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ok im ready for the backlash

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Has anybody on here knowingly cheated with another cheater,and actually quite liked the thrill of it...forbidden fruits..and all that..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

when you say cheated with another cheater do you mean both parties are playing away or knowingly meet someone whos playing away?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

both parties playing away..

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By *elandnCouple over a year ago

tewkesbury

Errrrrr not that we know of, plus we would not do this knowingly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

when i was a teenager i did. You do sometimes get a thrill out of doing things your not suposed to do. Being good can get very boring.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"when i was a teenager i did. You do sometimes get a thrill out of doing things your not suposed to do. Being good can get very boring."

yes i fully agree with you..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No can honestly say when i was married i never cheated on my hubby, because i had no need to we used to do tis together and meet alone so i had no reason to do it behind his back

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No can honestly say when i was married i never cheated on my hubby, because i had no need to we used to do tis together and meet alone so i had no reason to do it behind his back

well i admire that,but sometimes when a marriage is boring..its easy to look elsewhere..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very nearly.

There are many reasons for cheating (or not), but that's for another thread...

I am cheating (grabs hard hat and ducks for cover), and was exchanging messages on here with a couple of women who were also cheating.

Got on really well, and were about to arrange a meet, when the profiles were deleted....

SO I would have done, but havent...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like being married, but it does get very boring. You dont always have to look, a man shows interest in you, at work or somewhere, you might be thinking you really want that person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Also i really do believe women take better care of themselves than men as they get older..and the sexual drive really kicks in....and you begin to wonder what you are missing ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No can honestly say when i was married i never cheated on my hubby, because i had no need to we used to do tis together and meet alone so i had no reason to do it behind his back

well i admire that,but sometimes when a marriage is boring..its easy to look elsewhere..

yeah i agree but because we had a open relationship where we both met alone there just was no need for me to do it behind his back

to be honest to have cheated would have been more hassle than its worth, making up lies, sneaking about, being limited to a time because your only down the pub lol

was easier and better to just arrange a meet, tell him where i was going and saying see you when i get back

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I like being married, but it does get very boring. You dont always have to look, a man shows interest in you, at work or somewhere, you might be thinking you really want that person."

absoulutely...agree with you ..

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By *uby In StockingsTV/TS over a year ago

Cheadle

I did cheat on my wife with other women and their husbands, but no, it did not thrill me, I hated myself and decided to tell her and left three years ago to begin my new life, xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No can honestly say when i was married i never cheated on my hubby, because i had no need to we used to do tis together and meet alone so i had no reason to do it behind his back

well i admire that,but sometimes when a marriage is boring..its easy to look elsewher

yeah i agree but because we had a open relationship where we both met alone there just was no need for me to do it behind his back

to be honest to have cheated would have been more hassle than its worth, making up lies, sneaking about, being limited to a time because your only down the pub lol

was easier and better to just arrange a meet, tell him where i was going and saying see you when i get back

well yr very lucky you had that sort of understanding between yrselves..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never felt the need to play with a married man to get my kicks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've never felt the need to play with a married man to get my kicks.

you dont go out yr way to choose them...it just happens...thats life..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also i really do believe women take better care of themselves than men as they get older..and the sexual drive really kicks in....and you begin to wonder what you are missing ..."

Its a problem when you fall in love with somone, only you have a high sex drive and he has a low one. A few men dont make enough effort, so you think why should i.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also i really do believe women take better care of themselves than men as they get older..and the sexual drive really kicks in....and you begin to wonder what you are missing ...

Its a problem when you fall in love with somone, only you have a high sex drive and he has a low one. A few men dont make enough effort, so you think why should i."

Works the other way round too...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Also i really do believe women take better care of themselves than men as they get older..and the sexual drive really kicks in....and you begin to wonder what you are missing ...

Its a problem when you fall in love with somone, only you have a high sex drive and he has a low one. A few men dont make enough effort, so you think why should i."

to be honest ive always took care of myself and appearance...on the other hand...he didnt..well not to my standards anyway..

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By *ostboy1Man over a year ago

leeds

I have a open marriage and it seems to work for us. I guess to some of our family we look like cheaters. I've a good relationship with my wife even though it's not sexual anymore she's always there for me at the end of the day like I'm there for her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well im not that fussy, its just the little things.

