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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Tell me about it!

I think I'll need to go old fashion and ask girls out in public because the dating apps are useless!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Once i get to that point again I’m thinking interest clubs and real life are the way to go. Dating sites seem to be casual sex but with an extra pretence and poorer sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Tell me about it!

I think I'll need to go old fashion and ask girls out in public because the dating apps are useless!"

Dating apps are utter shite! Always easier face to face, but don't always get a chance to go out!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Once i get to that point again I’m thinking interest clubs and real life are the way to go. Dating sites seem to be casual sex but with an extra pretence and poorer sex."

What kind of clubs do you mean, like running/reading etc?

I agree about dating sites, although I do have friends who have met their partners on there so can't be all bad.

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

Definitely my feelings exactly. If people aren’t messaging me to tell me I’m on Fab (really I hadn’t noticed!) they’re either married and want some fun or they just want nsa fun.

Does anyone want to actually date? Would be nice to have some sort of a relationship that isn’t based on sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fab. Saves the awkwardness when I ask if they fancy a fuck

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By *etLikeMan over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

It depends which sites. I use a site that, although it’s billed as a dating site, is poly friendly and allows connections whether for a relationship or casual play with like minded people. I much prefer to build up a rapport even with casual play partners, so it gives a more in-depth picture of them than a graphic photo of a wide open fanny and “I’ll fill in later” ever can.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Yes I think if you are a woman over 50 dating is very hard - I find men over 50 often want to date women a lot younger. So I decided that I could do without the dating but not the fabulous sex and that is why I am on Fab.

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I'd love to be dating but find I don't have time to get out and actually date. So fab and sex is the way forward for me x

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By *rryTMan over a year ago

Nottingham

I like Tinder. I like going on dates and it easily allows for that and is basically what younger women seem to expect

Agree that it's a bit of a front for sex but I haven't fucked anyone from there yet without going on a date it two first

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Definitely my feelings exactly. If people aren’t messaging me to tell me I’m on Fab (really I hadn’t noticed!) they’re either married and want some fun or they just want nsa fun.

Does anyone want to actually date? Would be nice to have some sort of a relationship that isn’t based on sex. "

Absolutely! But do men still want that?? Men that we'd be attracted to? And are good human beings??

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It depends which sites. I use a site that, although it’s billed as a dating site, is poly friendly and allows connections whether for a relationship or casual play with like minded people. I much prefer to build up a rapport even with casual play partners, so it gives a more in-depth picture of them than a graphic photo of a wide open fanny and “I’ll fill in later” ever can. "

Hahahaha! I agree and am the same, like to actually get to know the person behind the profile first so it's not just some meaningless liason.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I like Tinder. I like going on dates and it easily allows for that and is basically what younger women seem to expect

Agree that it's a bit of a front for sex but I haven't fucked anyone from there yet without going on a date it two first "

That's like a social and then a meet - same thing just using different words. Have you met anyone on there you had more of a connection with or has it just been a mutual understanding of it being purely physical?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'd love to be dating but find I don't have time to get out and actually date. So fab and sex is the way forward for me x"

If it works for you and you're happy doing it then that's brilliant!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Once i get to that point again I’m thinking interest clubs and real life are the way to go. Dating sites seem to be casual sex but with an extra pretence and poorer sex.

What kind of clubs do you mean, like running/reading etc?

I agree about dating sites, although I do have friends who have met their partners on there so can't be all bad."

Yes. Outdoorsy stuff (kayaking, hiking) and opportunity to make non-dating friends. I have friends who met on dating sites, but it was a few years ago and i think tinder changed things a lot for dating sites.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I met my partner on tinder like anything there are people on there that spoil it most men are after one thing and quickest way the better but there is guys on looking to date and not just a quick screw x

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By *rryTMan over a year ago

Nottingham

"I like Tinder. I like going on dates and it easily allows for that and is basically what younger women seem to expect

Agree that it's a bit of a front for sex but I haven't fucked anyone from there yet without going on a date it two first

Possibly, but early days.

I take your point but it feels different. Some dates have resulted in nothing more than a kiss and built up to sex overtime and the conversation has been more 'real'

Fab meets haven't been like that and sex has been the focus from the start

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By *etLikeMan over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

Hahahaha! I agree and am the same, like to actually get to know the person behind the profile first so it's not just some meaningless liason."

I have much better sex when I can connect in more ways than just physical sex acts. I enjoy verbal intercourse. My brain is my largest sexual organ.

I find tinder to be vacuous and two dimensional. I’m probably one of the few men who says no on there more than yes. I mean way more. Between empty profiles and endless filters, I’m not attracted to woodland creatures; either to date them or have sex with, so why? I look on tinder very rarely before remembering why it frustrates me and giving up again.

Sorry. Went off on a rant there!

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'd love to be dating but find I don't have time to get out and actually date. So fab and sex is the way forward for me x

If it works for you and you're happy doing it then that's brilliant!"

Working so far but want something more in the future x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only jusy found the sweetshop im not leaving yet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Since becoming single, I've done Tinder, Bumble, POF. Some dates with potential but nothing more.

Since finding FAB I've found much more honest people. There's less "games" played. I've been lucky to have two relationships from here. Great fun, both had potential but ran their time. I've also met some of my closest friends here so although FAB is physical attract focused first and about sex it has provided much more for me.

One day I would love a special relationship, but I think she would need to enjoy this wonderful world too

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Yup, most of us!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

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Nope it's a natural progression look how many fall for eachother on here, this place mirrors life, the people here are living a life they lead anyway, the site itself is just a meeting place, if you meet someone and theirs a spark a connection then who's to say that can't turn to love

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Definitely my feelings exactly. If people aren’t messaging me to tell me I’m on Fab (really I hadn’t noticed!) they’re either married and want some fun or they just want nsa fun.

Does anyone want to actually date? Would be nice to have some sort of a relationship that isn’t based on sex. "

It’s so annoying isn’t it. I’m experiencing the same thing.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Nope it's a natural progression look how many fall for eachother on here, this place mirrors life, the people here are living a life they lead anyway, the site itself is just a meeting place, if you meet someone and theirs a spark a connection then who's to say that can't turn to love

Yeah that's fine, but not everyone wants to kiss a hundred frogs to find one!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Totally

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m the opposite.

Currently just enjoying fun & am on no dating sites as I’m not looking for anything more.

What’s strange though is now I’m not looking for more and want to actually be single, guys I meet for fun and actually want more and want to date... yet when I wanted to date, all they wanted to do was fuck!

Life eh!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Tell me about it!

I think I'll need to go old fashion and ask girls out in public because the dating apps are useless!"

The dating apps get most of the money from males. To this end why would you want your cash cow to be happy enough to leave

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By *ohnThomas0168Man over a year ago

Algarve Portugal

For me the ideal is both - dating someone who is also into or open to the swinging life style.

I was fortunate to live with a women for 17 years where both existed until we divorced a few years ago.

Now as a mature single the chances of finding it again are less, so enjoying having some fun. But if it came again I would grab it with both hands

May your dreams be fulfilled

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Tell me about it!

I think I'll need to go old fashion and ask girls out in public because the dating apps are useless!

