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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest

I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here..

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By *heonixrising500Man 11 weeks ago

Barnsley

My thoughts exactly

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By *lamdaddyMan 11 weeks ago

London

Wait people used to get laid on here?!

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By *ou only live onceMan 11 weeks ago

London

Ah, the good old days. When were those exactly?

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By *ansoffateMan 11 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I guess it's as possible to be genuinely not interested in someone, as much as it is possible to be interested.

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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago

I'm fake and proud

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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago


"Ah, the good old days. When were those exactly?"

That night in a London pub when I actually bent down to touch your thighs🤭 that was a good night for me 🤣🤣🤣

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By *hegentlemanbullMan 11 weeks ago

Southam


"I'm fake and proud "

This made me chuckle

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest

It’s true isn’t it lol it’s not just me

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest

Lol yeah once upon a time aha

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest

LOL not saying that isn’t possible however it’s also possible people have forgotten manners don’t cost anything? Morals don’t just disappear and most of all mature comes with age not location lol

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By *mmaleiaWoman 11 weeks ago

Trowbridge

Maybe the quality of the men has subsided & the quality of the women have risen.

I’ve been here a year, I’ve had 100’s if not close to 1000 propositions, I’ve taken 1 guy on in the whole of that time who I have had sex with regularly, he’s there for me & isn’t flakey or demanding, he’s perfect tbh, going to be gutted when I move …

🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *rincess SasTV/TS 11 weeks ago

somewhere in the north

I agree with the bit about people use to meet, a lot just want sexy chat to wank to .

About replying to people I personally have different views on , if I put a new pic on I’ll get a few hundred messages very quickly , and if you reply doesn’t matter what the reply is , people take that as a response and think you’re starting a chat to meet them

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By *entlemanH666Man 11 weeks ago

Travelling


"LOL not saying that isn’t possible however it’s also possible people have forgotten manners don’t cost anything? Morals don’t just disappear and most of all mature comes with age not location lol "

Did they not have the reply to message button on those days?

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest

Yeah that’s true hence why I’m asking what’s happened to the site lol I’ve Ben in and off 10 years or so lol so can see the change in quality and quantity lol

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest

Lol yeah just as bold and clear as the heading 😂🤣😂

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By *NormalMan01Man 11 weeks ago

Harrogate


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.."

It’s amazing that the biggest moaners are often the ones they’re moaning about.

I think you kinda have to take things as they come and understand people have lives outside of this experience.

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By *eroLondonMan 11 weeks ago

Mayfair

A few are fit. Most are counterfeit. The remainder are less than genuine.

But I agree with YOLO — it's good to be retrospective and hark back to the golden age of romance.

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest

Yeah that’s true but those days are gone where people wanted to know what other like and dislike now it’s just people getting excited over The phone not even wanting to know about hung about who they meeting, arrange to meet and don’t even reply lol

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By *issmorganWoman 11 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I always reply, if someone's read my profile, even if it's with a no thanks.

That's very rare though as you say, people don't read them and just send low effort messages like Wuu2 or what you into.

I'm not looking to meet just now, so I can't comment on if people are meeting or not

I think many feel others are time wasters if they chat then change their minds though or don't reply.

I'd class a time waster as someone who arranges a meet & doesn't turn up or let you know they can't make it. Or those who cancel last min more than once.

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By *heelerMan 11 weeks ago

Northants

I think a lot left during covid and it's definitely gone downhill since it seems far more males now then back then . Nowadays you start a conversation and swap messages etc. then it's a blank or a block

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By *avinaTVTV/TS 11 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Just friendly nite, OP - if you hit "reply+quote" when you're replying to a particular poster, we'll be able to see which post you're replying to. Otherwise it gets a bit disjointed.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS 11 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

*note, not nite 🙄

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest

Lol not quite sure what part of my message you didn’t understand, yeah we all have lives off this site but when you’re on the site and using It it’s not hard to reply to others interested or not, it’s not hard to arrange a meet and actually turn up or reply, it’s not hard to avoid wasting ones time with pointless messages, but it all seems to be hard, I think it’s even hard for people to understand these days too

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"Just friendly nite, OP - if you hit "reply+quote" when you're replying to a particular poster, we'll be able to see which post you're replying to. Otherwise it gets a bit disjointed.

"

sorry I didn’t know how to do that lol

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By *avinaTVTV/TS 11 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Just to add, I'm not genuine at all. I'm a construct of modern society's preoccupation with superficiality and glamour.

😌

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"I think a lot left during covid and it's definitely gone downhill since it seems far more males now then back then . Nowadays you start a conversation and swap messages etc. then it's a blank or a block "
that’s why I’m asking what’s wrong with the site lol or is it just the people

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"Just to add, I'm not genuine at all. I'm a construct of modern society's preoccupation with superficiality and glamour.

😌"

😂🤣😂

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By *ohnny DeeeepMan 11 weeks ago

durham

I wasn’t here in the glory days but I’m guessing the site consisted mainly of swingers wanting to meet other swingers with far less singles wanting to meet singles?

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By *avinaTVTV/TS 11 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania


"Just friendly nite, OP - if you hit "reply+quote" when you're replying to a particular poster, we'll be able to see which post you're replying to. Otherwise it gets a bit disjointed.

sorry I didn’t know how to do that lol "

No worries 😊

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"I wasn’t here in the glory days but I’m guessing the site consisted mainly of swingers wanting to meet other swingers with far less singles wanting to meet singles?"

No it was meet who ya want to meet when you want to meet, but stuck to arranging the meet, get to know the meet before the meet, and have a genuine good time where your happy to meet that same meet, instead of arranging 20 meets and meeting none

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"Just friendly nite, OP - if you hit "reply+quote" when you're replying to a particular poster, we'll be able to see which post you're replying to. Otherwise it gets a bit disjointed.

sorry I didn’t know how to do that lol

No worries 😊"

Thanks haha

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By *icolerobbieCouple 11 weeks ago

walsall


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.."

Back when it was a swingers site?

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By *heCelticGentMan 11 weeks ago

Kempston


"I'm fake and proud "

Tell me your fabulous boobs are all boo though…

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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago

I prefer the old days when we were able to attach a parchment to the leg of a pigeon and send it off to the fair maid who had attracted our attention.

