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"I can replace a woman with a woman but i get what you mean, women rule her and bat above average and men mostly have to accept what they get "here | |||
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"It's not a competition though. If you really feel you have to compete for your partners affection and attention, is that a happy and healthy relationship that's worth sustaining?" This was my first thought too | |||
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"He lost the minute he felt it competition... Competition is when you don't already hold the prize.. He has her they don't . If he's not appreciative of what he has right in his hands eyes send then yeah he will and should feel insecure. Someone else sees what he's ignoring and more power to her when she realized she doesn't have to take his crumbs... Same goes for a guy that sees a toy as competition it's your companion team up with it and satisfy your woman that you doesn't kiss it doesn't remember your favourite colour it doesn't rub your feet after a long day. It simply doesn't make excuses unless you forget to pay the utility bill or forget to replace the batteries.." And I've never have never will use filters take me as I am or not at all. I seldom wear makeup either so go add if the person thinks that's a necessary they themselves are also insecure. | |||
"WARNING controversial post, please play nice and don't attack each other or fall out. I'm hoping for a healthy discussion over someone else's words as follows: "Society today is just catering to narcissistic women. If they post a picture online, a bikini picture, there's nothing the husband can do that could compete with that level of accolade. The compliments, the messages, the attention from men around the world with money and things. There's nothing he can do. He can't post online and get the same reaction and more so he can't give her the same level of validation. So what's happened is we've created a setup in society that means men have to compete with a level validation they can't compete with. And if they go online, if they join a dating app that night they can have so many more options than a man can because they've got filters, so the things women can do to manipulate male validation, to get more attention from men, to soothe themselves and remind themselves they are above this, They don't need him, they can replace him. It's something men actually can't do so they have to rely on pornography for that, they replace us with pornography, we replace them with likes and comments on social media" What are your thoughts on this? How accurate do you think this is? Do you think the word narcissistic is accurate? How much can you relate to it being on fab and dating apps? Be adults and nice PLEASE!! My title was tongue in cheek to try and lighten the mood. I find the woman that said that very interesting and so far I like her take on things in various points and not just about this particular thing above. " 'There's nothing he can do', unless.... He's Henry Cavill, Matthew McConaughy, Brad Pitt, Jared Leto etc. 
But yeah. Us mere mortals are fucked. | |||
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"Some good points here. But is the validity coming from a good source with good intent? And how many likes has the source clicked that day? " I’m not sure how important that is (the good source and the intent) I think the outcome is the dopamine hit and that’s what’s important in the moment. The rationalisation happens later, if at all | |||
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"I can replace a woman with a woman but i get what you mean, women rule her and bat above average and men mostly have to accept what they get here"*sniffles* I didn’t know you were settling, Fred. *packs* | |||
"a compliment from my so means so much more than from some fella online who just wants sex. so the premise is faulty." Same | |||
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"I don’t think many men want a wife who was posting explicit pictures and joining dating apps. I’m sure there are some that won’t mind, but they’re in the minority. Many young women are learning that they can monetise their looks, hence the rise in only fans and the like." I do. I want somebody's wife posting in dating sites and social media. She is clearly looking for sex. | |||
"It's not a competition though. If you really feel you have to compete for your partners affection and attention, is that a happy and healthy relationship that's worth sustaining?" Exactly this, we aren't in competition. I know if I post a pic alone and the Mr does on here I'll get more fabs, but fabs but that's the blokes doing that. Do compliments from thirsty men actually give any kind of validation to me they don't. If the men weren't so ERM.....what's a polite way to put it....I don't have one greasy and compliment every bit of skin they see this wouldn't be a thing. Mrs | |||
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"Speaking of women's ability to monetise their looks, it used to be through marriage, now it's OF. Software eats everything, don't know why marriage should be spared." Gods bless the algorithm  | |||
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"It's not a competition though. If you really feel you have to compete for your partners affection and attention, is that a happy and healthy relationship that's worth sustaining?" This. And I think it’s official - Fab is getting too high brow for me!  | |||
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"Is online validation catering to narcissism or creating it. Ill think about the rest of the question "Both | |||
"Is online validation catering to narcissism or creating it?" Both, endlessly. Like a snake eating its own tail. | |||
"Is online validation catering to narcissism or creating it? Both, endlessly. Like a snake eating its own tail." Supply and demand. | |||
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"Supply and demand." Humans gonna human. | |||
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"WARNING controversial post, please play nice and don't attack each other or fall out. I'm hoping for a healthy discussion over someone else's words as follows: "Society today is just catering to narcissistic women. If they post a picture online, a bikini picture, there's nothing the husband can do that could compete with that level of accolade. The compliments, the messages, the attention from men around the world with money and things. There's nothing he can do. " To begin with, no self respecting husband should tolerate this behaviour if it's something he isn't doing himself. It would be an indication that something is seriously wrong with the relationship which should be addressed. I don't care what anyone says, but posting a revealing pic of yourself online is done with specific intent of getting attention / adulation / validation. In an online environment, hetero men can't possibly ever compete with the amount of attention a woman can receive. As far as dating apps are concerned, 80-90% of men are invisible as the "standards" women now impose exclude the majority of them. The endless amount of attention inflates many women's sense of worth. This also applies to fab. | |||
