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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've struggled with confidence issues all my life and I don't think it will ever change. A mixture of self esteem issues, trauma and vicious people have shaped who I am and it's hard to shake off. What I am working on is being kinder to myself, that's the best I can hope for right now. |
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"Would you say that you are confident or do you struggle with meeting new people etc"
No I'm not that confident at all, it's one of my biggest failings in life. I'm much better than I used to be though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've struggled with confidence issues all my life and I don't think it will ever change. A mixture of self esteem issues, trauma and vicious people have shaped who I am and it's hard to shake off. What I am working on is being kinder to myself, that's the best I can hope for right now."
Yes be kind to yourself I learned to do that,I was always confident growing up ,but when I hit my late 30s I was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid and my weight has doubled since then,my hubby of 25 years even left me because he said he just didn't fancy me anymore,that hit me hard and I struggled,but now I'm at an age where I have accepted who I am ect,I'm the same person I've always been,just a hell of alot more of me  |
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I can be quite shy and do struggle meeting and talking to new people, especially in clubs. I try and push myself out of my comfort zone a little though, because that’s the best way to have a good time |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can be quite shy and do struggle meeting and talking to new people, especially in clubs. I try and push myself out of my comfort zone a little though, because that’s the best way to have a good time "
Aye that is so very true,just put you out there  |
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Masking is the key 
The fab version of me is alot different to the real me, when we go to a club or meet I just play at being a confident woman and most of the time it works, other times i've crumbled over the pressure. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Im fairly Confident,
Sure if you survived primary and secondary school in the 80/90s as a ginger in Ireland and came out the other side stronger for it, safe to say your are confident. "
I was a ginger in school to but there was a few of us back then,so I wasn't really teased about my ginger hair |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Masking is the key
The fab version of me is alot different to the real me, when we go to a club or meet I just play at being a confident woman and most of the time it works, other times i've crumbled over the pressure. "
I can understand that,I some hide behind humour,sometimes it works and sometimes it doesnt |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Would you say that you are confident or do you struggle with meeting new people etc
I don't think those 2 things are necessarily the same. I would answer your questions as 1) Yes and 2) No."
Hmmm fair point |
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I used to be very confident and outgoing until I hit the menopause then I slowly started to lose it. This last 18 months I've had no confidence and since Jay died its even worse.
I do wonder where the old me went and if she will come back |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In person no but I’m shy on fab
Shy? You? Hmmmm
I haven’t sent a dick pic yet. Everyone else is doing it.
But you do have one.on your profile  "
Peeping Jane half of it is covered |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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"Would you say that you are confident or do you struggle with meeting new people etc"
I struggle a bit initlly but as I have a hearing disability making the first approach can be a little daunting.
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I'm not the most confident I'm trying to make myself more confident by putting myself in situations I don't normally thrive in, I go to clubs regularly but do find it difficult initiating the convo at times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suffer with imposter syndrome quite bad in a professional sense, but can fake a level of confidence in that area.
In other aspects, I suppose I carry on with that same "fake it till I make it" attitude. I find it easy to falsely project confidence all while keeping a lid on the screaming in my head haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The clue is in my name.
As a child I was extremely confident, at the front for everything, always making new friends and this continued through my teenage years. Unfortunately in my early twenties I had my confidence seriously knocked and I haven't fully regained it.
I am getting better but I am still quite shy around new people until I get to know them and feel comfortable around them. |
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Yes I'm confident, not much fazes me and I generally enjoy meeting new people, happy to stand up and do presentations etc. I have been told that I seem aloof or even shy sometimes, but that's generally because I'm either sussing people out or bored. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I'm confident, not much fazes me and I generally enjoy meeting new people, happy to stand up and do presentations etc. I have been told that I seem aloof or even shy sometimes, but that's generally because I'm either sussing people out or bored. "
thats funny |
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"Would you say that you are confident or do you struggle with meeting new people etc"
I’m confident in work and socially I quite enjoy meeting new people.
Big groups who all know each other and I’m the newbie are more difficult, perhaps because I find it uncomfortable to interrupt. Picking off one or two is an easier way to work my way in.
It’s definitely a skill you can learn and improve and I love learning new things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you say that you are confident or do you struggle with meeting new people etc"
Confident with an under current of nervousness that passes in a little bit of time |
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Socially I can be reserved and a bit shy at first and though I have learnt to be more confident since I first joined Fab, there are still times when I feel out of my depth and a bit of a fraud…I guess that’s the imposter syndrome thing  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In person no but I’m shy on fab
Shy? You? Hmmmm
I haven’t sent a dick pic yet. Everyone else is doing it.