Or before that, when we could ride up on our white chargers, straight through the village and grab a wench to take her back to our castle.

And gone are the days when one could walk out of the woods, see a woman trying to surreptitiously slip into the safety of her cave, and yet before she could get to the threshold, hit her over the head with a club and take her back to one's own clan.

Oh the good old days, how I miss them.

We have all lost our innocence

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here..

Back when it was a swingers site?"

Ahah yeah Those days

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By *icecouple561Couple 11 weeks ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

The site is exactly as it used to be bar some updates. The people might have changed

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple 11 weeks ago

Leeds

Someone’s got to pay my rent, and it isn’t going to be me 😡

The mr

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"The site is exactly as it used to be bar some updates. The people might have changed"

I wouldn’t say it’s the updates hat have changed as the app is how it should be, it’s been great to be part of the fav world for all these years I have been, but if you could see messages and how conversations go down in this day and age you’d find 90% just fake it time wasting and ruining it for others that are 100% genuine

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By *runette n JayCouple 11 weeks ago

bilston

Covid happened

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"Someone’s got to pay my rent, and it isn’t going to be me 😡

The mr "

And that’s got what to do with the topic or subject? Lol I don’t understand?

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"Covid happened "

Haha just because your meet restored your faith lol don’t use that covid line on me ahah 😂🤣😂

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By *runette n JayCouple 11 weeks ago

bilston


"Covid happened

Haha just because your meet restored your faith lol don’t use that covid line on me ahah 😂🤣😂"

Lmao

I think a lot of people questioned their relationships more after spending day in day out with each other!

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By *urnedoutniceagainMan 11 weeks ago

louth

It’s a bit of a catch22 there are so many wankers wasters and weirdos on here that people are inundated with messages winks etc and the genuine people get washed away in the tide of effluent. People can’t keep up with the deluge of messages so bulk delete. I can’t imagine what it must be like being a genuine woman or couple it must be such hard work!

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple 11 weeks ago

Stoke

We're fake, have been for years so ignore us, definitely fake

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By *icecouple561Couple 11 weeks ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"The site is exactly as it used to be bar some updates. The people might have changed

I wouldn’t say it’s the updates hat have changed as the app is how it should be, it’s been great to be part of the fav world for all these years I have been, but if you could see messages and how conversations go down in this day and age you’d find 90% just fake it time wasting and ruining it for others that are 100% genuine "

As difficult as it might be to believe we do get messages and have conversations. It might be because we're older that people don't usually muck us about or it could be our highly sensitive bull shit detector that lets us cut 'fakes' off at the knees...metaphorically of course

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By *ryton 123TV/TS 11 weeks ago

Chatham

I'm afraid the chat up line i want to fuck you is wearing thin.

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"Covid happened

Haha just because your meet restored your faith lol don’t use that covid line on me ahah 😂🤣😂

Lmao

I think a lot of people questioned their relationships more after spending day in day out with each other!

"

Haha I know what ya saying there lol which is more of a reason for people to get on here an get active lol 😂🤣😂

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By *ellhungvweMan 11 weeks ago

Cheltenham

The site seems to work fine for me

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"I'm afraid the chat up line i want to fuck you is wearing thin."

😂🤣😂

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By *he AmbassadorMan 11 weeks ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

There seems to have been a cull in the Forums,

Noticed a lot of people gone on my return,

And not as many newbies as I'd have expected,

Maybe the lounge ain't where it's at anymore OP.

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By *ohnny DeeeepMan 11 weeks ago

durham


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No it was meet who ya want to meet when you want to meet."

I mean…. I’ve definitely noticed online dating in general become a lot more taxing then it was when I first entered the game.

You used to match, chat, have a date and then go from there.

I think there’s a few factors. I think some men are partly to blame in some regards.

There’s only going to be soo many times a woman will meet guys who claim to be “x,y,z” that turn out not to be, before she starts hearing guys say they are “x,y,z” and now seeing it as a red flag or “guy lines” due to past experiences.

That fucks it up for the guys who are “x,y,z” because they are being honest, and have now potentially been disregarded, and dont know why.

And then there’s the “choice” factor.

If you are a woman, you have the most options thrown at you, and to whittle it down you have to look for reasons to not engage, to not be interested, to make the sampling pool smaller, until you are left with what you think is the best catch for you.

The only other option is to get to know every single person that shows you interest until the genuine ones come to light with time.

But who wants to spend 24/7 on their phones?

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


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No it was meet who ya want to meet when you want to meet.

I mean…. I’ve definitely noticed online dating in general become a lot more taxing then it was when I first entered the game.

You used to match, chat, have a date and then go from there.

I think there’s a few factors. I think some men are partly to blame in some regards.

There’s only going to be soo many times a woman will meet guys who claim to be “x,y,z” that turn out not to be, before she starts hearing guys say they are “x,y,z” and now seeing it as a red flag or “guy lines” due to past experiences.

That fucks it up for the guys who are “x,y,z” because they are being honest, and have now potentially been disregarded, and dont know why.

And then there’s the “choice” factor.

If you are a woman, you have the most options thrown at you, and to whittle it down you have to look for reasons to not engage, to not be interested, to make the sampling pool smaller, until you are left with what you think is the best catch for you.

The only other option is to get to know every single person that shows you interest until the genuine ones come to light with time.

But who wants to spend 24/7 on their phones?"

everyone online with their phones in hand

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By *runette n JayCouple 11 weeks ago

bilston


"Covid happened

Haha just because your meet restored your faith lol don’t use that covid line on me ahah 😂🤣😂

Lmao

I think a lot of people questioned their relationships more after spending day in day out with each other!

Haha I know what ya saying there lol which is more of a reason for people to get on here an get active lol 😂🤣😂"

They have but like many think it's a send a "hi" (at best) and they are gonna get laid, then when they can't they take to the forums to commit fabicide..... thennn they change ages, lie, catfish people in an attempt and still fail.

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By *exxyyDy11Man 11 weeks ago

North West

So judging from the comments. Seems like Covid hit this site really badly and the astronomical number of single males hasn't helped things either.

Have I got that right?

