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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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That is why I do not give too much away, at least online. I make sure they are real for a start then meet in person before they get too much out of me information wise |
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No. I've had several chats that have started and naturally fizzled out, once either side determined lack of compatibility. This is to be expected as most of us will never be mutually compatible. Getting to know others is an iterative, progressive process. I'd not get inappropriately revealing, too quickly |
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At the stages before having let, you never really know if they are playing you, or nervous , never any intention of meeting up but just getting the adrenaline kick from stringing you along. Sometimes a word or phrase can be lost in translation or taken out of context & there is an instant brick wall, but there is nothing worse than the ghosting totally out of the blue leaving you reflecting on everything |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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"Unfortunately a trait of any form of dating / sex app these days ...
People lack the backbone to say no thanks or it's over ...
It's like cats playing with mice ! "
I have quite a few who remain friends for some time after the sex has ended, but with others I'd prefer them to say "let's move on", rather than just going silent. |
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Being ghosted after meeting several times, being intimate, and making the mistake of thinking we were friends, that fuckin sucks.
That’s the disposable nature of friendship in the modern today I guess.  |
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By *igR93Man 21 weeks ago
Sarcasm City |
Arrange a meeting within a week of talking
Start off on a basis that neither of you owe each other because you talked for a few days
Don’t put all your eggs in one basket
And approach each new person with an “it will be what it will be” attitude
This will help a lot, ghosting is the new norm I’m afraid |
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By *agic.MMan 21 weeks ago
Orpington |
Been ghosted many times...even had someone ghost me after 2 months of dating - just like that overnight, and only herd back from them after like 10 days. It's a horrible feeling, especially when you are genuinely concerned for them. I don't think I would see it as ghosting if I never met them in real life though, I also don't think I would have personal or intimate conversations with them if I hadn't met them in real life. Until that very first meet occurs-zero expectations on my part... |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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Doesn't bother me whatsoever to be honest. Genuinely couldn't care less if someone isn't interested in me anymore and decide to ghost or completely cut me off. I just think 'fuck'em.' |
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I think on here, conversation can dry up and people feel awkward so maybe just stop chatting,if that's all it's been.
It happens unfortunately,when you've actually met someone and got close, then it's horrible if they just suddenly cut contact.
Who knows why people do it,they got what they wanted, had things happening in real life, weren't single etc.
I haven't had it happen, but I can imagine it's hurtful, some people can easily treat others like they're disposable. |
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By *scapenwMan 21 weeks ago
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It’s very bizarre when it happens.
I’ve just had it happen.
We’d met a few times.
Day we’d plan to meet at a hotel (which she had paid for) - blocked and ghosted.
Not sure what I’m to do when I spot her in Tesco next  |
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By *rPunxMan 21 weeks ago
Hull |
Truly awful when it happens. I've had it a few times.its worse when you actually care about someone and then start to think the worst has happened (fatal accident, etc) only to find out they have moved onto their next victim.i personally think it tends to be self obsessed people who do it,who enjoy the emotional abuse of building you up only to knock you down again. I've come to kinda spot the signs now.made me alot more cautious though |
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It’s worse when you’ve known them a few years and spent a hell of a lot of time with them.
One popped up two years later to the week. My response was “do you know it’s exactly two years since you ghosted me”. She had a bloody cheek.
If you don’t want to spend anymore time with someone, just tell them. It’s easy enough to do. |
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I share personal information very easily, so sharing something deep and meaningful about myself wouldn't make me develop any sort of attachment to someone. I'm an open book. I find it takes lots of one on one time for me to become emotionally involved with someone and that’s the only time I would be upset if someone ghosted me. |
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"I don't count people disappearing after a few messages as ghosting.
It's when you've met at least a few times, chat on a regular basis and then nothing. That's ghosting. "
Yeah I’m with you on this |
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By *xl PoseMan 20 weeks ago
West Lothian |
This happened to me 2 months ago. Chatted on the phone every night for months, Texted each other multiple times every day, spent hours in each others company going on wee day trips, good sex together in bed then totally vanished, An explanation would have been nice, just for closure at least. |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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I've been ghosted many times but I'm one of those that's into the reciprocal liking. If you go luke warm on me I lose interest. On fab I would suggest using an exorcist as Ghosts do have a habit of reappearing once they realise what they are missing out on x |
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It’s really horrible yes, but it’s better than seeing them for a few weeks or months and for them to ghost you then. I’ve had that done to me more than one and it’s not very nice. I suspect that they found themselves someone who they really liked. |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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What do people class as ghosting though?
To me, talking to someone on here and then conversation just stopping isn't ghosting.
Meeting someone and spending time with them for them to then disappear and ignore your messages, that would be ghosting. |
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"What do people class as ghosting though?
To me, talking to someone on here and then conversation just stopping isn't ghosting.
Meeting someone and spending time with them for them to then disappear and ignore your messages, that would be ghosting."
Couldn't really spectre-ulate. Sorry, I will get my coat. |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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It's one of the reasons I don't stay on here for long. It's such a waste of time and energy and infuriates me beyond words. Usually guys who like the talk but can't back it up  |
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By *4bimMan 20 weeks ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
Had plenty do it
Usually the chat, get to the point of meeting then ghost.
Been left in hotels after she's messaged 5 minutes ago to say she's on way. Never showed and she's blocked.
Was talking to one this week and she blocked suddenly but I had an impression she wasn't well mentally so I dodged a bullet thankfully.
Unfortunately ghosting is a part of this like time wasters and an in box of Willy pics.
You just have to relax and move on, don't give them a second chance, leopards never change spots.
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By *_Mr.K_xMan 20 weeks ago
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"It's one of the reasons I don't stay on here for long. It's such a waste of time and energy and infuriates me beyond words. Usually guys who like the talk but can't back it up "
You see, I'm completely the opposite... I love having my mind engaged and to feel there's a connection.
It definitely encourages me to back it up. It's just about being given the chance or opportunity in the first place  |
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"It’s very bizarre when it happens.
I’ve just had it happen.
We’d met a few times.
Day we’d plan to meet at a hotel (which she had paid for) - blocked and ghosted.
Not sure what I’m to do when I spot her in Tesco next "
Give her the fish fingers
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By *lder.Woman 20 weeks ago
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From strangers to lovers to strangers again can be a bit galling. I am always optimistic it can swing back to lovers again at some future point. If not you can always use the memories. As a dart board if necessary  |
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Ha, yes. Just randomly in the middle of a conversation with no explanation and the rumour mill going.
Then six months later they message and say they were scared by their own feelings for you.
What you’ll usually find, OP, is they always come crawling back. I had 3 reappear in a week recently. I must look like a mug |
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"Ha, yes. Just randomly in the middle of a conversation with no explanation and the rumour mill going.
Then six months later they message and say they were scared by their own feelings for you.
What you’ll usually find, OP, is they always come crawling back. I had 3 reappear in a week recently. I must look like a mug "
Wait, they ghosted you and then had the audacity to try again like you'd have forgotten they did that? XD |
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"Ha, yes. Just randomly in the middle of a conversation with no explanation and the rumour mill going.
Then six months later they message and say they were scared by their own feelings for you.
What you’ll usually find, OP, is they always come crawling back. I had 3 reappear in a week recently. I must look like a mug
Wait, they ghosted you and then had the audacity to try again like you'd have forgotten they did that? XD"
Some people might be more easily manipulated by a sob story than I am |
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"Have you ever felt close to someone after exchanging personal information ostensibly with a stranger you felt a real bond then they totally disappear?
That's being ghosted and it's heartbreaking "
its really rude and annoyed dont understand why people do it rather them just say no thanks |
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