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"I would also point out that its actually men who drive this validation. If it's a monster, men created it" I accept we did, and do. We are easy to exploit. | |||
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"I think if you live in a world of social media that's the 'society' you know. It might be accurate in a few cases but really how many women display narcissistic traits? I don't know because it sounds really fucked up to me" Everyone, everyone - Mrs Nicecouple sweared.  | |||
"I would also point out that its actually men who drive this validation. If it's a monster, men created it I accept we did, and do. We are easy to exploit. " As my dad says "a woman will draw them further than gunpowder will blow them". | |||
"I think if you live in a world of social media that's the 'society' you know. It might be accurate in a few cases but really how many women display narcissistic traits? I don't know because it sounds really fucked up to me Everyone, everyone - Mrs Nicecouple sweared. " I save swearing for special occasions. I find it has more impact | |||
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"I agree to an extent but women have always been of higher value than men, more sought after and generally wanted more.This place Simply exacerbates it as does social media. I’m not going down the it’s hard to be a fella route well not all the way down anyways. But it can be tricky to navigate these days. Often you’re not sure what to do or say in order to be considered decent. Good post OP" Higher value in what way? | |||
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"WARNING controversial post, please play nice and don't attack each other or fall out. I'm hoping for a healthy discussion over someone else's words as follows: "Society today is just catering to narcissistic women. If they post a picture online, a bikini picture, there's nothing the husband can do that could compete with that level of accolade. The compliments, the messages, the attention from men around the world with money and things. There's nothing he can do. He can't post online and get the same reaction and more so he can't give her the same level of validation. So what's happened is we've created a setup in society that means men have to compete with a level validation they can't compete with. And if they go online, if they join a dating app that night they can have so many more options than a man can because they've got filters, so the things women can do to manipulate male validation, to get more attention from men, to soothe themselves and remind themselves they are above this, They don't need him, they can replace him. It's something men actually can't do so they have to rely on pornography for that, they replace us with pornography, we replace them with likes and comments on social media" What are your thoughts on this? How accurate do you think this is? Do you think the word narcissistic is accurate? How much can you relate to it being on fab and dating apps? Be adults and nice PLEASE!! My title was tongue in cheek to try and lighten the mood. I find the woman that said that very interesting and so far I like her take on things in various points and not just about this particular thing above. " I have no doubt there are many who feel this way. ‘Victim to the internet’. I wonder how many people pictured this particular woman who has (hypothetically) plastered her bikini on the World Wide Web. Did you think of a typical model type, all tall and thin and tanned, micro bikini etc? And was the assumption her man is punching? Mr ordinary and therefore less desirable? Because it could equally be the opposite. It could be him that’s the stunning male model, all hunkified and ripplin, with his Speedo Skyns barley covering the python lying beneath. Reality can be very different than the perception. And does seeking adulation make us narcissists? Surely it’s a basic human trait to be desired. If I want to find out if I’m desirable, I need to take that step and put my image out there to be judged. It’s the motivation behind it that defines the subject. Seeking adulation, no matter how transparent or cheap, doesn’t mean I love myself. It’s probably filling a hole left by something psychological from my past. The internet has merely provided me with a vehicle. All that being said, men are supposed to be visual creatures. We apparently favour what we see over anything else and women less so. It therefore stands to reason totties will get more adulation than geezers. We probably look at more porn, more sexy portraits on instagram, fawn over more female celebrities etc. It’s up to us all to be secure about ourselves, how we are appreciated and by whom. If the woman I’m with is more interested in anonymous adulation than subtle validation from me, maybe I’m not in a healthy relationship. But there could be any number of reasons behind why she does what she does and partners are not always blameless innocents. Anyway, I’m off for a wank over some lezzer porn. | |||
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"Just using fab as an example. Women ask for validation based on their appearance, men (and some women) flock to give it. Men ask for validation for their woman partner based on her looks, men (and some women) flock to give it. Men ask for validation based on their looks..." Some Men give it…  | |||
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"Just using fab as an example. Women ask for validation based on their appearance, men (and some women) flock to give it. Men ask for validation for their woman partner based on her looks, men (and some women) flock to give it. Men ask for validation based on their looks... Some Men give it… "They do and some women but a fraction of the number who will tell a woman she's gorgeous. One wonders what possible motivation they might have  | |||
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You all should be ashamed of yourselves. | |||
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"Nearly 60 posts in and not a single one of you saintly souls have inserted the grenade emoji .