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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago

I'm not free until 2026, there's not enough time to fit all the penis in!

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By *runette n JayCouple 11 weeks ago

bilston


"So judging from the comments. Seems like Covid hit this site really badly and the astronomical number of single males hasn't helped things either.

Have I got that right?"

Was much different before covid, the single male numbers flew through the roof.

Back when we first found fab many many years ago it was mainly couples/fems.

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By *exxyyDy11Man 11 weeks ago

North West


"So judging from the comments. Seems like Covid hit this site really badly and the astronomical number of single males hasn't helped things either.

Have I got that right?

Was much different before covid, the single male numbers flew through the roof.

Back when we first found fab many many years ago it was mainly couples/fems."

I wonder if the number of swinging documentaries on Netflix and Amazon Prime caused an increase of single males too .

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By *runette n JayCouple 11 weeks ago

bilston


"So judging from the comments. Seems like Covid hit this site really badly and the astronomical number of single males hasn't helped things either.

Have I got that right?

Was much different before covid, the single male numbers flew through the roof.

Back when we first found fab many many years ago it was mainly couples/fems.

I wonder if the number of swinging documentaries on Netflix and Amazon Prime caused an increase of single males too ."

Quite possibly!

Some of the messages we get at least incur some jokes!

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By *nya NeesWoman 11 weeks ago

Brum


"I'm not free until 2026, there's not enough time to fit all the penis in! "

Are you using all available holes though? I mean 3 at a time would get your availability down quite a lot

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"I'm not free until 2026, there's not enough time to fit all the penis in!

Are you using all available holes though? I mean 3 at a time would get your availability down quite a lot"

That would be a hole lot of fun 😂🤣🤣

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By *runette n JayCouple 11 weeks ago

bilston


"I'm not free until 2026, there's not enough time to fit all the penis in!

Are you using all available holes though? I mean 3 at a time would get your availability down quite a lot

That would be a hole lot of fun 😂🤣🤣"

Holey smokes we aren't starting a hole load of jokes about this are we? Abyss'mal sense of humour!

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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago

Its wall to wall dick on this site ... 24hr shagathon for us ladies if you've got nothing better to do with your life.

I've been on fab off and on a few years. As a single female the ratios of horny men to women sounds great. In reality it can be overwhelming because a high percentage of those men lack charm, manners and repsect in their messages. Then add in the ones lying about their relationship status ..... then add in the ones you are not attracted to or live too far away etc etc

You still then have to invest time to chat ... to get to know them enough to allow them near your genitals. And then when you politely turn them down because it doesn't feel right . . you get called a time waster ... or worse

Is it any worse than when I first joined? . .... no .... infact it's easier . .. because I am better at handling the avalanche of dicks and being very selective at which ones I meet.

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By *allipygousMan 11 weeks ago

Leicester


"So judging from the comments. Seems like Covid hit this site really badly and the astronomical number of single males hasn't helped things either.

Have I got that right?"

Yes, and all the twats have spoilt it for the rest of us. "Us" being every single male profile.

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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago


"I'm fake and proud

Tell me your fabulous boobs are all boo though…"

Boo's boobs are very much all real Boo 🤣🤣

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By *olinOfBathMan 11 weeks ago

Corsham

Forum definitely attracted a better class of whinger in the golden days.

Nostalgia isn't what it used to be...

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By *aitonelMan 11 weeks ago

Liverpool

I blame Brexit and Biden!

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By *olinOfBathMan 11 weeks ago

Corsham


"I'm fake and proud

Tell me your fabulous boobs are all boo though…

Boo's boobs are very much all real Boo 🤣🤣"

Shouldn't you be out celebrating...?

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By *runette n JayCouple 11 weeks ago

bilston


"So judging from the comments. Seems like Covid hit this site really badly and the astronomical number of single males hasn't helped things either.

Have I got that right?

Yes, and all the twats have spoilt it for the rest of us. "Us" being every single male profile."

It's easy to stand out from them. If not no guy would have any success at all. It's just knowing how to approach people properly, read their profiles and adhere to any prefs/wants they may have and you will get many more responses.

You will still get lots that don't as they just don't fancy you.

It's not been ruined.... just a lot of people expect loads of meets a year when it just doesn't work like that. If you had a meet a year as a single guy you are doing better than most!

Jay

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By *iker JackMan 11 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I actually have no issue with the site or the way it works

I am far from anything special. Think Sloth from the Goonies and you’re not far off but I have talked to some great people by just being me, after all that’s all I can be

Hey you guys

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By *ohn.Wick.Man 11 weeks ago

The Continental

I’ve been on and off here for 15 years, I can still arrange to meet people. Biggest difference that I can tell is a differing level of expectations that has created a culture of impatience amongst many people. They want it all, and they want it now.

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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago


"I’ve been on and off here for 15 years, I can still arrange to meet people. Biggest difference that I can tell is a differing level of expectations that has created a culture of impatience amongst many people. They want it all, and they want it now. "

This has been happening everywhere for many years. It's gone a bit sideways, but hey. Can't really do much about, other than carry on and try to have fun. 😆

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By *AYENCouple 11 weeks ago

Lincolnshire


"Yeah that’s true but those days are gone where people wanted to know what other like and dislike now it’s just people getting excited over The phone not even wanting to know about hung about who they meeting, arrange to meet and don’t even reply lol "

We would genuinely like to meet a guy from here but most don't help themselves. They seem to use the site as a wank bank and think that all the ladies on here are just after cock, and then whine and whinge when a cock pic doesn't get them laid.

Has it crossed your mind that you're not getting meets due to your approach, rather than people not being genuine? K.

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By *onnie 90Woman 11 weeks ago

Leeds


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.."

They're letting in all the riff raff these days. It's gone to the dogs...

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By *allipygousMan 11 weeks ago

Leicester


"So judging from the comments. Seems like Covid hit this site really badly and the astronomical number of single males hasn't helped things either.

Have I got that right?

Yes, and all the twats have spoilt it for the rest of us. "Us" being every single male profile.

It's easy to stand out from them. If not no guy would have any success at all. It's just knowing how to approach people properly, read their profiles and adhere to any prefs/wants they may have and you will get many more responses.

You will still get lots that don't as they just don't fancy you.

