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has anyone ever met a "hardened swinger"?
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By *obleton OP Man
over a year ago
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what does that phrase actually mean?
To me it indicates someone who is very cold, clinical, and jaded on a meet - rock up, rocks off, fuck off.
But including parties and socials, I've met literally hundreds of swingers over the years and never met anyone who is even remotely like that.
maybe I've got the definition wrong - anyone got a better one?
anyone ever met a hardened swinger? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its pretty relative:
its possibly a term aimed at those who dont want ANYTHING other than the fuck.They dont care about the website,verifies,pics etc etc.
cant say im adverse to meetings like that but I see having different types of meets being my way of swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"to me, a hardend swinger or swingers, is someone who has met and played with lots of people. and is sused to the lifestyle. but i guess people have different understandings for the term."
Thats my definition of it to xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think of the term hardened swinger as a person who has been swinging for quite a few years, whose social life centres regularly around swinging, is on various sites and is someone used to the swinging lifestyle.
I would say that hardened swingers are possibly the ideal meet. They understand the trials and tribulations of swinging, they are unlikely to suffer jealousy, they are likely to turn up and are more likely to be reliable and embarcing of the importance of good social skills as well as good sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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to us ... a hardened swinger is someone who is obsessed with meets ... will try and arrange as many meets in as short a time as possible .... swinging is the b all and end all of their lives ??? we know one or two like this and it really puts us off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"to us ... a hardened swinger is someone who is obsessed with meets ... will try and arrange as many meets in as short a time as possible .... swinging is the b all and end all of their lives ??? we know one or two like this and it really puts us off"
Thats about it for me too. No life other than swinging for kicks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"to us ... a hardened swinger is someone who is obsessed with meets ... will try and arrange as many meets in as short a time as possible .... swinging is the b all and end all of their lives ??? we know one or two like this and it really puts us off
Thats about it for me too. No life other than swinging for kicks. "
thank fuck i like other things lol i must be 90% hardswinger and 10% having a life lol |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"to me, a hardend swinger or swingers, is someone who has met and played with lots of people. and is sused to the lifestyle. but i guess people have different understandings for the term."
the problem is lots of meets over what time period... it is so subjective as like ms puddlefuck says I think it is use as a derogatory term...
so anyone who goes to lots of parties and socials could fall into those terms.. i just see it as such a social thing I love it... community...
or are we talking about hardened as in no emotion... cold and clinical... i have to like the people i play with, so where does that leave me?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its become derogatory because of the word hardened, which suggests cold, clinical, lacking in emotion. Replace the word hardened with established and lots would be happy to put their hand up to admit to being that.
I have been swinging for about 18 months so whilst not exactly new, compared to some who've been swinging for years, have profiles on various other swinging sites or those who have lived most of their sexual lives with an element of swinging involved, then I don't fall into those categories.
Oh I don't know, like most have said, this is all subjective
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By (user no longer on site)
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"to us ... a hardened swinger is someone who is obsessed with meets ... will try and arrange as many meets in as short a time as possible .... swinging is the b all and end all of their lives ??? we know one or two like this and it really puts us off"
Pretty much how I see it...someone who doesn't have a life or interest outside swinging. |
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Its a term that can mean different things to different people.
I have said this before, and I will say it again - YOU are the person who defines what the term 'Swinger' means to you, no one else on the scene has the right to define it for you.
In general terms it is perceived to mean people who also want and hope to get full sex every time they have a meet or go clubbing, but as I said, that is what it means in general terms to many not always all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think most peeps have their own definition of what a hardened swinger is and like us most peeps think nah we're not hardend, but here is the ironic part, chatting to someone you hardly know letting them know if you will take it up your bum or not without batting an eye lid... lol
Define what hardened really is...    |
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By *obleton OP Man
over a year ago
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"but here is the ironic part, chatting to someone you hardly know letting them know if you will take it up your bum or not without batting an eye lid... lol
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we haven't messaged each other for ages - I'm really flattered you still remember the fine details of our conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"but here is the ironic part, chatting to someone you hardly know letting them know if you will take it up your bum or not without batting an eye lid... lol
we haven't messaged each other for ages - I'm really flattered you still remember the fine details of our conversation. "
How could I forget such an intimate conversation... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"to us ... a hardened swinger is someone who is obsessed with meets ... will try and arrange as many meets in as short a time as possible .... swinging is the b all and end all of their lives ??? we know one or two like this and it really puts us off
Pretty much how I see it...someone who doesn't have a life or interest outside swinging."
