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I sometimes, well more often that not get the feeling there is no point writing a profile as most people don't even bother reading it.
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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You'll be lucky. Most people only read the headline of your posts too... |
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If we get a wink or message we'll read all the profile and decide together whether to reply. |
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I always read a profile fully. Couple of things I check before I even consider a reply. |
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I enjoy reading a well written profile. |
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I can’t speak for most people, but we both read profiles - what a person says about themselves is more interesting than the photos they post. So if nothing else, OP, know that I’ve read your profile Xx |
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I read the profiles fully , but then that could be cause I'm nosey  |
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I do. I read yours OP.
Frankly, if they obviously haven’t read it then I feel no remorse on just deleting the message. |
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If it is short and to the point then yes. If it looks like a novel then my eyes will glaze over and I will probably fall asleep. |
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We both read profiles before we wink or message. However we do feel that most people don’t even look at ours (yes we know it’s a bit long)
Kink (Mrs) |
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My thoughts are that you cannot change the behaviour of others. If you are prepared to meet with someone who won't even go to the effort of reading your profile then sure, it's not worth bothering to write it. If you only want to meet with people who show at least a bare minimum interest in what you are looking for then write one that explains these things and use people's responses (or lack thereof) as a filter.
There's no point getting upset by what others do or don't do, it's your profile, do what you want with it and respond to others how you feel their behaviour deserves.
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We do, which makes it even worse that ours in such a sorry state! |
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Yeah I do, if there’s something to go off I’ll use it in my first message, also a fuller profile can tell em whether we would be each others type or not. You can’t make too assumptions of course but if they want 9inch and I’m not, well no point me messaging! |
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By *PMGMan 6 weeks ago
Surrey |
"I sometimes, well more often that not get the feeling there is no point writing a profile as most people don't even bother reading it.
What's your thoughts?"
I love this subject Ms S.....I do absolutely. Can't speak for all men but for me this element is absolutely critical. Visual...easy look at pics. To know if there might be chemistry and connection for great sex and compatibility comes from the writing (ok initially) in the profile.
Some men (not all before I get hammered by Gentlemen) take this as photocopy salesman technique. Ask 100 maybe get 1 (NOT predjudice to photocopy sales people promise) So they cast a net....I prefer a rod....God that doesnt sound as I intended it!! |
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Lots that message me seem to have read it. Lots haven't. It makes it easy for me when it comes to deciding who to reply to. |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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I am terrible for reading them and I don't expect guys to read mine. Fab is a visual place.
I gave up a long time ago writing what I actually want, but I find I get more of 'my type' now when my profile is basically shite!
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It's a great filter when it comes to deciding which message I reply too...if they can't be arsed reading my profile, I can't be arsed with them in general x |
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I always read profiles but I'd say about 25% of the messages I receive have read my profile. |
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I do wonder as well, wrote a long, well thought out one and… still get odd messages 🫠 |
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"I sometimes, well more often that not get the feeling there is no point writing a profile as most people don't even bother reading it.
What's your thoughts?"
We do, if someone states in their bio stuff they're into but we aren't, or vice versa, why waste everyone's time in messaging |
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By *xxxMan 6 weeks ago
Bedford & Chester |
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"I sometimes, well more often that not get the feeling there is no point writing a profile as most people don't even bother reading it.
What's your thoughts?"
I sometimes, well, more often than not, get the feeling there is no point reading a profile and writing a personalised message as most women don't even bother reading it.
[Although, like the OP, I wish this wasn’t true] |
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By *xxxMan 6 weeks ago
Bedford & Chester |
I always read the profile. Okay, I might look at any public pics/vids first, but I always read the profile and try to personalise any message I might send. Plus, while the pics/vids might be good, the way a profile is written or it's content can give more of an insight into a person's mind. The tricky part is to figure out who's written the profile when reading that of a couple! |
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By *a1970Man 6 weeks ago
East cork |
I'd read the profile... There's always something in there that will guide you. If your lucky you'll find something that will say just enough... Yes I like this.... Apart from the photos.... I'm a suckere for a well dressed lady. |
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Normally look at the pics first then if we like the look we might start to read the profile unless it's going to be a 20 minute read. |
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Going by all the straight couples that message us then no they don't. |
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If say 99% do not read ours. Probably either CBA or just look at the photos.
Based on what we get that we have no interest in. |
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"If say 99% do not read ours. Probably either CBA or just look at the photos.
