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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've noticed a few posts recently from women and couples who are looking for a regular male playmate/lover. It seems, however, that they're either as rare as unicorns or they say one thing and do another. This thread, then, is for men willing to commit to something more regular. Surely you must be out there? No bs guys. Only men who are genuinely looking for this should apply here. At the very least you should be totally comfortable meeting someone for 3 or 4 times, so you can enjoy slightly more of a connection.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is this for men for yourself?"
No lol I'm straight  It's intended to be a resource for women and couples to go to and see if there are any men in their area who would be open for something more regular  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely the issue is whether both parties enjoyed the first meet enough to both want subsequent meets?
It might be unrealistic to promise regular meets before you've had the first."
I agree but at least it’s good to know someone is looking for regular meets and not just one offs if that’s what you want too. |
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"Surely the issue is whether both parties enjoyed the first meet enough to both want subsequent meets?
It might be unrealistic to promise regular meets before you've had the first.
I agree but at least it’s good to know someone is looking for regular meets and not just one offs if that’s what you want too."
I agree but the problem is that people will say they're looking for regular meets if they think it increases their chances of getting sex. I've seen far too many people who've made themselves vulnerable to this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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you'll never know if its going to be regular untill youve met socially a few times as well as intimately ..
if 2 people really click , or a couple and a guy etc etc , probably likely they will meet more than once , twice , three times a laday, oh sorry , started singing ..........
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I agree but at least it’s good to know someone is looking for regular meets and not just one offs if that’s what you want too.
I agree but the problem is that people will say they're looking for regular meets if they think it increases their chances of getting sex. I've seen far too many people who've made themselves vulnerable to this."
For me, I'm actively interested in developing something regular because I'm genuinely looking for something with more of a connection. I agree that I still wouldn't meet someone a second time if it didn't work out on the first. But I am genuinely motivated to find it and I'm sure there are some men out there like me. I hope there's something useful in knowing what |
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"I agree but at least it’s good to know someone is looking for regular meets and not just one offs if that’s what you want too.
I agree but the problem is that people will say they're looking for regular meets if they think it increases their chances of getting sex. I've seen far too many people who've made themselves vulnerable to this.
For me, I'm actively interested in developing something regular because I'm genuinely looking for something with more of a connection. I agree that I still wouldn't meet someone a second time if it didn't work out on the first. But I am genuinely motivated to find it and I'm sure there are some men out there like me. I hope there's something useful in knowing what "
There are indeed genuinely people looking for regular meets and more of a connection. The motivation for that might not always be the same for both parties and therein lies the problem.
For instance we would like regular friend who we have an erotic connection with. However we don't want emotional intimacy, we don't want to feed their cat while they're on holiday or stand bail for them . Sometimes single people are looking for that type of connection and a certain degree of intimacy that we aren't able to offer. If they don't understand that they stand to get hurt down the line. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I agree but at least it’s good to know someone is looking for regular meets and not just one offs if that’s what you want too.
I agree but the problem is that people will say they're looking for regular meets if they think it increases their chances of getting sex. I've seen far too many people who've made themselves vulnerable to this.
For me, I'm actively interested in developing something regular because I'm genuinely looking for something with more of a connection. I agree that I still wouldn't meet someone a second time if it didn't work out on the first. But I am genuinely motivated to find it and I'm sure there are some men out there like me. I hope there's something useful in knowing what
There are indeed genuinely people looking for regular meets and more of a connection. The motivation for that might not always be the same for both parties and therein lies the problem.
For instance we would like regular friend who we have an erotic connection with. However we don't want emotional intimacy, we don't want to feed their cat while they're on holiday or stand bail for them . Sometimes single people are looking for that type of connection and a certain degree of intimacy that we aren't able to offer. If they don't understand that they stand to get hurt down the line."
Just for the record, I'm not interested in that kind of intimacy with a couple. That's their life. Not for me to infringe on. Indeed, I'm not so sure I want to bring any kind of "real life" drudgery into any of the sexual relationships I might (fingers crossed) have the fortune of enjoying on here. To me, that's more what happens in the latter stages of dating, as you figure out if you want to move in with each other. As such, I'd only be interested in going there with a single woman off here if it had clearly transformed into something more lastingly romantic |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I only do regular. If I suspect the women only does one offs the I decline going further. The veris can say a lot on this matter. I have had a few fb over the years...some lasting months others longer. It does take time to getting to know someone and have that gut feeling about them first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely the issue is whether both parties enjoyed the first meet enough to both want subsequent meets?
It might be unrealistic to promise regular meets before you've had the first.