Same for us too. There are some hardened swingers about for sure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, 28, claimed to be a former model, no reason to disbelieve and yes female of the human species.
Yes, honestly, couldn't believe my luck, three times. |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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"I think most peeps have their own definition of what a hardened swinger is and like us most peeps think nah we're not hardend, but here is the ironic part, chatting to someone you hardly know letting them know if you will take it up your bum or not without batting an eye lid... lol
Define what hardened really is... "
Thats our definition as well.
Live to swing and nothing else! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our quote on this would be people that actually want to meet and swing..
Not those that site around browing for 10 weeks to discover actually all im going to get is a spanking off the wife for not doing the washing up...
So basically i'd say those that get involved and do the buisness instead of thinking then can do it... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its a term used by some to castigate the sexual activities of others.
i hate it,and have little time for those who use it to say what they are not.  "
I agree with this statement.
But the one further up from someone who has left the site saying their view on a hardened swinger is someone who sits on cam showing their torso. I find that post abit of a silly comment.
There are the posts that say they think a hardened swinger is someone who meets many in a short time. Well I personally dont agree with this either. The people who posted that, well lets say a newbie comes on the site and looks at their profile. Lets say they have been on the site for a couple of years with perhaps only 10 meets. Well I could imagine that newbie would consider those profiles hardened swingers in their eyes.
So I go back to what Jem said and have the same view. |
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"Its a term used by some to castigate the sexual activities of others.
i hate it,and have little time for those who use it to say what they are not.
I agree with this statement.
But the one further up from someone who has left the site saying their view on a hardened swinger is someone who sits on cam showing their torso. I find that post abit of a silly comment.
There are the posts that say they think a hardened swinger is someone who meets many in a short time. Well I personally dont agree with this either. The people who posted that, well lets say a newbie comes on the site and looks at their profile. Lets say they have been on the site for a couple of years with perhaps only 10 meets. Well I could imagine that newbie would consider those profiles hardened swingers in their eyes.
So I go back to what Jem said and have the same view."
Thanks....for the record i sit on cam with my tits put,,not my torso |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its a term used by some to castigate the sexual activities of others.
i hate it,and have little time for those who use it to say what they are not.
I agree with this statement.
But the one further up from someone who has left the site saying their view on a hardened swinger is someone who sits on cam showing their torso. I find that post abit of a silly comment.
There are the posts that say they think a hardened swinger is someone who meets many in a short time. Well I personally dont agree with this either. The people who posted that, well lets say a newbie comes on the site and looks at their profile. Lets say they have been on the site for a couple of years with perhaps only 10 meets. Well I could imagine that newbie would consider those profiles hardened swingers in their eyes.
So I go back to what Jem said and have the same view.
Thanks....for the record i sit on cam with my tits put,,not my torso "
i sit on cam with my torso with tits out |
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"Its a term used by some to castigate the sexual activities of others.
i hate it,and have little time for those who use it to say what they are not.
I agree with this statement.
But the one further up from someone who has left the site saying their view on a hardened swinger is someone who sits on cam showing their torso. I find that post abit of a silly comment.
There are the posts that say they think a hardened swinger is someone who meets many in a short time. Well I personally dont agree with this either. The people who posted that, well lets say a newbie comes on the site and looks at their profile. Lets say they have been on the site for a couple of years with perhaps only 10 meets. Well I could imagine that newbie would consider those profiles hardened swingers in their eyes.
So I go back to what Jem said and have the same view.
Thanks....for the record i sit on cam with my tits put,,not my torso i sit on cam with my torso with tits out "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just thought..
Silly topic really as everyone will see this different depending on thier own state of play..
And however mush you try and find the answer their was never a rule book written...
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