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"I would never have sex with someone I don't find attractive and don't fancy.. not desperate at all lol"
This!!
There are enough women tarring men with the same brush, don’t need the fellas to start doing it as well!  |
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?"
Some women have massive gangbangs they can’t be vetting each guy in terms of attractiveness and suitability as a partner I would imagine |
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?"
Where are your statistics to back that up hmmmmm? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have on the past. It’s more of I’m in the mood thing and really want sex. Luckily the older I’ve got the more selective I’ve become.
Think we’ve have all had sex with beer goggles on! |
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?
Some women have massive gangbangs they can’t be vetting each guy in terms of attractiveness and suitability as a partner I would imagine "
Never had one but I guess your right! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?"
Some might but i wouldn't |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would never have sex with someone I don't find attractive and don't fancy.. not desperate at all lol"
more the fact the guy would not date the girl. Do you ever think, ok for a fuck and nothing else?
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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"Some do, some dont. I have to have an attraction, physical and/or a personality or mental attraction x"
I agree with this. And it mental attraction is important too. One of the least satisfying meetings I have had on Fab was with one of the most attractive women that I have met but we just didn’t click. Whereas the best meetings I’ve had have been with women where we have some sort of connection and a laugh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The rule is if you are intelligent and can make a woman laugh you're 99% there, the other 60% is down to looks, how you dress, act and speak. 
This  "
Although that’s 159% but I get where you’re coming from! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would never have sex with someone I don't find attractive and don't fancy.. not desperate at all lol more the fact the guy would not date the girl. Do you ever think, ok for a fuck and nothing else?"
But I'm not on here to date... |
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I think it's more the way the body works. I'm drier than 10 year old sandpaper if I don't fancy someone and couldn't go through with it for the sake of it.
I can understand being turned on by a situation though, and under the right circumstances (blindfolded) things could be different. |
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I've never fancied anyone we've met for 3 somes. All lovely guys but not fancied any of them. I don't think I could kiss a woman that I didn't fancy a little tho x |
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I would have sex with a guy I'd never date or consider a relationship with. I don't assume all the men we meet would want something long term with me or that the couples would want that with either of us.
This is fantasy land. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I would never have sex with someone I don't find attractive and don't fancy.. not desperate at all lol more the fact the guy would not date the girl. Do you ever think, ok for a fuck and nothing else?
But I'm not on here to date..."
very valid point |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've never fancied anyone we've met for 3 somes. All lovely guys but not fancied any of them. I don't think I could kiss a woman that I didn't fancy a little tho x"
was it still enjoyable
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"I've never fancied anyone we've met for 3 somes. All lovely guys but not fancied any of them. I don't think I could kiss a woman that I didn't fancy a little tho x"
is that your choice or hubbys |
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"Yeah, I would never date those dumb young bucks with a six pack, but I might shag 'em....  this is a very valid point"
It is. People think looks are the be all and end all, but newsflash, they're not! |
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"Yeah, I would never date those dumb young bucks with a six pack, but I might shag 'em.... this is a very valid point
It is. People think looks are the be all and end all, but newsflash, they're not!"
Good to know that looks don’t matter for some |
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?"
Unless it’s a disposable 20 min interaction in a club dark room, I just don’t understand why anyone would do this. Maybe my definition of ‘find attractive’ is broader than those who claim attraction isn’t necessary.. |
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"Yeah, I would never date those dumb young bucks with a six pack, but I might shag 'em.... this is a very valid point
It is. People think looks are the be all and end all, but newsflash, they're not!
Good to know that looks don’t matter for some "
Ah, but the more someone gets in my head the more attractive they become. |
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"Yeah, I would never date those dumb young bucks with a six pack, but I might shag 'em.... this is a very valid point
It is. People think looks are the be all and end all, but newsflash, they're not!"
this is true. I'd rather friends with benefits or date someone who at least likes rugby and can drink with the lads. Looks are secondary to that haha |
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"Yeah, I would never date those dumb young bucks with a six pack, but I might shag 'em.... this is a very valid point
It is. People think looks are the be all and end all, but newsflash, they're not!
