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On my old profile used to occasionally use the Meet thing and never actually managed to arrange a meet off the back of it, so maybe no responses is better than fantasists and time wasters who couldn't make it to the right place at the right time.
Overall I think Fab is worth the effort if used in conjunction with club visits, but is hard work to start with. |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
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I’ve always said I wouldn’t be on here as a single guy . It’s way over subscribed for single guys compared to single women and couples .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
Crikey what are they after in the South....
It can be hard work, if this is the only option you have for sex... Good luck hun x |
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Maybe it is what it is!
If I was looking for a single man , I’d not reply about one of their meets. I’d choose one a different way! That being said I’ve also been blown out by single men.
Try a different approach and find what works
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
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It's worth it to us. As to whether it's worth it to you, only you can decide that. |
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All bar one of my meets have come from searching profiles and chatting rather than posted meets, and that was a meet I responded to rather than posted myself.
But, yes, there is some great fun to be had with some lovely people
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
of course but no substitute for talking to your target audience, the women don't come to you you have to go to them |
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"Maybe it is what it is!
If I was looking for a single man , I’d not reply about one of their meets. I’d choose one a different way! That being said I’ve also been blown out by single men.
Try a different approach and find what works
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You’ve been blown out!!! Blimey by who Stevie Wonder!!?!? Gorgeous pictures on your profile x |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HGof course but no substitute for talking to your target audience, the women don't come to you you have to go to them "
Not true. I do my own searching. It’s rare that I meet a man who has messaged me first. |
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over a year ago
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I think it depends on the areas you are in with regards to meets. Some areas have more than others.
Plus it depends on the people. A lot of decent people have left since I was last on around 18 months ago. So it’s peaks and troughs. I mainly use Fab now for the forums.
I find some people on Fab are quite rude and arrogant which ruins the experience, but there are some good ones out there. |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG
Crikey what are they after in the South....
It can be hard work, if this is the only option you have for sex... Good luck hun x"
Haha no not my only option, but seeing as this is a site for meeting people for sex, I just hoped it would be easier to at least get chatting to lady’s to get to know them better ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HGof course but no substitute for talking to your target audience, the women don't come to you you have to go to them
Not true. I do my own searching. It’s rare that I meet a man who has messaged me first. "
oh well their ya go it is possible but I would say you are in a minority though  |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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Yes, it's worth it, there are some lovely people on here but whatever sex you are it's difficult finding people that float your boat. Worse though if you're a guy going by the _mount of moaning in the forums and my local statuses!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HGof course but no substitute for talking to your target audience, the women don't come to you you have to go to them
Not true. I do my own searching. It’s rare that I meet a man who has messaged me first. oh well their ya go it is possible but I would say you are in a minority though "
I've also done this. The man I'm now seeing exclusively, I messaged first |
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over a year ago
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
Go to a club! |
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over a year ago
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
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Go to a club! "
Have you been to a club OP? |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
Malcolm here Aka suitednbooted. 100% yes but I have been on here 5 years now so can speak with experience. If single guys come on here and expect instant meets you will sadly be disappointed, unless you are incredibly handsome then you may well do. Biggest piece of advice I could give you is not to look at this as an instant hook up site but as a sex networking site. Focus on growing your network, attend parties, make friends with other guys so you can possibly offer more than a single guy experience. You will notice a lot of greedy ladies and couples on here want multiple guys. Get verified even if it’s by webcam, build an interesting profile and set of pictures. Above all don’t expect to have women crawling over you. You have to do most of the running. Be prepared for the long haul. It’s taken me 5 years to grow and develop a network of fbs on the same page as me. Years 1 and 2 were pretty barren. Having the best sex of my life now with some very hot women, so yes Fab is worth it  |
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I think as a single guy it's almost impossible. Great wank material looking at the pics and forum stories and I manage some horny chats but very rare to meet anyone these days.
I first joined over ten years ago and even then it was a challenge but I did manage quite a lot of fun meets
Ive had couples profiles as well so saw it from the other side. Got absolutely inundated and even people we quite liked it was tricky to get things moving.