The dating apps get most of the money from males. To this end why would you want your cash cow to be happy enough to leave

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By *hefilthWoman over a year ago

mildenhall

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Completely it's a nightmare I actually left fab for a couple of years to try and date normally

but I find myself back here again this week and trying to find someone In this lifestyle that I can date

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

In an ideal world I'd date someone from this lifestyle, have all the perks of a relationship as well as the added extras from being on here x

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Yeah that's fine, but not everyone wants to kiss a hundred frogs to find one!

Oh that made me laugh

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By *etLikeMan over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

"In an ideal world I'd date someone from this lifestyle, have all the perks of a relationship as well as the added extras from being on here x"

That would be my wish too

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Yeah that's fine, but not everyone wants to kiss a hundred frogs to find one!

Oh that made me laugh

I'm here all week.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think fab is a good platform for what it is. The problem side of it is that too many people on here are on the wrong site. Fab is a swinging site where relationships are plentiful and without them, this site may as well be called tinder. To be in a relationship where both partners are honest with each other regarding their desires and fantasies can only be a good thing and if relationships develop on here then at least you know where you both started and perhaps you can fulfill each other as a couple with benefits

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The problem I find with internet dating is people don’t know what they are looking for.....

Here is my experience...

You meet someone on a dating site. You chat for a week strictly about life. You meet them have a great date. No sex

Now one or two things happen....

They shut down their profile and want to become exclusive or they want to answer the 500 more emails they have and go on more dates.

I personally would like someone to tell me thier intentions on the first date. I may not like it but I will respect them and can plan accordingly...

Also a lot of people are not over their past relationships and not ready to date... please don’t ever talk about ex’s on dates. It is a total buzz kill

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By *adame1981Woman over a year ago

Leicester

I love fab and the freedom it allows me to pick and choose play meets or socials

I do however miss having somebody at home for a cuddle and to tell them about my day

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By *adame1981Woman over a year ago

Leicester

"In an ideal world I'd date someone from this lifestyle, have all the perks of a relationship as well as the added extras from being on here x"

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Yeah that's fine, but not everyone wants to kiss a hundred frogs to find one!

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thought you said you had a tough selection process and remember you're at the helm you get the choices

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By *etLikeMan over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

Also a lot of people are not over their past relationships and not ready to date... please don’t ever talk about ex’s on dates. It is a total buzz kill"

I almost always discuss past relationships on a first date. They are periods of time in one’s life, so are relevant to who a person is now. Obviously not going on and on about exes.

Mind you, I have also gone on a first date with someone who wasn’t sure about the open relationships thing. So I took along a book to lend her : The Ethical Slut.

I’m different/weird as I don’t do small talk. I much prefer to get into properly getting to know a prospective new partner.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

thank god the forum represent such a small part of fab SWINGERS

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Nope. That's the beauty of swinging. I can have my cake and eat it

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Yeah that's fine, but not everyone wants to kiss a hundred frogs to find one!

thought you said you had a tough selection process and remember you're at the helm you get the choices

Indeed, which means I meet very few and rarely find what I seek, so my experience is the same as the OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Yeah that's fine, but not everyone wants to kiss a hundred frogs to find one!

thought you said you had a tough selection process and remember you're at the helm you get the choices

Indeed, which means I meet very few and rarely find what I seek, so my experience is the same as the OP

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in order to live you have to be adventurous, keep your guard up you miss those opportunities

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Yeah that's fine, but not everyone wants to kiss a hundred frogs to find one!

thought you said you had a tough selection process and remember you're at the helm you get the choices

Indeed, which means I meet very few and rarely find what I seek, so my experience is the same as the OP

in order to live you have to be adventurous, keep your guard up you miss those opportunities

I disagree, I've had plenty of casual sex, but it rarely hits the spot, and now I'm sick of shit shags.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also a lot of people are not over their past relationships and not ready to date... please don’t ever talk about ex’s on dates. It is a total buzz kill

I almost always discuss past relationships on a first date. They are periods of time in one’s life, so are relevant to who a person is now. Obviously not going on and on about exes.

Mind you, I have also gone on a first date with someone who wasn’t sure about the open relationships thing. So I took along a book to lend her : The Ethical Slut.

I’m different/weird as I don’t do small talk. I much prefer to get into properly getting to know a prospective new partner. "

I’m a bit like you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Yeah that's fine, but not everyone wants to kiss a hundred frogs to find one!

thought you said you had a tough selection process and remember you're at the helm you get the choices

Indeed, which means I meet very few and rarely find what I seek, so my experience is the same as the OP

in order to live you have to be adventurous, keep your guard up you miss those opportunities

I disagree, I've had plenty of casual sex, but it rarely hits the spot, and now I'm sick of shit shags."
It's not all about sex

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By *el1977Man over a year ago

leeds

Bored of just fucking... need more of a connection.

For me i wanted to meet someone to date that understands the scene and when ready explore together but only if you’re secure... normal dating sites just don’t cover that!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Bored of just fucking... need more of a connection.

For me i wanted to meet someone to date that understands the scene and when ready explore together but only if you’re secure... normal dating sites just don’t cover that! "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surprised you dont have people quing up for dates op.

It could be your standards are very high to the point that these people are already in a relationship looking for extra fun...

Your not making the first move so missing out on genuine people that dont think they'd stand a chance.

They just trying to find out if you have a decent sex drive (having been in a barren relationship in the past i know i never want to be in one again lol)

Your having bad luck.

Yes there are alot of ppl ont these sites , both men and women who only want sex, as there are many woman only want to be taken out for a free meal. There are genuine people you never know you could find someone through fab, one of my fab friends has.

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By *aringButNervousWoman over a year ago

Warwick

"Bored of just fucking... need more of a connection.

For me i wanted to meet someone to date that understands the scene and when ready explore together but only if you’re secure... normal dating sites just don’t cover that! "

I agree completely. I want this but can’t seem to find it. Dating sites are just a pretence for wanting sex and no one seems to want the nice parts of dating

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Yeah that's fine, but not everyone wants to kiss a hundred frogs to find one!

thought you said you had a tough selection process and remember you're at the helm you get the choices

Indeed, which means I meet very few and rarely find what I seek, so my experience is the same as the OP

in order to live you have to be adventurous, keep your guard up you miss those opportunities

I disagree, I've had plenty of casual sex, but it rarely hits the spot, and now I'm sick of shit shags.It's not all about sex

It is on here, it's a sex site!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I first came on fab many years ago, not long after it came about. Then, it was good for one thing only and it was great fun. The site has completely changed over the years.

