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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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Do you ever find yourself in small talk, whether in a club, social or Fab, coming across topics that instantly kill the idea of prospective fun with the person/people?
Is it the mum talking about her toddlers’ toilet training escapades? The older man telling you about his dental prosthesis? The lady gleefully sharing details of her latest gang bang? The person who endlessly mining about the status of the government?
What topics are instant mood saboteurs for you?
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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How the person got to their destination  "yea down the A653 had to take a diversion round A432 cos accident so then I cut off at blah blah ,shut the fuck up!! |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Not sure about killing the idea.
If it’s a conversation that flows well, I find, a mixed variety of topics let’s you get to know said person better.
I’m as random as they come so require similar traits, having a glimpse of inside the recipients brain and how it works is stimulating wether or not you choose to continue persuing.
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"When people tell me 1 in 4 people make up near a third of the population. Give it a rest already. 
I'd probably snog someone who said this out of the blue  xxxx"
That would be one way to shut them up I guess  |
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"When people tell me 1 in 4 people make up near a third of the population. Give it a rest already.
I'd probably snog someone who said this out of the blue xxxx
That would be one way to shut them up I guess "
Less messy than the chainsaw route xxxx |
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When I meet someone from Fab and they talk forum politics. Who shagged who, why they don’t like person X …
Don’t get me wrong, a little bit of that’s fun. But all night long? C’mon, there’s a big beautiful world out there beyond this forum. |
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As a couple we are king and queen of being awkward as fuck to talk to people and probably put many, many people off wanting to have sex with us, can't think of any specific right now but husband doesn't really get social cues (getting better) and I look like I can't talk as conversation doesn't really come naturally to me, while husband loves to talk about anything and everything and when someone cuts him off and starts talking about something else, he actually can't move on with talking about anything else until he has finished what he is saying..so much so when we walk away I say to him "finish what you wanted to say" just so he can let it out and he can move on (same applies for songs requested at a party, if he doesn't hear it, I play it for him in the car on the way home so he can feel better, it's a huge struggle for us). |
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By *eliWoman 25 weeks ago
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"When I meet someone from Fab and they talk forum politics. Who shagged who, why they don’t like person X …
Don’t get me wrong, a little bit of that’s fun. But all night long? C’mon, there’s a big beautiful world out there beyond this forum."
Oh yes! That's a good one Rosie. If I'm dating dating someone, of course I'd like to know who else they are seeing. It's kind of... well part of the ENM poly thing.
But if the conversation only revolves around the fora? It's so fricking dull. Talk to me about trains, foraging, some interesting article you read, a fantastic exhibition you went to.... don't make the fora more than it needs to be. |
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We have found if we are meeting a couple in a possible play situation and they start chatting about their life history (which is fine) but then it starts to get dark like taking about health issues or divorvces etc then it’s a red flag to us because it tells us they aren’t in the mood and it’s likely to go south or they are attaching past negative situations to ours!!!
Worse is when they start talking about swinging incidents where one had a bad experience and the other was fine or didn’t realise. Airing dirty washing isn’t very sexy. Okish if it’s in a social situation but you know they won’t be calling you back! Lol |
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"We have found if we are meeting a couple in a possible play situation and they start chatting about their life history (which is fine) but then it starts to get dark like taking about health issues or divorvces etc then it’s a red flag to us because it tells us they aren’t in the mood and it’s likely to go south or they are attaching past negative situations to ours!!!
Worse is when they start talking about swinging incidents where one had a bad experience and the other was fine or didn’t realise. Airing dirty washing isn’t very sexy. Okish if it’s in a social situation but you know they won’t be calling you back! Lol"
I doubt you'd have to worry about being called back lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"We have found if we are meeting a couple in a possible play situation and they start chatting about their life history (which is fine) but then it starts to get dark like taking about health issues or divorvces etc then it’s a red flag to us because it tells us they aren’t in the mood and it’s likely to go south or they are attaching past negative situations to ours!!!
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This is somewhat my thought earlier this morning. If someone started talking about their life story, sadness, struggles, experiences that were negative I’d struggle to find them in the right mind frame and right mood. If that was me, sharing such things I’d definitely not be in the right mood.
I suppose it would be this way if they were someone new as opposed to someone I had previously made a connection with, and was simply sharing because we had a foundation of vulnerability which made sharing such things make more sense. But would it still make me drier than the Sahara? If someone new to me was sharing something that personal with me, as a stranger, I’d feel they were struggling emotionally and they would dampen the mood. Not because of their struggle per se, but because they’re hurting. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"When I meet someone from Fab and they talk forum politics. Who shagged who, why they don’t like person X …
Don’t get me wrong, a little bit of that’s fun. But all night long? C’mon, there’s a big beautiful world out there beyond this forum.
