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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Tried it a few times,but have been put off big time by the guy saying they will be gentle,then ramming it in like they are trying to hammer a square peg in a round hole! But I genuinely feel like I'm missing out!
What's the trick to it please people x any offers from genuine guys who REALLY know what they are doing would be appreciated  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Need to relax and Lub... Probably best to stick to the head just going in and out... I then normally reach around and rub clit tor extra sensation... Helps not being too big and wide.. |
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Find someone with a smaller dick that you trust and get them to. I had a bad experience the first time I tried it. My old fuck buddy got me over that and to love it
Time, patience and lots of lube are the important bits.
Oh and someone who enjoys the journey more than the destination |
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Prep prep prep then taking your time with plenty of lube.
I usually find trying to relax your partner as much as possible using a lubricated finger some teasing and fingering helps before trying any penetration.
When penetrating head only first bearing in mind the hardest bit is to get past the sphincter but ramming it in is certainly not helpful!
Would offer to help as I'm local x |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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Do it with someone you've met a few times who has experience and that you trust. He needs to listen to you.
Have an orgasm first. Use lube. Use a toy on yourself as he enters you. Relax.
With the right person it is a very intense experience imo you are missing out! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s all about preparation in our experience. Plenty of lubrication and using a plug or a smooth dildo that can be used first.. after then it’s about communication and making sure you are comfortable and only going harder / deeper when you are ready..
Mrs NW has had the most fantastic orgasms through anal sex so we would definitely recommend exploring with the right guy |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Tried it a few times,but have been put off big time by the guy saying they will be gentle,then ramming it in like they are trying to hammer a square peg in a round hole! But I genuinely feel like I'm missing out!
What's the trick to it please people x any offers from genuine guys who REALLY know what they are doing would be appreciated "
You've unfortunately had a bad experience with a very selfish man who's clearly watched too much porn. Choose someone you trust and lots of lube. Good luck OP x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Douch first so you are perfectly clean and relaxed
Lots of anal lube
Start with a gentle guy with average girth
Gentle gentle to start - YOU guide it in a tiny bit at a time, relax, then a tiny bit more, relax then tiny bit more until its in and then he can then start gentle pounding etc x |
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By *oi93Man
over a year ago
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The best way is to take things slow, learn on your own before introducing someone else into the equation.
Start of small use a finger, a small plug and slowly work your way up, a key point is you can never have too much lube, it's better to be safe than sorry. Make sure you are relaxed and not tense and if it hurts just stop, you can always try again later.
As far as anal sex, find someone you can trust to respect that you need to take it slow and will stop if you say so. Just bear in mind it's not for everyone, all the best hope you enjoy exploring. |
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I’ve never done it so can’t offer any advice other than surely with the right partner and setting, with good communication , should work.
Closest I came was with an Italian girl who when we met in hotels liked to be bent over the basin, fucked from behind with my finger in her bum while we both looked at each other in the mirror. We were building to it and she asked her doctor for advice. Perfectly natural and no harm if relaxed and well lubed was the advice.
Went on to explain that many women in Italy needed corrective surgery where their husbands forced it on them. Men! Bastards.
I would like to try it. |
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"Do it with someone you've met a few times who has experience and that you trust. He needs to listen to you.
Have an orgasm first. Use lube. Use a toy on yourself as he enters you. Relax.
With the right person it is a very intense experience imo you are missing out!"
Totally agree with this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A set of buttplugs, you can get sets of 3. Start off small and plenty of lube. Just get used to keeping that small one in for a short length of time, then gradually increase it. Once you’ve mastered that size, go up to the medium one. And so on. Getting used to those, you will then find it easier with a cock / but that can depend on the cock size.
Position also important in anal if you’re not used to it. And you need a man who’s done it before and can take it slow. And don’t worry if it doesn’t happen the first few times, patience is key.
At the end of the day , it’s like marmite though, you like or not and for some, it’ll never be liked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Loads and loads of lube. We got an anal relaxing one. No idea if it’s a placebo 
Head in. Stop til the burning subsides then go further and stop again. Just really slow is the key. Once it’s in. Bingo  |
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Lube up. Take it slowly, inserting just the head first and even if it stings initially, the pain quickly subsides. Once you're relaxed you can pick up the pace and then it feels deliciously naughty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tried it a few times,but have been put off big time by the guy saying they will be gentle,then ramming it in like they are trying to hammer a square peg in a round hole! But I genuinely feel like I'm missing out!