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"Personally I never look in the Meet section.
So where do you look.... precisely ??
I just look at a guys profile, it it catches my eye them I'll send them a message x"
Hmmm checks inbox.....bugger....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
I did not see you hang a meet up mind you I don't really look at them. To busy with my mail.
Of course its worth every effort.
Fabswingers is worth it after all. You can meet lots of people...  |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG
Go to a club! "
No I’ve thought about it, I’ve mentioned in another thread, I’m kinda not at ease going to a club as a single male, i’d feel outa place and awkward, would like a lady with me, not necessarily to hook up, but just a club partner if you like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had some amazing meets and some bad ones thst come with massive _mounts of pressure and stress. It's 30/70 for me. Sometimes I want to walk away but 30% wants to believe it can get better and I will find what I came on here for x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HGof course but no substitute for talking to your target audience, the women don't come to you you have to go to them
Not true. I do my own searching. It’s rare that I meet a man who has messaged me first. oh well their ya go it is possible but I would say you are in a minority though
I've also done this. The man I'm now seeing exclusively, I messaged first "
Well I know you're the exception to every rule |
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"On my old profile used to occasionally use the Meet thing and never actually managed to arrange a meet off the back of it, so maybe no responses is better than fantasists and time wasters who couldn't make it to the right place at the right time.
Overall I think Fab is worth the effort if used in conjunction with club visits, but is hard work to start with. "
Hard work for you, and you're a single woman on fab!!!  what does that make it for us single men then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've found it very hard work as an older single man. I've had two meets in just over a year,though both couples were really great. So many couples & ladies block messages from older men. As for going to a club,I'm not prepared to pay £40 to get into my nearest club,so I guess this single man ever the optomist will just continue sending messages to people that will delete with out replying in the hope that I get lucky. |
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By *moMan
over a year ago
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It's worth it but it has to be said some women on here are on power trips and some just love to get as many photo fabs as possible. 50% of the women who message me need to learn how to talk nicely to men and when I look at their profile it reminds me of applying for jobs. I'll probably get slaughtered for this, oh well! Anyway apart from them lot it's good lol |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
Fabville |
"It's worth it but it has to be said some women on here are on power trips and some just love to get as many photo fabs as possible. 50% of the women who message me need to learn how to talk nicely to men and when I look at their profile it reminds me of applying for jobs. I'll probably get slaughtered for this, oh well! Anyway apart from them lot it's good lol "
I'm sorry that you've had a negative experience. We're not all bad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
You posted a meet! How much effort was that? |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
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You posted a meet! How much effort was that?"
Huge, do you know how slow I am at typing, and there is the spell check, honestly it’s like an hour every sentence |
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By *niper oneMan
over a year ago
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
its shite mate easier on pof by a golden mile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On my old profile used to occasionally use the Meet thing and never actually managed to arrange a meet off the back of it, so maybe no responses is better than fantasists and time wasters who couldn't make it to the right place at the right time.
Overall I think Fab is worth the effort if used in conjunction with club visits, but is hard work to start with. "
I had a “meet me” up today, got a good _mount of timewasters and “let’s me now and fuck” messages, so never actually got to meet anyone.
Doesn’t put me off one bit though! I’m a patient girl. |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
If you see it as 'effort' then probably not.
If it's just a bit of a time bandit (other webshites are available) with some fruity contributors and the chance of getting them wrapped around your cock thrown in then yes.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Theres so many time wasters on here its unreal. Suppose i gravatise back to it every so often.
Maybe im too picky on this site, but I have better luck pulling sitting in a coffee shop though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For women it’s a piece of cake, zero to minimal effort required, our upper effort level would never match what the average man has to do Day in and out on here.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HGits shite mate easier on pof by a golden mile."
I disagree, FAB is awesome, I get what I want on here fairly easily |
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Yes yes yes
I initially joined as a single female, thought it was ok then but now I have my own superhero its massively exceeded my expectations!