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By *ostboy1Man over a year ago

leeds

Little things?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"well im not that fussy, its just the little things."

well at least yr honest and i admire that..and may you have many more so sexy meets...you deserve it..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think some men really love their wives but they are bored stiff. I sort of understand why they cheat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"well im not that fussy, its just the little things.

well at least yr honest and i admire that..and may you have many more so sexy meets...you deserve it.."

i just adore the younger men..they just do it for me...everytime lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never felt the need to play with a married man to get my kicks.

you dont go out yr way to choose them...it just happens...thats life..

I disagree, many married men have contacted me. As I'm here for my thrills and spills a married man didn't fit into that, so what use would he be to me?

I'm a Domme...hard to explain away marks, shaved genitals, my juices over their face etc if they're married, as I said, they don't add to my pleasure...thank God.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've never felt the need to play with a married man to get my kicks.

you dont go out yr way to choose them...it just happens...thats life..

I disagree, many married men have contacted me. As I'm here for my thrills and spills a married man didn't fit into that, so what use would he be to me?

I'm a Domme...hard to explain away marks, shaved genitals, my juices over their face etc if they're married, as I said, they don't add to my pleasure...thank God."

well each to their own..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Little things?"

Like i say i like red anoracks but he wont wear one. He doesnt shave at the weekends. He wont wear aftershave. Wont go to the dentist.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Little things?

Like i say i like red anoracks but he wont wear one. He doesnt shave at the weekends. He wont wear aftershave. Wont go to the dentist."

thats totally unacceptable...get rid i say..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a married man had started this thread, then gone on to justify his actions by slagging his wife off for not taking care of herself, not having a high sex drive etc he'd have been ripped a new one before all the Relate counselor wannabes started.

The double standards on here is unbelievable!

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By *ostboy1Man over a year ago

leeds

You can't tar every man like that. I shave daily sometimes twice and not just my face. I wear expensive aftershave and never miss a appointment at the dentists... But I draw the line at a red anorak that's too weird lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If a married man had started this thread, then gone on to justify his actions by slagging his wife off for not taking care of herself, not having a high sex drive etc he'd have been ripped a new one before all the Relate counselor wannabes started.

The double standards on here is unbelievable!"

lol thats just yr opinion..and you are allowed that...the same as others are..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You can't tar every man like that. I shave daily sometimes twice and not just my face. I wear expensive aftershave and never miss a appointment at the dentists... But I draw the line at a red anorak that's too weird lol"

lol loved that..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The double standards on here is unbelievable!"

I totally agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You make me laugh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You make me laugh."

well at least ive accomplished something on here today....ever thought about a blue anorak maybe lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The double standards on here is unbelievable!"

Most women put up with their boring partners cos they have kids.

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By *ostboy1Man over a year ago

leeds

Thank you aunty, I'll go mug a trainspotter for his anorak and I'll be back in touch lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The double standards on here is unbelievable!

lol thats just yr opinion..and you are allowed that...the same as others are.."

I have no time for cheaters and their pathetic excuses, when I had enough I packed my bag and kids after nearly 25 years of marriage and a serious illness and left.

But I've seen married men post in here, they've had sick wives and just wanted to enjoy the touch of another person, no slagging off of their partner they had that much respect unlike some if you, and they were torn to shreds: I've felt really sorry for some.

But married men are a sub species it appears. As I said double standards.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Had an affair?

Yep I had two when I was first married

Why? Cause she was fucking MY male lover behind my back

Sad really cause we had some good threesomes

But that was years ago

Would I do it now? No

Would I do it again if I had my time again no

We all make mistakes that's how we learn

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

The double standards on here is unbelievable!

lol thats just yr opinion..and you are allowed that...the same as others are..

I have no time for cheaters and their pathetic excuses, when I had enough I packed my bag and kids after nearly 25 years of marriage and a serious illness and left.

But married men are a sub species it appears. As I said double standards."

and pray tell who has slagged off their husbands ??

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple over a year ago

Fareham

The double standards on here is unbelievable!"

Agree 100%!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Had an affair?

Yep I had two when I was first married

Why? Cause she was fucking MY male lover behind my back

Sad really cause we had some good threesomes

But that was years ago

Would I do it now? No

Would I do it again if I had my time again no

We all make mistakes that's how we learn"

well once again i admire you...but everyone is different in their views..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most women put up with their boring partners cos they have kids."