I almost got into a relationship from here, but it obviously wouldn't have worked unless we gave up the lifestyle, and we both didn't want to give it up, which confirmed to us both that it wasn't to be.... If that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Yeah that's fine, but not everyone wants to kiss a hundred frogs to find one!

thought you said you had a tough selection process and remember you're at the helm you get the choices

Indeed, which means I meet very few and rarely find what I seek, so my experience is the same as the OP

in order to live you have to be adventurous, keep your guard up you miss those opportunities

I disagree, I've had plenty of casual sex, but it rarely hits the spot, and now I'm sick of shit shags.It's not all about sex

It is on here, it's a sex site!"
This site is the same as any other site match.com,tinder, POF etc it's about individuals real people living their lives, in a way labelling it as a sex site is slightly more honest because men and women enjoy sex but they enjoy other things to, I certainly don't approach any meet with a view to sex and I've remained friends with many I've met, so as an individual it's what you want it to be

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Yeah that's fine, but not everyone wants to kiss a hundred frogs to find one!

thought you said you had a tough selection process and remember you're at the helm you get the choices

Indeed, which means I meet very few and rarely find what I seek, so my experience is the same as the OP

in order to live you have to be adventurous, keep your guard up you miss those opportunities

I disagree, I've had plenty of casual sex, but it rarely hits the spot, and now I'm sick of shit shags.It's not all about sex

It is on here, it's a sex site!This site is the same as any other site match.com,tinder, POF etc it's about individuals real people living their lives, in a way labelling it as a sex site is slightly more honest because men and women enjoy sex but they enjoy other things to, I certainly don't approach any meet with a view to sex and I've remained friends with many I've met, so as an individual it's what you want it to be

Have you actually read the OP? Plenty of women want more, few men do - hence my agreement.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Yeah that's fine, but not everyone wants to kiss a hundred frogs to find one!

thought you said you had a tough selection process and remember you're at the helm you get the choices

Indeed, which means I meet very few and rarely find what I seek, so my experience is the same as the OP

in order to live you have to be adventurous, keep your guard up you miss those opportunities

I disagree, I've had plenty of casual sex, but it rarely hits the spot, and now I'm sick of shit shags.It's not all about sex

Have you actually read the OP? Plenty of women want more, few men do - hence my agreement."
I'm just saying anything is possible guys are up for what the Ops looking for and the same applies in reverse, it always takes a while to find the right person for you and some just make bad choices fullstop

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By *attPaulaCouple over a year ago

Blackpool

Women are more hard-wired to search for a relationship than men, so it's often easier for a man to get a fulfilling relationship compared to a woman. Evolutionary biology determines that women are the gatekeepers of sex and men the gatekeepers of commitment.

Underlying it all - sperm is plentiful, cheap and always ready to go. Eggs come around once a month, are precious and have a shelf life. This is why women are way more picky, they have to be.

The problems are that a lot of women when young apply the criteria that they do for sexual partners even more so when it comes to seeking a longterm mate. They want a perfect man who ticks all the boxes; must be physically highly desirable, considerate, kind, thoughtful, sexually accomplished, well off to provide and have a job that means he still has time for her and any family wanted. Naturally men who tick ALL of these boxes are in a lot shorter supply than the women who want them, which is why there are a lot of 30-somethings of the Bridget Jones stereotype, with all the most desirable men they know snapped up and due to their being too selective, the "next best" desirable men they previously overlooked have now been snapped up too.... And of course for those that want children, the biological clock ticking ever louder in the background. Then of course it often becomes a dating free for all, the equivalent of an everything must go sale with a lot of women rushing headlong into unsuitable relationships, for fear of being left empty-handed. One big reason divorce rates are so high.

That's a big reason why dating sites are dominated by women. And also why some women move the goalposts to try and find a life partner, such as joining sites like fab, even though they're not really looking for casual sex or sex with multiple partners.

Naturally it also goes the other way. I know of men that join dating sites just to get laid as the ratios game tips the odds overwhelmingly in their favour.

So if somehow hypothetically the ratio shifted the other way on fab, though the individual biological needs of the sexes tell me that it never will, then logic tells me women would on average become less choosy as a result and the men much more so.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

Yeah that's fine, but not everyone wants to kiss a hundred frogs to find one!

thought you said you had a tough selection process and remember you're at the helm you get the choices

Indeed, which means I meet very few and rarely find what I seek, so my experience is the same as the OP

in order to live you have to be adventurous, keep your guard up you miss those opportunities

I disagree, I've had plenty of casual sex, but it rarely hits the spot, and now I'm sick of shit shags.It's not all about sex

Have you actually read the OP? Plenty of women want more, few men do - hence my agreement.I'm just saying anything is possible guys are up for what the Ops looking for and the same applies in reverse, it always takes a while to find the right person for you and some just make bad choices fullstop

Believe me, there just aren't enough to go round!!

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By *attPaulaCouple over a year ago

Blackpool

Of course not, female hypergamy operates and it's why we are so successful as a species.

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By *attPaulaCouple over a year ago

Blackpool

OK Cupid did data analysis on the preferences of female members.

Women considered 80% of male profiles to be below average - which is a mathematical aberration.

However, male preferences were more akin to a conventional statistical average - that's why men have more success dating. Especially as they, and women, age.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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"OK Cupid did data analysis on the preferences of female members.

Women considered 80% of male profiles to be below average - which is a mathematical aberration.

However, male preferences were more akin to a conventional statistical average - that's why men have more success dating. Especially as they, and women, age. "

Haha interesting though depressing statistic!!

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By *attPaulaCouple over a year ago

Blackpool

Yes, women are very selective, relative to men. Women have far more at stake in the reproductive act and have evolved to seek the best genetics they can get.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hmmm. I'm new to the dating game. I'm a bit wary to be honest because I don't want to date someone who's vanilla, I need kink and I need to be able to play with girls and if I'm honest I don't want to give up my FWB either. So it's going to be near on impossible to find what I want. I could cope without a relationship but I miss that being held at night and someone to talk your worries through with.

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By *attPaulaCouple over a year ago

Blackpool

You're right, near impossible.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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"Yes, women are very selective, relative to men. Women have far more at stake in the reproductive act and have evolved to seek the best genetics they can get."

That's not a concern at my age, and yet I remain extremely selective. I found 'the perfect man' once, but after 20 years realised I'd picked a lemon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hmmm. I'm new to the dating game. I'm a bit wary to be honest because I don't want to date someone who's vanilla, I need kink and I need to be able to play with girls and if I'm honest I don't want to give up my FWB either. So it's going to be near on impossible to find what I want. I could cope without a relationship but I miss that being held at night and someone to talk your worries through with. "

I got into a relationship. With a bloke on here. Who didn’t mind me meeting my fb still

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By *atural-born-thrillerMan over a year ago

oulton broad

A date would be great it’s good to go out have a laugh and enjoy some company ...x I live in hope that someone out there helps the aged.this maybe a sex site but you don’t have to get naked to have a good time x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No comment

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By *aughtyLittleMissWoman over a year ago

Aberdeen

Fab all the way for me - I don't want a relationship but I want sex. And I think it's a lot easier to tell a guy what you want sexually in a non vanilla relationship

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By *attPaulaCouple over a year ago

Blackpool

"Yes, women are very selective, relative to men. Women have far more at stake in the reproductive act and have evolved to seek the best genetics they can get.

That's not a concern at my age, and yet I remain extremely selective. I found 'the perfect man' once, but after 20 years realised I'd picked a lemon.

It's still a concern at your age which IS why you remain highly selective.

Just because you're not interested in/unable to have a child doesn't mean that the ingrained preferences are somehow switched off - they aren't.

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By *attPaulaCouple over a year ago

Blackpool

"Fab all the way for me - I don't want a relationship but I want sex. And I think it's a lot easier to tell a guy what you want sexually in a non vanilla relationship "

That's a very 'male' approach to the site and a direct and honest one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A relationship with great sex? Honestly, that would be brilliant. I am an eternal optimist about most things, but I think finding both is as likely as finding rocking horse pooh.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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"Yes, women are very selective, relative to men. Women have far more at stake in the reproductive act and have evolved to seek the best genetics they can get.

That's not a concern at my age, and yet I remain extremely selective. I found 'the perfect man' once, but after 20 years realised I'd picked a lemon.

