Looking for a kind, gentle and above all patient lady

Man in Ripon, North East, UK

Joined: over a year ago
Last on: 8 hours ago

Hello. The reason I am looking for someone kind, gentle and patient is that for the last 5/6 years I have had phimosis, which is a very tight foreskin. This has prevented me from having a full erection because when aroused I cannot retract my foreskin at all and can only get semi-erect due to the foreskin still covering the end of my cock. I have tried retracting my foreskin before becoming erect, but this leaves my foreskin very tight on my shaft just behind my bellend, so tight that it restricts the flow of blood into my cock and again I cannot get fully erect.

I am now due within the next month or two to be circumcised to correct this by removing the foreskin altogether, and this is why I have joined Fabswingers, to find someone who would be willing to help me back to full sexual activity.

I am worried about being able to have sex properly again for two big reasons. Firstly because of my condition I have not had sex for six years, nor have I had a full erection during this time. Secondly, once circumcised I know that my bellend will have to lose some sensitivity, or at the least have a different sensitivity. Because of this I am worried about how I would be aroused in future to become erect enough for penetration.

I am not in a current relationship because I couldn’t start a new one without the ability to consummate the relationship – I couldn’t expect someone to be celibate for God knows how long waiting for me to be able to have sex with them. Similarly, after I’ve been circumcised I want to know that I’m fully able to pleasure them before starting any new relationship.

What I would like is to find someone willing to have a NSA arrangement and educate my newly-cut penis back into full action. Because I don’t really know how how things will feel to me, or how my penis will react to various stimuli, I am looking for what I’ve put in my headline – a woman who can kindly appreciate my situation, be gentle with me (at least until we know how things are going) and above all be patient with me as it might be a slow journey and require trying different and new ways of doing things to get the best results from me. One thing I am concerned about is that my cock used to get to its biggest and hardest when being sucked (even though I very rarely orgasmed during oral sex) and it was oral that made it ready for sex more than anything else: I don’t know whether this will still be the same after being circumcised and my penis is less sensitive.

I do not think of this as being all about me, I’ve always been a lover who gets almost as much pleasure from my lover’s pleasure as they do. I always want to make sure that my lover has enjoyed herself so even if my cock disappoints to start with I am always ready with my fingers and tongue to try and make them orgasm as many times as I can.

This may be a little controversial, but I have to mention it: because I have no idea how sex is going to feel with a less sensitive glans, I therefore also have no idea how this will affect me achieving orgasm during sex. Although I am willing to use condoms, it would be nice to meet someone who is happy to fuck bareback – and be happy for me to cum inside them - at some point so that I can find out how things will be different for me. I do understand though that this isn't for everyone and I am just as happy to play safe if that's what you want.

It would be nice if I could find someone willing to take me in hand (as it were) who is of a similar age to myself. By the time you’re this old you’re beginning to get used to bits of you not working properly all the time and I would expect them to have the patience I’m hoping to find. If you’re younger but would maybe like to help me please don’t be put off from contacting me – I am happy to be helped by anyone regardless of age, size, race or looks. What I am looking for ahead of any of those attributes is the kindness and patience of someone who appreciates my situation and is willing to help me.

It would be nice to find someone within 20 miles of Harrogate, but I'm willing to consider outside that radius depending on circumstances.

Newly Cut

60 years old, Straight

5'8" 173cm
Ample
Non smoker
Don't drink
No tattoos
No piercings

Looking For

Women
Aged from 18 to 99
Will meet smokers

Meeting

Can accommodate
Can travel

Interests

Blindfolds, Oral, Toys

Friends

Kate (40) & p (47), Couple