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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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Ladies how do you feel when you're walking up a street or something and guys in cars slow down behind you - checking you out.
Do you like it or does it annoy you? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"They can fuck off.
I dress for me.
The unsolicited opinions of strangers are almost always unwelcome 💜"
I've had guys slow down and then say in a friendly voice: 'hey you look great hun' or something and i'm totally fine with that... I like that.
But then I get the odd one who slows down, trails me for ages, doesn't say anything - just keeps learing over the rim of his specs - probably frantically masturbating. |
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"They can fuck off.
I dress for me.
The unsolicited opinions of strangers are almost always unwelcome 💜
I've had guys slow down and then say in a friendly voice: 'hey you look great hun' or something and i'm totally fine with that... I like that.
But then I get the odd one who slows down, trails me for ages, doesn't say anything - just keeps learing over the rim of his specs - probably frantically masturbating."
You've just reminded me of a video.  |
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"They can fuck off.
I dress for me.
The unsolicited opinions of strangers are almost always unwelcome 💜
I've had guys slow down and then say in a friendly voice: 'hey you look great hun' or something and i'm totally fine with that... I like that.
But then I get the odd one who slows down, trails me for ages, doesn't say anything - just keeps learing over the rim of his specs - probably frantically masturbating."
I know how I look.
A woman I don't know complimenting my shoes or something, I don't mind that.
Strange men giving compliments are almost always immediately chucked into the creep pile. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"They can fuck off.
I dress for me.
The unsolicited opinions of strangers are almost always unwelcome 💜
I've had guys slow down and then say in a friendly voice: 'hey you look great hun' or something and i'm totally fine with that... I like that.
But then I get the odd one who slows down, trails me for ages, doesn't say anything - just keeps learing over the rim of his specs - probably frantically masturbating.
I know how I look.
A woman I don't know complimenting my shoes or something, I don't mind that.
Strange men giving compliments are almost always immediately chucked into the creep pile."
What if a TV in a shop complimented your lipstick or something? I get women doing that to me a lot... But I don't mind it at all. It all depends on how it's said/motives etc. If they're just being friendly I like it. |
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"What if a TV in a shop complimented your lipstick or something? I get women doing that to me a lot... But I don't mind it at all. It all depends on how it's said/motives etc. If they're just being friendly I like it. "
I guess that's where the distinction comes in really.
Does it seem like a friendly comment or someone trying to get in your pants.
And intentions doesn't always define interpretation. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"You forgot the is it just bloody scary option. "
Honestly I'm more concerned about the potential weirdos online (and there's a fair few) checking me out here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"I like it to a degree,if it's subtle and shy way about it yes but if it's coor show us ya tits spout then nope don't do nothing for me "
Yeah me too. (Well I don't have tits but you know what I mean).  |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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Not had it for a while but this year ive had a fair few creepy guys in cars- and on foot following me. Not because I'm hot but because I'm a women out late in the dark on her own. Sadly I can wear my headphones now until I'm at the bus stop because I don't know what foolishness the creep brigade are up to. On the other foot I've had a few men that walk into the road to pass me so they are not "too close" at night so i feel safe. Its sad men feel they have to do this because of the wrong-uns out there but I appreciate their effort. |
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"Ladies how do you feel when you're walking up a street or something and guys in cars slow down behind you - checking you out.
Do you like it or does it annoy you?"
Hate this for many reasons.
Leave people alone.
Unsolicited attention is the thin end of a massive misogynistic wedge. |
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I would really like to think that creepy shit like this didn't happen anymore.
Years ago when I was in my early 20,s even younger it would happen all the time and even a taxi ride home on your own would come with inappropriate comments.
I would like to think that most men would realise how creepy and scary this could be for women.
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By *glyBettyTV/TS 3 weeks ago
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My overriding feeling when this happens is "I hope they just fucking leave me alone".
I have been offered random lifts from taxi drivers late at night a few times whilst dressed femme. I try to refuse without speaking, because as soon as they hear the male voice it could go left.
One cabbie once said he didn't care, I still refused but thanked him for the offer. I'm not about to get into any random guys car. |
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Hate this for many reasons.
Leave people alone.
Unsolicited attention is the thin end of a massive misogynistic wedge.
If it's someone hot I don't really mind.
Two responses to the same question. Obviously the reason misogynistic behaviour continues is because other men don't challenge it. Let's make a running joke of #notallmen. The reality is actually #notallwomen.
Surprising at this may be, different people like different things. Some men think this behaviour is creepy and wrong -as do some women. Some men think it's acceptable - as do some women. The sinner we acknowledge these facts the quicker we will be able to get to solutions.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"When my hair was really long (about knee length) I used to get stopped in the street every 30 seconds.