I've made some great friends from here, there are lots of awesome people you just need to wade through the dicks and desperados to find them!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it’s simply supply and demand. There’s a ton of guys and a limited supply of women. They have all the power  if you turned the tables it would be a different experience for guys. Am I wrong? |
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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
We're members of two other sites for different interests and are paying what many would argue extortionate fees but for the value we receive, the fees are worth it.
This site is virtually free and with that price, you get what you pay for. It would be safe to say don't expect a concierge service from a budget hotel!
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
If you were closer I'd totally meet you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a couple definitely,I guess it depends what your looking for,If your looking for a woman just to have sexy fun with you might be better on a normal dating site, I know off quite a few women who want to meet a guy that they can go to clubs with who have profiles on mainstream dating sites
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single guy.....No, would use other vanilla dating sites but be very honest about what you want. Couples and single females then yes, definately worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Morning...I wouldn't respond to a meet request. My opinion of those is that the person just wants anyone.
I'd rather meet someone who is selective & wants to meet me because I am me, not because I'm available.
I may be living in a fairy tale with that kind of thinking but I do fab my way.
Generally I look at the updates & if anyone catches my attention, then I'll send a message. My best meets have all started with me taking the piss out of their status |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Single guy.....No, would use other vanilla dating sites but be very honest about what you want. Couples and single females then yes, definately worth it."
Totally agree,The ratio of single guys on here to single women is incredibly high
And M/F couples are usually looking for young exceptional males unless you fall into that category it could get rather disheartening on here |
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We responsed to a meet request when we 1st joined fab. It was successful 
Looking at your photos, and loving what I was seeing as I'm a sucker for stylish suits because I like to dress like a lady however your wedding ring reflected in the mirror could be the reason maybe you're not getting many answers to your meet requests? *Mrs |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG
Crikey what are they after in the South....
It can be hard work, if this is the only option you have for sex... Good luck hun x
Haha no not my only option, but seeing as this is a site for meeting people for sex, I just hoped it would be easier to at least get chatting to lady’s to get to know them better ??"
So you joined Fab expecting sex on tap? Expecting women to just drop their nics for you? Good luck on here with this philosophy  |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG
Crikey what are they after in the South....
It can be hard work, if this is the only option you have for sex... Good luck hun x
Haha no not my only option, but seeing as this is a site for meeting people for sex, I just hoped it would be easier to at least get chatting to lady’s to get to know them better ??
So you joined Fab expecting sex on tap? Expecting women to just drop their nics for you? Good luck on here with this philosophy "
Not at all, perhaps read my profile, might tell you more about me and my philosophy, but silly old me did kinda expected to at least meet and chat to some ladies with a view to progressing to the bedroom at some point....I just don’t know what I was thinking!!!! |
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"We responsed to a meet request when we 1st joined fab. It was successful
Looking at your photos, and loving what I was seeing as I'm a sucker for stylish suits because I like to dress like a lady however your wedding ring reflected in the mirror could be the reason maybe you're not getting many answers to your meet requests? *Mrs "
Could well be the reason x |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG
Crikey what are they after in the South....
It can be hard work, if this is the only option you have for sex... Good luck hun x
Haha no not my only option, but seeing as this is a site for meeting people for sex, I just hoped it would be easier to at least get chatting to lady’s to get to know them better ??
So you joined Fab expecting sex on tap? Expecting women to just drop their nics for you? Good luck on here with this philosophy "
Please tell me where he said he wants a woman to drop their nics for him and sex on tap??
You even quoted him...all he said was he thought this place would be easier to get talking to ladys.
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"OP, most of my meets have resulted from chats & flirting in the forums. I never look at meets, unless it's one that somebody on my hotlist has posted. "
I try to chat, but even getting a response on here can be difficult, and as for the forums, Jesus it can be a jungle in here at times... although there are a few di_monds in the rough that’s for certain |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG
Crikey what are they after in the South....