Oh yes! That's a good one Rosie. If I'm dating dating someone, of course I'd like to know who else they are seeing. It's kind of... well part of the ENM poly thing.
But if the conversation only revolves around the fora? It's so fricking dull. Talk to me about trains, foraging, some interesting article you read, a fantastic exhibition you went to.... don't make the fora more than it needs to be."
If I dated someone I met on the forums and they chatted about the forums often or even Fab people I’d be turned off too.
If someone sent me a message saying they didn’t like someone but would talk to me more about this in person. Instantly, I would be put off meeting them.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"Talk of athletes foot, and leprosy kinda kills the mood
Mr
What? This totally turns me on. Instantly!
Bella xx
Flaky skin is yummy
Mr"
Images of you delectably sucking flaky skin have flashed across my mind. Eww!
I’ve never been more turned on.  |
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I generally don't mind what people want to talk about. If they are passionate about a topic i find it quite endearing.
Although politics and flat earthers are a pretty big red flag for me. You can like or believe whatever you want to, these are just topics I'm not going to relate to you on  |
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"What topics are instant mood saboteurs for you?"
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It's not so much the topics for me, it's the non-reciprocal chat and one sided conversations, when they talk mostly about themselves and glean nothing about me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"I generally don't mind what people want to talk about. If they are passionate about a topic i find it quite endearing.
Although politics and flat earthers are a pretty big red flag for me. You can like or believe whatever you want to, these are just topics I'm not going to relate to you on "
What if they are passionate about politics and the flatness of earth herself? Isn’t it quite endearing? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"Gender politics, sport, seeing someone rude to a waitress of staff instant horn deflate pmsl"
Oh yes, sport is a good one. It depends what about sport they chat about for me.
I once dated a man who was a professional sportsperson. I swear they had twelve stories about their career and all twelve were shared million times. When I started laughing at them for the second time I knew they were boring me. The sex started boring me too come to think of it, as a result of their nonstop sport chat. |
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By *ustBoWoman 25 weeks ago
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Gossiping about others on here is a big turn off as well as looking for information on others.
Away from fab any subject where they are adamant they are right about and others opinions etc don't matter especially when they think keeping going on about something to try and force me change my mind about it. It's fine to have differing opinions but not fine to try and make out that yours is the only one that matters or is right. |
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"Talk of athletes foot, and leprosy kinda kills the mood
Mr
What? This totally turns me on. Instantly!
Bella xx
Flaky skin is yummy
Mr
Images of you delectably sucking flaky skin have flashed across my mind. Eww!
I’ve never been more turned on. "
Tonguing that tantalising athletes foot..
Mr |
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I don't think there is a topic actually. It's good question.
It's more how natural the conversation feels. I do like when people talk about things they are passionate about, I like to understand what they get from it. What makes people tick is interesting to me. I really need to be in person to get that from them though. The way their eyes light up, their facial expressions, body language. When that's reciprocated and I feel seen too the conversation can flow into comfortable silence; delicious lustful tension or affectionate gaze. When all three exist it's something quite special.
It doesn't need saying and yet there's no reason not to either. |
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"Not sure about killing the idea.
If it’s a conversation that flows well, I find, a mixed variety of topics let’s you get to know said person better.
I’m as random as they come so require similar traits, having a glimpse of inside the recipients brain and how it works is stimulating wether or not you choose to continue persuing.
No you just are intelligent compared to most here or elsewhere.. intelligence is inquisitive and open to understanding listening
Fuck I need caffeine! "
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When they use overused vague terms in conversation
Saying lol
Saying up for fun
Saying play
Basically treating real life as if it's a fake porn scene then questioning why they haven't experienced what they see in porn. |
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"As a couple we are king and queen of being awkward as fuck to talk to people and probably put many, many people off wanting to have sex with us, can't think of any specific right now but husband doesn't really get social cues (getting better) and I look like I can't talk as conversation doesn't really come naturally to me, while husband loves to talk about anything and everything and when someone cuts him off and starts talking about something else, he actually can't move on with talking about anything else until he has finished what he is saying..so much so when we walk away I say to him "finish what you wanted to say" just so he can let it out and he can move on (same applies for songs requested at a party, if he doesn't hear it, I play it for him in the car on the way home so he can feel better, it's a huge struggle for us)."
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In a club……these new antibiotics should clear it up… and they said it stopped being contagious around 2 hrs ago.. so im sooooo ready to get back shagging…oh and just an fyi some residual weeping isn’t unusual… wanna go to a play room ?  |
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"When I meet someone from Fab and they talk forum politics. Who shagged who, why they don’t like person X …
Don’t get me wrong, a little bit of that’s fun. But all night long? C’mon, there’s a big beautiful world out there beyond this forum.