Good to know that looks don’t matter for some
Ah, but the more someone gets in my head the more attractive they become. "
Definitely |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah, I would never date those dumb young bucks with a six pack, but I might shag 'em.... this is a very valid point
It is. People think looks are the be all and end all, but newsflash, they're not!
Good to know that looks don’t matter for some
Ah, but the more someone gets in my head the more attractive they become. "
I’ll remember that  |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"The rule is if you are intelligent and can make a woman laugh you're 99% there, the other 60% is down to looks, how you dress, act and speak.
This
Although that’s 159% but I get where you’re coming from! "
... And I was hoping women would be more superficial too. Hmmmm.
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"Yeah, I would never date those dumb young bucks with a six pack, but I might shag 'em.... this is a very valid point
It is. People think looks are the be all and end all, but newsflash, they're not!
Good to know that looks don’t matter for some "
Oh I didn't say that lol, I'm very partial to a gorgeous man, but it's not where I place a persons value. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We do it all the time on fab meets, we both get turned on by the situation and watching each other. What the other people look like is pretty irrelevant, as long as they are in decent-ish shape and have a good personality so we can have a laugh then its all good. |
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"Yeah, I would never date those dumb young bucks with a six pack, but I might shag 'em.... this is a very valid point
It is. People think looks are the be all and end all, but newsflash, they're not!
Good to know that looks don’t matter for some
Ah, but the more someone gets in my head the more attractive they become. "
Nail on the head |
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?"
Most men, glad I’m not one of them. I’ve never got how you can you get intimate with someone you don’t find attractive |
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?"
one of my best meets I had no clue who any of the guys were. And so there was no attraction as I couldn't see them x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?"
I wouldn't where do you get that theory from
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?
Most men, glad I’m not one of them. I’ve never got how you can you get intimate with someone you don’t find attractive"
Very easily, its the situation everytime for us but I guess as a couple its a slightly different dynamic. We often say if we were single neither of us would be on fab. |
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?
Most men, glad I’m not one of them. I’ve never got how you can you get intimate with someone you don’t find attractive
Very easily, its the situation everytime for us but I guess as a couple its a slightly different dynamic. We often say if we were single neither of us would be on fab."
if agree with it sometimes being the situation. I've had group play with guys I wouldn't meet in a more intimate situation but enjoyed it as it's the situation and experience that is the turn on. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?
Most men, glad I’m not one of them. I’ve never got how you can you get intimate with someone you don’t find attractive
Very easily, its the situation everytime for us but I guess as a couple its a slightly different dynamic. We often say if we were single neither of us would be on fab.if agree with it sometimes being the situation. I've had group play with guys I wouldn't meet in a more intimate situation but enjoyed it as it's the situation and experience that is the turn on. X"
sometimes really hot people are crap in bed. |
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?
Most men, glad I’m not one of them. I’ve never got how you can you get intimate with someone you don’t find attractive
Very easily, its the situation everytime for us but I guess as a couple its a slightly different dynamic. We often say if we were single neither of us would be on fab.if agree with it sometimes being the situation. I've had group play with guys I wouldn't meet in a more intimate situation but enjoyed it as it's the situation and experience that is the turn on. X sometimes really hot people are crap in bed."
thats where teaching skills come in anyone had it in them if there willing to learn and put the work in |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?"
Most men, I think you men a small minority of desperate men. Most blokes would rather just have a wank than have sex with a woman they’re not attracted to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?
Most men, I think you men a small minority of desperate men. Most blokes would rather just have a wank than have sex with a woman they’re not attracted to."
to be fair as a woman I am very aware that not all men on here that say they think im sexy mean it. And to some they just think I'm a good bet x |
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?