It can be hard work, if this is the only option you have for sex... Good luck hun x
Haha no not my only option, but seeing as this is a site for meeting people for sex, I just hoped it would be easier to at least get chatting to lady’s to get to know them better ??
So you joined Fab expecting sex on tap? Expecting women to just drop their nics for you? Good luck on here with this philosophy
Please tell me where he said he wants a woman to drop their nics for him and sex on tap??
You even quoted him...all he said was he thought this place would be easier to get talking to ladys.
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Pssshhhh don’t let small details like facts get in the way of someone having a pop for the sake of having a pop ..... |
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"OP, most of my meets have resulted from chats & flirting in the forums. I never look at meets, unless it's one that somebody on my hotlist has posted.
I try to chat, but even getting a response on here can be difficult, and as for the forums, Jesus it can be a jungle in here at times... although there are a few di_monds in the rough that’s for certain "
Sorry...what did you say ? I was perving at you |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
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Crikey what are they after in the South....
It can be hard work, if this is the only option you have for sex... Good luck hun x
Haha no not my only option, but seeing as this is a site for meeting people for sex, I just hoped it would be easier to at least get chatting to lady’s to get to know them better ??
So you joined Fab expecting sex on tap? Expecting women to just drop their nics for you? Good luck on here with this philosophy
Please tell me where he said he wants a woman to drop their nics for him and sex on tap??
You even quoted him...all he said was he thought this place would be easier to get talking to ladys.
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He said it’s a site meeting people for sex! Maybe I was blunt and I apologise for that but this is just another Male whinging that he can’t meet a lady for sex on this site.
I’m just staying the obvious. He’s a Male so needs to put some work in not just post meets. The ladies won’t come running to him....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
Personally I found the meet request thing a waste of time, however, in general I love fab, have met some amazing men in the last year, and I am VERY picky |
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Yes, it absolutely is.
Going to socials with no agenda other than to meet people (and more importantly let them see a real person), plus being the friendly, but respectful guy at a club (who isn't stalking around like a mass murderer) is definitely the way to go. I now have a social circle of genuine friends and people who I'm getting to know, male, female and couples. I'm no adonis, no movie star, but I can make conversation that isn't just asking if a woman wants sex i.e. 'putting up a blind meet' and am able to demonstrate a bit of class in person, which is the key. All of this, couple with putting together an individual, thoughtful message, accompanied by a few face photos will get you far more success. Even doing all of this will get you ignored by the majority of women, but take the silences or rejections like a man - politely and with the same good grace you would an offer from a woman - and you'll be well on the way to success. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, it absolutely is.
Going to socials with no agenda other than to meet people (and more importantly let them see a real person), plus being the friendly, but respectful guy at a club (who isn't stalking around like a mass murderer) is definitely the way to go. I now have a social circle of genuine friends and people who I'm getting to know, male, female and couples. I'm no adonis, no movie star, but I can make conversation that isn't just asking if a woman wants sex i.e. 'putting up a blind meet' and am able to demonstrate a bit of class in person, which is the key. All of this, couple with putting together an individual, thoughtful message, accompanied by a few face photos will get you far more success. Even doing all of this will get you ignored by the majority of women, but take the silences or rejections like a man - politely and with the same good grace you would an offer from a woman - and you'll be well on the way to success. Good luck. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"NO due to putting all the hard work with no results i would say. its just chat site now i think loll
Hard work ! Try doing a 12hr shift on an acute medical ward "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
For us Definetly yes they're are all the problems that people say on here but every once in a while a di_mond appears and that's worth all the effort. |
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Sometimes its worth it other times its not .There are a lot of people who are so far up their own arse its unreal but on the whole we find it ok ,Apart from the people who block without even chatting but hey ho shit happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes it is but it can be frustrating. I post meets but I've never had a successful meet from them.
It is worth it when you find the gems on the site, but you have to sort through the rough to find the di_monds.
If it's getting to you, try a short break, we all need a break at times.