It's not been ruined.... just a lot of people expect loads of meets a year when it just doesn't work like that. If you had a meet a year as a single guy you are doing better than most!

Jay"

It's hard to convey sarcasm in the written form. Maybe I'm just crap at it 🤷🏾‍♂️

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here..

They're letting in all the riff raff these days. It's gone to the dogs..."

Not just riffraff shag nasties

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"Yeah that’s true but those days are gone where people wanted to know what other like and dislike now it’s just people getting excited over The phone not even wanting to know about hung about who they meeting, arrange to meet and don’t even reply lol

We would genuinely like to meet a guy from here but most don't help themselves. They seem to use the site as a wank bank and think that all the ladies on here are just after cock, and then whine and whinge when a cock pic doesn't get them laid.

Has it crossed your mind that you're not getting meets due to your approach, rather than people not being genuine? K."

Lol my approach is totally opposite to all the willy wankers on here but thanks for the opinion c

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By *tsJustKateWoman 11 weeks ago

London

I ignore and delete probably 75% of messages I receive.

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By *urry BlokeMan 11 weeks ago

Stalybridge

My thoughts are that swinging is not seen as outrageous as it once was

Peoples opinions on sex and sexuality are way more liberal than they were even 10 years ago

The Web has also made swinging more accessible- historically, you either went to clubs and got to know people or you didn't have access to the scene

Now you can dip your toes in, at will, from the comfort of your sofa

It's all there - and it's free

People talk about sites like this, so as awareness grows, so does the curiosity and so does the membership

The long and short of it is that this site is swamped with people who think they are swingers, but are really just opening another channel to either make connections or simply get a shag

Most of these new members are men, most of them straight so they all seek the same % of the site

This % tire of the constant barrage of often banal or vulgar introductions and simply just don't respond (or even open) to messages

When you hear the same lines churned out over and over again, it just becomes boring

Even me, as a bloke, get messages that I just roll my eyes at, think 'here we go again' and rather than being polite in response, simply delete

From another angle, we live in a time where an extension of social media monetises sex and sexuality - so there is a section of members who now use Fab as an extension of their socials and to increase their profile in the hope that by being here, some of the traffic is encouraged over to other channels

I don't know what the solution is from the sites perspective

The only aspect I can manage is how I use the site

I think managing expectation and managing when, how and with you communicate with others are the only controls we have

So, rather than pointing our fingers outwards, I think that if we turn those fingers towards ourselves, we may go some way towards managing our frustration with Fab and how others use it

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By *end1Man 11 weeks ago

southend on sea

Whilst there are a few idiot rude single guys. I've noticed how more n more couples n single females tarnish all single guys the same. I've been on here for 15 years and would definitely say it has gone downhill over the last 6 or 7 years.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman 11 weeks ago

Essex


"Lol not quite sure what part of my message you didn’t understand, yeah we all have lives off this site but when you’re on the site and using It it’s not hard to reply to others interested or not, it’s not hard to arrange a meet and actually turn up or reply, it’s not hard to avoid wasting ones time with pointless messages, but it all seems to be hard, I think it’s even hard for people to understand these days too "

It’s quite hard to reply if you suddenly get innundated (it happens occasionally)

It’s really hard to reply to a million “hey” “hi” “wuu2”. I mean how do I start a conversation from that. Especially if the profile is 20 cock pictures and “I’m a man looking to meet women”…

Arranging meets is sometimes complicated when schedules aren’t aligning. And I’ve had way more men not turn up or disappear than I have women.

Messages aren’t pointless to all of us. I quite like to establish whether I’m likely to be attracted to someone before meeting (to avoid wasting anyone’s time)

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By *ophieslutTV/TS 11 weeks ago

Central

People don't reply, if they're not mutually compatible.

Some people may increase how compatible they are. But not everyone

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By *ndrew CareyMan 11 weeks ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.."

I've been here a few years and it hasn't changed that much. I'm just better at sussing out the fantasists and picture collectors.

I'm grateful for the group of friends I've made here and we keep in touch mostly off the site.

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By *exxyyDy11Man 11 weeks ago

North West


"Whilst there are a few idiot rude single guys. I've noticed how more n more couples n single females tarnish all single guys the same. I've been on here for 15 years and would definitely say it has gone downhill over the last 6 or 7 years. "

Out of everyone on this site, I've had most problems and issues with couples. Demanding, rude and just an overall horrible attitude. And did I mention demanding. This isn't to say all are like this. A lot of wonderful couples on here.

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By *ony MannMan 11 weeks ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover

I find those I like are miles away, my current special friend is 3 hours away.

The site has changed, not the layout, but the people here, it will change again.

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By *oppet22TV/TS 11 weeks ago

huddersfield

This site as gone down hill lots more fakes on here now but there is some genuine nice people too

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By *iss Boot LoverTV/TS 11 weeks ago

Tetbury

I may not display the veris but the site works for me.

Lots of naughty guys on here secretly wanting tranny cock.

Shhhh, don't tell anyone

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By *bi HaiveMan 11 weeks ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

It'll soon be my 17th anniversary on Fab.

I've never noticed any changes other than some people leaving the site and others joining it.

In that time I've been a single, a couple, a single again and now both. During each stage I've had meets, met people, had messages read/deleted/ignored/replied to.

I often wonder if those saying things were better a decade ago are blaiming the site and other people, when it could just be that we're all now older, and that we're possibly still optimistically looking for the same people we were back then?

Maybe it's 'us' and not the site or other people?