It's not the same dynamic I know.."
To be fair you would stop my traffic.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"What's that? interesting can't even get an excuse me walking down the sidewalk without having to step to the side because people are oblivious of someone else walking."
And if you don't move they are not shy about confronting you.
I love confrontation though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"Ladies how do you feel when you're walking up a street or something and guys in cars slow down behind you - checking you out.
Do you like it or does it annoy you?
Hate this for many reasons.
Leave people alone.
Unsolicited attention is the thin end of a massive misogynistic wedge. "
I don't get a lot of the comments like this one...
I mean... Not everyone has 'skype' or can be bothered with an 'app' you know what I mean? Just a few years ago (before the 'net') people had to do such things to show someone they were interested in them, and for some people (like myself and some others here) - we enjoy the attention (if it's done in a nice way).
Not everyone is weirdos and murderers, and again... I've met far more weird folk online than anywhere else. Well... Maybe the so called church. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"Hate this for many reasons.
Leave people alone.
Unsolicited attention is the thin end of a massive misogynistic wedge.
If it's someone hot I don't really mind.
Two responses to the same question. Obviously the reason misogynistic behaviour continues is because other men don't challenge it. Let's make a running joke of #notallmen. The reality is actually #notallwomen.
Surprising at this may be, different people like different things. Some men think this behaviour is creepy and wrong -as do some women. Some men think it's acceptable - as do some women. The sinner we acknowledge these facts the quicker we will be able to get to solutions.
P"
It's odd how a lot of the people on here claim they hate: 'attention' but have profiles with numerous photos with all with their bits hanging out for everyone on fab to look at (and there's a fair few strange folk around and a gathering of perverts (the wrong kind of attention they claim they want to avoid!). These people also have the place they live on their profiles, what clubs they go to, their friends and contacts...
Anyway; I've met great friends over the years by chatting to people in public and them chatting to me. - Male and female... In fact I ONLY meet people that way/the proper way (without sending them a message on a stupid app where I could be talking to anyone).
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"I can imagine for the poor lady it's incredibly embarrassing... personally I've never done it or never will. But I guess some enjoy being the "attention""
But the ones saying they hate attention from pervy sorts are the ones with all their bits dangling about in numerous pics on their profiles on here.
I'd rather just be 'clothed' and out a walk with a guy admiring me in a car tbh... Than strangers knowing my home-town, my friends, what clubs I go to (etc) and wanking over my photos.
The 'car dude' attention is far more reasonable. |
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I do wish more women/men would approach me if they find me attractive as I get looks (hopefully good) but generally don't have the confidence to approach a woman or man
I blame the dating online effect
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"I do wish more women/men would approach me if they find me attractive as I get looks (hopefully good) but generally don't have the confidence to approach a woman or man
I blame the dating online effect
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It's a shame people are so sensitive and afraid for no reason. And not only that but full of contradiction - clueless to where real danger lurks.
I mean... A car slows down, a guy/gal looks over at something he/she is admiring (you) and makes it known...
Big deal.
You can either take them up on the compliment or not, but that's how normal people have communicated since time began and how normal people always will communicate. ...(Maybe minus the car). |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"What if a TV in a shop complimented your lipstick or something? I get women doing that to me a lot... But I don't mind it at all. It all depends on how it's said/motives etc. If they're just being friendly I like it.
I guess that's where the distinction comes in really.
Does it seem like a friendly comment or someone trying to get in your pants.
And intentions doesn't always define interpretation."
It comes over like you're just seeking something to complain about to me... Almost as though someone couldn't do right for doing wrong by you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"That’s gotta be creepy? I don’t want a strangers attention especially car slowing down to ogle me! What is this some crazy behaviour?! "
Wow you've never had guys in cars slow down to enjoy your beauty either?
All the men must be chasing the trannys these days! I can't leave the house for it happening lol. |
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But yeah I just wish both myself and my generation or even older had the social skills of old
People are too scared or too anxious to do anything
That's not to say people shouldn't be careful
But I'm just saying ask for that person's number, say hi , smile etc
Worst responses are
I have (insert significant other here )
Sorry not interested
Or no thank you
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"Trust me darling I’m don’t want that sort of attention and you be careful sweetie you don’t know whose driving that car xx "
'That' sort of attention? - It sounds like you assume that every person who drives a car and pays someone a compliment from it is a 'bad person'?