That's a fine generalising sweeping statement and a half that one

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

In my personal opinion if you are so long in a marriage...its quite easy to become like brother and sister...and thats really not good..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Had an affair?

Yep I had two when I was first married

Why? Cause she was fucking MY male lover behind my back

Sad really cause we had some good threesomes

But that was years ago

Would I do it now? No

Would I do it again if I had my time again no

We all make mistakes that's how we learn

well once again i admire you...but everyone is different in their views.."

Yep I know people differ in their crises and that's why 99% of the time I try and see both sides sit on the fence and try not to come over as judging people

There are many factors for different people in different situations

I have only lived my life not theirs

My life has influenced how I think and act and theirs has too

I don't know the ins and outs of others lives as they don't know mine

We are only human after all and have a finite time on this planet

Is it really worth worrying?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most women put up with their boring partners cos they have kids.

That's a fine generalising sweeping statement and a half that one

Yes but its very true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Had an affair?

Yep I had two when I was first married

Why? Cause she was fucking MY male lover behind my back

Sad really cause we had some good threesomes

But that was years ago

Would I do it now? No

Would I do it again if I had my time again no

We all make mistakes that's how we learn

well once again i admire you...but everyone is different in their views..

Yep I know people differ in their crises and that's why 99% of the time I try and see both sides sit on the fence and try not to come over as judging people

There are many factors for different people in different situations

I have only lived my life not theirs

My life has influenced how I think and act and theirs has too

I don't know the ins and outs of others lives as they don't know mine

We are only human after all and have a finite time on this planet

Is it really worth worrying?"

no its not..yr soooo right there..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In my personal opinion if you are so long in a marriage...its quite easy to become like brother and sister...and thats really not good.."

Then its no marriage.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

The double standards on here is unbelievable!

Agree 100%!"

so said i was ready for the backlash lol ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People who cheat make me sick.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"People who cheat make me sick."

will you need a bucket..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

the truth realy hurts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"the truth realy hurts."

yes it does..and dont expect everyone to understand what goes on behind closed doors..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't believe alot of people have profiles on here even saying they are playing away. Why don't you lot just get a divorce or leave your girlfriend or boyfriend. I have seen the hurt and pain it all causes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"the truth realy hurts.

yes it does..and dont expect everyone to understand what goes on behind closed doors.."

You dont know a person till you live with them. i should know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I can't believe alot of people have profiles on here even saying they are playing away. Why don't you lot just get a divorce or leave your girlfriend or boyfriend. I have seen the hurt and pain it all causes."

yes and i have sympathy for you..but everyone has their own stories to tell..and their own reasons to do what they do...you can never change that..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most women put up with their boring partners cos they have kids.

That's a fine generalising sweeping statement and a half that one

Yes but its very true."

Maybe that sweeping statement would have a bit more backbone if it read "Some women/men put up with their partners because they have kids".

It works both ways

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

most men stay with their partners cos they have kids too. i feel sorry for them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Any way i am going to bed now...so will leave you with all yr thoughts..while i fantasize about the young guy who will be visiting me monday....mmmmmmmm yum yum !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Any way i am going to bed now...so will leave you with all yr thoughts..while i fantasize about the young guy who will be visiting me monday....mmmmmmmm yum yum !!!"

You lucky cow!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Any way i am going to bed now...so will leave you with all yr thoughts..while i fantasize about the young guy who will be visiting me monday....mmmmmmmm yum yum !!!

You lucky cow!

i know i am...and i love it..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No can honestly say when i was married i never cheated on my hubby, because i had no need to we used to do tis together and meet alone so i had no reason to do it behind his back

well i admire that,but sometimes when a marriage is boring..its easy to look elsewher

yeah i agree but because we had a open relationship where we both met alone there just was no need for me to do it behind his back

to be honest to have cheated would have been more hassle than its worth, making up lies, sneaking about, being limited to a time because your only down the pub lol

was easier and better to just arrange a meet, tell him where i was going and saying see you when i get back

well yr very lucky you had that sort of understanding between yrselves.."

Not really

Hes my ex because he left me for a woman he met thro swinging

Theres irony for you

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"both parties playing away.."