PS you're on my hotlist OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes fab is well worth it im absolutly loving this site iv bumped into some lovelly people created orgasms with the odd one too but most of all made some great friends and had some laughs
and thats without clubs and socials so just off here alone
I bloody love it its great fun |
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By *niper oneMan
over a year ago
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
Stick to pof mate its easier and the end product is the same if not better. |
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"Fab is like most on here worth fuck all effort.
Like you would go crawling to some shaggy titted old hag in a pub so why do it on here  "
Sounds like you've had rather too much sherry. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Fab is like most on here worth fuck all effort.
Like you would go crawling to some shaggy titted old hag in a pub so why do it on here
Sounds like you've had rather too much sherry."
Irish whisky surely if he's Dave Allen as his avatar suggests Sapps? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fab is like most on here worth fuck all effort.
Like you would go crawling to some shaggy titted old hag in a pub so why do it on here
Sounds like you've had rather too much sherry.
Irish whisky surely if he's Dave Allen as his avatar suggests Sapps? "
Some class of dancing juice, thats for sure
One wonders why men that find the ladies on here so offensive, are here at all.
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Fab is worth the effort. If you can chat to girls in real life like they’re regular human beings and you can address couples as such you’ll do alright.
IF however you think you’re entitled to meet and fuck whoever you want you’ll struggle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been and off here years never seen any lady's on here yet
That's because we prefer men who aren't disrespectful and stroppy. "
Am not Stroppy disrespectful yes lol |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
You’ve met Lady Lick, there’s your answer right there...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"NO due to putting all the hard work with no results i would say. its just chat site now i think loll
Hard work ! Try doing a 12hr shift on an acute medical ward "
This op |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think fab is worth it. But it is addictive and the forums keep me here.
However I think I would of had more sex meets if I stayed on fab or tinder.
I didn't know there was a meet section on this site though? Still doubt it would be any good though. |
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"We have never had any luck from posting a specific meet. Have more luck with clubs and socials."
I’m exactly the opposite lol! I’ve posted meets up for when I’ve been staying in hotels, and even when I’ve planned club visits, and never had any interest 
Using Fab to message for private meets however, works very well for me  The Forum has also been kind |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We pretty much just use fab for finding out what's on in the club section, trawling through and then trying to arrange a meet just seems time consuming when you can just rock up to a club. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
"Fab is like most on here worth fuck all effort.
Like you would go crawling to some shaggy titted old hag in a pub so why do it on here "
I'm sure the women you've met will be delighted by that description  |
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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago
Coventry |
"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
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Nothing to lose but potentially lots to gain |
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We all use fab in different ways, for different things, so our expectations differ.
Do we tailor our efforts, so that our objectives are met or beaten, is a different point.
First things first. It's harder for men, so they need to adjust their expectations in many instances. There's no open clunge chute that pours it your way.
What do you expect here? You don't get enough of the offers that you want elsewhere, so you'll have to work for them here and against huge volumes of competition if you are a bloke.
Did you come to a swinging site and not expect to swing as a man? Reasonable? Did you understand what swinging was all about?
Are you sociable? If you are a fairly sociable person, you'll likely know that many types of relationships require investments of time and effort, without guarantee s, as people have free choice.
Being flexible, you'll likely be able to adapt your approach here, so that you get closer to the results that you'd like as well as become more appropriate for others. Rigidity of cock is preferred over perspectives and demands.
Like everything you do, you constantly reassess your progress and approach. If you can't cut it, you get out.
If it's not worth it, be flexible. Ultimately leave. For thousands of us, it's really worth it. |
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When I first went on here I didn’t get many messages but I tweeked my profile and pics and the difference it made was awesome suddenly I’m getting loads of messages and started getting meets effort equals success |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Highs and lows. Best used in conjunction with clubs and socials IMO. I came back on mainly to keep up with club events and parties. I rarely arrange meets from messaging through the site. Too many turn out to be flakes and timewasters, even after careful checking and lengthy conversations. |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HGStick to pof mate its easier and the end product is the same if not better."
