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Tom was brought up to use manners and say a polite, excuse me, thank you, hold doors open and to give way in pedestrian settings to ladies with children and prams etc. Increasingly, some of these entitled people sail through without so much as an acknowledgement. Makes Toms blood boil ... |
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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago
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"Tom was brought up to use manners and say a polite, excuse me, thank you, hold doors open and to give way in pedestrian settings to ladies with children and prams etc. Increasingly, some of these entitled people sail through without so much as an acknowledgement. Makes Toms blood boil ..."
Have to say Tom, there’s not much in life that doesn’t make your blood boil! |
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Although I always offer a gesture of thanks when someone does this for me, I would feel hypocritical if I considered this mandatory for others. If you require something in return for doing something kind, then you were doing it for you rather than the other person. |
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people these days are just rude (ok not all but more so than before) I was only in a Ronalds yesterday waiting to place my order, a lady walks in with her kids and just pushes in front of me, and even when I said excuse me there are others waiting she just looked and carried on.. fuming to say the least |
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I have been shouted at in the street for not saying thank you to a woman who stood aside for me. In all honesty I hadn't noticed her. I was bent down talking to my 5 year old as we walked to school.
This left me rather upset and confused. Why not just be nice? Accept that not everyone will respond how you expect. Just calm down about it. |
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Holding the door open for one person seems to cause the floodgates to open,and hey presto,your a doorman...
People,not all, don't respond to courtesy,in fact the blank look if you say thank you or smile politely at someone is lost ...
And that's across the age groups ....in some cases the older the worse they are these days  |
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Agreed. Manners cost nothing as they say.
Another thing that winds me up is on a train, when some helmet is not only rambling on down their phone, but they also have their speaker phone on so that any lucky person can listen to their friend's gibberish as well as their own. Bastards.  |
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"Holding the door open for one person seems to cause the floodgates to open,and hey presto,your a doorman...
People,not all, don't respond to courtesy,in fact the blank look if you say thank you or smile politely at someone is lost ...
And that's across the age groups ....in some cases the older the worse they are these days "
To be honest I'm such a go-with-the-flow guy that unless I need to hustle to an urgent appointment or get to a shop before it shuts I'm quite happy to hold the door for as long as there's traffic passing through it. :P |
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I went into a church the other day and told everyone I was going to donate £100 to a box in there that was put aside for disabled children in my area. I also made sure everyone knew I was putting another £100 into the church repairs box.
Nobody batted an eyelid!
Then this little old lady came in and dropped a few coppers into the charity box! The priest was straight over thanking her and helping her to a seat, she got a cup of tea and everything
True story!
The world has gone mad !  |
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"I went into a church the other day and told everyone I was going to donate £100 to a box in there that was put aside for disabled children in my area. I also made sure everyone knew I was putting another £100 into the church repairs box.
Nobody batted an eyelid!
Then this little old lady came in and dropped a few coppers into the charity box! The priest was straight over thanking her and helping her to a seat, she got a cup of tea and everything
True story!
The world has gone mad ! "
Well...it could have been the telling everyone bit, tbf...but nice of you to donate  |
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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago
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"I went into a church the other day and told everyone I was going to donate £100 to a box in there that was put aside for disabled children in my area. I also made sure everyone knew I was putting another £100 into the church repairs box.
Nobody batted an eyelid!
Then this little old lady came in and dropped a few coppers into the charity box! The priest was straight over thanking her and helping her to a seat, she got a cup of tea and everything
True story!
The world has gone mad ! "
I think you have been reading the gospel according to Luke! |
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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago
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And a nuver fing
On the tube last week (Victoria line) I stood for a pregnant lady as the train was packed. I said clearly in my noticeable and gritty northern drone “you need to sit in your condition” I made sure the other passengers were aware of my gallantry and colloquial northern politeness. But alas the lady wasn’t and I alighted at Green Park somewhat red and embarrassed. |
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"And a nuver fing
On the tube last week (Victoria line) I stood for a pregnant lady as the train was packed. I said clearly in my noticeable and gritty northern drone “you need to sit in your condition” I made sure the other passengers were aware of my gallantry and colloquial northern politeness. But alas the lady wasn’t and I alighted at Green Park somewhat red and embarrassed."
I believe the moral is I'd rather leave a pregnant woman standing... rather than see a fat girl sitting but crying..
and that's a joke before any of you start  |
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I held a door open at a shopping centre for a lady walking just behind me. Was gobsmacked when she snarled at me I'm perfectly capable of opening my own doors!
I'd have held it for anyone to be honest but that was just so ungrateful.
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"I held a door open at a shopping centre for a lady walking just behind me. Was gobsmacked when she snarled at me I'm perfectly capable of opening my own doors!
I'd have held it for anyone to be honest but that was just so ungrateful.
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It utterly amazes me the number of men this allegedly happens to. |
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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago
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"I never expect a thank you, but admittedly when an elderly gentleman gave me a telling off for holding the door open for him, it left me annoyed."