No, i play with taboos, and understand the thrill but for me the first rule is, do no harm.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Also i really do believe women take better care of themselves than men as they get older..and the sexual drive really kicks in....and you begin to wonder what you are missing ...

Its a problem when you fall in love with somone, only you have a high sex drive and he has a low one. A few men dont make enough effort, so you think why should i."

As i say to the men on here...maybe its you.

Every adulterer obn here i see complaining i wonder if they put the effort into their marriage that they put into cheating then they might discover what the problem really is. The sex drive thing is just bollocks.If he fancied u he wud have sex.

Sometimes you have to take personal responsibility rather than making excuses, and stop claiming the name swinger when in fact you are simply selfish,

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By *ertnbeckyCouple over a year ago

oldham

"People who cheat make me sick."
us too its so disgusting and people who do it are tossers

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Also i really do believe women take better care of themselves than men as they get older..and the sexual drive really kicks in....and you begin to wonder what you are missing ...

Its a problem when you fall in love with somone, only you have a high sex drive and he has a low one. A few men dont make enough effort, so you think why should i.

As i say to the men on here...maybe its you.

Sometimes you have to take personal responsibility rather than making excuses, and stop claiming the name swinger when in fact you are simply selfish,"

and isent swinging adultery albeit with knowledge....its still adultery however you look at it..

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By *ussiebloke40Man over a year ago

kings lynn

Technically i am still married i left a 10year marriage because of the violence building between us and which occasionaly escaped. she is/was a good woman and we both deserve better. I moved half way around the world to be with her and now i am stuck, every time i try to see my daughter she threatens and phones police . i never cheated but sometimes somethings just dont work .

NEVER DID I HIT HER she hit me plenty

I still miss her and would not be here if we were together

its not always blokes fault

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Also i am still married,but can honestly say that in the 24yrs that the marriage was active so to speak i never cheated,i will admit it basically ended because of me,however we are still great friends and i still share the marital home when i want to,but when the spark has gone its gone.We have no plans of ever divorcing,and he knows nothing about my private life on here,and i wouldent want him to,the same as i wouldent want to know about his private life now....i just know we will always be the best of friends,and our private lives suit us both..

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By *ussiebloke40Man over a year ago

kings lynn

suits some not others and i know others have a right to their opinion and choice but to state a cheater makes me sick or wont meet marrieds is just plain wrong we dont know these people or the reasons but you may just may be missing the Best sex of you entire life

it is irrelevant whether you have partners permission you ARE cheating but in your head its ok because you are allowed to

this is not the same as a choice over height weight looks etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"suits some not others and i know others have a right to their opinion and choice but to state a cheater makes me sick or wont meet marrieds is just plain wrong we dont know these people or the reasons but you may just may be missing the Best sex of you entire life

it is irrelevant whether you have partners permission you ARE cheating but in your head its ok because you are allowed to

this is not the same as a choice over height weight looks etc"

exactly too many people ready to judge..sooooo wrong..

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Also i really do believe women take better care of themselves than men as they get older..and the sexual drive really kicks in....and you begin to wonder what you are missing ...

Its a problem when you fall in love with somone, only you have a high sex drive and he has a low one. A few men dont make enough effort, so you think why should i.

As i say to the men on here...maybe its you.

Sometimes you have to take personal responsibility rather than making excuses, and stop claiming the name swinger when in fact you are simply selfish,

and isent swinging adultery albeit with knowledge....its still adultery however you look at it.."

If u think that u have no idea about swinging or adultery.

Cheating on someone involves dishonesty, you are lieing, adultery is sex behind someones back.

Swinging is about openness and honesty .

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

it is irrelevant whether you have partners permission you ARE cheating but in your head its ok because you are allowed to

this is not the same as a choice over height weight looks etc"

Who are u to tell people what they say on their profile? So you decide who others shud or shudnt meet...how judgmental is that!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Also i am still married,but can honestly say that in the 24yrs that the marriage was active so to speak i never cheated,i will admit it basically ended because of me,however we are still great friends and i still share the marital home when i want to,but when the spark has gone its gone.We have no plans of ever divorcing,and he knows nothing about my private life on here,and i wouldent want him to,the same as i wouldent want to know about his private life now....i just know we will always be the best of friends,and our private lives suit us both.."