I agree but at least it’s good to know someone is looking for regular meets and not just one offs if that’s what you want too.
I agree but the problem is that people will say they're looking for regular meets if they think it increases their chances of getting sex. I've seen far too many people who've made themselves vulnerable to this."
Just don’t give sex up straight away, if they genuinely want to meet up with one person they’ll be happy to meet for coffee etc before it goes further xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There are indeed genuinely people looking for regular meets and more of a connection. The motivation for that might not always be the same for both parties and therein lies the problem.
For instance we would like regular friend who we have an erotic connection with. However we don't want emotional intimacy, we don't want to feed their cat while they're on holiday or stand bail for them . Sometimes single people are looking for that type of connection and a certain degree of intimacy that we aren't able to offer. If they don't understand that they stand to get hurt down the line."
I'm intrigued now. Do you often stand bail for your vanilla friends?
I think it can be difficult to find people who genuinely understand the FWB dynamic and often people mistake friendly, chatty and moderately considerate as a desire for emotional engagement. I might well talk to you about your kids, but that doesn't mean I want to spend the day with them or introduce you to mine.
Not a response to the post quoted above btw. |
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There are indeed genuinely people looking for regular meets and more of a connection. The motivation for that might not always be the same for both parties and therein lies the problem.
For instance we would like regular friend who we have an erotic connection with. However we don't want emotional intimacy, we don't want to feed their cat while they're on holiday or stand bail for them . Sometimes single people are looking for that type of connection and a certain degree of intimacy that we aren't able to offer. If they don't understand that they stand to get hurt down the line.
I'm intrigued now. Do you often stand bail for your vanilla friends?
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Never, so far... |
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"Surely the issue is whether both parties enjoyed the first meet enough to both want subsequent meets?
It might be unrealistic to promise regular meets before you've had the first.
I agree but at least it’s good to know someone is looking for regular meets and not just one offs if that’s what you want too.
I agree but the problem is that people will say they're looking for regular meets if they think it increases their chances of getting sex. I've seen far too many people who've made themselves vulnerable to this.
Just don’t give sex up straight away, if they genuinely want to meet up with one person they’ll be happy to meet for coffee etc before it goes further xx"
I'm not concerned about giving up sex straight away, neither of us is here for a relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think very few guys on here want that.. they may say it to get a girl in bed but the reality is many guys want the next “fix” of a new meet. We all want differerent things from fab and thats cool but honesty really helps cut out the bullshit |
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I'm intrigued now. Do you often stand bail for your vanilla friends?
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Never, so far...
But it's clearly a consideration...
Just sayin'"
a throw away line to illustrate a point. Our friends are well aware we don't have the funds to put up bail for anybody. |
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"I think very few guys on here want that.. they may say it to get a girl in bed but the reality is many guys want the next “fix” of a new meet. We all want differerent things from fab and thats cool but honesty really helps cut out the bullshit "
Yep or they like the idea of regular, available sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I'm intrigued now. Do you often stand bail for your vanilla friends?
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Never, so far...
But it's clearly a consideration...
Just sayin'
a throw away line to illustrate a point. Our friends are well aware we don't have the funds to put up bail for anybody. "
And besides... what's wrong with a brief spell in a dungeon? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Meeting a small group of "friends" on a regular basis is much more preferable than meeting people once and then moving on to the next. But each to their own at the end of the day. |
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I'm intrigued now. Do you often stand bail for your vanilla friends?
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Never, so far...
But it's clearly a consideration...
Just sayin'
a throw away line to illustrate a point. Our friends are well aware we don't have the funds to put up bail for anybody.
And besides... what's wrong with a brief spell in a dungeon? "
Nothing, nothing at all but a longer spell is preferable... |
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I've been looking for a regular friend but they are as rare as unicorns and seem to be extinct in Derby. Had one regular a few years ago but she went off sex after 50! So, I'm still looking for some NSA regular fun |
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"Would love to but I am too complicated lol been on my own far too long wouldn't know how to be in a relationship x"
Would it really constitute a relationship though?
Mmf or mfmf or even mff meets with friends on a infrequent but fairly regular basis. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Would love to but I am too complicated lol been on my own far too long wouldn't know how to be in a relationship x"
That's the beauty of something regular... you get to choose what that involves for you. It may be something quite poly, with lives overlapping in many ways. Or it could just be a delicious fantasy world you dip your toes into every now and then, something with a connection yes... but not a relationship in the broader sense |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"But men on fab who want regular look for other's as its a swinging site .They are always looking for next best fuck "
Therein lies the fallacy. The best fuck is always the next one you have with someone you're in a process of connecting with on a deeper and deeper level. Can't beat that  |
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