Based on what we get that we have no interest in. "
I misread that as CIA then. I thought what the hell is the CIA doing lurking on here for 😂😂 |
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I read them, unless they seem to be pointlessly long. Then I skim through them to see if they need more time spent reading |
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"If say 99% do not read ours. Probably either CBA or just look at the photos.
Based on what we get that we have no interest in.
I misread that as CIA then. I thought what the hell is the CIA doing lurking on here for 😂😂"
Misread or went straight to the photos |
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"If say 99% do not read ours. Probably either CBA or just look at the photos.
Based on what we get that we have no interest in.
I misread that as CIA then. I thought what the hell is the CIA doing lurking on here for 😂😂
Misread or went straight to the photos "
Can't blame him to be fair lol  |
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"If say 99% do not read ours. Probably either CBA or just look at the photos.
Based on what we get that we have no interest in.
I misread that as CIA then. I thought what the hell is the CIA doing lurking on here for 😂😂
Misread or went straight to the photos
Can't blame him to be fair lol "
Exactly. Not my fault, the photos are distracting 😉😂 |
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Many don't, men and couples too
Its a good filter though as its always obvious when they haven't. |
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By *end1Man 6 weeks ago
southend on sea |
Yes always read profiles. |
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Actually really enjoy reqding profiles then my first is normally based of the type i think they are |
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We get around a 75/25 split in people who message without reading the profile and within 2/3 messages of chatting get the good old "so what are you looking for then?" question - which, if they'd read the profile, they'd know or at least be able to ask questions of it.
The few that have we have had some absolutely great conversations and connections with even if sexually we may not be attracted/compatible.
I think the vast majority just like looking at photos/videos, having a wank (let's be honest, a lot of couple profiles are predominantly led by the male half) and trying their luck.
C xoxo |
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I do
Most who message me don’t. I’ve just decided to put the big filters on for the first time in ages |
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By *end1Man 6 weeks ago
southend on sea |
"We get around a 75/25 split in people who message without reading the profile and within 2/3 messages of chatting get the good old "so what are you looking for then?" question - which, if they'd read the profile, they'd know or at least be able to ask questions of it.
The few that have we have had some absolutely great conversations and connections with even if sexually we may not be attracted/compatible.
I think the vast majority just like looking at photos/videos, having a wank (let's be honest, a lot of couple profiles are predominantly led by the male half) and trying their luck.
C xoxo"
exactly like your profile says not looking for single guys.so I wouldn't dm you.same as being miles away or maybe a non smoker etc. If people can't take a couple of minutes to read profiles fully it shows how lazy they are. |
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We always read profiles. What they tell us is whether we would or would not be interested in the person.
However on the vast majority of messages we get, it’s clear our profile hasn’t been read |
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We put lots of stock into reading bios before we message or respond to people.
If you can't be bothered to write anything on your profile, it's an immediate red flag regarding the effort you'll follow through with if we plan anything.
And a but of humour on them goes a long way!
Add to that a Sydney university post flags the naive ones lol |
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I always read the profile of someone I might be interested in. Even the long winded ones - unless two thirds of it is stupid disclaimers and crying at Sydney.
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"I sometimes, well more often that not get the feeling there is no point writing a profile as most people don't even bother reading it.
What's your thoughts?"
Judging by a lot of the messages I get, no! |
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Agree, should replace them with a quick quiz that auto filters. This is age of AI, where are the AI swinging assistants! |
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God I hope not unless it's ricky gervais looking for new material |
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I couldn't tell you the percentage of people that read my profile, but I can say only about 5% of those that message have read it thoroughly. |
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Depends how hot they are.. I sometimes skip straight to the photos  |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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Some do and some don't it's all part of the game called "fabswingers"
The trick is to concentrate on those that do because there are some real gems out there in our very special community 💋 |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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I do a quick skim through.
I have next to no real information about me on my profile for this very reason. It’s pointless. |
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I actually read most profiles I click onto, just very rarely message anyone that’s due to normally me being a smoker and them not wanting to meets smokers, or that it’s just a silhouette profile or pictures that’s just private parts |
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No, reading takes time and effort.
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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"No, reading takes time and effort.
Mrs "
Ok when we fucking then ?  |
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By *cott14Man 6 weeks ago
Essex & SW Exeter/Taunton |
Yep . I like reading them to see if there is a common ground x |
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From personal experience there’s very few who read the full profile, but if I get a message I’ll read their profile but it’s amazing how many don’t write much if anything |
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Same as every question like this.