Sorry, it's just that I do not feel elderly (I know I have grey hair, but...) |
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It's when people start pulling at the door I've already part opened, thus yanking me backwards and risking tipping my wheelchair..... 
Yes, I probably shout at those people because tipping backwards in your wheelchair is a) scary, b) painful when you land and c) really fucking embarrassing. |
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"I went into a church the other day and told everyone I was going to donate £100 to a box in there that was put aside for disabled children in my area. I also made sure everyone knew I was putting another £100 into the church repairs box.
Nobody batted an eyelid!
Then this little old lady came in and dropped a few coppers into the charity box! The priest was straight over thanking her and helping her to a seat, she got a cup of tea and everything
True story!
The world has gone mad !
I think you have been reading the gospel according to Luke!"
Oooh you smarty pants you |
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"If you're only doing the nice thing in expectation of some gratitude, you don't deserve the gratitude  "
It's like giving someone a gift then getting mad at them for not needing/wanting the thing and returning or exchanging it. |
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"It's when people start pulling at the door I've already part opened, thus yanking me backwards and risking tipping my wheelchair.....
Yes, I probably shout at those people because tipping backwards in your wheelchair is a) scary, b) painful when you land and c) really fucking embarrassing. "
On the positive side, at least you're flat on your back, legs splayed, with maybe a flap on display - so you've dispensed with all that time-consuming flirtation xxxx |
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"It's when people start pulling at the door I've already part opened, thus yanking me backwards and risking tipping my wheelchair.....
Yes, I probably shout at those people because tipping backwards in your wheelchair is a) scary, b) painful when you land and c) really fucking embarrassing.
On the positive side, at least you're flat on your back, legs splayed, with maybe a flap on display - so you've dispensed with all that time-consuming flirtation xxxx"
The flaps definitely need refolding and the back door closing, after such an encounter  |
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"It's when people start pulling at the door I've already part opened, thus yanking me backwards and risking tipping my wheelchair.....
Yes, I probably shout at those people because tipping backwards in your wheelchair is a) scary, b) painful when you land and c) really fucking embarrassing.
On the positive side, at least you're flat on your back, legs splayed, with maybe a flap on display - so you've dispensed with all that time-consuming flirtation xxxx
The flaps definitely need refolding and the back door closing, after such an encounter "
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"It's when people start pulling at the door I've already part opened, thus yanking me backwards and risking tipping my wheelchair.....
Yes, I probably shout at those people because tipping backwards in your wheelchair is a) scary, b) painful when you land and c) really fucking embarrassing.
On the positive side, at least you're flat on your back, legs splayed, with maybe a flap on display - so you've dispensed with all that time-consuming flirtation xxxx"
Ever the bringer of a silver lining. |
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"It's when people start pulling at the door I've already part opened, thus yanking me backwards and risking tipping my wheelchair.....
Yes, I probably shout at those people because tipping backwards in your wheelchair is a) scary, b) painful when you land and c) really fucking embarrassing. "
It's so awkward when I'm starting to move around my wife's wheelchair to get a door open and someone in front of us tries to do it but just ends up kind of vaguely getting in the way and not opening the door enough for the chair to actually fit through. |
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"It's when people start pulling at the door I've already part opened, thus yanking me backwards and risking tipping my wheelchair.....
Yes, I probably shout at those people because tipping backwards in your wheelchair is a) scary, b) painful when you land and c) really fucking embarrassing.
It's so awkward when I'm starting to move around my wife's wheelchair to get a door open and someone in front of us tries to do it but just ends up kind of vaguely getting in the way and not opening the door enough for the chair to actually fit through."
Yes!!
Me to person standing in the doorway, holding it open:
"I'm happy to run over your feet/elbow you in the groin, but probably best if you just go through the door" |
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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago
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"What is Tom's stance on when someone doesn't acknowledge that you've let them out of a junction, and they don't set 'thanks'?"
Tom's from Essex, so he drives a souped up Ford Fiesta (can't afford a 1970s Ford Esc0rt) and so is oblivious to others trying to pull out of junctions |
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"It's when people start pulling at the door I've already part opened, thus yanking me backwards and risking tipping my wheelchair.....
Yes, I probably shout at those people because tipping backwards in your wheelchair is a) scary, b) painful when you land and c) really fucking embarrassing.
On the positive side, at least you're flat on your back, legs splayed, with maybe a flap on display - so you've dispensed with all that time-consuming flirtation xxxx
Ever the bringer of a silver lining. "
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The other week I opened a door for what transpired to be a particularly ungrateful cunt who failed to acknowledge my awesome social etiquette and finely tuned manners.
I gave that mutherfucker a filthy look I can tell you  |
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By *a LunaWoman 19 weeks ago
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It used to annoy me Tom, and then on the few occasions I went shopping with my mum and someone didn’t say thank you if she’d opened the door, she’d say (really loudly, within earshot of them) “what am I? Invisible?!” and I’d feel a bit cringe.
