first couple of times i went with a guy but now I'm quite happy to go alone seeing as its such a friendly and relaxing place.
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"I want to go but not keen on going alone. Any suggestions? "
Just ask on your profile there are enough Guy's that will go with you to have lots of fun.   |
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Superb friendly club, go on a Friday, let them know your their for the first time and ask to be introduced to a couple of the single fem regulars, sit in the bar, have some drinks, you will be well away hun. |
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"where is chams anyway.. was looking to see if there was anything on halloween weekend but cant see anything in Brum 28/29 oct"
it is in darlaston which is just off jnc 9 or 10 (in the middle not i'm unsure ) and they are having a halloween weekend that weekend  |
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"I want to go but not keen on going alone. Any suggestions? "
When I went there (alone) and asked if I may join. I was told that their membrship list is full and there are no vacancies. When I asked why it wasn't mentioned on their website I was told that "you have telephoned before you came here". Again I asked why wasn't that on the website either. I know that I was refused entry because I am 71 years old, but there's no way that they would admit it.
So I told them in no uncertain terms to shove their club up their arse and I will not be going back again. |
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There are a few parties coming up at chams (meets and parties section) if you put your name down you wont be on your own for long, people are really friendly and will look after you. Plus you get to meet a lot of the forum regulars |
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"I want to go but not keen on going alone. Any suggestions?
When I went there (alone) and asked if I may join. I was told that their membrship list is full and there are no vacancies. When I asked why it wasn't mentioned on their website I was told that "you have telephoned before you came here". Again I asked why wasn't that on the website either. I know that I was refused entry because I am 71 years old, but there's no way that they would admit it.
So I told them in no uncertain terms to shove their club up their arse and I will not be going back again."
Friendly then.....  |
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over a year ago
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"I want to go but not keen on going alone. Any suggestions?
When I went there (alone) and asked if I may join. I was told that their membrship list is full and there are no vacancies. When I asked why it wasn't mentioned on their website I was told that "you have telephoned before you came here". Again I asked why wasn't that on the website either. I know that I was refused entry because I am 71 years old, but there's no way that they would admit it.
So I told them in no uncertain terms to shove their club up their arse and I will not be going back again."
Sorry to hear you were disappointed but apparently there is a very long waiting list for single men at Chams at the mo. Always better to ring in advance whatever.
I was there couple of weeks ago on my own. Everyone I spoke to was lovely but the lack of single guys that night was a shame. |
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over a year ago
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"I want to go but not keen on going alone. Any suggestions?
When I went there (alone) and asked if I may join. I was told that their membrship list is full and there are no vacancies. When I asked why it wasn't mentioned on their website I was told that "you have telephoned before you came here". Again I asked why wasn't that on the website either. I know that I was refused entry because I am 71 years old, but there's no way that they would admit it.
So I told them in no uncertain terms to shove their club up their arse and I will not be going back again.
Sorry to hear you were disappointed but apparently there is a very long waiting list for single men at Chams at the mo. Always better to ring in advance whatever.
I was there couple of weeks ago on my own. Everyone I spoke to was lovely but the lack of single guys that night was a shame. "
I was on the waiting list for 18 months, but I've now been going for over 4 years, and love everyday I'm there! |
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over a year ago
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"I want to go but not keen on going alone. Any suggestions?
When I went there (alone) and asked if I may join. I was told that their membrship list is full and there are no vacancies. When I asked why it wasn't mentioned on their website I was told that "you have telephoned before you came here". Again I asked why wasn't that on the website either. I know that I was refused entry because I am 71 years old, but there's no way that they would admit it.
So I told them in no uncertain terms to shove their club up their arse and I will not be going back again.
Sorry to hear you were disappointed but apparently there is a very long waiting list for single men at Chams at the mo. Always better to ring in advance whatever.
I was there couple of weeks ago on my own. Everyone I spoke to was lovely but the lack of single guys that night was a shame.
I was on the waiting list for 18 months, but I've now been going for over 4 years, and love everyday I'm there!"
There you go! You were patient and got in eventually. Shame you weren't there when I was as I'm unlikely to go back now. |
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Going on your own can be daunting!