So tell him u are here... a best friend wont mind

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By *adchickCouple over a year ago

Cyprus

In MY honest opinion:

1: Swinging is about truth, honesty, sexual liberation and bringing something into your lives that gives it an extra oommpphh.

2: Cheating is about lies, dishonesty, hurt, pain, humiliation and suffering.

I can see no similarities between the two.

To hang a swingers hat on someone who is looking for sex behind their partners back is just not on. Cheating is cheating no matter how you dress it up.

As for the boring marriages. Either put the effort into getting your marriage back on track or leave.

yes..... thats black and white but as someone said earlier, if the cheaters on here who put all their efforts into getting a shag but half the effort into their marriages, things may be different.

I know there are grey areas, sickness etc (don't ever bring kids into it, if someone is staying in a marriage just for the kids, it's definately no marriage)...... and I do have a certain empathy towards those with disabled partners or sick (be that physically or mentally) spouses but YOU have to chose how you live your life.

But please don't bring others into it where they could also get hurt.

Being blazoned with the badge 'home wrecker' must be soul destroying and regardless of whether or not you are male or female, the only person you should be hurting is....... YOURSELF.

Like I said, MY opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Also i really do believe women take better care of themselves than men as they get older..and the sexual drive really kicks in....and you begin to wonder what you are missing ...

Its a problem when you fall in love with somone, only you have a high sex drive and he has a low one. A few men dont make enough effort, so you think why should i.

As i say to the men on here...maybe its you.

Sometimes you have to take personal responsibility rather than making excuses, and stop claiming the name swinger when in fact you are simply selfish,

and isent swinging adultery albeit with knowledge....its still adultery however you look at it..

If u think that u have no idea about swinging or adultery.

Cheating on someone involves dishonesty, you are lieing, adultery is sex behind someones back.

Swinging is about openness and honesty .

im sorry i disagree there....looking at it from all angles...its still adultery..let no man put asunder and all that..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

it is irrelevant whether you have partners permission you ARE cheating but in your head its ok because you are allowed to

this is not the same as a choice over height weight looks etc"

Oh?!! Who are you to dictate who others should meet?!!

It's not my business whether people cheat or not and I'd never dream of commenting outside of threads like this. I had on my profile no married men for reasons I've already posted. Naturally they didn't respect my preferences, but why should they: if they didn't have respect for their wives they weren't going to have any for me!

The audacity of some people.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

If u think that u have no idea about swinging or adultery.

Cheating on someone involves dishonesty, you are lieing, adultery is sex behind someones back.

Swinging is about openness and honesty .

You're banging your head against a thick dung wall.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Also i really do believe women take better care of themselves than men as they get older..and the sexual drive really kicks in....and you begin to wonder what you are missing ...

Its a problem when you fall in love with somone, only you have a high sex drive and he has a low one. A few men dont make enough effort, so you think why should i.

As i say to the men on here...maybe its you.

Sometimes you have to take personal responsibility rather than making excuses, and stop claiming the name swinger when in fact you are simply selfish,

and isent swinging adultery albeit with knowledge....its still adultery however you look at it..

If u think that u have no idea about swinging or adultery.

Cheating on someone involves dishonesty, you are lieing, adultery is sex behind someones back.

Swinging is about openness and honesty .

im sorry i disagree there....looking at it from all angles...its still adultery..let no man put asunder and all that.."

You keep saying what you need to to justify your actions to yourself .

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Also i really do believe women take better care of themselves than men as they get older..and the sexual drive really kicks in....and you begin to wonder what you are missing ...

Its a problem when you fall in love with somone, only you have a high sex drive and he has a low one. A few men dont make enough effort, so you think why should i.

As i say to the men on here...maybe its you.

Sometimes you have to take personal responsibility rather than making excuses, and stop claiming the name swinger when in fact you are simply selfish,

and isent swinging adultery albeit with knowledge....its still adultery however you look at it..

If u think that u have no idea about swinging or adultery.

Cheating on someone involves dishonesty, you are lieing, adultery is sex behind someones back.

Swinging is about openness and honesty .

im sorry i disagree there....looking at it from all angles...its still adultery..let no man put asunder and all that..

You keep saying what you need to to justify your actions to yourself .

no i dont need to justify my actions at all...was simply asking a question of which im fully entitled to do so...