Some do, some don't. |
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Look at the boobs, and bum, then decide if it's worth reading 🤷🏻♂️ |
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I enjoy reading a well written profile that gives a good grounding. |
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By *hoirCouple 6 weeks ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"I sometimes, well more often that not get the feeling there is no point writing a profile as most people don't even bother reading it.
What's your thoughts?"
I always read them but sometimes I only skim it and miss things
C |
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By *C44Man 6 weeks ago
Ipswich |
If I see someone I'm interested in I will initially scan profile to make sure they are not listing preferences that I do not meet, then I will read the profile fully if that's not the case. |
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No one reads ours, probably sound like cunts because of the single guys, in reality I am a cunt she's not 😂 just kidding. |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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Yep I do |
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Yes I do then I then know if there right for me and vice versa |
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By *C44Man 6 weeks ago
Ipswich |
"No one reads ours, probably sound like cunts because of the single guys, in reality I am a cunt she's not 😂 just kidding. "
Read yours. Nothing cunty at all. Just a polite statement of preferences. Disappointed, I was looking to be offended lol |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 6 weeks ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
I think it's essential if you're serious about a possible meet. Unfortunately many don't tell you much about the specifics of their meeting policy, like if it is only on certain days, or they are only free to meet when advertising on meet today  |
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It's an easy way to filter out the wrong types, when they make it simple by showing they've not read what's important to you, in your profile |
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I always read a profile. And if there's something in there I don't like, or vice versa something about me they don't like (I've seen my accent is an "off putter" for some, or the fact I'm not a Greek agonising bodied gym bunny 😂) then I save myself and them the hassle. Also let's me know if I need a key word, or a face pic is required to even get a read, never mind a response.
I do find though that the list of wants/needs/demands on sometimes can be grueling, so I can understand why people sometimes just give up on reading 😂 |
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I read the profile. Look to see likes and dislikes and if I'd match possible profile.
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By *tu.xMan 6 weeks ago
around |
If I'm guna message someone or someone messages me il have read ..I do think alot don't bother reading. |
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Why do people write fictious rubbish about copyright on their profiles, that shows a sheep like mentality. Only two types of people get involve with litigation, the very stupid and the very rich. |
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"I sometimes, well more often that not get the feeling there is no point writing a profile as most people don't even bother reading it.
What's your thoughts?"
It’s clearly obvious when people haven’t read mine and still choose to message!
Still, a considered and thought out introduction and well presented profile would generally always get a reply from me.
I often just think of deleting the entire bio though and just saying ‘tits and ass pics below’! |
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Well, after the last 6 or 7 messages from 'straight only looking for women/ couples', its obvious a heck of a lot of single guys haven't bothered to read my profile and it's not even that long. |
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I read them. It's normally the first line regarding age that I stop and move on |
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We have the keyword at the bottom but still 90% of messages have neglected to read the profile. You'll be surprised at how many of the opening messages are just copied and pasted from all types of people!
Suppose it's better than a mutual wink where no body starts a conversation!! |
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By *ripfillMan 6 weeks ago
Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant |
I read the profile details first … before Fabbing the pictures,
Some are an excellent reads both descriptive and containing facts, likes/dislikes , some read like a eulogy!
Discipline first , to read before replying most definitely! 👍🤩🤞😬 |
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By *ony MannMan 6 weeks ago
Las Gaviotos, Fuerteventura |
I read them, but it depresses my, to often there it something about me that is not wanted. |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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A lot of people don’t and as has been said it shows.
I read profiles whether it’s because i am showing an interest or if it’s just a platonic forum friendship.
Gives you idea what they’re all about.
Quite a few read mine and i either get comments that it’s funny or i shouldn’t put myself down so much!! |
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Alot of people don't read profiles. I always tend to though.
Mrs |
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I always do... Others really don't.
Mines been short, long.... Totally blank. Doesn't make much difference 😂 |
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I change mine so frequently i don't know how they'd keep up  |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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Most don't, but the kind of people you want to meet will.
Just ignore the others |
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By *ucka39Man 6 weeks ago
Newcastle |
I read them view the photos have a wank if the video is good and roll over |
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"I change mine so frequently i don't know how they'd keep up "
Do you offer interesting facts, or publish fiction in serialised form? It would be cool if you did 😎 |
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The people who message me always read my profile. Usually they'll reference something from there.