I went with a male friend the first time, which helped!
As for not many single men being in there- never had that problem!
And the socials mean that you don't need membership for them so its a good way to have a gander first.
As for the ageist thing, thats bull, sorry, I have seen people in there quite often who are Silverfoxes!
Its probably because you were a single male, not because of your age! |
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"When I went there (alone) and asked if I may join. I was told that their membrship list is full and there are no vacancies."
I've hear that off a few guys. That said I've also heard that if you look like Tom Cruise, have a 6-pack, are under 35 and are likely to please the ladies, there are no waiting lists, and they'll welcome you as a member straight away.
So basically, fit the profile you get in. Otherwise, they will resort to the standard get-out clause, and at 71, you're over double their reported maximum age, so a bit of bad luck on that score.
I suppose that they could argue that it "improves the quality of the product" by using what they would term "natural selection" and "membership of the fittest". Problem is, that the same does not go for membership criteria for females and couples, where anyone can seem to join. |
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I had a chaperone at Chams for one of the socials when my OH was working abroad. He was someone from my friends list, and bless him he took care of me all evening. Just ask a few of the guys on your friends list, hopefully one of them would like to go with you  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Sometimes it takes a little patience (or a lot). Shame you don't visit anymore ... I'm sure catching you at another location is possible xx"
Mmm not sure. Going to a club alone can be a bit lonely. I'll stick to Isis. |
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over a year ago
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sometimes having someone to go with you is a good thing
im pretty confident so dont bother me walking in on my own. im more bothered about a 121 meet in a hotel than chams |
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"I want to go but not keen on going alone. Any suggestions?
When I went there (alone) and asked if I may join. I was told that their membrship list is full and there are no vacancies. When I asked why it wasn't mentioned on their website I was told that "you have telephoned before you came here". Again I asked why wasn't that on the website either. I know that I was refused entry because I am 71 years old, but there's no way that they would admit it.
So I told them in no uncertain terms to shove their club up their arse and I will not be going back again.
Sorry to hear you were disappointed but apparently there is a very long waiting list for single men at Chams at the mo. Always better to ring in advance whatever.
I was there couple of weeks ago on my own. Everyone I spoke to was lovely but the lack of single guys that night was a shame.
I was on the waiting list for 18 months, but I've now been going for over 4 years, and love everyday I'm there!
There you go! You were patient and got in eventually. Shame you weren't there when I was as I'm unlikely to go back now."
I have 2 male friends, one 50, the other 54 who went on seperate occasions a couple of months before I went and they had no problems joining.
I have no doubt whatsoever it was because of my age. I was very polite until just before I left. I wouldn't go back if they paid me for going. That's how strongly I feel about it. |
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IMHO, I do not believe Chams is ageist, as I have seen and met some lovely people who are in their 60s/70s.
Attempting to join a swingers club as a single gent without doing any research on membership availability and expected to be accepted just by walking in, IMHO, is naive.
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"I want to go but not keen on going alone. Any suggestions?
When I went there (alone) and asked if I may join. I was told that their membrship list is full and there are no vacancies. When I asked why it wasn't mentioned on their website I was told that "you have telephoned before you came here". Again I asked why wasn't that on the website either. I know that I was refused entry because I am 71 years old, but there's no way that they would admit it.
So I told them in no uncertain terms to shove their club up their arse and I will not be going back again.
Sorry to hear you were disappointed but apparently there is a very long waiting list for single men at Chams at the mo. Always better to ring in advance whatever.
I was there couple of weeks ago on my own. Everyone I spoke to was lovely but the lack of single guys that night was a shame.
I was on the waiting list for 18 months, but I've now been going for over 4 years, and love everyday I'm there!
There you go! You were patient and got in eventually. Shame you weren't there when I was as I'm unlikely to go back now.
I have 2 male friends, one 50, the other 54 who went on seperate occasions a couple of months before I went and they had no problems joining.
I have no doubt whatsoever it was because of my age. I was very polite until just before I left. I wouldn't go back if they paid me for going. That's how strongly I feel about it."