So now I tend to just tut to myself and move on.
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"It's when people start pulling at the door I've already part opened, thus yanking me backwards and risking tipping my wheelchair.....
Yes, I probably shout at those people because tipping backwards in your wheelchair is a) scary, b) painful when you land and c) really fucking embarrassing.
It's so awkward when I'm starting to move around my wife's wheelchair to get a door open and someone in front of us tries to do it but just ends up kind of vaguely getting in the way and not opening the door enough for the chair to actually fit through.
Yes!!
Me to person standing in the doorway, holding it open:
"I'm happy to run over your feet/elbow you in the groin, but probably best if you just go through the door" "
You sound so angry? |
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"It's when people start pulling at the door I've already part opened, thus yanking me backwards and risking tipping my wheelchair.....
Yes, I probably shout at those people because tipping backwards in your wheelchair is a) scary, b) painful when you land and c) really fucking embarrassing.
It's so awkward when I'm starting to move around my wife's wheelchair to get a door open and someone in front of us tries to do it but just ends up kind of vaguely getting in the way and not opening the door enough for the chair to actually fit through.
Yes!!
Me to person standing in the doorway, holding it open:
"I'm happy to run over your feet/elbow you in the groin, but probably best if you just go through the door"
You sound so angry?"
Nope. Not in the slightest. Thanks for asking though |
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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago
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"It's when people start pulling at the door I've already part opened, thus yanking me backwards and risking tipping my wheelchair.....
Yes, I probably shout at those people because tipping backwards in your wheelchair is a) scary, b) painful when you land and c) really fucking embarrassing.
It's so awkward when I'm starting to move around my wife's wheelchair to get a door open and someone in front of us tries to do it but just ends up kind of vaguely getting in the way and not opening the door enough for the chair to actually fit through.
Yes!!
Me to person standing in the doorway, holding it open:
"I'm happy to run over your feet/elbow you in the groin, but probably best if you just go through the door"
You sound so angry?
Nope. Not in the slightest. Thanks for asking though "
It was a statement. |
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"It's when people start pulling at the door I've already part opened, thus yanking me backwards and risking tipping my wheelchair.....
Yes, I probably shout at those people because tipping backwards in your wheelchair is a) scary, b) painful when you land and c) really fucking embarrassing.
It's so awkward when I'm starting to move around my wife's wheelchair to get a door open and someone in front of us tries to do it but just ends up kind of vaguely getting in the way and not opening the door enough for the chair to actually fit through.
Yes!!
Me to person standing in the doorway, holding it open:
"I'm happy to run over your feet/elbow you in the groin, but probably best if you just go through the door"
You sound so angry?
Nope. Not in the slightest. Thanks for asking though
It was a statement."
Soz, the question mark threw me.
Have a jolly splendid evening and night and a most wonderful Tuesday. |
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By (user no longer on site) 19 weeks ago
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"It's when people start pulling at the door I've already part opened, thus yanking me backwards and risking tipping my wheelchair.....
Yes, I probably shout at those people because tipping backwards in your wheelchair is a) scary, b) painful when you land and c) really fucking embarrassing.
It's so awkward when I'm starting to move around my wife's wheelchair to get a door open and someone in front of us tries to do it but just ends up kind of vaguely getting in the way and not opening the door enough for the chair to actually fit through.
Yes!!
Me to person standing in the doorway, holding it open:
"I'm happy to run over your feet/elbow you in the groin, but probably best if you just go through the door"
You sound so angry?
Nope. Not in the slightest. Thanks for asking though
It was a statement.
Soz, the question mark threw me.
Have a jolly splendid evening and night and a most wonderful Tuesday. "
Perhaps I was being a tad rhetorical. Apologies. |
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"It's when people start pulling at the door I've already part opened, thus yanking me backwards and risking tipping my wheelchair.....
Yes, I probably shout at those people because tipping backwards in your wheelchair is a) scary, b) painful when you land and c) really fucking embarrassing.
It's so awkward when I'm starting to move around my wife's wheelchair to get a door open and someone in front of us tries to do it but just ends up kind of vaguely getting in the way and not opening the door enough for the chair to actually fit through.
Yes!!
Me to person standing in the doorway, holding it open:
"I'm happy to run over your feet/elbow you in the groin, but probably best if you just go through the door"
You sound so angry?
Nope. Not in the slightest. Thanks for asking though
It was a statement.
Soz, the question mark threw me.
Have a jolly splendid evening and night and a most wonderful Tuesday.
Perhaps I was being a tad rhetorical. Apologies."
Accepted, dear fellow. |
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By *8on33Man 19 weeks ago
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"Tom was brought up to use manners and say a polite, excuse me, thank you, hold doors open and to give way in pedestrian settings to ladies with children and prams etc. Increasingly, some of these entitled people sail through without so much as an acknowledgement. Makes Toms blood boil ..."
Yes manners maketh man .
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