*by 'us' I mean generically us, not actual us. I'm.still having a blast. 🤷‍♂️

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By *bi HaiveMan 11 weeks ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"My thoughts are that swinging is not seen as outrageous as it once was

Peoples opinions on sex and sexuality are way more liberal than they were even 10 years ago

The Web has also made swinging more accessible- historically, you either went to clubs and got to know people or you didn't have access to the scene

Now you can dip your toes in, at will, from the comfort of your sofa

It's all there - and it's free

People talk about sites like this, so as awareness grows, so does the curiosity and so does the membership

The long and short of it is that this site is swamped with people who think they are swingers, but are really just opening another channel to either make connections or simply get a shag

Most of these new members are men, most of them straight so they all seek the same % of the site

This % tire of the constant barrage of often banal or vulgar introductions and simply just don't respond (or even open) to messages

When you hear the same lines churned out over and over again, it just becomes boring

Even me, as a bloke, get messages that I just roll my eyes at, think 'here we go again' and rather than being polite in response, simply delete

From another angle, we live in a time where an extension of social media monetises sex and sexuality - so there is a section of members who now use Fab as an extension of their socials and to increase their profile in the hope that by being here, some of the traffic is encouraged over to other channels

I don't know what the solution is from the sites perspective

The only aspect I can manage is how I use the site

I think managing expectation and managing when, how and with you communicate with others are the only controls we have

So, rather than pointing our fingers outwards, I think that if we turn those fingers towards ourselves, we may go some way towards managing our frustration with Fab and how others use it"

Perfectly put. 👌👌

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By *oda69yodaMan 11 weeks ago

Nantwich

I get the frustration I really do. However what you need to realise is that ladies and couples get bombarded with lots and lots of messages per day.

To read them all is almost a full time job. Then they have to filter them and respond.

Then a lot of these lead nowhere as there actually bullshiting time wasters leading them on a dance.

Then there are the weirdos, and friend/photo collectors.

Unfortunately the site has a lot more people on it now so your going to get more and more idiots.

Not all the couples and ladies are genuine either remember that. Some just like the attention, compliments and cock shots.

Best to look if there verified first. Or just take a chance.

But there are genuine people it's just a bit of a treasure hunt.

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By *hat.coupleCouple 11 weeks ago

Dartford

Its gone crap!, next question!

Mrs x

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By *ife NinjaMan 11 weeks ago

Dunfermline

It use to be easier to get a meet. That was probably because I was younger, fitter and had hair. Hey...it is what it is

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By *ubmissiveman2uMan 11 weeks ago

Cheshire


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.."

This.

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"This site as gone down hill lots more fakes on here now but there is some genuine nice people too"
.

Exactly my thoughts

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here..

This."

You agree too

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"It use to be easier to get a meet. That was probably because I was younger, fitter and had hair. Hey...it is what it is "

Nah mate stop it you still are you get and fitter ahah age is just a number of you let it play on your mind physiologically you’ll believe anything, so tell yaself every day ya 21 and love live and laugh with life

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"Its gone crap!, next question!

Mrs x"

Yep totally agree ahah

Next question ok.. What do you think would make fab fabtastic again?

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By *orthern BeardMan 11 weeks ago

Preston

I’ve had plenty of meets. Yeah sometimes it’s tough to get replies but I find that’s probably because women are either inundated with messages or really are in the driving seat with the options available to them.

If you’re looking for an easy fuck, this isn’t the place. Takes effort

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"It'll soon be my 17th anniversary on Fab.

I've never noticed any changes other than some people leaving the site and others joining it.

In that time I've been a single, a couple, a single again and now both. During each stage I've had meets, met people, had messages read/deleted/ignored/replied to.

I often wonder if those saying things were better a decade ago are blaiming the site and other people, when it could just be that we're all now older, and that we're possibly still optimistically looking for the same people we were back then?

Maybe it's 'us' and not the site or other people?

*by 'us' I mean generically us, not actual us. I'm.still having a blast. 🤷‍♂️"

Ok but then again a decade ago the site Was but more genuine, you mentioned about being older than what we was back then but that don’t mean we’ve forgotten how to speak to people or approach people to get a response, you either misinterpreted what I’ve meant or misunderstood my point however appreciate you’re opinion fair point and we do all experience things differently, even though I didn’t point fingers to the site I questioned as to what’s happened to the site? Reference to people’s ignorance, or time wasting etc..

But again I just wanted to read what others are also thinking

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"I’ve had plenty of meets. Yeah sometimes it’s tough to get replies but I find that’s probably because women are either inundated with messages or really are in the driving seat with the options available to them.

If you’re looking for an easy fuck, this isn’t the place. Takes effort "

Not even about a easy fuck lol there’s loads of them about I’m on about genuine ones, ya know the ones that want to have a chat and banter before they meet someone or call someone to there home, I’m one of them stimulate my mind and you can stimulate everything else after

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"This site as gone down hill lots more fakes on here now but there is some genuine nice people too"

💯

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By *MCMan 11 weeks ago

London/EA


"Wait people used to get laid on here?!"

Rumour has it a select few still do 👀

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 11 weeks ago

northwest


"Wait people used to get laid on here?!

Rumour has it a select few still do 👀"

😂🤣😂🤣😂

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By *eter2.5Man 11 weeks ago

London

It used to be such a friendly place, its changed so much

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By *bi HaiveMan 11 weeks ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"It'll soon be my 17th anniversary on Fab.

I've never noticed any changes other than some people leaving the site and others joining it.

In that time I've been a single, a couple, a single again and now both. During each stage I've had meets, met people, had messages read/deleted/ignored/replied to.

I often wonder if those saying things were better a decade ago are blaiming the site and other people, when it could just be that we're all now older, and that we're possibly still optimistically looking for the same people we were back then?

Maybe it's 'us' and not the site or other people?

*by 'us' I mean generically us, not actual us. I'm.still having a blast. 🤷‍♂️

Ok but then again a decade ago the site Was but more genuine, you mentioned about being older than what we was back then but that don’t mean we’ve forgotten how to speak to people or approach people to get a response, you either misinterpreted what I’ve meant or misunderstood my point however appreciate you’re opinion fair point and we do all experience things differently, even though I didn’t point fingers to the site I questioned as to what’s happened to the site? Reference to people’s ignorance, or time wasting etc..

But again I just wanted to read what others are also thinking "

I'll always give the same reply.

I really don't think the site has changed, nor have I changed how I use it and I'm still having a blast and enjoying Fab life.

I'm older now than when I first joined, obvs, but that just changed the people I interact with. I've had enough time to work out what works, what doesn't and how best to navigate Fab life.

I really, honestly, 100% haven't felt any changes over the last 17 years. The site still functions exactly the same, I can still spot which profiles to avoid easily and which catch my eye, and I still approach any contact that happens exactly the same way - zero expectations, zero urgency and zero pressure.