I'm sure they will miss you terribly!!! |
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By *BW38jWoman
over a year ago
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"I want to go but not keen on going alone. Any suggestions? "
i go alone all the time love it just get there early and car park man always tries to get the single women into the sectioned off car park |
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By *BW38jWoman
over a year ago
Dudley/Telford |
"I want to go but not keen on going alone. Any suggestions?
When I went there (alone) and asked if I may join. I was told that their membrship list is full and there are no vacancies. When I asked why it wasn't mentioned on their website I was told that "you have telephoned before you came here". Again I asked why wasn't that on the website either. I know that I was refused entry because I am 71 years old, but there's no way that they would admit it.
So I told them in no uncertain terms to shove their club up their arse and I will not be going back again.
Sorry to hear you were disappointed but apparently there is a very long waiting list for single men at Chams at the mo. Always better to ring in advance whatever.
I was there couple of weeks ago on my own. Everyone I spoke to was lovely but the lack of single guys that night was a shame.
I was on the waiting list for 18 months, but I've now been going for over 4 years, and love everyday I'm there!
There you go! You were patient and got in eventually. Shame you weren't there when I was as I'm unlikely to go back now.
I have 2 male friends, one 50, the other 54 who went on seperate occasions a couple of months before I went and they had no problems joining.
I have no doubt whatsoever it was because of my age. I was very polite until just before I left. I wouldn't go back if they paid me for going. That's how strongly I feel about it."
i know loads of men your age and older tht go and they have loaadss of fun, there is a genuine waiting list for single men so few single womn go that they can join easily |
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"we have been to chams a few times always very welcoming we are going to try naked tuedays next has anyone else been for that? x
naked tuesday?? tell me more"
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I guess they are trying to see if they could attract the naturists by having naked Tuesdays.
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"we have been to chams a few times always very welcoming we are going to try naked tuedays next has anyone else been for that? x
naked tuesday?? tell me more"
after 6pm every tuesday you are not allowed to ear your towel, it can be carried, or worn round your neck etc but much be nekkid 
not been yet but half the time i am there i am naked so makes no odds lol |
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over a year ago
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Funny thing with that place go in all dressed nice make up the works within 5 mins sweated off and as the evening goes on wear less and less and go home in a nighty lol. |
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"I want to go but not keen on going alone. Any suggestions?
When I went there (alone) and asked if I may join. I was told that their membrship list is full and there are no vacancies. When I asked why it wasn't mentioned on their website I was told that "you have telephoned before you came here". Again I asked why wasn't that on the website either. I know that I was refused entry because I am 71 years old, but there's no way that they would admit it.
So I told them in no uncertain terms to shove their club up their arse and I will not be going back again.
Sorry to hear you were disappointed but apparently there is a very long waiting list for single men at Chams at the mo. Always better to ring in advance whatever.
I was there couple of weeks ago on my own. Everyone I spoke to was lovely but the lack of single guys that night was a shame.
I was on the waiting list for 18 months, but I've now been going for over 4 years, and love everyday I'm there!
There you go! You were patient and got in eventually. Shame you weren't there when I was as I'm unlikely to go back now.
I have 2 male friends, one 50, the other 54 who went on seperate occasions a couple of months before I went and they had no problems joining.
I have no doubt whatsoever it was because of my age. I was very polite until just before I left. I wouldn't go back if they paid me for going. That's how strongly I feel about it.
I'm sure they will miss you terribly!!! "
Probably about as much as I will miss them!!! |
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By *BW38jWoman
over a year ago
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"we have been to chams a few times always very welcoming we are going to try naked tuedays next has anyone else been for that? x
naked tuesday?? tell me more
after 6pm every tuesday you are not allowed to ear your towel, it can be carried, or worn round your neck etc but much be nekkid
not been yet but half the time i am there i am naked so makes no odds lol"
might go on a tuesday again hvent been for ages on a tues. |
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i go to chams fairly often, so if you want a hand to hold (with out any pressure) then just give me a shout... would be honoured to look after you for your first time. (hopefully most that go to the socials will be able to vouch for me)
but if you are nervous and would rather go when there is a group from here, best times to go is on a social night... think there is one next month and one near xmas.. this way you can stick to a group of friends, and feel safe at the same time. |
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over a year ago
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be invited to go monday bi night as im home alone next week daughters away
might be tempted to go twice in a wk if i like it though.
have thought about xmas social depends when my daughter goes to her dads |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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There is a waiting list for Chams.