It's still a concern at your age which IS why you remain highly selective.

Just because you're not interested in/unable to have a child doesn't mean that the ingrained preferences are somehow switched off - they aren't."

I realise - tell me about it!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not both.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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"Why not both."

Because there is a shortage of decent men who want both!

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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"Why not both.

Because there is a shortage of decent men who want both!"

Men just don't seem to get this because it is so, so easy for them to find a woman to have a relationship with!!

It's virtually impossible for many women, especially those of us with good self-worth who have always had really high standards anyway!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The standards, as you call them, are what will keep you single.

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Why not both.

Because there is a shortage of decent men who want both!

Men just don't seem to get this because it is so, so easy for them to find a woman to have a relationship with!!

It's virtually impossible for many women, especially those of us with good self-worth who have always had really high standards anyway!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I guess trying to get a date through Fab will have the idea of sex in there somewhere? Probably better to join some clubs, go to the pub etc. to find a regular date?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why not both.

Because there is a shortage of decent men who want both!

Men just don't seem to get this because it is so, so easy for them to find a woman to have a relationship with!!

It's virtually impossible for many women, especially those of us with good self-worth who have always had really high standards anyway!"

Not in my experience. Men, some men maybe, have similar difficulties in finding what they are looking for especially if it's more than fuck and run.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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"The standards, as you call them, are what will keep you single."

Quite possibly, but I can't even chat to people I don't find attractive or interesting. The second is actually harder than the first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why not both.

Because there is a shortage of decent men who want both!

Men just don't seem to get this because it is so, so easy for them to find a woman to have a relationship with!!

It's virtually impossible for many women, especially those of us with good self-worth who have always had really high standards anyway!"

But looking at your profile you're looking for men for casual sex rather than a serious relationship? I guess it looks confusing to men ...

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Well I guess trying to get a date through Fab will have the idea of sex in there somewhere? Probably better to join some clubs, go to the pub etc. to find a regular date?"

I think a lot of us only ended up here looking for nsa or fwb having exhausted all the normal routes. I have a very active social life, I just don't stumble across many suitable men.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Why not both.

Because there is a shortage of decent men who want both!

Men just don't seem to get this because it is so, so easy for them to find a woman to have a relationship with!!

It's virtually impossible for many women, especially those of us with good self-worth who have always had really high standards anyway!

But looking at your profile you're looking for men for casual sex rather than a serious relationship? I guess it looks confusing to men ... "

What is confusing about this:

'not looking for nsa sex''I would like to talk with those who are seeking regular friends for more - evenings in and out, weekends, going dancing or out to gigs - or better yet a relationship'???

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By *ollyGWoman over a year ago

Southampton

"I like Tinder. I like going on dates and it easily allows for that and is basically what younger women seem to expect

Agree that it's a bit of a front for sex but I haven't fucked anyone from there yet without going on a date it two first "

Tinder is worse than here! You will have more chance here, not speaking from experience as I have not xx

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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"Why not both.

Because there is a shortage of decent men who want both!

Men just don't seem to get this because it is so, so easy for them to find a woman to have a relationship with!!

It's virtually impossible for many women, especially those of us with good self-worth who have always had really high standards anyway!

Not in my experience. Men, some men maybe, have similar difficulties in finding what they are looking for especially if it's more than fuck and run.

Some I think. I know genuine, I would say fairly discerning guys on dating sites who were always able to find women for a serious relationship within a few weeks! One used to lecture me constantly for staying on a site like this and just could not believe I could not find anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why not both.

Because there is a shortage of decent men who want both!

Men just don't seem to get this because it is so, so easy for them to find a woman to have a relationship with!!

It's virtually impossible for many women, especially those of us with good self-worth who have always had really high standards anyway!

But looking at your profile you're looking for men for casual sex rather than a serious relationship? I guess it looks confusing to men ...

What is confusing about this:

'not looking for nsa sex''I would like to talk with those who are seeking regular friends for more - evenings in and out, weekends, going dancing or out to gigs - or better yet a relationship'???

Yep, sorry. Was looking at another poster's profile. My mistake!

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By *ollyGWoman over a year ago

Southampton

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies."

Yes it does!!

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies."

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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"Why not both.

Because there is a shortage of decent men who want both!

Men just don't seem to get this because it is so, so easy for them to find a woman to have a relationship with!!

It's virtually impossible for many women, especially those of us with good self-worth who have always had really high standards anyway!

But looking at your profile you're looking for men for casual sex rather than a serious relationship? I guess it looks confusing to men ...

What is confusing about this:

'not looking for nsa sex''I would like to talk with those who are seeking regular friends for more - evenings in and out, weekends, going dancing or out to gigs - or better yet a relationship'???

Yep, sorry. Was looking at another poster's profile. My mistake!"

I wondered lol

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies."

Whys that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

Frisky your honesty does you credit.

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I dont agree with you. Ill give you an example: Im not attracted to bald men so that 80% of them. They also can become a little round around the middle. Yes the silver look is sexy though x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

And then I’ve seen some women who seem to get better with age and age like fine wine! There’s a woman in her 60s who I was chatting to on Fet and she has the body of a woman in her 30s, I was amazed.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I dont agree with you. Ill give you an example: Im not attracted to bald men so that 80% of them. They also can become a little round around the middle. Yes the silver look is sexy though x"
80% of men are bald where did that statistic come from

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Whys that"

Bombs will be incoming, but here goes.

It's easier for guys because we don't have the high standards and lists that you ladies have.

As ladies age the younger guys they meet want the Mrs Robinson experience and are upping the notch count - it's all about the sex. Older guys want younger women - regardless of if they can get them or not, that's the predominant preference.

So, a guy in his 60's will genuinely desire a woman in her 50's.

Sure, many women will come back and say that they get lots of 'attention' from guys their age and younger and that their friends say they look fabulous. That should not be conflated with a genuine desire for commitment where you're planning holidays, meeting family and cuddling up of the sofa, a lot.

Sure, some women don't want that (they say) and want loads of sex. I suspect most don't really without the 'connection' and some are secretly hoping they find Prince Charming, even on FAB.

Ok, shoot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I dont agree with you. Ill give you an example: Im not attracted to bald men so that 80% of them. They also can become a little round around the middle. Yes the silver look is sexy though x"

I think a lot of people tend to let themselves go as they get older and it ages them.

The beer belly!! There’s a man probably about 60 who goes to the my gym who still after all this time has a little one, so maybe it’s meant to be on him? Haha.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual. "

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I dont agree with you. Ill give you an example: Im not attracted to bald men so that 80% of them. They also can become a little round around the middle. Yes the silver look is sexy though x"

And I'm not attracted to men who are round faced OR round in the middle - that's 95% in my age bracket lol!!

But the coarsening of the face that happens as people age is far less detrimental to a masculine face, all other things being equal. George Clooney does not have to have plastic surgery like all his female peers do, he just seems to get more gorgeous!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Whys that

Bombs will be incoming, but here goes.

It's easier for guys because we don't have the high standards and lists that you ladies have.

So, a guy in his 60's will genuinely desire a woman in her 50's.

Sure, some women don't want that (they say) and want loads of sex. I suspect most don't really without the 'connection' and some are secretly hoping they find Prince Charming, even on FAB.