Most men, I think you men a small minority of desperate men. Most blokes would rather just have a wank than have sex with a woman they’re not attracted to.to be fair as a woman I am very aware that not all men on here that say they think im sexy mean it. And to some they just think I'm a good bet x "
il have a £5er on the strumpet in the 330 |
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"I've never fancied anyone we've met for 3 somes. All lovely guys but not fancied any of them. I don't think I could kiss a woman that I didn't fancy a little tho x was it still enjoyable"
Yes they were great meets x |
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"I've never fancied anyone we've met for 3 somes. All lovely guys but not fancied any of them. I don't think I could kiss a woman that I didn't fancy a little tho x
is that your choice or hubbys "
Mine x |
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?"
There are billions of blokes on this planet.
What do you mean most. How exactly did you ask? 3 |
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I couldn't sleep with someone I didn't find attractive.
I did have a FWB I could never date, we were very different people and would clash so much but our physical chemistry was incredible. |
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Its not something i'd do and would be mortified if i qualified as it .
I like playmates to be friends too,people i'd hang out with away from fab,if you know what I mean and there has to be attraction.Even if they aren't conventially attractive,as long as they are to me thats cool.
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"I've never fancied anyone we've met for 3 somes. All lovely guys but not fancied any of them. I don't think I could kiss a woman that I didn't fancy a little tho x"
Exactly the same as us! We’ve had 3 somes with guys with zero attraction but the situation is such a turn on. We both choose who we meet and Mr certainly wouldnt block me from meeting anyone but I only fancy my hubby everyone else is just a fuck no matter what they look like. |
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"I've never fancied anyone we've met for 3 somes. All lovely guys but not fancied any of them. I don't think I could kiss a woman that I didn't fancy a little tho x
Exactly the same as us! We’ve had 3 somes with guys with zero attraction but the situation is such a turn on. We both choose who we meet and Mr certainly wouldnt block me from meeting anyone but I only fancy my hubby everyone else is just a fuck no matter what they look like."
So you wouldn’t meet someone you find attractive. What time she’ll I come round  |
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?"
I think saying most is a bit excessive as it implies far more than half and I don't believe thats the case. Granted some get horny on here and lower standards its probably the same for women but I really think/hope someone would only play with someone they find attractive or attracted to in some way to play with. |
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"I've never fancied anyone we've met for 3 somes. All lovely guys but not fancied any of them. I don't think I could kiss a woman that I didn't fancy a little tho x
Exactly the same as us! We’ve had 3 somes with guys with zero attraction but the situation is such a turn on. We both choose who we meet and Mr certainly wouldnt block me from meeting anyone but I only fancy my hubby everyone else is just a fuck no matter what they look like.
So you wouldn’t meet someone you find attractive. What time she’ll I come round "
Attractiveness has nothing to do with it, its the situation |
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"I've never fancied anyone we've met for 3 somes. All lovely guys but not fancied any of them. I don't think I could kiss a woman that I didn't fancy a little tho x
Exactly the same as us! We’ve had 3 somes with guys with zero attraction but the situation is such a turn on. We both choose who we meet and Mr certainly wouldnt block me from meeting anyone but I only fancy my hubby everyone else is just a fuck no matter what they look like.
So you wouldn’t meet someone you find attractive. What time she’ll I come round
Attractiveness has nothing to do with it, its the situation "
It obviously works for you. All I can say is any other couples or single females on here who think the same inbox me face pictures. You never know I might find you attractive  |
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"I've never fancied anyone we've met for 3 somes. All lovely guys but not fancied any of them. I don't think I could kiss a woman that I didn't fancy a little tho x
Exactly the same as us! We’ve had 3 somes with guys with zero attraction but the situation is such a turn on. We both choose who we meet and Mr certainly wouldnt block me from meeting anyone but I only fancy my hubby everyone else is just a fuck no matter what they look like.