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By *ove2lick27Man 11 weeks ago

Sheffield

People who are saying it hasn't changed are you being serious. There are a handful of genuine folk on here them the rest are rude or fake. Its massively gone down hill but unfortunately there's not much else either.

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By *inger_SnapWoman 11 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"Maybe the quality of the men has subsided & the quality of the women have risen.

I’ve been here a year, I’ve had 100’s if not close to 1000 propositions, I’ve taken 1 guy on in the whole of that time who I have had sex with regularly, he’s there for me & isn’t flakey or demanding, he’s perfect tbh, going to be gutted when I move …

🤷🏻‍♀️

"

I've definitely noticed this...

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By *riar BelisseWoman 11 weeks ago

Delightful Bliss

A flood of instant gratification, dating site origination, non swingers found the site in covid lockdown times. Which does makes filtering a bit more time consuming. Luckily clubs and private parties have remained the same, with the majority of attendees being swingers, looking for a fun night out

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By *bi HaiveMan 11 weeks ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"People who are saying it hasn't changed are you being serious. There are a handful of genuine folk on here them the rest are rude or fake. Its massively gone down hill but unfortunately there's not much else either."

Yes.

To me it hasn't.

Maybe it's just they way I use the site. Who knows. 🤷‍♂️

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By *eroLondonMan 11 weeks ago

Mayfair


"It used to be such a friendly place, its changed so much "

You are correct: it's become friendlier.

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By *mf123Man 11 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Id say withing 3 messages i could be knee deep in clunge

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By *elvet RopeMan 11 weeks ago

by the big field

The dating sites are for hookups and the hookup sites are for long term FWB's now

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By *JB1954Man 11 weeks ago

Reading

Having been on this site since the only way was by either desktop or laptop. I have found since smart phones and it has made access to site easier ?

I used chat rooms . One in particular . This has combination of couples, single females and single males. Once knew people was very friendly. Most would actually have face cams on. Some I know are still on here.

Yet yes being older find that due to the amount of males who think site is ‘ instant shag site’ has made site a lot harder for chatting etc. ?

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By *enelope2UWoman 11 weeks ago

Fife

People became digital trolls able to hide behind a keyboard Vs understanding and living in reality. People stopped being social after COVID because antisocial behaviour was more tolerate das coping and adjusting never went back to "normal".

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By *cotlad178Man 10 weeks ago

falkirk

Having only been here a short time I try to be as respectful as I can in the limited msgs I send and I browse the forums but not had any meets yet, aiming to try a club soon.

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By *ark742024Man 10 weeks ago

Cheshire

99% of the time this site is dreadful - the abuse I have received just this evening is something to behold.

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By *cotlad178Man 10 weeks ago

falkirk

Can see the place has alot of males, hope I'm in the genuine cat

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By *neeyedwillieMan 10 weeks ago

Darlington


"A flood of instant gratification, dating site origination, non swingers found the site in covid lockdown times. Which does makes filtering a bit more time consuming. Luckily clubs and private parties have remained the same, with the majority of attendees being swingers, looking for a fun night out "

Not seen a private party in my area or remotely close since before lockdown.

Tried to do one early last year (on my couples account with my wife). Apart from a few regular freinds, no one interested.

So we all went to the club.

To be honest I can't even get a response from anyone on here (that I've not met in the clubs).

Online thing had its day and I'm bot sure it's been as good as people think. Can't beat meeting people face to face.

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By *ubmissivelyDerbyGuyMan 10 weeks ago

Nottingham


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine

in here.."

I totally agree its hard work these days :/

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By *l chapo123Man 10 weeks ago

Costa del sol


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.."

I agree i find it very hard to speak to people on here i don't seem to say anything right haha

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 10 weeks ago

northwest


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here..

I agree i find it very hard to speak to people on here i don't seem to say anything right haha "

Dont worry mate you say what you want. No right or wrong this to say, but also get where you’re coming from x

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 10 weeks ago

northwest


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine

in here.. I totally agree its hard work these days :/"

💯 me too

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 10 weeks ago

northwest


"A flood of instant gratification, dating site origination, non swingers found the site in covid lockdown times. Which does makes filtering a bit more time consuming. Luckily clubs and private parties have remained the same, with the majority of attendees being swingers, looking for a fun night out

Not seen a private party in my area or remotely close since before lockdown.

Tried to do one early last year (on my couples account with my wife). Apart from a few regular freinds, no one interested.

So we all went to the club.

To be honest I can't even get a response from anyone on here (that I've not met in the clubs).

Online thing had its day and I'm bot sure it's been as good as people think. Can't beat meeting people face to face.

"

true say

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 10 weeks ago

northwest


"People who are saying it hasn't changed are you being serious. There are a handful of genuine folk on here them the rest are rude or fake. Its massively gone down hill but unfortunately there's not much else either."

😂🤣😂

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By *orcsmatMan 10 weeks ago

Kidderminster

Met plenty in the past.

Then, as I got older, I must have become less interesting.

Don't think that's the site's fault.

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By *icecouple561Couple 10 weeks ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"Met plenty in the past.

Then, as I got older, I must have become less interesting.

Don't think that's the site's fault. "

Exactly! You get it.

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 10 weeks ago

northwest


"Met plenty in the past.

Then, as I got older, I must have become less interesting.

Don't think that's the site's fault.

Exactly! You get it. "

😂🤣😂

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By *ou only live onceMan 10 weeks ago

London


"Met plenty in the past.

Then, as I got older, I must have become less interesting.

Don't think that's the site's fault. "

Yes, yes. But it's so much easier to blame everyone else on the site!

🤣

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By *ugby 123Couple 10 weeks ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

There has been the same comments of people not reading profiles and not sending replies since we joined, which was around 2008 so I don't think anything has changed no

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By *ugby 123Couple 10 weeks ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo


"99% of the time this site is dreadful - the abuse I have received just this evening is something to behold. "

That isn't the site though, that is some or one person.

Always report abuse please

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By *ealitybitesMan 10 weeks ago

Belfast


"People who are saying it hasn't changed are you being serious. There are a handful of genuine folk on here them the rest are rude or fake. Its massively gone down hill but unfortunately there's not much else either."

I've been here 8 years and using the forums for just over 5.