However, I am aware that this isn't the case for a lot of people. I'm not sure what goes on in the minds of those who just speculatively message without gleaning anything about the person beforehand. |
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Yes I read every profile I message. My messages are always relevant and polite cheeky flirty and complimentary. You wouldn't know by the replies though. Do people not select on the basis of messages ? .. or is it just based on pictures ??!! .. think we all know that answer ... |
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Before messaging, always. When perving, sometimes. |
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"I change mine so frequently i don't know how they'd keep up
Do you offer interesting facts, or publish fiction in serialised form? It would be cool if you did 😎"
I've recently started to add reviews |
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Men don't appear to read the line in my profile about me being able to suck my own cock, (thank you).
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Yes I read them, if I find myself interested in someone or they message me. |
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"I change mine so frequently i don't know how they'd keep up
Do you offer interesting facts, or publish fiction in serialised form? It would be cool if you did 😎
I've recently started to add reviews "
😂 You should add: ‘impeccably well behaved when having tea’ and ‘decorous when buttering a scone, but devours a sandwich like a wolf’ |
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"God I hope not unless it's ricky gervais looking for new material"
The orifice? |
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We always read a profile as saves times on wasted messages if we don't match |
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Pretty much. We find a small percentage read the profile. We were thinking of putting a key word in our profile, but it won’t work. We'll still get the people that don’t bother! |
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By *istr3ssWoman 6 weeks ago
Stockton-on-Tees |
"You'll be lucky. Most people only read the headline of your posts too..."
And I find that many don't even do that |
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I read them
But sometimes I just ignore what they say  |
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Always read them first to see if I fit into what they are looking for |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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I find 99% don't read my
Profile boils my piss
I don't want Richard pics
And am not bi
So women of Fab I do feel your pain when you get Richard pic
You did ask |
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I think most people did read profiles years ago but now I don't think they bother |
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By *ooDeNimMan 6 weeks ago
Nuneaton, also London and Wiltshire |
I always read profiles in detail; they are very illustrative and give really good insight in to the person/couple and their approach to what they are looking for. This provides me a good indication if we’re likely to get on and have much in common.
Whilst pics are great at establishing an immediate sense of physical attraction, that is no guarantee that the other elements will be in place.
Also - someone who has put effort in to writing an interesting profile is likely to put similar effort in to other things. |
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Profile is key if you want to know if you're going to be compatible! |
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Read profiles?! 😵💫
How passé… 😜 |
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Bold of you to assume I can read! 🤔 |
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By *tu.xMan 6 weeks ago
around |
I read most but if looks like an issue of war and peace i do give up i don't need to know there life story |
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"I sometimes, well more often that not get the feeling there is no point writing a profile as most people don't even bother reading it.
What's your thoughts?"
No denying a large % of people don’t read profiles. But that is just a great filter.
I won’t message a profile without a bio. At least some words to capture my attention. |
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Always!
I like to read them to see if it's someone I'd make a good match with...either socially or for fun.
It doesn't take long out of your day, so I don't understand why people skip it and don't bother?! |
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Based on the brief 7 hours I lifted my filters for overnight on Sunday, and the messages received in that time from non-forumites, only 1 had clearly read my profile (and yet still messaged 🤦♀️ )
However I like reading profiles, some provide a good giggle! And when I was looking to meet, it gave me an idea as to the kind of person they might be and if that was someone I might like to engage with. |
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"Based on the brief 7 hours I lifted my filters for overnight on Sunday, and the messages received in that time from non-forumites, only 1 had clearly read my profile (and yet still messaged 🤦♀️ )
However I like reading profiles, some provide a good giggle! And when I was looking to meet, it gave me an idea as to the kind of person they might be and if that was someone I might like to engage with."
Bugger, missed the chance to slip a message through the filters! 🤣 |
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By *ony MannMan 6 weeks ago
Las Gaviotos, Fuerteventura |
"Based on the brief 7 hours I lifted my filters for overnight on Sunday, and the messages received in that time from non-forumites, only 1 had clearly read my profile (and yet still messaged 🤦♀️ )
However I like reading profiles, some provide a good giggle! And when I was looking to meet, it gave me an idea as to the kind of person they might be and if that was someone I might like to engage with."
I'm 65,but feel 35...if you would left me. |
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"I sometimes, well more often that not get the feeling there is no point writing a profile as most people don't even bother reading it.