Ok, shoot "

I don’t think you can or should make such a huge generalisation like this when there are 7 billion people in the world and probably millions who would disagree with what you said.

I think dating can be hard for anybody at any age because people want different things.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties. "

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Whys that

Bombs will be incoming, but here goes.

It's easier for guys because we don't have the high standards and lists that you ladies have.

So, a guy in his 60's will genuinely desire a woman in her 50's.

Sure, some women don't want that (they say) and want loads of sex. I suspect most don't really without the 'connection' and some are secretly hoping they find Prince Charming, even on FAB.

Ok, shoot

I don’t think you can or should make such a huge generalisation like this when there are 7 billion people in the world and probably millions who would disagree with what you said.

I think dating can be hard for anybody at any age because people want different things."

And believe me it only gets harder!

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body. "

I think you are missing the point. I don't know how old you are, but the older you get, the less men you find looking for a relationship, and I bet the percentage of women increases. Plus I think more women are attractive for their age than men - the men can cherry pick generally. Of course there are exceptions, but we are talking majorities.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For a man, I will tell you. There isn't much that trumps youth which is the best indicator of fertility span. On a primal, evolved biology level that's what triggers heterosexual men - the boner test.

Reproductively speaking a woman's best years are early twenties to thirty.

As men we're hard wired to respond sexually to this. Just as women are hard wired to respond to strength, status and power in men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Whys that

Bombs will be incoming, but here goes.

It's easier for guys because we don't have the high standards and lists that you ladies have.

So, a guy in his 60's will genuinely desire a woman in her 50's.

Sure, some women don't want that (they say) and want loads of sex. I suspect most don't really without the 'connection' and some are secretly hoping they find Prince Charming, even on FAB.

Ok, shoot

I don’t think you can or should make such a huge generalisation like this when there are 7 billion people in the world and probably millions who would disagree with what you said.

I think dating can be hard for anybody at any age because people want different things.

And believe me it only gets harder!"

I don’t doubt that at all!

But I personally think it gets harder for everyone not just women.

You only have to read comments on articles about dating sites from men who moan that you need lots of money & to look like George Clooney to get a date lol! That’s obviously not true, but it’s not uncommon to read something like that.

Some comments I’ve seen from women have been either the guy wants one thing, he wasn’t interesting enough or he looked 10 years older and 3 stone heavier in person, yet had the confidence of a male model... hahaha!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For a man, I will tell you. There isn't much that trumps youth which is the best indicator of fertility span. On a primal, evolved biology level that's what triggers heterosexual men - the boner test.

Reproductively speaking a woman's best years are early twenties to thirty.

As men we're hard wired to respond sexually to this. Just as women are hard wired to respond to strength, status and power in men."

Well of course. Fertility and youth go together and it’s natural in men to seek that out.

Whether they successfully get it or not is another story.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Numerically speaking the odds are in mens favour as they age.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her. "

That’s one 50 year old... it doesn’t represent all.

It’s an opinion. We’re all allowed one.

If I were to walk around town and look at women & men of the same age I’d say the women looked better and that isn’t being biased.

Many men as they age tend to go bald, or lose their hair. and get beer bellies... NOT ALL. But enough.

Whereas women as they age tend to all look different, they don’t all put on weight, they don’t all get thin hair, they don’t all wrinkle up over night. In my opinion anyway!

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her. "

Oh really...not from my experience but they all look out of shape. Get up and go has been and gone in most cases. Most could never keep up in more ways than one.

Not all obvoiusly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I dont agree with you. Ill give you an example: Im not attracted to bald men so that 80% of them. They also can become a little round around the middle. Yes the silver look is sexy though x

And I'm not attracted to men who are round faced OR round in the middle - that's 95% in my age bracket lol!!

Well done on summing up what this site is about for some women. I think they take a lot of ‘pride’ in rejecting or otherwise blokes who would normally not give them a second or first look in real life....

I will now don my helmet as well but the truth is the truth....

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her.

That’s one 50 year old... it doesn’t represent all.

It’s an opinion. We’re all allowed one.

If I were to walk around town and look at women & men of the same age I’d say the women looked better and that isn’t being biased.

Many men as they age tend to go bald, or lose their hair. and get beer bellies... NOT ALL. But enough.

Whereas women as they age tend to all look different, they don’t all put on weight, they don’t all get thin hair, they don’t all wrinkle up over night. In my opinion anyway!

Yep this is similar to what I said earlier

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her.

Oh really...not from my experience but they all look out of shape. Get up and go has been and gone in most cases. Most could never keep up in more ways than one.

Not all obvoiusly.

"
you're going off piste now, the Op wants love and sex, youre talking about beer bellied men and women who look like Sean connery with bald heads.

Not all obviously

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her.

Oh really...not from my experience but they all look out of shape. Get up and go has been and gone in most cases. Most could never keep up in more ways than one.

Not all obvoiusly.

Oh I do like a challenge

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I dont agree with you. Ill give you an example: Im not attracted to bald men so that 80% of them. They also can become a little round around the middle. Yes the silver look is sexy though x

And I'm not attracted to men who are round faced OR round in the middle - that's 95% in my age bracket lol!!

I will now don my helmet as well but the truth is the truth...."

Well that says a lot about men then doesnt it..

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her.

Oh really...not from my experience but they all look out of shape. Get up and go has been and gone in most cases. Most could never keep up in more ways than one.

Not all obvoiusly.

Oh I do like a challenge

Its always choc hob nobs

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her. "

I said more attractive for their age. I think a higher percentage of women make the best of themselves for longer - they die their hair, watch their weight, dress nicely etc. That just gives the attractive men greater choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Of course, there are poor examples of both sexes.

But! Men are visually driven, women less so.

As a young, slim, attractive woman you won't have any idea how much the drinks in the bar cost. Holidays will be paid for you and the social deference you invoke is staggering. It's real power.

However, it doesn't last.

Like I said, you might think a woman is a 'great' fifty or sixty. But is isn't twenties and men are hard wired to find youth a beauty the most attractive sexual triggers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her.

Oh really...not from my experience but they all look out of shape. Get up and go has been and gone in most cases. Most could never keep up in more ways than one.

Not all obvoiusly.

you're going off piste now, the Op wants love and sex, youre talking about beer bellied men and women who look like Sean connery with bald heads.

Not all obviously

Hahahaha

A young Sean Connery would do me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her.

Oh really...not from my experience but they all look out of shape. Get up and go has been and gone in most cases. Most could never keep up in more ways than one.

Not all obvoiusly.

you're going off piste now, the Op wants love and sex, youre talking about beer bellied men and women who look like Sean connery with bald heads.

Not all obviously

Hahahaha

A young Sean Connery would do me!

"
isn't his Scottish lisp so attractive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Of course, there are poor examples of both sexes.

But! Men are visually driven, women less so.

As a young, slim, attractive woman you won't have any idea how much the drinks in the bar cost. Holidays will be paid for you and the social deference you invoke is staggering. It's real power.

However, it doesn't last.

Like I said, you might think a woman is a 'great' fifty or sixty. But is isn't twenties and men are hard wired to find youth a beauty the most attractive sexual triggers."

Of course it doesn’t last.

Nothing is forever.

I’ll make the most of my free drinks.

I wonder if a free holiday to Bournemouth counts?

Not everyone looked better in their 20s for various reasons, weight, blossoming late, drugs, alcohol, health wise etc etc.