What's the trick to it please people x any offers from genuine guys who REALLY know what they are doing would be appreciated "
The easiest way as somebody else has already said, is for you to be in control. As someone who has taken a couple of girls anal virginity I found the best way is lube, lube and more lube, then finger or two and finally for the female to push back on my cock, me just staying still. She/you can then push back and stop if it starts to hurt, relax and then carry on until he is in and such time he can start, very slowly to fuck you, responding to your body and you as you get used to it.
Not failed me yet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Find a guy who knows what he’s doing and can cope with instruction and guidance and the fact that you need to control the pace etc. Guys who can’t cope with this are generally rubbish at it. |
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Anal virgins should practice with toys and butt plugs to get used to the feeling of having something in there before they even contemplate letting a guy. Nothing worse than getting half a tip in and the lady bails out. Kills the mood. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s knowing what your doing going in.
As a guy you wouldn’t just jam into a pussy without warming it up and the same has to be said for an ass.
I’ve always done it by starting out with a well lubed single digit then a second to get the ball rolling. Often it’s just the pinky as a test of the water as it’s not too intrusive and can be politely declined or encouraged. If it’s encouraged then we step up to full sized digits. A little parting of the fingers can give an extra stretch then once it’s time to move on lots more lube (when you think it’s everywhere and too much you’ve probably hit the right amount) then go steadily with you telling the penetrator when he can go deeper. Don’t forget there are 2 sets of sphincters there the one you see and an inner set. You can relax the outer but the inner you can’t although I’ve been told that if you push as if going to the toilet it will open and let them in.
As much as porn shows it just being a smash it in and hammer away it’s a very slow start with lots of trust activity. It’s just once your comfortable you can go at it harder! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would use varying sizes of butt plugs and then once your bum is used to taking something, I find the standing up bent over a table position best.
Here’s how I would do it....
I would slowly insert a lubed butt plug as I was licking her pussy, allowing her to push back on it whenever she felt comfortable. Then once it’s all the way in, I stand behind and slowly push my cock into her pussy, allowing her to get used to both. Again allow her to push back until she’s fully used to both. If the butt plug has an end on it (like the flower petal ones you can get) then as she’s pushing back the end of the plug should hit my stomach and so it will feel like both are moving in and out getting double pleasure.
Before she cums, slowly ease the butt plug out and replace with your cock, again allowing her to control how deep and the speed. Never ever thrust...let them control it all and before long she’ll have her fingers playing with her clit, as she’s pushing back against your cock, cumming hard and as her sphincter contracts and tightens around my cock sending me over the edge.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lube patience fingers small toys to start & most importantly a guy that you trust.
Once you have mastered it you will love it and if it hurts you guy aint doing it right.
Europa "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Relaxation, trust and lube. Oh, and more lube. You've got to be comfortable with the person you're with and tryst that they won't hurt you, which will relax you that they won't just stick it in. Plenty of foreplay and lube and knowing that 'stop' will mean they stop.
Start small and work up to whatever you're comfortable with, without being pushed, then stop and enjoy. Next time try to go a bit more. It's not immediate but very pleasurable over time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lube lube and lube
Then
You need to find either a guy who will be very gentle and work with you of a female with a strap on
If the male just wants to ram it in ditch him like a hot potato! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tried it very sore hard to relax when your in pain lol  "
This.. im not a fan of anal tried a few times guy was gentle.. lube etc but no the feeling inside was just uncomfy.. so my ass is exit only |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lube. Trust. And if he’s a big boy, small toys.
If also suggest finding a true dom as they get the responsibility of their role.
Wannabe doms (eg those who think domming is just being rough) should be avoided. And probably most other men who loose control when a bit randy ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some good advice above for you. However, the type of lube is important, get a good one. Then getting you to relax, well, lots of external
Massage with fingers gently circling and teasing before gentle and gradual
Insertion. You should be able to experiment to the point of orgasm via fingers and massage before you even consider taking a cock.
When cock day comes, slow start with massage, then ease in the tip. You should be in control and take as much as you are comfortable with. The last thing you need is some guy ramming it in. |
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As others have said relax, lube up, take it slow and don't feel funny and stopping things.
I find it easier ifnk have had a good orgasm first although I enjoy anal anyway and now it's natural for me to take cock up there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He needs to get you relaxed first plenty of lube even try a finger or two seriously needs to take his time let you determine the pace bit at a time you can gently push back and forth more lube and take it from there see how your going good luck |
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Definitely douche first too - there’s nothing that’ll put you off more than an accident!
Then lube & relax, take it slow. I prefer anal when I’m on my back in the missionary position, but you need to find the one that’s right for you.