So you wouldn’t meet someone you find attractive. What time she’ll I come round
Attractiveness has nothing to do with it, its the situation "
This! The extra guy (in the nicest possible way) is somewhat irrelevant. I draw the line at a guy who's boring tho. That I couldn't do x |
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I agree 100%. Not attraction then what's the point??
Learnt this lesson the hard way. Slept with a girl who was into me a lot more than I was into her & ended up getting the flop halfway through because it just wasn't enjoyable for me. Then she cried because it obviously knocked her self confidence to shit & I just felt fucking awful about the whole thing!
Never again. |
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"I think it's more the way the body works. I'm drier than 10 year old sandpaper if I don't fancy someone and couldn't go through with it for the sake of it.
I can understand being turned on by a situation though, and under the right circumstances (blindfolded) things could be different."
10 year old sandpaper!! Well I do like it rough, but that may be pushing it ?? |
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"I agree 100%. Not attraction then what's the point??
Learnt this lesson the hard way. Slept with a girl who was into me a lot more than I was into her & ended up getting the flop halfway through because it just wasn't enjoyable for me. Then she cried because it obviously knocked her self confidence to shit & I just felt fucking awful about the whole thing!
Never again."
OMG I think id cry too lol. Poor girl probably never had sex again haha. All your fault! |
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"I agree 100%. Not attraction then what's the point??
Learnt this lesson the hard way. Slept with a girl who was into me a lot more than I was into her & ended up getting the flop halfway through because it just wasn't enjoyable for me. Then she cried because it obviously knocked her self confidence to shit & I just felt fucking awful about the whole thing!
Never again.
OMG I think id cry too lol. Poor girl probably never had sex again haha. All your fault! "
Cheers! That makes me feel so much better about the whole situation haha! |
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Some men certainly, but I'm not convinced it's most. If I don't find a woman attractive, and her personality can kill that even if she's stunning, then I won't be turned on by her. |
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"I agree 100%. Not attraction then what's the point??
Learnt this lesson the hard way. Slept with a girl who was into me a lot more than I was into her & ended up getting the flop halfway through because it just wasn't enjoyable for me. Then she cried because it obviously knocked her self confidence to shit & I just felt fucking awful about the whole thing!
Never again.
OMG I think id cry too lol. Poor girl probably never had sex again haha. All your fault!
Cheers! That makes me feel so much better about the whole situation haha!"
Haha probably was a bit harsh in hindsight. Sorry  |
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"I agree 100%. Not attraction then what's the point??
Learnt this lesson the hard way. Slept with a girl who was into me a lot more than I was into her & ended up getting the flop halfway through because it just wasn't enjoyable for me. Then she cried because it obviously knocked her self confidence to shit & I just felt fucking awful about the whole thing!
Never again.
OMG I think id cry too lol. Poor girl probably never had sex again haha. All your fault!
Cheers! That makes me feel so much better about the whole situation haha!
Haha probably was a bit harsh in hindsight. Sorry "
Well she's now got a new fella & life is good, so she's doing a hell of a lot better than me ?? |
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"Most men would have sex with a woman that they would never date or find attractive. Is it a man thing? Or do women also do this?
Most men, I think you men a small minority of desperate men. Most blokes would rather just have a wank than have sex with a woman they’re not attracted to."
Not in my experience, from observing over the years. Either that or a lot of women with limbs and a pulse are attractive to them lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Another group I don't belong to.
But then why would I want to.
Can't decide if this is a little judgemental a windup or the personal prejudice of the OP.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don’t think it’s a man/woman thing it’s how you separate out the sex bit. In clubs I’ve played with guys I know I wouldn’t date but I found physically attractive. Meeting one to one away from clubs I need a mental attraction more because establishing something like a friendship builds trust as well as attraction over time as I prefer to repeat meet.
I have also had a couple of incredible club encounters where I’ve not even seen their face
I guess what I’m saying is it’s complicated! |
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