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Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
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More sick of the entitlement and the paddy at rejection you see all to often. |
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
More sick of the entitlement and the paddy at rejection you see all to often."
I really like King Charlie's sausage fingers |
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
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Not seen any lecturing, seen plenty of advice from couples and ladies about how best to approach them.
The "lifestyle" is about connections, chemistry, attraction, respect trust and a myriad of other factors.
That some people choose to ignore this, and complain that they "can't get anywhere here" is often worthy of guidance.
Often also not worth it. |
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By *UFSWoman 43 weeks ago
belfast |
"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
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Would you care to expand on what you mean,and/or tell me as a woman how you think the lifestyle should work  |
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Whats annoying is the sense of entitlement. We say no to plenty, more than 95%, but it happens to us too. Its the way of the site, people are free to make choices.
What boils me is when they get incredulous that youve said no; like they are doing me a favour offering their services and I’m as mad as a box of frogs for turning them down.
They still don’t get a lecture mind. A block is less effort.  |
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
Would you care to expand on what you mean,and/or tell me as a woman how you think the lifestyle should work "
You're supposed to put out as and when requested of course. Everyone knows this.
*jokes tinged with sarcasm  |
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"Whats annoying is the sense of entitlement. We say no to plenty, more than 95%, but it happens to us too. Its the way of the site, people are free to make choices.
What boils me is when they get incredulous that youve said no; like they are doing me a favour offering their services and I’m as mad as a box of frogs for turning them down.
They still don’t get a lecture mind. A block is less effort. "
This! |
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
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Maybe you'd be better off going for the mingers? At least they'd be grateful... |
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By *UFSWoman 43 weeks ago
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
Would you care to expand on what you mean,and/or tell me as a woman how you think the lifestyle should work
You're supposed to put out as and when requested of course. Everyone knows this.
*jokes tinged with sarcasm "
That's what I was thinking,but was hoping the op would clear up the matter this leaving no room for doubt |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
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Wild idea.
If a couple or a woman's profile is told from the start: "you are doing it wrong!", how would that make them/her want to get to know that person?
I'd also consider the fact that many of them have been here much longer than a couple of years. They lived the lifestyle and they might have something useful to share about it? Unless it's an unsolicited advice.
T.
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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Ah sorry I misread couple of years. For years as a couple !
Still, I don't believe you or anyone can define the lifestyle for others because it won't be the same for us all.
T |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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I apologise to all
Yesterday, I think, I wrote a post about men being vilified at times.
Please can I retract that post as so far today I am starting to understand why at times.
On a happier note I have a Cornish pasty for lunch whilst sat on the beach
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By *ee VianteWoman 43 weeks ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"This won't end well.  "
Nor should it.
Some men on here seem to actively dislike women and couples, and resent that we won't just do what they want without question.
Chances are, these women and couples are saying how they'd like to be approached, (which is probably in their profiles too). How very dare we? |
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"I really enjoy the Christmas lectures.
Very informative they are 
So do I
Is this lecture one that should be part of the Christmas lectures?"
 Professor Brian Cox explaining this to the audience is sure to be a lecture not to miss |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"I really enjoy the Christmas lectures.
Very informative they are
So do I
Is this lecture one that should be part of the Christmas lectures?
Professor Brian Cox explaining this to the audience is sure to be a lecture not to miss "
Maybe OP will give us the highlights of the lecture |
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site"
I'm with you on that one. I've lost count of the number of times that I've messaged a woman with a friendly "wannafuck?" and they've responded with an entire course on Relativity.
Couldn't one of them talk about Quantum Mechanics for a change? |
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Not really, no.
If I see something that is written about "women" or "38 year olds" or "people in Manchester" or whatever that doesn't apply to me, I disregard it, particularly if I didn't ask for it.
If I see things on people's profiles or in the forum that gives me an idea about how they want to be approached, and I want to approach it, I use that information. |
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I don't lecture, I have a 30 minute PowerPoint presentation ready to go for those who like visual representations. I provide tea, coffee and biscuits along with handouts of the slides. Feedback form optional. |
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"I don't lecture, I have a 30 minute PowerPoint presentation ready to go for those who like visual representations. I provide tea, coffee and biscuits along with handouts of the slides. Feedback form optional. "
PowerPoint....meh
Im waiting on the immersive VR... |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"I don't lecture, I have a 30 minute PowerPoint presentation ready to go for those who like visual representations. I provide tea, coffee and biscuits along with handouts of the slides. Feedback form optional. "
What type of biscuits?
Is there a cake option? |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"I mean, I don't get those ones.
I get the you should lower your standards and not be such a stuck up cunt lecture pretty often though  "
I mean you kissed me once…. So I thought you’d already lowered them pretty damn far already!  |
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
Not seen any lecturing, seen plenty of advice from couples and ladies about how best to approach them.
The "lifestyle" is about connections, chemistry, attraction, respect trust and a myriad of other factors.
That some people choose to ignore this, and complain that they "can't get anywhere here" is often worthy of guidance.
Often also not worth it."
Exactly this... The original post screams he's looking for a dick hole and nothing more..if that's so then don't complain that others have higher standards |
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
More sick of the entitlement and the paddy at rejection you see all to often."
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By *lan157Man 43 weeks ago
a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex |
I am guessing that the OP was a member as a couple and is now 2 weeks a member as a single man and is finding the transition difficult. I have been both and the FAB user experience is totally different just as it is different for a single women versus a single man . |
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By *ee VianteWoman 43 weeks ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
Not seen any lecturing, seen plenty of advice from couples and ladies about how best to approach them.