What's your thoughts?"
You have to read it, no? Otherwise how would you get any form of idea if you’re sexually compatible or not? |
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I'll always read the profile and any verie's they have. |
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I look at the pictures primarily
If I like, I go to the bio
I then amuse myself at the verifications
Then I look at distance
Then I swipe left. |
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By *oxy-RedWoman 6 weeks ago
pink panther territory |
I always do
But unfortunately a lot don't bother |
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Love a good profile and so few of them out there.
Ever so sure many don't read ours from the messages we recieve.
I've messaged a few people just because of the bios.
It's always a source of interst and connection.
Poorly written bios often get no reply. |
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By *TWboyMan 6 weeks ago
Norwich |
I always read the profile
Otherwise it’s a waste of everyone’ time…… |
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By *andSxxCouple 6 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"If we get a wink or message we'll read all the profile and decide together whether to reply."
We do the same. It's hard work for us, if when someone has 100, 150 or even more verifications too.😅 |
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I read profiles, cos I want to know who I’m getting involved with and I read between the lines. |
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I’ll read the opening lines.
If they grab my attention, I’ll carry on.
If not, I scroll back. |
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I always read in full if the profile has caught my eye and I intend to message.
Do find so so many profiles are just a list of rules and dislikes, when it could be a great platform for describing their passions? But understand cynicism if been on here a while and get loads of crappy responses.
TBF you may as well write a nice positive descriptive profile of likes, if the only people who read them are the most likely matches for you. Those that don't read it and don't match are no loss anyway? |
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I don't think so sadly
Some people but effort into their profiles only to be asked wanna fuck etc
Which is a real shame People should be respectful, read the profile and act accordingly |
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The real men who are literate do so those are the only ones I respond to. I like two headed men only.
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"I always read in full if the profile has caught my eye and I intend to message.
Do find so so many profiles are just a list of rules and dislikes, when it could be a great platform for describing their passions? But understand cynicism if been on here a while and get loads of crappy responses.
TBF you may as well write a nice positive descriptive profile of likes, if the only people who read them are the most likely matches for you. Those that don't read it and don't match are no loss anyway?"
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I personally always read a profile as it's a big waste of time constructing a message if something written in their profile makes it clear that i wouldn't be of any interest to them in the first place. It doesn't stop me from admiring their pictures and fabbing them if i like them.... |
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Yeah most people don't bother, so annoying |
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By *_qattMan 6 weeks ago
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By *_qattMan 6 weeks ago
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People write on their profiles??
Has this always been a thing  |
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By *tr8MrEMan 6 weeks ago
Shireoaks, Worksop |
Sorry, got distracted by your profile photos. 🤣🤣 |
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I do yes it's hard enough here ,so I make a point of reading the pictures . |
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Possibly not taking into consideration some of the messages I get |
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By *r TriomanMan 6 weeks ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
Although I haven't asked all of the 38608 fab members currently online, I'm sure that there are some that do, it would be hard to believe that 100% of us didn't. |
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Actually I think more read than you might think. I have been lucky to meet and asked people. I don’t have a good profile or pictures but it’s not meant I have not met and lucky to meet many. I rely on my verifies a lot. Ones that are not read (fully) are some that go on for pages. Even when you do get to the end you can’t possibly recall all detail they give. For me it’s more how you get on if meet. Much better to discuss in person. Know others will differ in what best for them. |
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"Actually I think more read than you might think. I have been lucky to meet and asked people. I don’t have a good profile or pictures but it’s not meant I have not met and lucky to meet many. I rely on my verifies a lot. Ones that are not read (fully) are some that go on for pages. Even when you do get to the end you can’t possibly recall all detail they give. For me it’s more how you get on if meet. Much better to discuss in person. Know others will differ in what best for them. "
You might be lucky as a guy as trust me rarely do I get messages where they have |
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I had alot to say on my profile but nobody reads so made it plan and simple |
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"I sometimes, well more often that not get the feeling there is no point writing a profile as most people don't even bother reading it.
What's your thoughts?
I love this subject Ms S.....I do absolutely. Can't speak for all men but for me this element is absolutely critical. Visual...easy look at pics. To know if there might be chemistry and connection for great sex and compatibility comes from the writing (ok initially) in the profile.
Some men (not all before I get hammered by Gentlemen) take this as photocopy salesman technique. Ask 100 maybe get 1 (NOT predjudice to photocopy sales people promise) So they cast a net....I prefer a rod....God that doesnt sound as I intended it!!"