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

In life you can fit the sex seekers into two groups:

Those who don't want anyone to end up being hurt just for the sake of their bit of fun.

Those who are too selfish, self-cantered and self-absorbed to give a shit about anyone else as long as they get what they want.

We all have a choice which group we want to be in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"In life you can fit the sex seekers into two groups:

Those who don't want anyone to end up being hurt just for the sake of their bit of fun.

Those who are too selfish, self-cantered and self-absorbed to give a shit about anyone else as long as they get what they want.

We all have a choice which group we want to be in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Married people that swing make their own decisions as to whether their morals allow them to do it, or not.

This idea that all couples that swing are committing adultery is frankly plain stupid, and if you do not understand that, then you don't really understand the basic premise of what a swinger is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also i really do believe women take better care of themselves than men as they get older..and the sexual drive really kicks in....and you begin to wonder what you are missing ...

Its a problem when you fall in love with somone, only you have a high sex drive and he has a low one. A few men dont make enough effort, so you think why should i.

As i say to the men on here...maybe its you.

Sometimes you have to take personal responsibility rather than making excuses, and stop claiming the name swinger when in fact you are simply selfish,"

Some people have higher sex drives than others, thought everyone knew that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also i really do believe women take better care of themselves than men as they get older..and the sexual drive really kicks in....and you begin to wonder what you are missing ...

Its a problem when you fall in love with somone, only you have a high sex drive and he has a low one. A few men dont make enough effort, so you think why should i.

As i say to the men on here...maybe its you.

Sometimes you have to take personal responsibility rather than making excuses, and stop claiming the name swinger when in fact you are simply selfish,

Some people have higher sex drives than others, thought everyone knew that."

Can you still get bromide?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Victims and responsibility comes to mind...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Has anybody on here knowingly cheated with another cheater,and actually quite liked the thrill of it...forbidden fruits..and all that.."

i'm probably not gonna do much for the cause of gay or bi men here but i would say that two thirds of the guys have met have either had a wife or partner.

it's not something that gives me a thrill, it's just the way it is

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By *andKCouple over a year ago

Norfolk

K and I live apart quite a bit and yes we do play separately from time to time but with the full knowledge of the other and if either of us said we didn't want it to happen it wouldn't. Its called mutual trust as far as we are concerned.

(bet that has shocked a few people that know us)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yes we both have

we like to play with married people

its so naughty its fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i have and i didn't know he was attached etc.

then to find out she was pregnant and he was still trying to get his dick sucked wasnt the best ( and no i didn't)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"yes we both have

we like to play with married people

its so naughty its fun "

yes it is sooooo naughty,but so nice,just like a bar a galaxy yum yum ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

it is irrelevant whether you have partners permission you ARE cheating but in your head its ok because you are allowed to

this is not the same as a choice over height weight looks etc"

What a complete load of codswallop

How am I cheating on my husband if he is in the same frigging room enjoying what he is seeing... how is he cheating on me in a vise versa situation????

How is a partner knowing that his/her partner is out playing with another 'getting cheated on'????

The cheating bit is the lies, the sneaking around and total disrespect of your partner by fucking another behind their back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"yes we both have

we like to play with married people

its so naughty its fun

yes it is sooooo naughty,but so nice,just like a bar a galaxy yum yum .."

Wrong!!!!!

Have you seen my post on Why Chocolate is more satifying than a man... jeez!

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By *andKCouple over a year ago

Norfolk

it is irrelevant whether you have partners permission you ARE cheating but in your head its ok because you are allowed to

this is not the same as a choice over height weight looks etc

What a complete load of codswallop

How am I cheating on my husband if he is in the same frigging room enjoying what he is seeing... how is he cheating on me in a vise versa situation????

How is a partner knowing that his/her partner is out playing with another 'getting cheated on'????

The cheating bit is the lies, the sneaking around and total disrespect of your partner by fucking another behind their back

Totally agree Frock xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"yes we both have

we like to play with married people

its so naughty its fun

yes it is sooooo naughty,but so nice,just like a bar a galaxy yum yum ..

Wrong!!!!!

Have you seen my post on Why Chocolate is more satifying than a man... jeez!

i can only imagine mmmmmm love my galaxy..sooooo satisfying..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lack of self respect and soul sickness come to mind...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

no need to - I can be as naughty as I like with Paul being there too and prefer it that way.