I think we have established that men naturally are all for beauty & youth, it is the norm!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her.

I agree.

They tend to take care of themselves for longer.

My Nan is 90 and still doing it!

Ha.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her.

Oh really...not from my experience but they all look out of shape. Get up and go has been and gone in most cases. Most could never keep up in more ways than one.

Tell me about it! All their dating site profiles talked about relaxing on a sofa with a dvd and a nice glass of red and I was out dancing and gigging 5 nights a week! I'm bored with young men but I'm not ready for old men!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Of course, there are poor examples of both sexes.

But! Men are visually driven, women less so.

As a young, slim, attractive woman you won't have any idea how much the drinks in the bar cost. Holidays will be paid for you and the social deference you invoke is staggering. It's real power.

However, it doesn't last.

Like I said, you might think a woman is a 'great' fifty or sixty. But is isn't twenties and men are hard wired to find youth a beauty the most attractive sexual triggers.

Of course it doesn’t last.

Nothing is forever.

I’ll make the most of my free drinks.

I wonder if a free holiday to Bournemouth counts?

Not everyone looked better in their 20s for various reasons, weight, blossoming late, drugs, alcohol, health wise etc etc.

I think we have established that men naturally are all for beauty & youth, it is the norm!

I think it’s each to their own

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her.

I agree.

They tend to take care of themselves for longer.

My Nan is 90 and still doing it!

Ha.

"
doing what..... The dishes? Cmon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Of course, there are poor examples of both sexes.

But! Men are visually driven, women less so.

As a young, slim, attractive woman you won't have any idea how much the drinks in the bar cost. Holidays will be paid for you and the social deference you invoke is staggering. It's real power.

However, it doesn't last.

Like I said, you might think a woman is a 'great' fifty or sixty. But is isn't twenties and men are hard wired to find youth a beauty the most attractive sexual triggers.

Of course it doesn’t last.

Nothing is forever.

I’ll make the most of my free drinks.

I wonder if a free holiday to Bournemouth counts?

Not everyone looked better in their 20s for various reasons, weight, blossoming late, drugs, alcohol, health wise etc etc.

I think we have established that men naturally are all for beauty & youth, it is the norm!

I think it’s each to their own

I agree!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her.

I agree.

They tend to take care of themselves for longer.

My Nan is 90 and still doing it!

Ha.

doing what..... The dishes? Cmon

Shhhhh!

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her.

I agree.

They tend to take care of themselves for longer.

My Nan is 90 and still doing it!

Ha.

doing what..... The dishes? Cmon

Shhhhh!

I cant find my fluffy slippers

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her.

I agree.

They tend to take care of themselves for longer.

My Nan is 90 and still doing it!

Ha.

doing what..... The dishes? Cmon

Shhhhh!

I cant find my fluffy slippers

What's with those stupid slippers??

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By *hanazMan over a year ago

London

"Women are more hard-wired to search for a relationship than men, so it's often easier for a man to get a fulfilling relationship compared to a woman. Evolutionary biology determines that women are the gatekeepers of sex and men the gatekeepers of commitment....

Thank you for your insight, I enjoyed reading that and my personal experience mirrors what you stated.

You're absolutely correct in the disparity between younger and mature women in terms of choosing a partner.

I've been in long-term relationships with women on both sides of the age spectrum and I'm more akin to the no nonsense straightforwardness and confidence of mature women.

I find it is easier to communicate the desire to swing with an older woman than her younger counterpart.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's going to sound brutal and I don't mean it to be, but dating is tough as you get older, especially for ladies.

Oh it is, men look better the craggier they get, we tend not to lol, so they all want a younger model!

I disagree!

I’ve seen some men who haven’t aged well, or nicely put had a very hard paper round.

Of course after a certain age we will probably all be undateable haha!

But I don’t think it’s specifically harder for women or vice versa, it depends on the individual.

WRONG, that woman in her sixties may be a good sixty. But sixty is sixty and she was certainly better in HER thirties.

Yes, Raquel Welch looks amazing now. Shocker, she looked her best in her twenties.

Maybe she did look better in her 30s, maybe she was overweight and didn’t look after herself in her 30s... how would you or I know?

And so what if she did? She looks good now, so I applaud her for her body.

I don’t think I missed the point but hey ho.

I’m 25.

I agree more women are attractive for their age than men also. I also don’t doubt that the older you get the smaller your dating pool gets!

Who says the women are more attractive as they age? You? Do you date or seek women?

As men age they look like Sean Connery. As women age they look like Sean Connery.

There was an Observer (not a rag) article recently about a 50 year old woman who came off online dating because no men around her age contacted her.

I agree.

They tend to take care of themselves for longer.

My Nan is 90 and still doing it!

Ha.

doing what..... The dishes? Cmon

Shhhhh!

I cant find my fluffy slippers

"
dogs got them

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By *ilver_StarMan over a year ago

Warwickshire

Well, as someone recently divorced, I can say that dating sites can work well - sure, you don’t know someone’s sexual ‘interests’ before meeting, but in my experience most woman these days are pretty confident about what they want in that respect. Personally I’d prefer to meet someone with whom I can enjoy a full relationship (not just sex) - Fab/Swinging is great, but ultimately it’s not about meeting a life partner... you may get lucky (if that’s something you are looking for), but I sense it’s very unlikely.

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By *etLikeMan over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

" can say that dating sites can work well - sure, you don’t know someone’s sexual ‘interests’ before meeting."

On okc you can find out (and reveal) a hell of a lot more of what you’re into and what you’re not into than a mile long profile on here.

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By *rryTMan over a year ago

Nottingham

It maybe as simple that Fab works better for women and dating apps for blokes... For sex anyway, time will tell on anything more

Interesting thread this

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"It maybe as simple that Fab works better for women and dating apps for blokes... For sex anyway, time will tell on anything more

Interesting thread this

Fabswingers? What, the swinging community?

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By *ent79Man over a year ago

Fareham & Torquay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well for those men amongst us that are in the bottom 25% on the looks department probably find it alot harder thwn a woman to find a decent stable relationship.

Especslly as was mentioned earlier how you have to be in the top 20% just to be considered average.

No wonder that the single men women are trying to date are playing around, the good ones are already taken out of the valid 20% so that will leave maybe 5% with all the women after them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m not looking for a relationship and to date would be leading someone on to that end. Looking for a regular FB though and i suppose if I met a woman from FAB that ended up going that way then maybe if there was a connection. but at the moment I’m just having fun and this place lets you find that - in the most part.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So this is depressing.

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By *ockspur and FizzCouple over a year ago

Somewhere

I swiped right and got a wife!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How much generalisation can we put in one forum thread!

Op - from the dating threads on here there are people who want to do both, and others who have no intention of dating. I’m managing both in parallel and also I’m crossing both. Just go with it; you never know what’s around the corner... or who

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good for you.

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By *attoo manMan over a year ago

Rhyl

Met some great women on P.O.F. But also met some great people on here. Just takes a lot longer on here lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tried the old fashioned way,ya know when out,I get hit on by married men.

Fab has been good.

But I agree OP,it can be frustrating when one wants both what the heart and what the body wants.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m on dating sites as well as here. I struggle to just meet a guy for a date. I guess with here you know that’s it’s just for sex but it would be nice to find that special someone and have a relationship with. But I doubt it will ever happen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It maybe as simple that Fab works better for women and dating apps for blokes... For sex anyway, time will tell on anything more

Interesting thread this

Dating sites offer a whiff of commitment and women are hard wired to seek this - with a suitable man of course.