I've always found meeting people offline is safer and the: 'attention' on sex websites (from cheats/serial wankers/pervy sorts etc) to be far more 'unwanted' for ladies tbh. |
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"Trust me darling I’m don’t want that sort of attention and you be careful sweetie you don’t know whose driving that car xx
'That' sort of attention? - It sounds like you assume that every person who drives a car and pays someone a compliment from it is a 'bad person'?
I've always found meeting people offline is safer and the: 'attention' on sex websites (from cheats/serial wankers/pervy sorts etc) to be far more 'unwanted' for ladies tbh."
I never said people who drive and compliment are “bad people” for myself personally I don’t want anyone kerb crawling and trying to get my attention you do you it’s your life. As for people online yes there is an element of danger but if one takes the right precaution one should be alright. I hope this clarified my stance and you don’t feel offended. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"But yeah I just wish both myself and my generation or even older had the social skills of old
People are too scared or too anxious to do anything
That's not to say people shouldn't be careful
But I'm just saying ask for that person's number, say hi , smile etc
Worst responses are
I have (insert significant other here )
Sorry not interested
Or no thank you
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Yeah, not everyone is an axe-murderer lol. Typically it's just a guy out and about chancing his luck and/or looking to connect with a real human being with real human contact instead of some AI app-speaking antisocial freak. - He should be applauded at least for that.
It's a sad day when someone can't approach someone on a street to say: 'hi' but the other person think's they're a weirdo who can: 'get to fuck' (as one poster here said), whilst shitting bricks over fk all.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"Trust me darling I’m don’t want that sort of attention and you be careful sweetie you don’t know whose driving that car xx
'That' sort of attention? - It sounds like you assume that every person who drives a car and pays someone a compliment from it is a 'bad person'?
I've always found meeting people offline is safer and the: 'attention' on sex websites (from cheats/serial wankers/pervy sorts etc) to be far more 'unwanted' for ladies tbh.
I never said people who drive and compliment are “bad people” for myself personally I don’t want anyone kerb crawling and trying to get my attention you do you it’s your life. As for people online yes there is an element of danger but if one takes the right precaution one should be alright. I hope this clarified my stance and you don’t feel offended. "
No I don't get offended, no need to put words in my mouth. You gave your view and I gave mine. |
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I do worry if how I dress and how I am come across are seen as different
I'm very much a buttoned shirt and trousers kind of guy with some smart leather shoes/boots and ascot or some bracers
Where as a person I'm quite reserved and anxious that is till you get to know me then I'm flamboyant, eccentric and humourous
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May I be so bold as to simplify this as much as I can.
We can debate the moral and social dichotomy of whether public displays of complimenting a stranger is acceptable or not, until the proverbial cows come home. Essentially, it comes down to if you find the person who’s complimented you attractive or not.
Attractive people can be creepy and weird as well as anyone else. I find a compliment more flattering from a person I find attractive, and a compliment more weird from someone I don’t.
Let’s be honest, this isn’t the answer people want to hear or admit, but I’d say it’s a pretty accurate summarisation. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 3 weeks ago
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"May I be so bold as to simplify this as much as I can.
We can debate the moral and social dichotomy of whether public displays of complimenting a stranger is acceptable or not, until the proverbial cows come home. Essentially, it comes down to if you find the person who’s complimented you attractive or not.
Attractive people can be creepy and weird as well as anyone else. I find a compliment more flattering from a person I find attractive, and a compliment more weird from someone I don’t.
Let’s be honest, this isn’t the answer people want to hear or admit, but I’d say it’s a pretty accurate summarisation."
If someone can't take a compliment from another human being (stranger or not); they have issues... And that's fact not opinion. - There is something wrong with them.
It's also bizarre to see a compliment as being 'weird' from someone you don't find attractive but not if you find them attractive... What does looks have to with that???
I dunno if it's been a full-moon every night for the past few years, but the real weirdos these days seem to be the ones who don't realize they are. |
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By *glyBettyTV/TS 3 weeks ago
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I think OP was missing the point slightly in this thread.
If a car starts driving slowly up behind you, especially late at night, the best case scenario is that it's someone having a perv.
There's only a few possibilities for why someone is doing this and almost none of them are good. It can feel extremely threatening. |
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Absolutely hate it.. if I'm in a place where I want to seel attention then great, but the rest of the time I just want to go about my day unharrassed by random people especially cars slowing down... yikes.. kidn*p vibes or what! Ha ha lemmi just check my dad has a very special set of skills before I go to the shops eh?!  |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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"I love when the wife gets it ! "
Even when it's late at night and she's walking alone just going about her business and a stranger curb crawls and cat calls? |
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