I know it would hurt him massively if I would and because I love him more than anything in this world I'd never do that to him.

But I understand that all relationships are different and a lot of people want more excitement than what they have with their partner....

We always talked about our fantasies and one day we started on living them - best thing we ever did! Together for 15 years now and it never has been more exciting!!! TOGETHER!!

sorry for this boring soppy posting

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Lack of self respect and soul sickness come to mind..."

so why might i ask are you on a swingers site ???

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

this "almost" sounds like they are cheating and proud of it.. which in a way is really warped

and this is why there are specific sites set up for that train of thought

I always said there is a difference between a "sex site" and a "swinging site"... a different philosophy so to speak, a sense of community and a different outlook, its about consentual sex but it almost means you don't have to hide it from the partner you profess to love more than any other..

you would have thought they would have some respect for the person who is at the other end while they are unaware...

the one thing I said to my then GF when she cheated on me was "you certainly were not thinking of me while you were shagging someone else"....

Actually this thread kinda makes me sad that there are people brazen enough.. but it really shouldn't surpise me...

and yes i bet they will come back as say "well if you don't like it, block me".. and that in the end is the only thing people can do...

I just hope you never have to go thru the hurt.. and the pain.. and the anger... they wont see that though but i suppose in the karma is a bitch and it will come back to bite them...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"no need to - I can be as naughty as I like with Paul being there too and prefer it that way.

I know it would hurt him massively if I would and because I love him more than anything in this world I'd never do that to him.

But I understand that all relationships are different and a lot of people want more excitement than what they have with their partner....

We always talked about our fantasies and one day we started on living them - best thing we ever did! Together for 15 years now and it never has been more exciting!!! TOGETHER!!

sorry for this boring soppy posting

dont be sorry - its a lovely feel good post

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

so why might i ask are you on a swingers site ???"

let me guess the next sentence will be "its a sex site! its not match.com/facebook/whatever site you fit to be demeening"

I could turn round a say "its a swinging site and not a married and cheating site"

can I ask a question which i find curious and always wanted to ask...

Why a swinging site.. and not a married and cheating site????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"no need to - I can be as naughty as I like with Paul being there too and prefer it that way.

I know it would hurt him massively if I would and because I love him more than anything in this world I'd never do that to him.

But I understand that all relationships are different and a lot of people want more excitement than what they have with their partner....

We always talked about our fantasies and one day we started on living them - best thing we ever did! Together for 15 years now and it never has been more exciting!!! TOGETHER!!

sorry for this boring soppy posting

Its a good post...

You consider other peoples emotional welfare..

Which presupposes a maturity within yourself..

Have fun..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lack of self respect and soul sickness come to mind...

so why might i ask are you on a swingers site ???"

There is no incompatibility with being a swinger and having some integrity and maturity...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"this "almost" sounds like they are cheating and proud of it.. which in a way is really warped

and this is why there are specific sites set up for that train of thought

you would have thought they would have some respect for the person who is at the other end while they are unaware...

the one thing I said to my then GF when she cheated on me was "you certainly were not thinking of me while you were shagging someone else"....

Actually this thread kinda makes me sad that there are people brazen enough.. but it really shouldn't surpise me...

and yes i bet they will come back as say "well if you don't like it, block me".. and that in the end is the only thing people can do...

I just hope you never have to go thru the hurt.. and the pain.. and the anger... they wont see that though but i suppose in the karma is a bitch and it will come back to bite them..."

oh ffs whats that all about....sex is sex just enjoy..what about ken and diadre ...theyve had extra marital affairs...and they are still togeather..and then of course there is barbie and ken in their little pink caravan...

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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Ok before I start I really don't care what people do with their lives, if you are cheating your partner as long as you don't involve me it isn't any of my business.

Sorry Suzi, but from your posts you sound like you are trivializing your own relationship with your OH with your flippant comments and I find that sad....as even if you don't love him now , you loved him once.

You are also defensive with your replies and making out swingers are cheating on their own partners....swingers who have full knowledge of what their OH are doing are not cheating.

Cheating involves deception, swingers are not decieving each other.

I also find it sad that others are talking about their husbands on a website of their failings.....sad sad sad.