Starting off with anal play & plugs is also really good advice, build up to it.
Done right, it’s awesome. Done badly it’s horrendous, so always with someone you trust!
Good luck OP! x |
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find a fb with experience and a small to average dick... and then let him warm your bum up very nicely... rimming, fingering etc- it also helps me at time to be fingered in my pussy at the same time as being fucked anal. and you decide- you take controle how deep and fast and all that |
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"Tried it a few times,but have been put off big time by the guy saying they will be gentle,then ramming it in like they are trying to hammer a square peg in a round hole! But I genuinely feel like I'm missing out!
What's the trick to it please people x any offers from genuine guys who REALLY know what they are doing would be appreciated "
I’m right here... I’m sure I could get you 100% enjoying it!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tried it a few times,but have been put off big time by the guy saying they will be gentle,then ramming it in like they are trying to hammer a square peg in a round hole! But I genuinely feel like I'm missing out!
What's the trick to it please people x any offers from genuine guys who REALLY know what they are doing would be appreciated "
fuck it, stick a strap on onto you and bed him over and see if he likes it rammed up his arse, he will soon realise that he needs to take his time |
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Can only offer advice from as someone who as only ever given anal sex, I think a lot of guys forget it can be completely different to the lady receiving.
As others have said, it’s about your mood, more tense you arse, the more uncomfortable it will be, get the mood right first and formost. A partner who you can trust and who knows your body, who can tell when you are tensing up because of discomfort hugely helps. With some guys by the time you’ve muttered ‘this is hurting’ he’s probably balls deep in you!!
Yes prep first, anal douche until you are clear, saves fretting about it!!
Lube lube and some more lube.....you’ll soon learn when there is too much.
Finger toys tongue to gently open and relax your sphincter muscle, take your time, the more relaxed you are, the more relaxed your muscles will be.
When you’re ready, get him to position his cock at your arse, you push back, you dictate the pressure, a great tip is to push as if you’re trying to poo, this actually relaxes the sphincter, and makes it easier for your to accept him.
When he’s in, don’t let him move, you get comfortable and relaxed first, as and when you’re ready, again you push back on him, he’ll soon get the message and join your rhythm.
And most of all enjoy the wonders of anal sex
HG
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Fingers first as there are times when an ass opens up and times when it stays tight and won’t be wanting a cock
Then a thumb for same check
Then ease the tip in and don’t move let the lady push back and she stops whilst she gets used to the feeling then she pushes back again
Eventually you gently push at the the same time |
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By *eil189Man
over a year ago
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As many have said before use lube and more lube. Allow gentle fingers to open you up and slowly take the tip. After that the guy should allow you to control when and how deep each next stage is by you pushing or saying and him listening. Most importantly find the right guy who respects you and appreciates what you are doing with them. |
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"Tried it a few times,but have been put off big time by the guy saying they will be gentle,then ramming it in like they are trying to hammer a square peg in a round hole! But I genuinely feel like I'm missing out!
What's the trick to it please people x any offers from genuine guys who REALLY know what they are doing would be appreciated "
Get your hole ready with your fingers first then ask the guy to lick your hole before forcing his weapon. |
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Honestly? The secret is a man who knows what he's doing. I've never described myself as a fan of anal and have only attempted it with a handful of sexual partners, one was a decent experience, and with my current partner it's pretty incredible, every other time it's been generally painful, uncomfortable and something to avoid.
Now, and only with him, I love it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lube smooth toys getting bigger in size from very small to average cock size But playing solo once you know we're your limit is then it will be easier
Find a man that will listen and Tell him before hand that if he hurts then he gets your biggest toy in his ass xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"find a fb with experience and a small to average dick... and then let him warm your bum up very nicely... rimming, fingering etc- it also helps me at time to be fingered in my pussy at the same time as being fucked anal. and you decide- you take controle how deep and fast and all that"
Agree totally, also lay on your side, spooning style, it allows the female to push slowly back, relaxing the rectum as the cock enters. As above foreplay is essential, rimming and fingering, constantly lubing to allow smooth movement of the finger. Then make sure the penis is fully lubricated, even removing to lubricate again and again.
Good luck, you seem keen so I am sure you will find the pleasure x |
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"Find someone with a smaller dick that you trust and get them to. I had a bad experience the first time I tried it. My old fuck buddy got me over that and to love it
Time, patience and lots of lube are the important bits.
Oh and someone who enjoys the journey more than the destination "
This is good advice. Good luck. |
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