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Would you go to a club solo?
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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I have been quite a few times but I have to be in the right headspace for it. I never go hoping for it to boost my confidence but usually when I'm already feeling pretty secure of myself so I know I can chat to others even I get ignored by the majority of others. Finding a club buddy is still the goal though. |
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"As a woman I don’t find it too daunting now, but then as a woman you know there will be plenty of guys to chat to and you won’t be ignored. I imagine it would be more daunting for a guy. "
It took alot of nerve to even make an account here, but I would like to attempt to go to clubs next year. |
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Having been to a few clubs as a couple for years, when I went as a solo I was aware of the differences I would find as a singe older male. I have only been solo during daytime sessions which is more relaxed |
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I travel for work sometimes and will always try and take myself off the the local club if there's one nearby- I've had some fabulous nights out at some of the Northern clubs over the years where I didn't know anyone! When I'm on "home turf" down South I'll usually be meeting friends at the club but as many of us don't live close by, I'll go in on my own and find my friends inside.
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By *glyBettyTV/TS 10 weeks ago
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I usually go alone. As said by someone else, i like it better because I can just leave whenever I want.
I'm generally someone who prefers being alone, my social battery drains fast... |
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Lots of solo adventures, mainly because I'm so unreliable when it comes to meet ups before getting to the club, traffic, life, losing directions.
Rather get there solo, at least I've made it that far. Then meet old and new friends. |
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If this site is anything to go by, going solo as a single male would be horrendous. Particularly if u went naked. Your cock would undoubtedly decide to hide in your pubes for the duration and u would feel an utter cunt sat there, naked and drinking on your own. It would also be full of other single males and probably, knowing my luck, the annual get together of the monster cock club. This site is depressing Enough but at least u get rejected on line and not in person |
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And furthermore, I would fucking love to be a woman on this site. They all moan about the cock pics and misogyny but they should try a week in my shoes. I get about 20 messages a week. 25% is site admin password reset. I moan about gay men and TS/TV/CD messaging me (not my bag that’s all) but I don’t block them cos that is virtually all the attention I get !!!! |
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I do all the time. Its as much a social place as it is to misbehave for me. Rather go there than to a pub.
I know plenty of members and I'm.freinds with the staff so I'm never alone.
I frequent Club F in the North East and honestly, it's great. People come from all over the UK.
The issue, if you have them, isn't the clubs. It's the mindset you go with.
If you go with the intent to be social and you try being freindly and talking with people, you'll go far. If.you go thinking you're guaranteed a shag, you're shit out of luck.
I've seen the odd review saying the clubs has a clique going on but I've been there when some of those parties who visited where there and they sat on their own all night looking completely unapproachable.
Yes it's harder for single guys as they have to put extra effort in but that's how it is and how its always been. If you want women to fall in your lap, you have to prove, over time that it's a lap worth falling in. Being bold, having banter amd a good sense of humor can get you far in that environment. |
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"As a woman I don’t find it too daunting now, but then as a woman you know there will be plenty of guys to chat to and you won’t be ignored. I imagine it would be more daunting for a guy. "
It can be daunting but I don’t mind and I’m a chatty guy anyway. Not too bothered about it. Do prefer going with a club buddy but will happily go on my own. |
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Vixen goes to events at Liberty Elite on her own and has a Single Lady membership there.
As stag I find it incredibly hot to hear what she has got up to with other guys.
It’s an amazing alternative angle to our hotwife relationship. |
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I have been to many clubs alone. Sometimes i've had great times and sometimes not.
It doesnt bother me going to a club alone. Going to a club alone or going to a club with someone are very different for a single guy |
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I’ve been solo to Abfabs when they have the social beforehand. It’s not as daunting as I see people I’ve met at other socials so there are plenty of friendly faces. Will be at the social there tonight. |
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I'm usually always a soloist.
I find there are 3 types of couple..
Ones you hit it off with totally
One you get along well with and become friends even though you aren't what they look for.
And last the ones who act like single men are vermin and don't acknowledge you in any way.
The last type are quite rare but can deflate you if as a single guy you go and give a friendly hello |
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By *mmaleiaWoman 10 weeks ago
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"If this site is anything to go by, going solo as a single male would be horrendous. Particularly if u went naked. Your cock would undoubtedly decide to hide in your pubes for the duration and u would feel an utter cunt sat there, naked and drinking on your own. It would also be full of other single males and probably, knowing my luck, the annual get together of the monster cock club. This site is depressing Enough but at least u get rejected on line and not in person "
You sir are hilarious  |
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For me the question would be phrased "Would you go to a club with someone else?".
