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By (user no longer on site) OP 11 weeks ago
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That refuses to show their face even though you’re both clicking and enjoying getting to know each other.
Would you refuse to meet on the basis of attraction or would you go with the flow and meet anyway?
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No we wouldn't however a lot of people have agreed to meet us without ever seeing our faces until the horrifying moment of truth. It's too late for them then, they're trapped in the queue of a trendy coffee shop with Shrek and Fiona and there's nothing they can do about it.  |
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I've met without seeing peoples face. If you're getting on with them, you'll probably like them in person, if you don't no harm done. The few I have met where I didn't ask for one, it didn't cross my mind to ask tbh |
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Most of the men saying 'no way, safety first' shut the front door.. youse so would do it ...
I have in the early days on my previous singles profile, and had some fantastic meets from doing so...its actually fucking exillerating, and exciting, the anticipation of whom I'm gonna meet..plus you can always say sorry not for me...
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No I wouldn't meet anyone who's face I haven't seen, at the end of the day if they want me to trust them with my body they can have the decency of showing me a photo.
Time is precious & I won't waste it on people who aren't upfront.
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Reading the OP again it's on those who refuse to send a face pic. I expect if I'd have asked people would have sent me their face it's simply I didn't ask for it - I can't remember if they asked for mine or not. I'd probably get reservations if I asked for one and they refused. |
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"That refuses to show their face even though you’re both clicking and enjoying getting to know each other.
Would you refuse to meet on the basis of attraction or would you go with the flow and meet anyway?
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"Most of the men saying 'no way, safety first' shut the front door.. youse so would do it ...
I have in the early days on my previous singles profile, and had some fantastic meets from doing so...its actually fucking exillerating, and exciting, the anticipation of whom I'm gonna meet..plus you can always say sorry not for me...
Mr "
Thanks for speaking up for all single men
Maybe not in your case but some of us have standards |
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No, I wouldn't.
I need to like someone's face as well as feeling a connection to them.
Id never expect anyone to meet me without seeing my face either.
I had a man say to me years ago, that I didn't need to see him for a social, I just stopped chatting. It would be really awkward if you then met and didn't like what you saw. |
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I think I'd be more concerned about why they were unwilling to exchange face pictures. In 2024 I find it hard to believe that someone can't snap a selfie, particularly if they've managed to set up a profile and come across well enough to get to the potentially meeting stage.
As a woman, a man being unwilling to share a photo raises a lot of red flags, none of them signal a good or safe outcome for me. |
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No face photo, no meet. Simple as that.
My time is precious and I want to spend it with people I am attracted to and get on well with.
If they start going with the “I need to be ‘discrete’ (sic) because of my job/married/etc” I just ignore from then on. If ai can share a face photo so can you. |
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Not willing to send a face pic is a pretty big red flag and I would be very wary of meeting someone without a full photo of who they are. I have done it in the past and it has worked out ok because of phone chats etc but I certainly wouldn’t be travelling far or spending any money on hotels.
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Yes. I don't meet people just to have sex with them so physical attraction is irrelevant in many cases.
Some would argue that means I'm happy to shag anyone but the exact opposite is true.
I don't share face pics unless I've already agreed to meet someone and if they have an issue with that they are more than welcome to move on to someone else. |
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I don't ask for face pics. I like to meet and see what the connection is. Lots of guys I play with I would have rejected based on face pic but when I met them I really liked them straight away and the connection was immediate
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Never, because who you thought was 31 year old Lily, the slim, sexy, blonde, single girl from Glasgow will actually turn out to be an unemployed, grossly overweight, diabetic, alcoholic, man called Rab in a sweat stained tracksuit, sitting in his bedroom in his mother's house, in Cumbernauld, wanking at what you said to Lily.  |
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By *lappyMan 11 weeks ago
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"That refuses to show their face even though you’re both clicking and enjoying getting to know each other.
Would you refuse to meet on the basis of attraction or would you go with the flow and meet anyway?
Absolutely no way at all, how would you know they are who they appear to be ??? I’d be very very dubious about this person and asking myself what they have to hide if they aren’t willing to show you their face
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I have broken my own fab rules about face pics first once, as I happened to literally be going past the end of their road and was happy to swing by and drop in for a cuppa and a hello with them both, as a spur of the moment thing. Thankfully that worked out well.
Otherwise, yes please I’d like a face pic.
And if I’m travelling, then a video call too. |
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"Never, because who you thought was 31 year old Lily, the slim, sexy, blonde, single girl from Glasgow will actually turn out to be an unemployed, grossly overweight, diabetic, alcoholic, man called Rab in a sweat stained tracksuit, sitting in his bedroom in his mother's house, in Cumbernauld, wanking at what you said to Lily. "
Thanks for the tip rab  |
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I have met men who refuse to show face pic, purely as I’m demisexual and I felt our chat history was good enough to trust them.
I always see it as a red flag though.