You prefer to dangle a worm in the general vicinity |
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I will always fully read a profile, there maybe a footnote which could discount you from messaging!
Having said that I think mine is either dull, or no one bothers with it |
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Most people get as far as the pictures. |
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I always read profiles and if I don’t fit the bill I wouldn’t message. Because what’s the point but clearly there are people that don’t |
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"Most people get as far as the pictures."
Some people don't even make it to the pictures |
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I always read them, unless it’s 19 paragraphs long then in skimming it |
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Of course and the verification |
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By *and12Couple 6 weeks ago
flint |
Most don’t but we make a point of reading them helps
When we start a conversation x |
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I read pretty much every one I go on.. most of them pretty much telling me as a single guy, of my age, my height, my size.. Not to message haha.
I do like the profiles with the sarcastic, dry humour undertones though. Make for a good read |
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By *mf123Man 6 weeks ago
with one foot out the door |
I try not to read em they are soooooo dull |
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"Agree, should replace them with a quick quiz that auto filters. This is age of AI, where are the AI swinging assistants! "
Great idea - AI swinging assistant with lie detector would be perfect! |
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"I sometimes, well more often that not get the feeling there is no point writing a profile as most people don't even bother reading it. What's your thoughts?"
I read yours, OP. But I admit I looked at the pictures first. |
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If the profile is less than 1000 words, it's probably too short and barely tells you anything.
1000-2000 : Better. Warrants a peek at least.
3000-5000 : Now in to serious territory.
10,000 + : Epic level. Demands immediate attention. Turn off TV. Unplug phone line. Mute mobile. Cup of coffee. Ready avidly.
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"Agree, should replace them with a quick quiz that auto filters. This is age of AI, where are the AI swinging assistants!
Great idea - AI swinging assistant with lie detector would be perfect! "
Christ. I'd bin anyone who needed to use AI here |
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Christ. I'd bin anyone who needed to use AI here"
Hmm that could go quite pear-shaped couldn't it ?
Imagine using an AI to write your profile. It comes back with something you are happy with and then you post it.
A few days later, you get a message from a potential suitor. Things go from there, and before long you are writing each other incredible messages. You finally decide to meet in a pub. You turn up and wait. 5 mins later, in walks your dream date. She/He is an AI. Yup, your AI-written profile attracted another AI. Now wouldn't that be a thing ! |
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Which does make me wonder. How do I know the rest of you lot are not, in actual fact, AI's ?
(Deep existential crisis commencing in 3..2..) |
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By *with1Man 6 weeks ago
South East London |
When doing a search for fabs I always look at the person's profile if there is not much in it then it comes across as not bothered or they hiding something specially with no profile pic. Filling in a profile gives a little insite to the person or couple. When I get a message before I do anything I always go to their profile to read. |
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We always do just to get an idea if we're compatible |
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"I sometimes, well more often that not get the feeling there is no point writing a profile as most people don't even bother reading it.
What's your thoughts?"
I wish they fucking did |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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I don't expect everyone to read all my profile it's gotten very long, thanks to some lovely poems I was sent.
It would be nice if men read the first line of my profile. But it does make for an easy delete before opening message |
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Most people haven't read my profile when they approach. |
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..do people actually read....... |
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"..do people actually read......."
My opinion is a resounding nope |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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Should we rewrite ours? |
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By *ags73Man 6 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"Should we rewrite ours?"
Would it matter if no-one reads it? |
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"Should we rewrite ours?"
Short and sweet I guess. For me though personally a well written, funny profile does make me more inclined to message if they have simular likes and they don't take life too seriously |
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"Should we rewrite ours?
Would it matter if no-one reads it?"
Everyone is different but it is a little annoying when a person messages and its so obvious they have only glanced at your pics. Doesn't bother me though thses days I tend to just delete or block those |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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"Should we rewrite ours?
Short and sweet I guess. For me though personally a well written, funny profile does make me more inclined to message if they have simular likes and they don't take life too seriously "
Unfortunately we are not very comedy value |
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I agree with the OP .
People should at least read his profile before messaging him. |
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"Should we rewrite ours?
Short and sweet I guess. For me though personally a well written, funny profile does make me more inclined to message if they have simular likes and they don't take life too seriously
Unfortunately we are not very comedy value "
Aww I'm sure you have other amazing qualities |
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