To which the answer is "No".
Because the potential pleasure I extract from a club is premised upon going there on my own. |
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"Clubs are incredibly safe and welcoming, regardless of your sex. Yes, there are people there who aimless walk about hoping for action, but in general, it's like a pub....just sometimes naked  "
You're not selling it. I wouldn't want to go to a pub by myself either... but a naked pub  |
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Our local ish club definitely not people can't keep their hands to themselves when I'm with my husband so it's definitely not a place I would feel safe on my own.
The other clubs we have attended then yes I would. |
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"Clubs are incredibly safe and welcoming, regardless of your sex. Yes, there are people there who aimless walk about hoping for action, but in general, it's like a pub....just sometimes naked
You're not selling it. I wouldn't want to go to a pub by myself either... but a naked pub
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OK, come with me then  . Pub only, if you want "
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This ⬆️, dear gentlefolk, is the epitome of a smooth operator. 🙂 |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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I've often thought about it but not summoned the courage yet 
I think the main thing that holds me back is thought of possibly catching something.. Based on 90% of people in my mail, who seem uninterested in testing and swing aplenty |
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Yes, many times.
It can and does take a push of confidence, especially as a solo man. I’ve not gone for a while as the potential rejection has been too much. I’d rather go with a partner and share the experience |
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By *HUSH-Man 10 weeks ago
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"I've often thought about it but not summoned the courage yet
I think the main thing that holds me back is thought of possibly catching something.. Based on 90% of people in my mail, who seem uninterested in testing and swing aplenty "
I didn’t play on the nights I went. I just spoke to people. It’s a great way of cutting right to the chase with potential play partners. You can immediately pick up on any chemistry and take it from there. Great if you have limited time.
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By *agic.MMan 10 weeks ago
Orpington |
"Curious if you would/wouldn't/do/don't?
I have and can't say it fazed me...
You? "
Is this based on my comment on the other thread? 😅
Look I'm sure for some people that are a bit more extroverted it's not a big deal, for someone like myself it is one of the hardest things I could do...the mental pressure in that environment is not easily explained or understood unless you suffer from anxiety. Here's a small trivia about me - I used to be a stripper- that means I used to dance butt naked in fron of dozens of women/people without an issue...and you might say, that's even more nerve racking...but it really isn't, as all those people in that environment are there to see a naked man dance (it's already established) so I was just doing a job (there was a purpose for me being there). Now, on the other hand to be in a social environment where you need to go up to people and start talking to them without a clear purpose literally gives me panic attacks  . I personally need a friend that introduces me to other people in order to not feel awkward about myself in that scenario...and I don't know how else to explain it to the people who say "it's not a big deal" 🤭. |
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"Curious if you would/wouldn't/do/don't?
I have and can't say it fazed me...
You? "
I've been to many clubs occasionally with someone mostly on my own ,when you're naked you're either comfortable or your not . |
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Not yet plucked up the courage to go. Reading a few things in the forum about them makes it more daunting. Don’t know what to expect what days they will accept solo single males. I need to grow a pair 🤣 |
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"Not yet plucked up the courage to go. Reading a few things in the forum about them makes it more daunting. Don’t know what to expect what days they will accept solo single males. I need to grow a pair 🤣"
Clubs vary vastly in who they let in ,how much they charge and how flexible they are with single Male entry but clubs make money out of guys walking over the threshold so chances are you'll get in most clubs at some point but it's a lottery as to who will be there ,just go I've had great experiences over the years .
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"Not yet plucked up the courage to go. Reading a few things in the forum about them makes it more daunting. Don’t know what to expect what days they will accept solo single males. I need to grow a pair 🤣Clubs vary vastly in who they let in ,how much they charge and how flexible they are with single Male entry but clubs make money out of guys walking over the threshold so chances are you'll get in most clubs at some point but it's a lottery as to who will be there ,just go I've had great experiences over the years ."
Thanks wish there was a meet and greet option or a chaperone service 🤣🤣 |
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Yes - the experience as single guy has been down to the club itself and the regulars that go there and if it were a hosted / party night. I’ve only had a few times where I haven’t been feeling it and have left early. I had one time at the Attic where I left immediately though, the people that were there, to be perfectly honest, were quite disgusting (loads of Taxi drivers with BO wandering around… just… gross).
