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Is sex always better with feelings?
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By (user no longer on site) 2 weeks ago
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"No, I spunk off far too quickly when feelings are involved "
But then again easier to stay hard when feeling are involved
Making love with someone who loves you back is just great.
Best feeling in the world |
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Sex or making love?
Iv had some amazing sex with women where we both had 0 feelings for each other.
Whereas if feelings are involved even a cuddle and enjoying each other before sleep feels great. |
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It always feels better, but I have to have some feelings to have sex with someone, at least a strong like. But is it the feelings that make the sex great. Once the feelings are gone is the sex actually as good as you felt at the time? |
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I don't have to be in love with them. But some level of connection is needed before the sex happens. And it's always better.
The times I've had sex without that bare minimum connection/feelings and I wish I'd just wanked at home. |
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Call it what you like, define the levels how you want. Like, Lust, crush, Limerance, affection, Love.
There has to be a need for mutual pleasure for sex to be really good and I couldn’t do that with someone I don’t like. |
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"No... feelings are for losers
About time you started being real on here
I'll never have feelings for someone I fuck from here ever again. I've learnt the hard way."
Depends on the feelings but definitely this 👌 |
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"Is it even generally better with feelings?
Or do we just like it more because of the feelings?
Or what? "
Nope not for me. I love sex just for sex with randoms. In a relationship then it’s different as you are invested committed |
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I think it can depend on the kind of sex. For example, slow and sensual (one-on-one, not in a threesome or group), I think I'd feel really awkward and uncomfortable if no feelings were involved. But being head-over-heels for someone... That makes it mind-blowing!
Hot, lusty and rough on the otherhand - I don't think you need feelings for it to be better. Just chemistry. |
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By *sWyldWoman 2 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
Define feelings.
There's always some kind of feelings when I have sex. Lust, care, desire.
Unfortunately the only time I've cried the whole way through sex was because I was deeply in love and broken hearted.
Feelings happen and I don't fear them. So yes it's better otherwise I'd just have a wank |
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Yes I have to feel like I really want to fuck their brains out, feel I want them inside me, feel their bare skin against mine and feel like we're pleasuring the fuck out if each other in every possible way without effort, simply instinct, that's how I love to have sex with feelings 😈
Can I order one to go, thanks  |
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Is it better if you’re the one with the feelings, or if they have feelings for you, or is it only good if the feelings are reciprocated?
Is it the balance of feelings or non feelings that makes sex work? |
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Depends on the moment and the person.
Some guys can fuck me into oblivion, and it's great not to let feelings get in the way of a mega-ploughing.
We have another guy who comes to visit stuck in a loveless, sexless marriage. He comes to unload both sexually and emotionally, and the extra dimension of being mother confessor and soothing his mind makes for incredible sex.
Horses for courses, if you will. |
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"Depends on the moment and the person.
Some guys can fuck me into oblivion, and it's great not to let feelings get in the way of a mega-ploughing.
We have another guy who comes to visit stuck in a loveless, sexless marriage. He comes to unload both sexually and emotionally, and the extra dimension of being mother confessor and soothing his mind makes for incredible sex.
Horses for courses, if you will."
Fantastic reply |
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Call me weird, there has to be some level of ‘feeling’ to have sex with someone anyways surely, whatever you call it? Attraction is a feeling, so if you do agree feelings don’t matter, would you shag anyone? Just for the sake of a shag?
Not criticising, genuine question.
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My first thought was yes, then no and I've settled with there has to be some kind of feelings as we're not emotionless robots.
Even if that feeling is lust rather than love.
I've had sex so good I thought I was in love... |
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I would say it's more chemistry than feelings that makes sex good. It's not so much about feeling of romance or attachment or love or care beyond that space and time that makes sex good. Thoses feelings you can do without and still enjoy awesome sex (as most of us on this scene recognise as a sort of basic tenant).
However chemistry and spark is important. Attraction, communication, team work and feeling comfortable around that person or people is important. You are sharing something very intimate with someone and of course with good sex its normal to feel some emotions and bond in that time and space (its partly what makes it hot). You should be totally in that moment with them and feel desired by them. But I wouldn't say it's feelings as such more chemistry. Obviously it's awesome having sex with those you have feeling for too, but those feelings (in terms of what people think when you say feeling) are not required.
I think understanding yourself, human nature and feelings is a big part of swinging. I think many of us can have really great sex and chemistry with others and yet still have the ability to compartmentalise it on a NSA basis. And looking beyond NSA there is a spectrum too. I love my freinds, I may have sex with my non vanilla freinds and of course I have some feelings towards them. Doesn't mean I want to romance them or marry them, its not that kind of love, its somewhere else on that friendship love spectrum. So its is important to recognise there is a spectrum. But I can likewise find great chemistry with someone who I may never meet again or think of beyond that time and space.
I have no intrest in sex with a human sex doll. I'm sharing something hot and intimate so there needs to be chemistry or its not hot. But that doesn't mean there is feelings towards that person beyond the act and the time and space. I don't even need to know their name to be fair (which has happened in some spontaneous situations). There just has to be chemistry.
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"Some of the best sex I've had has been with women I don't like. You treat them rougher than you would with someone you have feelings for.
Wtaf 😬"
I know it sounds weird, I've found myself in some mad places in the past. When I say rougher I don't mean in a violent manner. |
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By *ophgavCouple 2 weeks ago
Guildford |
Get a bag of mocha, fill holes with it and do unspeakable things to each other all night
You free minute boys are being home had dinner and going to bed then get up in the morning and we’re still going. That’s how you do it. lol
3 minutes you should be ashamed to yourself lol
If that happens, anybody, please take it down, but that’s how you do it |
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For us, if there is no connection we simply say no thanks irrespective of how attractive they are! We've turned down some stunning ladies and good looking men because they have just not clicked with us. |
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"Call me weird, there has to be some level of ‘feeling’ to have sex with someone anyways surely, whatever you call it? Attraction is a feeling, so if you do agree feelings don’t matter, would you shag anyone? Just for the sake of a shag?
Not criticising, genuine question.
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Just because emotions are not involved doesn't mean the filters are off. Absolutely would not have sex with just anyone. |
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