I often suggest to single men that if they’re just looking for easy shaggery (presumably the ‘end-product’ suggested here) then they’re better off on dating apps and Tinder. If they’re looking to meet people interested in adventurous, non-monog_mous, recreational sex sometimes with several people at a time and enjoy events and a social life involving those things, then Fab is by far the best place to find that. For me that’s a ‘better’ end-product. Depends what you’re looking for. |
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It depends on how it's going at the time, so highs and lows as others have said. As a single male I've had more lean times than good, but during that time I've also built some genuine and strong friendships with single women and couples. It's not all about getting laid and is very much a social thing too. Most of the people I know who have been in the lifestyle for a protracted period are very social people. The best advice is to go to a few socials with no expectation of playing there (or afterwards) and get yourself known as one of the good guys. It's still no guarantee of anything more, but separates you from the wasters and those who have no idea how to behave, which narrows things down considerably. The more you're seen the more you'll get integrated, but be patient. Bear in mind there are cliques at socials and clubs who will exclude you very deliberately, but that still leaves you plenty of awesome people to get to know. I'm proud and privileged to have the friends I have, so it's definitely worth it if you're prepared to put the effort in. |
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By *DFL6828Man
over a year ago
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"The reality is though so many man make minimum effort though so you have to think what effort! "
I can only go off my experience. I made the effort in the past, good profile, nice photos read woman's profiles/couples profiles tried to make a effort. Tried to pick on something there profile said, All i ever got was delete. Tried different style or wrighting all thought out, got deleted. So cut my losses, changed my profile to suite me and very rarely message anyone on here cos it's not worth it. |
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I think its difficult on men on here but at the same time they expect they believe it to be some sex site and expect all the women to be Hungary for it.
So as someone elses said it's all about what you put into the site and just take it chilled but dont expect a flock of women wanting to sleep with you without any effort. There are alot of guys on here that get alot of meets it's just they no how to talk the _mount of messages we get saying you wanna fuck you free now etc is unreal or the copy and paste emails. |
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"I think its difficult on men on here but at the same time they expect they believe it to be some sex site and expect all the women to be Hungary for it.
So as someone elses said it's all about what you put into the site and just take it chilled but dont expect a flock of women wanting to sleep with you without any effort. There are alot of guys on here that get alot of meets it's just they no how to talk the _mount of messages we get saying you wanna fuck you free now etc is unreal or the copy and paste emails."
To be fair even doing a good job of messaging rarely brings success either. Messages most often get read and deleted. That's the reality and lots of guys don't seem to be able to handle that based on the forums and aggressive messages my female friends get once they say no. Without being philosophical and taking things to heart a guy will most likely get disillusioned quickly and not be successful. |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
Op yes plain and simple.. There are some amazing people waiting to meet.. They are crazy, funny and damned sexy... "Nobody ever said it would be easy - nobody said it would be this hard".... So true.. |
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"So had a meet request up a few times now, never once have I had someone contact me in regard to it, is it worth the effort? Is fab in general worth the effort??
HG"
It depends how much effort you're willing to put in. As previous posters have said, practically all of those we've met with have came about through different formats than the "meet today" option.
Your veris would suggest that you can acquire meets at least.
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"The reality is though so many man make minimum effort though so you have to think what effort! "
To be fair although I'd wholeheartedly agree with the majority it's also true to say that a lot of those who do make the effort get the same level of response the vast majority of the time. People ask a lot of a guy - individual message, respectful, personalised, thoughtful, face photos........the list goes on...........then delete and block without a thought (and I do appreciate women get way too many to respond to), so it's no wonder guys get disillusioned sometimes as well. Female friends regularly tell me I'm in the minority in the way I conduct myself, but I'm no more successful than anyone else for that effort - it's almost all come via organised socials and club meets as a result of those socials. We're ten a penny at the end of the day and have to accept that as a fact of life because it literally is supply and demand - but not personal. |
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"Like everything else in life
You will only get out what you bother to put in.
