walk of life, Especially if sex is involved.
Having the sense that there are actual people on the other end of any message you send and would be wise to consider what you are actually saying rather than a cock pic and a three word question.
But ultimately and particularly online there are many that will spoil it for the few.
I would say that there are decent people out there that you can connect with just depends on timing and if you can take rejection without becoming angry or upset about it.
We are exposing a side of ourselves that you wouldn’t do in any other situation so most females or couples will be very protective of that.
Just my opinion though.  |
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By *ogalMan 3 weeks ago
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I'd agree and disagree.
Sure there's a ton of shite guys here but complimenting that there's a ton of women with totally un_ealistic expectations.
I've seen the messages that some guys send to girls I've met and yeah they're pretty abhorrent from time to time. Most are just boring, copy paste jobs.
But couple that with the guys who do put the effort into their messages and still get nowhere, yeah it's fairly easy to see why the others get disillusioned with what they think they can attain so they fall into the habits of copy paste messages too.
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By *ogalMan 3 weeks ago
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"... ...But couple that with the guys who do put the effort into their messages and still get nowhere...
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Why do think that they get nowhere, these guys who are putting in all effort?"
Because I've had couples profiles on here and seen it first hand... |
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"... ...But couple that with the guys who do put the effort into their messages and still get nowhere...
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Why do think that they get nowhere, these guys who are putting in all effort?
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Because I've had couples profiles on here and seen it first hand..."
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That doesn't answer my question: WHY are they not getting anywhere?
I'll answer for you — they're not getting anywhere because no matter how articulate and hand-crafted their message is, it's one of 500+ messages lost and indiscernible in their inboxes, like a forgotten waif in an orphanage. |
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"I know there are lots of (hot, fun, sexy) women on here but honestly the ratio of men to women is ridiculous! It seems like women without any pics, info or verifications up still get bombarded. But (if my experience is anything to go by) have most of my messages ignored (maybe that's a bit about my messages/ profile I dont know) but it seems what chance do most guys have if women are bombarded so much they don't really have the chance to read messages and enjoy the experience here 🤷♂️
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We need more. We need more men moaning about not getting anywhere, more asking for help with their bio and profile (then everyone chipping in with conflicting recommendations). We need more narcissists, gaslighters and incels. More dick pics smashed into inboxes. We need this because Fab needs YOU and the rest of us semi decent (at a stretch) folk need you.
Come on. More Men! More Men! More Men!
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We men are by nature often very desperate and damaging… I’ve seen some of the awful things some people are looking for and have suggested from men who are bi and seeking meets….
I’ve said in a previous post about my concern for younger men and their own safety given the stupid things they often suggest… I can only imagine how that carries over into the men seeking female category!
I would only say…. Be genuine, message someone you find interesting (I expect many men just message everyone and copy and paste). As many have said above a genuine guy will stand out… be open honest, and chat in the forums ! It’s a good way to show who you are….
For a ratio comparison check the “near me” button and I bet you are not far from another bunch of guys…. It’s just the nature of it I’m afraid but won’t stop you from being a genuine person and of interesT to someone !
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"I know there are lots of (hot, fun, sexy) women on here but honestly the ratio of men to women is ridiculous! It seems like women without any pics, info or verifications up still get bombarded. But (if my experience is anything to go by) have most of my messages ignored (maybe that's a bit about my messages/ profile I dont know) but it seems what chance do most guys have if women are bombarded so much they don't really have the chance to read messages and enjoy the experience here 🤷♂️
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I read and replied to your message. Thought you looked lovely but explained why I did not wish to meet. |
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Too many creeps/sleazy chancers yes! But probably not enough genuine half decent guys that don't mind some healthy competition from all the other guys. On the flip side there's probs also too many below average women that think because they get bombarded by all the desperado chancers that they can have a list of requirements to meet before you're even considered for a reply to a message 🤣 |
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"Too many creeps/sleazy chancers yes! But probably not enough genuine half decent guys that don't mind some healthy competition from all the other guys. On the flip side there's probs also too many below average women that think because they get bombarded by all the desperado chancers that they can have a list of requirements to meet before you're even considered for a reply to a message 🤣"
Oooft. Surefire way of getting minus verifications there my man. |
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"Too many creeps/sleazy chancers yes! But probably not enough genuine half decent guys that don't mind some healthy competition from all the other guys. On the flip side there's probs also too many below average women that think because they get bombarded by all the desperado chancers that they can have a list of requirements to meet before you're even considered for a reply to a message 🤣"
🤣🤣🤣 gets blocked by all the sub standard women🤣🤣🤣 |
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"Some guys wouldn't get a meet if they were the only guy on here🤷♀️
The good ones stand out very easily"
Totally agree, and btw this is based on only what a few women I speak to tell me about what they receive from guys on here, and some of it is horrendous and vile, regardless of ratio just be you and respect a women’s bio and message who you think you would connect with rather than sending your wee tadger to every women’s profile you visit. 👏🏻 x |
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"Some guys wouldn't get a meet if they were the only guy on here🤷♀️
The good ones stand out very easily
Totally agree, and btw this is based on only what a few women I speak to tell me about what they receive from guys on here, and some of it is horrendous and vile, regardless of ratio just be you and respect a women’s bio and message who you think you would connect with rather than sending your wee tadger to every women’s profile you visit. 👏🏻 x"
Agree 100% |
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"Some guys wouldn't get a meet if they were the only guy on here🤷♀️
The good ones stand out very easily
Exactly this!