I'm not currently meeting and haven't sent an introductory message since January 2020 so fab is really just a hobby rather than a lifestyle choice.

In saying that though I haven't noticed any significant change in attitude across the board in all my time here.

I've probably met 60-70 people across those 8 years and never once had a no show, never been catfished, never engaged with a fake profile and never had my time wasted.

Yes some of those people weren't able to maintain the lovely personas they had created and needed to be involved in one drama or another but that was easily avoided.

If all these things were really so widespread the law of averages would say that I shouldn't have been able to avoid them for so long so it's not really down to luck.

I always do my own due diligence, never rely on what others tell me and I'm extremely fussy about who I chat to and even moreso about who I choose to get naked with.

It really is that simple.

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By *erwentsidersCouple 10 weeks ago

Derwentside

Apart from forum moderators only 6 couples have contributed to the conversation which tells you everything you need to know….that Fab is more a sex site now overwhelmed by singles rather than a likeminded swapping couples.

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By *randMrsLPCouple 10 weeks ago

london

is is off putting those that have not even bothered to look at your profile and worse still cant read the meet message

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By *allipygousMan 10 weeks ago

Leicester


"Apart from forum moderators only 6 couples have contributed to the conversation which tells you everything you need to know….that Fab is more a sex site now overwhelmed by singles rather than a likeminded swapping couples."

Maybe the couples are too busy meeting like minded couples instead of whinging in here. I could be wrong though 🤷🏾‍♂️

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By *ustAnotherMan 10 weeks ago

Mids

Everyone was too busy responding to what happened to this site threads.

Or measuring their dicks with home video equipment

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By *eroLondonMan 10 weeks ago

Mayfair


"Apart from forum moderators only 6 couples have contributed to the conversation which tells you everything you need to know….that Fab is more a sex site now overwhelmed by singles rather than a likeminded swapping couples."

·

One possible explanation could be that the genesis of all likeminded couples originate from likeminded singletons. How else could they become couples? Fab is one such platform for such outcomes.

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By *arley QuimWoman 10 weeks ago

Somewhere


"Apart from forum moderators only 6 couples have contributed to the conversation which tells you everything you need to know….that Fab is more a sex site now overwhelmed by singles rather than a likeminded swapping couples."

I've been on/off over the past decade as a single/couple/single. Should I not stay on unless I snag myself a man 😯

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By *lowercandyWoman 10 weeks ago

Lancashire


"LOL not saying that isn’t possible however it’s also possible people have forgotten manners don’t cost anything? Morals don’t just disappear and most of all mature comes with age not location lol "

Manners don't cost anything however it works both ways

I get to a point where I don't see why I should take time to reply to a message that's is two letters, zero profile information, no pics and a shadow

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By *adam PadamWoman 10 weeks ago

leeds


"LOL not saying that isn’t possible however it’s also possible people have forgotten manners don’t cost anything? Morals don’t just disappear and most of all mature comes with age not location lol "

I think this. The younger males joining are doing so thinking m this is a random free sex site. The world changed and it's a factory mindset, if you won't fuck me, the next one will.

Etiquette and politeness died. Caused many a woman to hide profiles, block men and partake less.

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By *reggSausageMan 10 weeks ago

derby

Is it not just a clear indication that this is the world right now, ten years ago I was also on here, this is profile number five, and this time I get a sense of desperation on both sides, to me yes it feels like it wasn’t as hard (sniggers) to have fun back in the heady days but we are all at a different juncture right now, the world has changed, we have all adapted to that change and this is the result, scepticism, time wasting, less social interaction, we have done this ourselves, reap what you sow and all that

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By *arley QuimWoman 10 weeks ago

Somewhere


"LOL not saying that isn’t possible however it’s also possible people have forgotten manners don’t cost anything? Morals don’t just disappear and most of all mature comes with age not location lol

I think this. The younger males joining are doing so thinking m this is a random free sex site. The world changed and it's a factory mindset, if you won't fuck me, the next one will.

Etiquette and politeness died. Caused many a woman to hide profiles, block men and partake less. "

I send some messages out to folk that look interesting, with good bio's. Quite often there's a huge amount of one sided effort put into drawing out engaging replies, getting to the point of if someone's actually interested or not, and then actually pinning someone down on time to meet - this has been both MF cpls, and solo men in my case.

Often it'll be that because I don't accommodate (even though I offer to split hotel costs). Then they don't want to put their hand or their pocket, or they'll assume offering a carpark fumble is a suitable alternative

Plus some couples have been outright snotty/demanding in what they expect...

Definitely not everyone on the site of course, and I've had some fabulous socials & meets. But it's less fun more a slow slog on occasion.

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By *lowercandyWoman 10 weeks ago

Lancashire


"There seems to have been a cull in the Forums,

Noticed a lot of people gone on my return,

And not as many newbies as I'd have expected,

Maybe the lounge ain't where it's at anymore OP."

Lots of newbies don't take the time to actually look at the site

They jump straight into messages before they even complete their profile then follow up with a status about ignorant people!

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman 10 weeks ago

North West

One day I will publish my 'Tried and tested organised group social method™'

The short version is:

Find suitable events on Fab. Get to know people in a group chat. Make friends and sometimes even fancy each other at the event. Arrange to see each other again.

If you’re looking to arrange things solely through fab messages you are likely to be disappointed.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman 10 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.."

~And they brought a scuttle of coal round with them on winter's nights.

Now it's all central this , smart that and holograms of cock's n balls.

What's the word coming to. People these days don't know what a hook up is ......... bahhhhhhhhh humbug

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By *hismMan 10 weeks ago

Ballygonowhere

Turn a woman on by whinging and complaining.

Genius

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By *oxy-RedWoman 10 weeks ago

pink panther territory

I always reply to messages but like someone stated earlier some guys automatically think your going to meet them if you reply

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By *bi HaiveMan 10 weeks ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Apart from forum moderators only 6 couples have contributed to the conversation which tells you everything you need to know….that Fab is more a sex site now overwhelmed by singles rather than a likeminded swapping couples.

Maybe the couples are too busy meeting like minded couples instead of whinging in here. I could be wrong though 🤷🏾‍♂️"

As both a mod and a couple (not those profile, obvs) I'd agree with the above comment.