If people have managed to join, then without waiting, then it is pure luck because they may have had a couple of spaces that week.
They are not ageist, there are plenty of 60/70 year old men and women who are members.
If you have a 6 pack, you DON'T get automatic membership, you still have to wait if the waiting list is full/closed.
The thing about Chameleons is that there are people of ALL different shapes and sizes, all ages, all colours and all attitudes. Their acceptance of all swinges is what makes it Chameleons......flexible and welcoming.
If someone tried to join and couldn't, there will be a reason, which would have been told to them.
If they want to have a hissy fit and throw a temper tantrum because the list was closed that day, it just shows, Chameleons was right to say NO to them. |
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"i go to chams fairly often, so if you want a hand to hold (with out any pressure) then just give me a shout... would be honoured to look after you for your first time. (hopefully most that go to the socials will be able to vouch for me)
but if you are nervous and would rather go when there is a group from here, best times to go is on a social night... think there is one next month and one near xmas.. this way you can stick to a group of friends, and feel safe at the same time."
I will personally vouch for this gentleman, he kept me company when my partner buggered off to a private room one night with the locker key, and was polite, friendly and a true gent xx |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
"i go to chams fairly often, so if you want a hand to hold (with out any pressure) then just give me a shout... would be honoured to look after you for your first time. (hopefully most that go to the socials will be able to vouch for me)
but if you are nervous and would rather go when there is a group from here, best times to go is on a social night... think there is one next month and one near xmas.. this way you can stick to a group of friends, and feel safe at the same time.
I will personally vouch for this gentleman, he kept me company when my partner buggered off to a private room one night with the locker key, and was polite, friendly and a true gent xx"
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"been let down only chance i had this week too was tomorrow. i will get there one day"
i'll go with you tomorrow if you want x 'm going today but to hell with it, why cant i go 3 times in a week (going fri as well ) |
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Chams is fab for couples or singles the staff are brill and 99.9% of the customers are sound as ! Be brave, you will have a great time...
On the other hand, there is a whole host of single guys on here that would take you im sure, or you could go with a couple x |
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"i go to chams fairly often, so if you want a hand to hold (with out any pressure) then just give me a shout... would be honoured to look after you for your first time. (hopefully most that go to the socials will be able to vouch for me)
but if you are nervous and would rather go when there is a group from here, best times to go is on a social night... think there is one next month and one near xmas.. this way you can stick to a group of friends, and feel safe at the same time.
I will personally vouch for this gentleman, he kept me company when my partner buggered off to a private room one night with the locker key, and was polite, friendly and a true gent xx
Aye aye"
Ok ok you aren't excluded |
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I went today for the second time ever. First was years ago in the evening and I didn't enjoy it, but today was really good. The people were lovely, staff, couples, single men and women. Next time I may even have some fun!
Thanks to the people I met today x |
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over a year ago
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"Its not number one, in our book (1st in the top 5 list of clubs in the UK) for nothing.
Very good club for single females."
totally agree feel safe as a women in their. amazes me how far some folk travel so lucky to be 6 miles from there |
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"Its not number one, in our book (1st in the top 5 list of clubs in the UK) for nothing.
Very good club for single females.
i feel safe there x"
Unless im there xx |
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"Its not number one, in our book (1st in the top 5 list of clubs in the UK) for nothing.
Very good club for single females.
i feel safe there x
Unless im there xx "
Oh yeah gonna get massaged on my knee, to death by Soapy |
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"Its not number one, in our book (1st in the top 5 list of clubs in the UK) for nothing.
Very good club for single females.
i feel safe there x
Unless im there xx
Oh yeah gonna get massaged on my knee, to death by Soapy "
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"Its not number one, in our book (1st in the top 5 list of clubs in the UK) for nothing.
Very good club for single females.
i feel safe there x
Unless im there xx
Oh yeah gonna get massaged on my knee, to death by Soapy
xx"
Unless you bring your box? |
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