Zero effort will always = Zero rewards. "
........true, it does require a decent level of effort, or no rewards are ever going to come, although the reality is that for the majority, even those who try to be respectful and have a bit of class the results are the same most of the time. It can be a no-win situation - if you send a personalised, decent message with face photos, effort and thought put into it it's highly likely it will get ignored and deleted with the rest, or get a reply with the accusation of it being a cut and paste job because it isn't a one-liner. If you can't accept low reward for high effort then Fab might not be the place to be for a single guy. It takes a lot of visits to clubs and socials to truly become established, but you'll still get some who will look at you like you're scum, even if you've not uttered a single word to them or interacted in any way. Those who are vile or disrespectful deserve no success, but as a single guy we also have to understand and respect the fact that we may have little or none even if we do. Effort alone won't equal that measure of success, we still have to be both lucky and attractive to people and rightly so - no different to being in a pub or other social place. Ultimately the numbers game gives single females and coues a huge advantage and field to choose from and us single guys have to be philosophical with that AND retain a bit of class while acknowledging that. |
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"We have found it very worth it. We have had fantastic meets, made some lovely friends and have been shown the world of organised socials.
Never going to be difficult for a hugely attractive couple! Good on you!
Gem"
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"Fab is worth the effort. If you can chat to girls in real life like they’re regular human beings and you can address couples as such you’ll do alright.
IF however you think you’re entitled to meet and fuck whoever you want you’ll struggle. "
100% correct! |
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"I think it’s simply supply and demand. There’s a ton of guys and a limited supply of women. They have all the power if you turned the tables it would be a different experience for guys. Am I wrong? "
Very true to be fair! Cold fact, but fact nonetheless. |
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It takes a lot of visits to clubs and socials to truly become established, but you'll still get some who will look at you like you're scum, even if you've not uttered a single word to them or interacted in any way. "
I’ve seen this on occasion when charming, funny Male fab friends have been at socials, not in clubs. But there are a lot of people with poor social skills on the site. Those reactions are often because the others have a lack, not you. There are a surprising number of people who seem to think that making conversation must be limited to people they want to fuck.’ |
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It takes a lot of visits to clubs and socials to truly become established, but you'll still get some who will look at you like you're scum, even if you've not uttered a single word to them or interacted in any way.
I’ve seen this on occasion when charming, funny Male fab friends have been at socials, not in clubs. But there are a lot of people with poor social skills on the site. Those reactions are often because the others have a lack, not you. There are a surprising number of people who seem to think that making conversation must be limited to people they want to fuck.’"
I think that's probably true. I'm not suggesting everyone who doesn't want to consider me personally is like that - FAR from it - but for instance I was at Chams a few weeks back and moved aside to let a woman come down the stairs, trying to be gentlemanly, no more, no less and simply made eye contact and smiled as she passed, only to get a "What you looking at - you think you're entitled to something" comment, which completely stunned me. Sometimes the skin of a Rhino would help, but then I'd be less sensitive to the people around me and less pleasant myself as a result, so I'll just carry on being me. |
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Malcolm here Aka suitednbooted. 100% yes but I have been on here 5 years now so can speak with experience. If single guys come on here and expect instant meets you will sadly be disappointed, unless you are incredibly handsome then you may well do. Biggest piece of advice I could give you is not to look at this as an instant hook up site but as a sex networking site. Focus on growing your network, attend parties, make friends with other guys so you can possibly offer more than a single guy experience. You will notice a lot of greedy ladies and couples on here want multiple guys. Get verified even if it’s by webcam, build an interesting profile and set of pictures. Above all don’t expect to have women crawling over you. You have to do most of the running. Be prepared for the long haul. It’s taken me 5 years to grow and develop a network of fbs on the same page as me. Years 1 and 2 were pretty barren. Having the best sex of my life now with some very hot women, so yes Fab is worth it "
Agreed with this - it ebbs and flows an awful lot, but despite the down side there come some great times too! |
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