Fab is sex, hence the massive oversupply of guys relative to couples and especially ladies.

Male reproductive sexual strategy is to spread your genetic material as far and wide as possible.

Female reproductive sexual strategy is to select the best possible genetic material and shit-test like crazy to be sure you're getting it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I want good fun sex and if something extra develop that’s a bonus but I hated tinder and badoo. I hate the shallowness of it

I’m comfortable in fab and prefer a no bullshit approach

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depending on your expectations, FAB is great for women.

Attention city and loads of mail.

Met a woman at a party once that said on POF she got virtually no mail.

On FAB she gets loads but it's no really what she's looking for.

I suspect most of the single women on here that say they just want fun sex are secretly hoping Prince Charming comes along.

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By *pal2Man over a year ago

cumbria

Single women of any description can pick and choose on here but may find men generally want one thing and many men aren't that choosy for a quickie

Not so good for single men who find that women are inundated with offers and can afford to be very choosy.

I dont go on dating sites but had quite a bit of success on Facebook.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Depending on your expectations, FAB is great for women.

Attention city and loads of mail.

Met a woman at a party once that said on POF she got virtually no mail.

On FAB she gets loads but it's no really what she's looking for.

I suspect most of the single women on here that say they just want fun sex are secretly hoping Prince Charming comes along."

I certainly am not hoping my Prince Charming comes along. I’ve had causal sex with guys who want more, when I don’t, it’s frustrating.

It might be hard for some to grasp, but there are definitely some of us single women out there who want NSA & just that. So hard to believe I know!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There will be exceptions to every rule. Doesn't mean there isn't a rule.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I want good fun sex and if something extra develop that’s a bonus but I hated tinder and badoo. I hate the shallowness of it

I’m comfortable in fab and prefer a no bullshit approach "

Me too.

I joined Tinder for hookups and I got them, but it was very tedious and a lot of the men on there just had nothing about them and weren’t interesting enough for me to want to continue a conversation, or they were far too clingy and wanted more.

Totally different on here for me even in my short time of being a member I find there are far more interesting people here & they have a bit about them.

Even with casual NSA sex, I still want to be able to meet with someone who’s personality bounces off mine!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Depending on your expectations, FAB is great for women.

Attention city and loads of mail.

Met a woman at a party once that said on POF she got virtually no mail.

On FAB she gets loads but it's no really what she's looking for.

I suspect most of the single women on here that say they just want fun sex are secretly hoping Prince Charming comes along.

I certainly am not hoping my Prince Charming comes along. I’ve had causal sex with guys who want more, when I don’t, it’s frustrating.

It might be hard for some to grasp, but there are definitely some of us single women out there who want NSA & just that. So hard to believe I know!!!

And you're 25 - it's cock carousel time. This preference I suspect will not last.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Depending on your expectations, FAB is great for women.

Attention city and loads of mail.

Met a woman at a party once that said on POF she got virtually no mail.

On FAB she gets loads but it's no really what she's looking for.

I suspect most of the single women on here that say they just want fun sex are secretly hoping Prince Charming comes along.

I certainly am not hoping my Prince Charming comes along. I’ve had causal sex with guys who want more, when I don’t, it’s frustrating.

It might be hard for some to grasp, but there are definitely some of us single women out there who want NSA & just that. So hard to believe I know!!!

And you're 25 - it's cock carousel time. This preference I suspect will not last. "

Nothing ever lasts, so if course it won’t.

Besides who cares if it lasts or not? The future is unknown so I don’t worry about it or predict it.

I’m more focused on the present, and cock carousel as you call it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This a story for all the women and men over fifty.......

My client and his wife got a divorce 5 years ago. I still manage both of their accounts....

He was 56 when they divorced and after about 2 years he began dating again.... At 58 this man was having more sex than me. He was dating women from 25-45 and thought women over 45 were too old. He was traveling all over the world and having women propose to him..He is now 61 married to a 35 year old Brizilian or Colombian woman and has twin girls....

His wife was 50 when they divorced and in 5 years has not had a meaning full relationship. She went the cougar route dating artist, musicians, models and personal trainers...I would see large deposit from he account and ask her about them. They were always some project her new boyfriends needed help with. No marriage proposals from these guys , but lots of stopped checks and wire transfers....

She is now 55 and has a big animal rescue farm.....

So from this story..... who had the better dating experience after 50?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This a story for all the women and men over fifty.......

My client and his wife got a divorce 5 years ago. I still manage both of their accounts....

She is now 55 and has a big animal rescue farm.....

So from this story..... who had the better dating experience after 50?"

Absolutely. Men are hardwired to seek out youth and beauty and older men, especially if successful and confident, always have options and even become a parent later in life. Our biological clock runs for far, far longer.

Men are born poor but gain value later in life. Women are born rich but become poor later in life - that’s why there’s a multi billion pound cosmetic industry that seeks to preserve youth and get rid of those wrinkles.

Women, for the most part, can always get sex. As Jeffries said, there are fat, ugly sluts, there are no fat, ugly studs.

But ladies, remember, yes it’s all empowering on here to say that you love all the cock and sure you’ll get sex. However, a high quality man with options will NEVER put a ring on it for a woman like that.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"This a story for all the women and men over fifty.......

My client and his wife got a divorce 5 years ago. I still manage both of their accounts....

She is now 55 and has a big animal rescue farm.....

So from this story..... who had the better dating experience after 50?"

Haha, I'd love to run an animal rescue farm.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This a story for all the women and men over fifty.......

My client and his wife got a divorce 5 years ago. I still manage both of their accounts....

She is now 55 and has a big animal rescue farm.....

So from this story..... who had the better dating experience after 50?

Haha, I'd love to run an animal rescue farm.....

Is that the ‘more’ after the seeking FB/FWB?

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"This a story for all the women and men over fifty.......

My client and his wife got a divorce 5 years ago. I still manage both of their accounts....

She is now 55 and has a big animal rescue farm.....

So from this story..... who had the better dating experience after 50?

Women, for the most part, can always get sex. As Jeffries said, there are fat, ugly sluts, there are no fat, ugly studs.

. "

Who was that short fat ugly porn star with the moustache?? He was very successful and famous....

Yes, in general, and specifically with the sexually minded, what you say is often true. And yet luckily for us there are some decent men in the world who have other agendas, though I grant you, finding them is like a needle in a haystack. Most would have no problem with someone having a reasonable sex life 'meanwhile', we don't all need to have gangbangs in the back of a van to keep ourselves sane, one or two long term regulars are perfectly acceptable to the majority of offsite people I talk to about such things.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"This a story for all the women and men over fifty.......

My client and his wife got a divorce 5 years ago. I still manage both of their accounts....

She is now 55 and has a big animal rescue farm.....

So from this story..... who had the better dating experience after 50?

Haha, I'd love to run an animal rescue farm.....

Is that the ‘more’ after the seeking FB/FWB?"

Yeah, he can come and drive the tractor for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Date me date me don't sedate me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This a story for all the women and men over fifty.......

My client and his wife got a divorce 5 years ago. I still manage both of their accounts....

She is now 55 and has a big animal rescue farm.....