Oh yes! That's a good one Rosie. If I'm dating dating someone, of course I'd like to know who else they are seeing. It's kind of... well part of the ENM poly thing.
But if the conversation only revolves around the fora? It's so fricking dull. Talk to me about trains, foraging, some interesting article you read, a fantastic exhibition you went to.... don't make the fora more than it needs to be."
Even their recent train spotting data and analysis would be better |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"I’m a typical Virgo so anything horoscope related is a no. "
I’m not a Virgo and know not one thing about star signs. When I hear people talking about the signs I feel like my mind hears a slow motion inaudible moaning sound over and over again.
Mood killer indeed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"How the person got to their destination "yea down the A653 had to take a diversion round A432 cos accident so then I cut off at blah blah ,shut the fuck up!!"
Small talk killer |
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"I’m a typical Virgo so anything horoscope related is a no.
I’m not a Virgo and know not one thing about star signs. When I hear people talking about the signs I feel like my mind hears a slow motion inaudible moaning sound over and over again.
Mood killer indeed. "
That's so Scorpio |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"I’m a typical Virgo so anything horoscope related is a no.
I’m not a Virgo and know not one thing about star signs. When I hear people talking about the signs I feel like my mind hears a slow motion inaudible moaning sound over and over again.
Mood killer indeed.
That's so Scorpio "
Is it really? I am a Scorpio funny enough. Or am I a Libra?! I never remember |
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"I’m a typical Virgo so anything horoscope related is a no.
I’m not a Virgo and know not one thing about star signs. When I hear people talking about the signs I feel like my mind hears a slow motion inaudible moaning sound over and over again.
Mood killer indeed.
That's so Scorpio
Is it really? I am a Scorpio funny enough. Or am I a Libra?! I never remember "
Scorpio's are very forgetful |
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With us it's anything to do with celebs or tv shows with the words reality/talent/celeb in them aswell and of course influencers as neither of us have a clue about any of it and we don't want to ?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"I’m a typical Virgo so anything horoscope related is a no.
I’m not a Virgo and know not one thing about star signs. When I hear people talking about the signs I feel like my mind hears a slow motion inaudible moaning sound over and over again.
Mood killer indeed.
That's so Scorpio
Is it really? I am a Scorpio funny enough. Or am I a Libra?! I never remember
Scorpio's are very forgetful "
I must be a Libra as I never forget anything |
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"When people tell me 1 in 4 people make up near a third of the population. Give it a rest already.
100 percent of people on earth are human "
By weight, the body consists of more than 50% cells with non-human DNA - all the bacteria and other stuff that lives with us symbiotically, without which we would die instantly. So I suppose that actually less than half of people on earth are human. Which explains an awful lot about the things you see on tiktok... |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Do you ever find yourself in small talk, whether in a club, social or Fab, coming across topics that instantly kill the idea of prospective fun with the person/people?
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What topics are instant mood saboteurs for you?
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People’s replies can kill a sexy conversation on here quicker than a blink. And it’s normally the same bullshit from the same posters.
#they know who.
Unless they’re talking to who they fancy, they just want to be that fun sucker….
And it’s the same with conversations m, you can have the flirtiest and sexiest of days but someone has to chirp in with some mundane boring crap, or throw a grenade of controversy or insults.
Cheating/what are you cooking/who’s your favourite pornstar/politics and many many more stuff I’m not here to waffle about.
*gets off soap box. |
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"The Black Hole Paradigm or Hawkings theory of radiation
See, I love it when a woman talks nerdy to me. Show me that big sexy brain, please. I’ll hang on every word and ask awkward questions."
I'm the kind who might talk about science crap |
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"Do you ever find yourself in small talk, whether in a club, social or Fab, coming across topics that instantly kill the idea of prospective fun with the person/people?
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What topics are instant mood saboteurs for you?
People’s replies can kill a sexy conversation on here quicker than a blink. And it’s normally the same bullshit from the same posters.
#they know who.
Unless they’re talking to who they fancy, they just want to be that fun sucker….
And it’s the same with conversations m, you can have the flirtiest and sexiest of days but someone has to chirp in with some mundane boring crap, or throw a grenade of controversy or insults.
Cheating/what are you cooking/who’s your favourite pornstar/politics and many many more stuff I’m not here to waffle about.
*gets off soap box. "
Woody, are you cheating at making cupcakes whilst watching the Stormy Daniels/Donald Trump tapes?
Waffles sound good, actually |
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