A few times it’s been a very nice surprise but mostly disappointing in bed and attraction
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I am someone who prefers not to share face photos until the meet is definitely happening. So I would still meet (have done in the past) the other person as I can understand the reasons why people may not be happy with showing their faces on here or through the chat. Also, there is nothing stopping the other person from sending the pic that shows them in the best light, has been filtered to death or is an old one. So as long as we get on well through messages, and we're meeting somewhere public, yes, I would still meet them. |
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"They could be anyone. And I’m not Cilla Black…
That statement has just ruined my fantasy.
And the heels always screamed Cilla for me  "
I’m so sorry. Cilla had amazing legs and sadly mine are midget-length  |
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Most of my one on one social meets have been blind dates. Doesn't bother me at all. That said I only meet locally now so I don't worry about time or money. It's just a coffee with someone new and I find the anticipation exciting |
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"That refuses to show their face even though you’re both clicking and enjoying getting to know each other.
Would you refuse to meet on the basis of attraction or would you go with the flow and meet anyway?
I've done it with people I have been able to verify backwards several hops. It worked out fine, that was their vibe. Wouldn't dare with a poorly verified profile.
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Yes....
...if it's local. It's not an inconvenience for me. I'm heading into the City anyway, on the London Underground, happy to stop on the way and then carry on regardless if she's not living up to the expectations that ·she· has set on the virtual merry-go-round.
If it's somewhere far, like Edinburgh (from my perspective), then it's a Nø. |
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No, my thoughts are if you aren’t swapping face pics then there’s only two conclusions - you are hiding from someone or you know the chat will end once pic sent.
Although I’ve arranged a few blindfold meets for C and she’s not seen them until afterwards. Although I’ve seen pics of them beforehand as I know her type.
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Id say No, because as other have said, this isnt blind date and attraction is important.
However, unless you are doing video calls, how can confirm a face picture is actually them anyway? One to ponder. |
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But would still meet hey Chunky
Mr
Yes.
I've had meets like that before.  "
Good man Chunky, be careful admitting that though, people will think you have no standards mate
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By *r SproutMan 11 weeks ago
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"Most of the men saying 'no way, safety first' shut the front door.. youse so would do it ...
I have in the early days on my previous singles profile, and had some fantastic meets from doing so...its actually fucking exillerating, and exciting, the anticipation of whom I'm gonna meet..plus you can always say sorry not for me...
Mr
Thanks for speaking up for all single men
Maybe not in your case but some of us have standards "
Quantity not quality here! Count me in |
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"They could be anyone. And I’m not Cilla Black…
I don't think you'd be able to hide who you were though!
Spot you a mile off "
You hear me before you see me. Apart from you Boo. I always ninja you for my motorboat. Mwah  |
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"Most of the men saying 'no way, safety first' shut the front door.. youse so would do it ...
I have in the early days on my previous singles profile, and had some fantastic meets from doing so...its actually fucking exillerating, and exciting, the anticipation of whom I'm gonna meet..plus you can always say sorry not for me...
Mr
Thanks for speaking up for all single men
Maybe not in your case but some of us have standards
Quantity not quality here! Count me in "
Sprouty you da man
Mr |
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By *r SproutMan 11 weeks ago
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"Most of the men saying 'no way, safety first' shut the front door.. youse so would do it ...
I have in the early days on my previous singles profile, and had some fantastic meets from doing so...its actually fucking exillerating, and exciting, the anticipation of whom I'm gonna meet..plus you can always say sorry not for me...
Mr
Thanks for speaking up for all single men
Maybe not in your case but some of us have standards
Quantity not quality here! Count me in
Sprouty you da man
Mr "
I know  |
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Absolutely not. A face is half the attraction, if not more. Plus they could be a catfish…
Imagine setting up a meet in public and looking around, but you don’t actually know who you're looking for  |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"No we wouldn't however a lot of people have agreed to meet us without ever seeing our faces until the horrifying moment of truth. It's too late for them then, they're trapped in the queue of a trendy coffee shop with Shrek and Fiona and there's nothing they can do about it. "
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By *indergirlWoman 11 weeks ago
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For a social then it's not vitally important because it's just that a social, but...how do you know who you're meeting!? Just be sat there looking around without a clue unless they turn up half naked and you recognise them that way
Meets then it's a definite yes for a pic, I have took the risk before and it's paid off but it's also not as well.
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No way would we meet without seeing a pic first.
Also those that send pics were they are 'worldies' and unbelievably good looking he will do a a Google pic search thing to see of they are just using other people's pics.
If this shows nothing but we are still feeling unsure we will ask them to send a pic were they touch their nose with the little finger on their left hand. We'd explain why we would ask this, because we think they are unbelievably good looking. If they fo this then great, if not we've lost nothing.
But defo...no blind dates.
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I have had anon meets with other blokes
Some of the best looking men I've shared a bed with were on anon meets
The bi-MMF I had through Fab, was anon too
Would I do it now?
No
I'm a different person now than in my past, when I was more carefree and, I guess, reckless |
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Nobody will ever have this issue with me, my face is all over my profile. :P Means that if I'm not someone's cup of tea I get filtered out before I even send the first message, but that also means less time wasted on either side. :D |
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This came up today funny enough, someone I chatted to didn’t feel it necessary to show his face before meeting because of it being risky. I think it’s more risky meeting without seeing a face plus my time is very limited so pics help rule out who you know are not for you. |
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