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The struggle of being a new single guy on fab is real
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So I've now been on the site for about 4 weeks.
I've added a few pics, photo verified my profile etc etc.
I'm pretty much hitting a brick wall with all females and couples I contact. My messages 9 times out of 10 just get deleted, the rest read and then ghosted.
I'm not crude in my approach, I write more than one sentence and I offer pics. I'm not sure what a newbie single guy is meant to do on here to have any success. A lot of people insist on veris but if you never get a chance to get one in the first place how am I meant to progress...
Feeling really frustrated.
Any advice? |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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Mate at least I’m not the only one, had my account on here for around a year and it’s the same every time I log on, ain’t no one will to give you a chance no matter what you say or do, ready to delete it and forget about it |
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By *C44Man 20 weeks ago
Ipswich |
Supply and demand. There is a huge supply of single men, I suspect the average woman or couple receives triple figures of messages from single guys in a week. They are likely looking for either 1 man, a couple or a woman themselves. |
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Yeah you stay on here because there's always a chance but it's so miniscule. On my other account I was kind respectful has pics. Sent proper messages. Gave up in the end and now just come on here to perv |
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"So I've now been on the site for about 4 weeks.
I've added a few pics, photo verified my profile etc etc.
I'm pretty much hitting a brick wall with all females and couples I contact. My messages 9 times out of 10 just get deleted, the rest read and then ghosted.
I'm not crude in my approach, I write more than one sentence and I offer pics. I'm not sure what a newbie single guy is meant to do on here to have any success. A lot of people insist on veris but if you never get a chance to get one in the first place how am I meant to progress...
Feeling really frustrated.
Any advice?"
I would suggest visiting some clubs? I see your in Kent? Try eureka on a Saturday night or pleasures on a Friday, go and meet new people and make new connections there |
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You got a verification from a couple 2 weeks in, so clearly there's at minimum one user here who's picking up what you're putting down.
If you aren't getting any engagement from sending messages, have you considered attending socials in your area? Networking is a vastly underrated skill. |
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"So I've now been on the site for about 4 weeks.
I've added a few pics, photo verified my profile etc etc.
I'm pretty much hitting a brick wall with all females and couples I contact. My messages 9 times out of 10 just get deleted, the rest read and then ghosted.
I'm not crude in my approach, I write more than one sentence and I offer pics. I'm not sure what a newbie single guy is meant to do on here to have any success. A lot of people insist on veris but if you never get a chance to get one in the first place how am I meant to progress...
Feeling really frustrated.
Any advice?"
Everyone knows the struggle is real for men.
And posts like this won't help you being honest |
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By (user no longer on site) 20 weeks ago
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Mate, for a single bloke. This site is mostly garbage. I'm just here for the banter and if it happens, great! It's 10x easier in real life to meet up with women. My advice? Go to socials.
I used fab probably 10 years ago and it was much better - more niche? Now, apparently, it's filled with guys and not enough gals. I guess the gals get bombarded with messages and as a result , are super picky.
Long story short. Don't beat yourself up over it. Unless you appeal to someone's fetish, it's not really worth the effort. |
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"So I've now been on the site for about 4 weeks.
I've added a few pics, photo verified my profile etc etc.
I'm pretty much hitting a brick wall with all females and couples I contact. My messages 9 times out of 10 just get deleted, the rest read and then ghosted.
I'm not crude in my approach, I write more than one sentence and I offer pics. I'm not sure what a newbie single guy is meant to do on here to have any success. A lot of people insist on veris but if you never get a chance to get one in the first place how am I meant to progress...
Feeling really frustrated.
Any advice?"
I'll try not to follow the same path as most replies on this theme go. Let's try something new......
What would success on here look like for you compared to how you're doing now? |
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"So I've now been on the site for about 4 weeks.
I've added a few pics, photo verified my profile etc etc.
I'm pretty much hitting a brick wall with all females and couples I contact. My messages 9 times out of 10 just get deleted, the rest read and then ghosted.
I'm not crude in my approach, I write more than one sentence and I offer pics. I'm not sure what a newbie single guy is meant to do on here to have any success. A lot of people insist on veris but if you never get a chance to get one in the first place how am I meant to progress...
Feeling really frustrated.
Any advice?"
We don't know the content of your messages or who you've sent them to, so it's impossible to offer advice.
Fab gives us almost limitless opportunities to connect.
Clubs.
Group socials.
Messages.
Advertised meets.
To advertise meets ourselves.
And most importantly our photo gallery and biog.
Are you maximising all of them?
Are you adequately stating what you offer and what you're looking for?
Does your biog suggest youd take the time to to make connections, or you're just interested in getting your dick wet?
What we're your expectations when you joined?
In a vanilla pub it's easier to show your personality and connect with people, even getting sex on a night out.
Online it doesn't work like that.
On a site dedicated to swinging, opposed to just getting laid, if you just want sex, you're in the wrong place.
4 weeks isn't even the blink of an eye on Fab.
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By *rezzy876Man 20 weeks ago
St. Helens / Merseyside |
I've gotten close to meet and they ghosted me at last minute, some person will talk to you for days if not weeks and still will be a no show it takes time and depend on if you want to meet at club or locally or drive to meet someone, you might get lucky soon. |
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By *CBoyTV/TS 20 weeks ago
Tonypandy |
Well that's normal. Guys join to find sex because they're not getting enough without Fab. So no reason to think that this will magically change because of a hook up site. There's no guarantees . |
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By *bi HaiveMan 20 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Every guy on the site was new once.
Plenty find their way.
But it takes time. And if Fab is your sole route to finding sex then expect an uphill struggle. Yes people use it for casual encounters but it's a swingers site. Those that do well will use the site as part of their approach, not all of it. Clubs, socials, networking and taking things slowly with no sense of expectations. The site works for many. If its not working for you, then you have the choice to adapt or continue as you are. |
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