I always read over any message I get, and it’s very easy to see the guys who are respectful and have actually read your profile. They will get a reply even if it’s a polite no thanks.
They are the ones who don’t send a first message that says “put your flaps on my face” or “want some of this” accompanied by a pic of their dick beside a remote control/deodorant can/pint glass.
Eh, naw. "
🤣🤣🤣 well I'm always polite when messaging but still no meets. I will pay attention to where I place my remote now |
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"I'll answer for you — they're not getting anywhere because no matter how articulate and hand-crafted their message is, it's one of 500+ messages lost and indiscernible in their inboxes, like a forgotten waif in an orphanage."
Definately this!!! |
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For me personally once i le out the men who are here to cheat, the men that assume were all bdsm sluts who want anal now, the men that dont take no your not for me as an answer, the men that are actually just here for other men, then i dont think its too many at all |
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I’ve said on multiple forum subjects, the numbers are clear and the men vastly outnumber the women, it’s all about timing, I have a friend who opened her profile for a couple of hours and had 60 plus messages, I can only assume women aren’t reading everything that comes in (I know I wouldn’t lol) so it’s probably all about timing and content of both message and profile.
I also believe the social go a long way to helping your chances.
I’ve said jokingly before, sometimes it feels like only a select few are meeting and the rest are just spectators/voyeurs  |
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"Being a guy who always struggled to get meets on fab and from the statments that good guys stand out, I guess that puts me in not a good guy category.
Suppose I will just have to live with that, to old to change now even if I wanted to
Going back to the OP's post, I think there are too many guys on fab, well the wrong type of guys. But tieing that in with my previous point, if I am not a good guy, the wrong type of guy to me must either be good guys or really bad guys.
So who knows.
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Totally agree I must be a bad guy as well as I just get ignored or a message saying sorry not my type if I even get a response
The issue is that there is so much cock on here for women they can be picky on what they want and larger guys like myself have no chance of a meet on here |
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"Being a guy who always struggled to get meets on fab and from the statments that good guys stand out, I guess that puts me in not a good guy category.
Suppose I will just have to live with that, to old to change now even if I wanted to
Going back to the OP's post, I think there are too many guys on fab, well the wrong type of guys. But tieing that in with my previous point, if I am not a good guy, the wrong type of guy to me must either be good guys or really bad guys.
So who knows.
Totally agree I must be a bad guy as well as I just get ignored or a message saying sorry not my type if I even get a response
The issue is that there is so much cock on here for women they can be picky on what they want and larger guys like myself have no chance of a meet on here "
Don’t think there aren’t women on here only for an ego boost too, with no intention of meeting, just want the attention, there are good and bad on both sides
Just try and be active, chat, don’t take anything, especially rejection (in whatever form), personally, just enjoy what experiences come your way |
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"For me personally once i le out the men who are here to cheat, the men that assume were all bdsm sluts who want anal now, the men that dont take no your not for me as an answer, the men that are actually just here for other men, then i dont think its too many at all"
⬆️ this 100% |
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"I’ve said on multiple forum subjects, the numbers are clear and the men vastly outnumber the women, it’s all about timing, I have a friend who opened her profile for a couple of hours and had 60 plus messages, I can only assume women aren’t reading everything that comes in (I know I wouldn’t lol) so it’s probably all about timing and content of both message and profile.
I also believe the social go a long way to helping your chances.
I’ve said jokingly before, sometimes it feels like only a select few are meeting and the rest are just spectators/voyeurs "
Of that 60. How many were actually a) worth replying to. b) had read her profile and matched what she was seeking. c) not a hi with a cock attached |
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"Being a guy who always struggled to get meets on fab and from the statments that good guys stand out, I guess that puts me in not a good guy category.
Suppose I will just have to live with that, to old to change now even if I wanted to
Going back to the OP's post, I think there are too many guys on fab, well the wrong type of guys. But tieing that in with my previous point, if I am not a good guy, the wrong type of guy to me must either be good guys or really bad guys.
So who knows.
Totally agree I must be a bad guy as well as I just get ignored or a message saying sorry not my type if I even get a response
The issue is that there is so much cock on here for women they can be picky on what they want and larger guys like myself have no chance of a meet on here "
Most women will be picky even if there were only 20% of the guys on here.
It's not a numbers game. No other profile affects what responses or non responses you get.
Not everyone is mutually compatible therefore you won't appeal to everyone |
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