You all should be ashamed of yourselves."We were clearly waiting for you to do the dirty dead Nero. | |||
"Mind you all of us who have more than one public picture are seeking approval of some sort of we'd all have fabs disabled " It like a peacock flexing his feathers.
I literally take off my pants and take a photo and post it…. It’s not for a job interview, I’m not daft, I’d like a woman to look at me and think, Damn he’s sexy and I bet his squirty cream would taste lovely on my buns.
Of course we want to be liked… even the ones who pretend they don’t. | |||
"Mind you all of us who have more than one public picture are seeking approval of some sort of we'd all have fabs disabled It like a peacock flexing his feathers.
I literally take off my pants and take a photo and post it…. It’s not for a job interview, I’m not daft, I’d like a woman to look at me and think, Damn he’s sexy and I bet his squirty cream would taste lovely on my buns.
Of course we want to be liked… even the ones who pretend they don’t. "Very true. | |||
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If I was with someone & she craved male validation posting thirst traps or dressed provocative for attention & it made me uncomfortable. I would address it respectfully & if it continued I would walk away simple ass .
I have no attachment issues, in my eyes any women that can be replaced except my mother | |||
but if it make your partner uncomfortable then it’s an issue | |||
"Nearly 60 posts in and not a single one of you saintly souls have inserted the grenade emoji .
You all should be ashamed of yourselves.
We were clearly waiting for you to do the dirty dead Nero."https://youtu.be/jsjdjWGDvFk?si=HvV279f0ypSV39vX This song is now stuck in my head. | |||
"Once a man learns to give himself validation, he's pretty much untouchable. " I think that works regardless of gender. | |||
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"WARNING controversial post, please play nice and don't attack each other or fall out. I'm hoping for a healthy discussion over someone else's words as follows: "Society today is just catering to narcissistic women. If they post a picture online, a bikini picture, there's nothing the husband can do that could compete with that level of accolade. The compliments, the messages, the attention from men around the world with money and things. There's nothing he can do. He can't post online and get the same reaction and more so he can't give her the same level of validation. So what's happened is we've created a setup in society that means men have to compete with a level validation they can't compete with. And if they go online, if they join a dating app that night they can have so many more options than a man can because they've got filters, so the things women can do to manipulate male validation, to get more attention from men, to soothe themselves and remind themselves they are above this, They don't need him, they can replace him. It's something men actually can't do so they have to rely on pornography for that, they replace us with pornography, we replace them with likes and comments on social media" What are your thoughts on this? How accurate do you think this is? Do you think the word narcissistic is accurate? How much can you relate to it being on fab and dating apps? Be adults and nice PLEASE!! My title was tongue in cheek to try and lighten the mood. I find the woman that said that very interesting and so far I like her take on things in various points and not just about this particular thing above. " 100% accurate and I agree with the OP Thank you for writing this | |||
"a compliment from my so means so much more than from some fella online who just wants sex. so the premise is faulty. Same" damn i was about to compliment you too | |||
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"It's not a competition... Real feelings , genuine affection and attention can't be compared to likes and comments on here or social media. Sure it's attention and compliments can be nice and all...and I'm sure it kinda hits the spot sometimes in some ways.But comparable to someone genuinely demonstrating love and affection...No" I agree with Lycan, and others who have said similar. Like fabs, any attention on here for us women should be taken with a massive pinch of salt. You'd be really silly to take any of the attention to heart. It's all shallow and hollow. And probably most of it isn't even meant, just a means for people to get what they want out of you! No social media attention can ever fulfill low self esteem, it probably makes it worse. So I agree, there is ultimately no competition. A loving partner is far better than loads of likes and waffle online! | |||
"It's not a competition... Real feelings , genuine affection and attention can't be compared to likes and comments on here or social media. Sure it's attention and compliments can be nice and all...and I'm sure it kinda hits the spot sometimes in some ways.But comparable to someone genuinely demonstrating love and affection...No I agree with Lycan, and others who have said similar. Like fabs, any attention on here for us women should be taken with a massive pinch of salt. You'd be really silly to take any of the attention to heart. It's all shallow and hollow. And probably most of it isn't even meant, just a means for people to get what they want out of you! No social media attention can ever fulfill low self esteem, it probably makes it worse. So I agree, there is ultimately no competition. A loving partner is far better than loads of likes and waffle online! " Being honest on here most people compliment anything if they feel it will increase odds of a bunk up | |||
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"It's not a competition though. If you really feel you have to compete for your partners affection and attention, is that a happy and healthy relationship that's worth sustaining?" No. No way do we need to compete for his attention | |||
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