Going with no expectations and not simply on a mission to get my cock in someone is important. I’m lucky to have a couple of great clubs where I know many regulars and know the staff so wouldn’t hesitate to go out for the evening as a solo male. |
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It would very much depend on the type of club, Naked Occasions I have done and would again as it's a spa type club run by a woman. That's their all the time checking make sure everyone is ok.
Some of the more night time clubs no I wouldn't in fact I wouldn't go to them with a partner. |
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"I've often thought about it but not summoned the courage yet
I think the main thing that holds me back is thought of possibly catching something.. Based on 90% of people in my mail, who seem uninterested in testing and swing aplenty "
Next time I go the attic come with me… no expectations, just give u the feel to it and give u the courage of u like it to go alone .. |
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"Not yet plucked up the courage to go. Reading a few things in the forum about them makes it more daunting. Don’t know what to expect what days they will accept solo single males. I need to grow a pair 🤣Clubs vary vastly in who they let in ,how much they charge and how flexible they are with single Male entry but clubs make money out of guys walking over the threshold so chances are you'll get in most clubs at some point but it's a lottery as to who will be there ,just go I've had great experiences over the years .
Thanks wish there was a meet and greet option or a chaperone service 🤣🤣 "
A lot of women on here would meet you in a club because they would feel if you weren't for them they could still have a good time . |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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"I’m going to have to pluck up courage. Xtasia maybe.
I’ve done it several times mate. It is nerve wracking, but you soon get into it & everyone is great there"
Best time to go? Thanks |
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"I’m going to have to pluck up courage. Xtasia maybe.
I’ve done it several times mate. It is nerve wracking, but you soon get into it & everyone is great there
Best time to go? Thanks "
Friday night single males are allowed. Make sure you get a membership first |
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"Not yet plucked up the courage to go. Reading a few things in the forum about them makes it more daunting. Don’t know what to expect what days they will accept solo single males. I need to grow a pair 🤣Clubs vary vastly in who they let in ,how much they charge and how flexible they are with single Male entry but clubs make money out of guys walking over the threshold so chances are you'll get in most clubs at some point but it's a lottery as to who will be there ,just go I've had great experiences over the years .
Thanks wish there was a meet and greet option or a chaperone service 🤣🤣 A lot of women on here would meet you in a club because they would feel if you weren't for them they could still have a good time ."
I’d be happy to meet a lady in a club even if it was just as friends to help with the newbie nerves 😬 |
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By (user no longer on site) 10 weeks ago
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"I’m going to have to pluck up courage. Xtasia maybe.
I’ve done it several times mate. It is nerve wracking, but you soon get into it & everyone is great there
Best time to go? Thanks
Friday night single males are allowed. Make sure you get a membership first"
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I don't drive so it's very difficult for me to get to clubs. However, I did go to a sauna near me, on their bi events. It was strange as mostly straight men there and I wanted to see some bi action  . Also, being followed everywhere was a bit daunting even if funny at first, to see how fast someone was going to find me. |
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I have, many years ago, only twice though. First time I stood on my own looking like an uncomfortable thing out of place. Second time I did get chatting to a couple, nothing came of it, and again I ended up standing on my own watching. Seeing all the other single guys standing with hopeful looks on their faces put me off, didn’t care to be associated with that. Not been back to a club since. |
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I was a photographer at an event at a club...... my first experience.
Now I want to go again but not as a photographer. There's two clubs within 10 miles from me but I would prefer to go with someone.
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"We have both attended clubs solo before we met, after all it's just loke going to any other bar right?
Mr H
I don't think all that many folk attend bars alone "
As an ex bar manager I'd say you'd be surprised but admittedly it's more likely to be men rather than women. But my point (that I may not have made very clear) is that clubs aren't as daunting as people may think they are.
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"I imagine it would be more daunting for a guy.
How come? I’ve never been to one but have been intrigued to try"
Maybe because there are generally more men than women in clubs and it’s usually down to the guys to make the first move to start a conversation, where as a woman you just need to sit there and look pretty and someone will always talk to you x |
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"I imagine it would be more daunting for a guy.
How come? I’ve never been to one but have been intrigued to try
Maybe because there are generally more men than women in clubs and it’s usually down to the guys to make the first move to start a conversation, where as a woman you just need to sit there and look pretty and someone will always talk to you x"
Absolutely this
Nobody speaks to the single guy in a club, unless he speaks first. And that's assuming he can find an 'in' with the EGOF's......  |
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Tina goes to clubs solo as she love that environment… me not to much so instead I drop her there and catch a late night gym sesh  don’t see what is wrong in visiting as singles if that is what makes you happy! |
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