So from this story..... who had the better dating experience after 50?

Women, for the most part, can always get sex. As Jeffries said, there are fat, ugly sluts, there are no fat, ugly studs.

Wow! Showing your views on the females using this site - it’s 2018! Helps with my block list.

Not sure where that puts women in couples on here?! For the record I find it hard to meet couples because the MAN has let himself go - the wife rocks - same as the SM on here; many have had a rough decade!

I LOVE COCK AND PUSSY and don’t want no ring on it

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By *andsome_Chef88Man over a year ago

London

"Anyone else struggling with the longing for love vs the yearnings of the loins and the frustration of easiness to get sex vs difficulty in getting dates with men actually wanting more than just sex?

I’ve offered you out on a date on here

but to no prevail.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The pornstar was Ron Jeremy and the key point is that he was a famous man and fame is ‘chick crack’ in that it identifies pre-selected men.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"This a story for all the women and men over fifty.......

My client and his wife got a divorce 5 years ago. I still manage both of their accounts....

She is now 55 and has a big animal rescue farm.....

So from this story..... who had the better dating experience after 50?"

My view is that being a 61 year old man with a partner young enough to be your daughter (who is probably primarily interested in your money) and having twins with her sounds bloody awful.

I had kids with someone my own age and said kids are now grown up. There's no way I would want a second family at my age.

I suppose it depends what you want from life. If you are interested in the perceived status that having a much younger wife brings, go for it.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"The pornstar was Ron Jeremy and the key point is that he was a famous man and fame is ‘chick crack’ in that it identifies pre-selected men."

Didn't he initially get into porn because he had an enormous cock?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This a story for all the women and men over fifty.......

My client and his wife got a divorce 5 years ago. I still manage both of their accounts....

She is now 55 and has a big animal rescue farm.....

So from this story..... who had the better dating experience after 50?

Women, for the most part, can always get sex. As Jeffries said, there are fat, ugly sluts, there are no fat, ugly studs.

Wow! Showing your views on the females using this site - it’s 2018! Helps with my block list.

I LOVE COCK AND PUSSY and don’t want no ring on it

I know.

Hilarious.

Sounds like one of those men who have no issues with men sleeping around but as soon as women do it they say “No one will marry you”, how very outdated!

No doubt there are plenty of women on here who have enjoyed cock & are happily married and exploring with their partners.

You’d think these outdated views would’ve died out a long time ago, but I guess some can’t stand to see women have just as much fun as them and not be judged for it.

Oh how wrong of us!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This a story for all the women and men over fifty.......

My client and his wife got a divorce 5 years ago. I still manage both of their accounts....

She is now 55 and has a big animal rescue farm.....

So from this story..... who had the better dating experience after 50?

My view is that being a 61 year old man with a partner young enough to be your daughter (who is probably primarily interested in your money) and having twins with her sounds bloody awful.

I had kids with someone my own age and said kids are now grown up. There's no way I would want a second family at my age.

I suppose it depends what you want from life. If you are interested in the perceived status that having a much younger wife brings, go for it. "

Exactly.

What younger woman is going to pick a man in his 60s over a man let’s say in his 30s unless there’s something in it for her?

Its likely she’s with him for his money to pave her future and if he’s fine with that well done to them both, the kids will be set for life!

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"This a story for all the women and men over fifty.......

My client and his wife got a divorce 5 years ago. I still manage both of their accounts....

She is now 55 and has a big animal rescue farm.....

So from this story..... who had the better dating experience after 50?

My view is that being a 61 year old man with a partner young enough to be your daughter (who is probably primarily interested in your money) and having twins with her sounds bloody awful.

I had kids with someone my own age and said kids are now grown up. There's no way I would want a second family at my age.

I suppose it depends what you want from life. If you are interested in the perceived status that having a much younger wife brings, go for it.

Exactly.

What younger woman is going to pick a man in his 60s over a man let’s say in his 30s unless there’s something in it for her?

Its likely she’s with him for his money to pave her future and if he’s fine with that well done to them both, the kids will be set for life!

Indeed I cant think of anything worse than being in a relationship with someone who was attracted to me because of my wealth.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This a story for all the women and men over fifty.......

My client and his wife got a divorce 5 years ago. I still manage both of their accounts....

She is now 55 and has a big animal rescue farm.....

So from this story..... who had the better dating experience after 50?

My view is that being a 61 year old man with a partner young enough to be your daughter (who is probably primarily interested in your money) and having twins with her sounds bloody awful.

I had kids with someone my own age and said kids are now grown up. There's no way I would want a second family at my age.

I suppose it depends what you want from life. If you are interested in the perceived status that having a much younger wife brings, go for it.

Exactly.

What younger woman is going to pick a man in his 60s over a man let’s say in his 30s unless there’s something in it for her?

Its likely she’s with him for his money to pave her future and if he’s fine with that well done to them both, the kids will be set for life!

Indeed I cant think of anything worse than being in a relationship with someone who was attracted to me because of my wealth. "
are you wealthy....... Hi how are you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This a story for all the women and men over fifty.......

My client and his wife got a divorce 5 years ago. I still manage both of their accounts....

She is now 55 and has a big animal rescue farm.....

So from this story..... who had the better dating experience after 50?

My view is that being a 61 year old man with a partner young enough to be your daughter (who is probably primarily interested in your money) and having twins with her sounds bloody awful.

I had kids with someone my own age and said kids are now grown up. There's no way I would want a second family at my age.

I suppose it depends what you want from life. If you are interested in the perceived status that having a much younger wife brings, go for it.

Exactly.

What younger woman is going to pick a man in his 60s over a man let’s say in his 30s unless there’s something in it for her?

Its likely she’s with him for his money to pave her future and if he’s fine with that well done to them both, the kids will be set for life!

Indeed I cant think of anything worse than being in a relationship with someone who was attracted to me because of my wealth. "

It’s a bit embarrassing really.

You see these rich older men with their younger partners who think they’ve won at life, when in reality the younger woman is using him to better her own life.

It’s sad, that some older men are that desperate for love they’d lower their standards to someone who is only interested in what their bank balance is... regardless of her age.

They’d be better off paying for it, or doing some sort of sugar arrangement. Atleast then they keep their dignity & it’s honest from the start.

No doubt there are age difference couples who are genuinely in it for the right reasons. But I’d say they are in the minority.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This a story for all the women and men over fifty.......

My client and his wife got a divorce 5 years ago. I still manage both of their accounts....

She is now 55 and has a big animal rescue farm.....

So from this story..... who had the better dating experience after 50?

My view is that being a 61 year old man with a partner young enough to be your daughter (who is probably primarily interested in your money) and having twins with her sounds bloody awful.

I had kids with someone my own age and said kids are now grown up. There's no way I would want a second family at my age.

I suppose it depends what you want from life. If you are interested in the perceived status that having a much younger wife brings, go for it.

Exactly.

What younger woman is going to pick a man in his 60s over a man let’s say in his 30s unless there’s something in it for her?

Its likely she’s with him for his money to pave her future and if he’s fine with that well done to them both, the kids will be set for life!

Indeed I cant think of anything worse than being in a relationship with someone who was attracted to me because of my wealth. "

Maybe loving someone who thinks because you like sex you’re not worthy of a relationship with them, but they can fornicate and be a high quality male (in their opinion).

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