The "lifestyle" is about connections, chemistry, attraction, respect trust and a myriad of other factors.
That some people choose to ignore this, and complain that they "can't get anywhere here" is often worthy of guidance.
Often also not worth it.
Exactly this... The original post screams he's looking for a dick hole and nothing more..if that's so then don't complain that others have higher standards "
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"I mean, I don't get those ones.
I get the you should lower your standards and not be such a stuck up cunt lecture pretty often though
I mean you kissed me once…. So I thought you’d already lowered them pretty damn far already! "
Just wait until I get my panties lower than my self esteem |
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By *TG3Man 43 weeks ago
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
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let me guess pschology? |
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site
Which specific woman? At least you didn't say 'some female'....that would have really wound people up.  "
Have we not found out about the lectures yet?. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 43 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site
Which specific woman? At least you didn't say 'some female'....that would have really wound people up.
Have we not found out about the lectures yet?. "
Nope. 
Would be useful info.
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By *a LunaWoman 43 weeks ago
South Wales |
If you were in a restaurant and the Waiter started giving you a lecture about Dire Straits would you sit there and listen? Silently tutting and bemoaning waiters.
Or would you stand up, say “excuse me but I came here for a Soup of the Day not a lecture on Dire Straits.” And you’d leave. Move on to another restaurant with a more hospitable atmosphere and that appeals to you more.
You don’t have to sit and listen to folk banging on about this and that. You can just move along. Quietly. In dignified silence. |
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
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How the lifestyle works? Should I have been issued a manual? |
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Women, especially I dare say, the majority of which are single on here will know what/who they want. I certainly know what/who I want. This is probably why most women have what most men may assume are "stroppy" profiles. I could go on but I can't be bothered |
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
Maybe you'd be better off going for the mingers? At least they'd be grateful..."
Coming from a manger here, even I'm not grateful and do occasionally give lectures when its required. |
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
Maybe you'd be better off going for the mingers? At least they'd be grateful...
Coming from a manger here, even I'm not grateful and do occasionally give lectures when its required."
minger even |
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The women and couples on here have preferences. I'd say about 95% of the guys on here don't fit so it's just the way it is. If I read a profile that isn't for me I don't bother reaching out. Just gotta take it on the chin. People are looking for extra-ordinary specific experiences. I've never been lectured by anyone cause I try to respect boundaries. |
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"If you were in a restaurant and the Waiter started giving you a lecture about Dire Straits would you sit there and listen? Silently tutting and bemoaning waiters.
Or would you stand up, say “excuse me but I came here for a Soup of the Day not a lecture on Dire Straits.” And you’d leave. Move on to another restaurant with a more hospitable atmosphere and that appeals to you more.
You don’t have to sit and listen to folk banging on about this and that. You can just move along. Quietly. In dignified silence. "
Incorrect! I'd throw a massive hissy fit, I'd throw my soup all up the walk and then I'd nick the soup spoon, just to be petty |
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"I don't lecture, I have a 30 minute PowerPoint presentation ready to go for those who like visual representations. I provide tea, coffee and biscuits along with handouts of the slides. Feedback form optional.
PowerPoint....meh
Im waiting on the immersive VR..."
That's a bit fancy. Put it on the feedback form  |
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"I don't lecture, I have a 30 minute PowerPoint presentation ready to go for those who like visual representations. I provide tea, coffee and biscuits along with handouts of the slides. Feedback form optional.
What type of biscuits?
Is there a cake option?"
We got bourbons, custard creams and jammy dodgers....I did have chocolate hob nobs but I saw Janet from HR looking sneaky surrounded by biscuit crumbs  |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"I don't lecture, I have a 30 minute PowerPoint presentation ready to go for those who like visual representations. I provide tea, coffee and biscuits along with handouts of the slides. Feedback form optional.
What type of biscuits?
Is there a cake option?
We got bourbons, custard creams and jammy dodgers....I did have chocolate hob nobs but I saw Janet from HR looking sneaky surrounded by biscuit crumbs "
Pass me over a couple or 6 custard creams please |
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"I don't lecture, I have a 30 minute PowerPoint presentation ready to go for those who like visual representations. I provide tea, coffee and biscuits along with handouts of the slides. Feedback form optional.
What type of biscuits?
Is there a cake option?
We got bourbons, custard creams and jammy dodgers....I did have chocolate hob nobs but I saw Janet from HR looking sneaky surrounded by biscuit crumbs
Pass me over a couple or 6 custard creams please "
I hope you are paying attention to the presentation, I have a 64 question exam at the end |
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"I don't lecture, I have a 30 minute PowerPoint presentation ready to go for those who like visual representations. I provide tea, coffee and biscuits along with handouts of the slides. Feedback form optional.
PowerPoint....meh
Im waiting on the immersive VR..."
I'm pretty sure some flashcards with pictures would work better, simple enough for even the men to understand. |
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"Who else is sick of the Lecture some woman give men on this site , I've been here as a couple for years and met great couples all over UK/Abroad ,used the lifestyle for what it is , Getting Lectured by couples and woman who have no idea how the lifestyle works .
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How does it work? Explain without lecturing pls. And explain so that your explanation works for everyone please thanks. I sound like I’m lecturing I think but anyway, I’d love to know! |
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