I see far more statements of discontent from single male profiles than any other demographic. The only thing I'd disagree with is that the couples are just meeting other couples.

People who are happy tend to just get on with things. People who are unhappy are more vocal in their unhappiness. 🤷‍♂️

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By *ea monkeyMan 10 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"One day I will publish my 'Tried and tested organised group social method™'

The short version is:

Find suitable events on Fab. Get to know people in a group chat. Make friends and sometimes even fancy each other at the event. Arrange to see each other again.

If you’re looking to arrange things solely through fab messages you are likely to be disappointed. "

This is exactly it.

Fab works best as an addition to, not the only outlet for, a swinging lifestyle. Go out, meet people at events and find folks. Sitting staring at a screen is a recipe for misery

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By *tsJustKateWoman 10 weeks ago

London

So many people complaining, yet all still here.

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 10 weeks ago

northwest


"Apart from forum moderators only 6 couples have contributed to the conversation which tells you everything you need to know….that Fab is more a sex site now overwhelmed by singles rather than a likeminded swapping couples."

Think you need to count up the messages again and get them numbers right lol

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 10 weeks ago

northwest


"So many people complaining, yet all still here.

"

They’re not complaining they’re expressing themselves and still looking for someone to meet and match with

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple 10 weeks ago

wonderland.

Fab is pretty much the same as its always been.

We have both been on here as singles for many many years.. Yes it does change.. the forums go through phases... although I miss the banter of old.. that is more due to the way a group of people bounced off one another.. I'm less likely to join in now with the newer forum regulars... ( so in many ways that's me that has changed rather than fab)

We use fab as a tool and it works. X

Cali

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By *armandwet50Couple 10 weeks ago

Far far away


"Apart from forum moderators only 6 couples have contributed to the conversation which tells you everything you need to know….that Fab is more a sex site now overwhelmed by singles rather than a likeminded swapping couples.

Think you need to count up the messages again and get them numbers right lol "

8 couples

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 10 weeks ago

northwest


"Apart from forum moderators only 6 couples have contributed to the conversation which tells you everything you need to know….that Fab is more a sex site now overwhelmed by singles rather than a likeminded swapping couples.

Think you need to count up the messages again and get them numbers right lol

8 couples "

You sure lol

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 10 weeks ago

northwest


"Fab is pretty much the same as its always been.

We have both been on here as singles for many many years.. Yes it does change.. the forums go through phases... although I miss the banter of old.. that is more due to the way a group of people bounced off one another.. I'm less likely to join in now with the newer forum regulars... ( so in many ways that's me that has changed rather than fab)

We use fab as a tool and it works. X

Cali"

Yeah I get you

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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago

Awww all you poor people not getting a shag when you want lol bless

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 10 weeks ago

northwest


"Awww all you poor people not getting a shag when you want lol bless "

I don’t think that’s what’s up lol

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By *teelballsMan 10 weeks ago

central london

In my experience it has always been the case that the vast majority on here at any time have no real intention of meeting anyone; and It’s exactly the same on fabguys.

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By *elboy1978Man 10 weeks ago

Jarrow

It’s really hard to find someone on this site

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By *ony MannMan 10 weeks ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover

The site have got better, perhaps because I have found someone new

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By *tsJustKateWoman 10 weeks ago

London


"So many people complaining, yet all still here.

They’re not complaining they’re expressing themselves and still looking for someone to meet and match with "

Looks very much like complaining to me!!

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 10 weeks ago

northwest


"So many people complaining, yet all still here.

They’re not complaining they’re expressing themselves and still looking for someone to meet and match with

Looks very much like complaining to me!!"

Oh well we all have our opinions and entitled to them

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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago

I’m amazed that some of you struggle to get meets, you all seem such a happy go lucky bunch of fuckers.

It really is a mystery.

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple 10 weeks ago

west london

We're definitely fake.,as only I'm playing due to the wife recovering from a foot procedure

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By *lueDressWoman 10 weeks ago

Bath

Today I get a lot of messages from those who are seeking Cyber rather than meeting in public.

In 2005 - 2017 I received messages from those requesting My company and had lunch with Me...

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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.."

vote with your feet pal

this place isn’t a prison sentence

plus plenty of fanny in the real world

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 10 weeks ago

northwest


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here..

Get out on the real world then my friend

vote with your feet pal

this place isn’t a prison sentence

plus plenty of fanny in the real world "

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 10 weeks ago

northwest


"Today I get a lot of messages from those who are seeking Cyber rather than meeting in public.

In 2005 - 2017 I received messages from those requesting My company and had lunch with Me..."

Totally agree x

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By *imToPlease400 OP   Man 10 weeks ago

northwest


"Today I get a lot of messages from those who are seeking Cyber rather than meeting in public.

In 2005 - 2017 I received messages from those requesting My company and had lunch with Me..."

Loving the nails btw lol x

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By *inkyguy7924Man 10 weeks ago

Maidstone

This is my second time on this site and definitely see the changes in the way people have changed. It's not as social as it used to be.

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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here..

Get out on the real world then my friend

vote with your feet pal

this place isn’t a prison sentence

plus plenty of fanny in the real world "

bit harsh that son

just a bit of advice from Harry

thought you northern lot were a friendly bunch

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By *inceIlkestonMan 10 weeks ago

Ilkeston


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here.."

Totally agree, I have been here since the start in two open relationships aha as a single guy so I have seen a lot. Now I just come to chat as predators have killed it off.

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By *hatKlungeEnigmaMan 10 weeks ago

St Leonards


"I remember a time where you’d find genuine people for genuine meets and chit chat, where people actually read profiles, nowadays people struggle to reply, ignorance and time saying seems to be the new trend, it be amazing to see how many actually are genuine in here..

Get out on the real world then my friend

vote with your feet pal

this place isn’t a prison sentence

plus plenty of fanny in the real world

bit harsh that son

just a bit of advice from Harry

thought you northern lot were a friendly bunch "

God I miss Tom 💔.

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By *ilffadMan 10 weeks ago

swansea

Best not to take this place too seriously

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple 10 weeks ago

in Lancashire


"Best not to take this place too seriously "

Or what others think..

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