But you do have one.on your profile
Peeping Jane half of it is covered "
Well I'm a red blooded female I had to look |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've struggled with confidence issues all my life and I don't think it will ever change. A mixture of self esteem issues, trauma and vicious people have shaped who I am and it's hard to shake off. What I am working on is being kinder to myself, that's the best I can hope for right now."
I totally know where you are coming from I feel the same no self confidence
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've struggled with confidence issues all my life and I don't think it will ever change. A mixture of self esteem issues, trauma and vicious people have shaped who I am and it's hard to shake off. What I am working on is being kinder to myself, that's the best I can hope for right now. I totally know where you are coming from I feel the same no self confidence "
Be kind to yourself you look good |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
Confident and outgoing both online and in person. Never experienced difficulties in meeting people here and did everything possible to calm the other's nerves if they were having any |
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
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Would say I'm confident in myself & don't struggle much meeting new people as I'm very easy going .
Problem comes when the people don't put in effort then I get bored/lose patience quick & move on |
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I didn't have any self confidence at all until about 7 or 8 years ago and a number of things happened to change that.
I'm still not one for starting random conversations with strangers but I can hold my own and rarely suffer from nerves.
That could be linked to having anhedonia so there is no nervous anticipation or excitement before or after any event and it means I'm always in the moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m fine once I’ve met a new person, but full of anxiety before hand.
Even on here hidden behind a keyboard, it can be daunting sending a message to someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I struggle with meeting new people but I don't back out of it if that makes sense. I'll force myself into the situation. Sometimes it's awkward, sometimes it's fine. Completely depends on the person too, sometimes you talk to someone new and you bounce off each other and I feel comfortable and confident... but there are times that definitely isn't the case.
I wouldn't say that I ooze confidence, but I do alright. I did used to have crippling anxiety and had panic attacks at the slightest things but luckily I don't see that side of me too often anymore thank goodness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've struggled with confidence issues all my life and I don't think it will ever change. A mixture of self esteem issues, trauma and vicious people have shaped who I am and it's hard to shake off. What I am working on is being kinder to myself, that's the best I can hope for right now."
I’m suprised. You seem like a confident women on here.
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By *eladeCouple
over a year ago
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I am very confident,I used to worry about my body but then went to sex clubs.It made me feel very comfortable in my skin and now I love been naked.Tbh I would be naked all the time if I could. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Hmmm. It's not quite as simple as confident or not for me. Sometimes I get those butterflies and I'm nervous but in a positive way and when I relax into it I'm very confident. With socials I find it a bit of a sensory overload at first and then the confidence kicks in. Outside of Fab, yes, generally I'm quite confident. Quietly so. I'm confident in my abilities and what I have to offer.
But then all of that can be affected by external factors which makes my confidence waver. So it's very varied. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m more confident around men than I am women for some reason. But it does also depend on the other person as sometimes I bounce off of them. In groups I’m not confident, think I suffer from social anxiety hence why I’ve not had the courage to go to any socials yet. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"If I know ya - super confident. If I don’t then I kinda people watch and like to get to know the situation
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It took me 6 months to speak to the ladies that sit behind me at football
I am rubbish at asking people to play lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I probably come across as a lot more confident than I actually am. I’m not the type of person that will see a big group of people and confidently walk over and strike up a conversation. One to one I’m a lot better , especially when I meet people who i can click with straight away. Outwardly confident i think the word is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I probably come across as a lot more confident than I actually am. I’m not the type of person that will see a big group of people and confidently walk over and strike up a conversation. One to one I’m a lot better , especially when I meet people who i can click with straight away. Outwardly confident i think the word is. "
I’m the opposite is there a name for that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm super confident with new people.. They have nothing to judge me by...but I'm shyer /less confident amongst acquaintances "
Just to clarify - individuals, not groups! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I probably come across as a lot more confident than I actually am. I’m not the type of person that will see a big group of people and confidently walk over and strike up a conversation. One to one I’m a lot better , especially when I meet people who i can click with straight away. Outwardly confident i think the word is.
I’m the opposite is there a name for that? "
Confident? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the situation. I can stand in front of a group of people and talk about my job/hobby with no feat at all.
Ask me to chat up a woman and I'm fucked. Just not in the way I'd like hahaha
Terrible lack of confidence chatting to women irl. Online, again not a problem really.
If we do ever get as far as the bedroom my anxiety levels shoot up !!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not shy, or arrogant but I definitelycan seem shy at first.. I like to way up people when I first meet them,firstly to not come across up myself but also to test see if the other person is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I probably come across as a lot more confident than I actually am. I’m not the type of person that will see a big group of people and confidently walk over and strike up a conversation. One to one I’m a lot better , especially when I meet people who i can click with straight away. Outwardly confident i think the word is.
I’m the opposite is there a name for that?
Confident?"
Inwardly confident |
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