Do the decent thing and let your OH's go build a life without this slagging off behind their backs on a website.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lack of self respect and soul sickness come to mind...

so why might i ask are you on a swingers site ???"

Because they are "Swinging"

Swinging or partner swapping (sometimes referred to as the swinging lifestyle) is a non-monogamous[1] behavior, in which both partners in a committed relationship agree, as a couple, for both partners to engage in sexual activities with other couples as a recreational or social activity.[2] Swinging can take place in a number of contexts, ranging from a spontaneous sexual activity at an informal social gathering of friends to planned or regular social gatherings to hooking up with like-minded couples at a swingers' club and can involve internet-based introduction services.

Copy and pasted from Wiki.

Note: BOTH partners are mentioned, also COMMITTED relationship.... nothing said about cheating

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By *ostboy1Man over a year ago

leeds

"Little things?

Like i say i like red anoracks but he wont wear one. He doesnt shave at the weekends. He wont wear aftershave. Wont go to the dentist."
.....still looking for a red anorak

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ok before I start I really don't care what people do with their lives, if you are cheating your partner as long as you don't involve me it isn't any of my business.

You are also defensive with your replies and making out swingers are cheating on their own partners....swingers who have full knowledge of what their OH are doing are not cheating.

Cheating involves deception, swingers are not decieving each other.

I also find it sad that others are talking about their husbands on a website of their failings.....sad sad sad.

Do the decent thing and let your OH's go build a life without this slagging off behind their backs on a website."

ok tell me where on this thread i have slagged off my oh....please..

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By *ostboy1Man over a year ago

leeds

"Ok before I start I really don't care what people do with their lives, if you are cheating your partner as long as you don't involve me it isn't any of my business.

You are also defensive with your replies and making out swingers are cheating on their own partners....swingers who have full knowledge of what their OH are doing are not cheating.

Cheating involves deception, swingers are not decieving each other.

I also find it sad that others are talking about their husbands on a website of their failings.....sad sad sad.

Do the decent thing and let your OH's go build a life without this slagging off behind their backs on a website.

ok tell me where on this thread i have slagged off my oh....please.."
ive not seen where you did suzi

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"Ok before I start I really don't care what people do with their lives, if you are cheating your partner as long as you don't involve me it isn't any of my business.

You are also defensive with your replies and making out swingers are cheating on their own partners....swingers who have full knowledge of what their OH are doing are not cheating.

Cheating involves deception, swingers are not decieving each other.

I also find it sad that others are talking about their husbands on a website of their failings.....sad sad sad.

Do the decent thing and let your OH's go build a life without this slagging off behind their backs on a website.

ok tell me where on this thread i have slagged off my oh....please.."

Read my post properly and you will find I didn't say you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ok before I start I really don't care what people do with their lives, if you are cheating your partner as long as you don't involve me it isn't any of my business.

You are also defensive with your replies and making out swingers are cheating on their own partners....swingers who have full knowledge of what their OH are doing are not cheating.

Cheating involves deception, swingers are not decieving each other.

I also find it sad that others are talking about their husbands on a website of their failings.....sad sad sad.

Do the decent thing and let your OH's go build a life without this slagging off behind their backs on a website.

ok tell me where on this thread i have slagged off my oh....please.. ive not seen where you did suzi"

well thankyou for that..at least you have intelligence..

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

so you use fictional soap characters to back up your arguement.... right.... okay!!! cause as we know they are a general barometer for life....

just the flippant nature and the brazenness of it is actually really sad.. I am not angry, I actually pity you....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i dont usually post on such issues but i do have issues with "cheating " and "swinging" it seems the OP is still married although living apart (sometimes)?????? but still considers herself to be cheating and it seems "cheating" a lot and is expecting a backlash ...but im not judging anyone on a swingers site we are all here to have fun .My ex "cheated " on me after i had been totally faithfull to him for 35 years he didnt get the chance to do it again cos i threw him away never to be seen again ! and im happy i did ...for that reason i dont meet guys i know are married ,which ever way you dress it up its cheating end of

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

Ok I think thats enough now. You know exactly what reaction you would get when you started the thread.

There has been a great discussion on what people think , so I am not going to let you turn this into a bitch fest of you attacking people when they answer just because you don't like the answer.

Thread closed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

so you use fictional soap characters to back up your arguement.... right.... okay!!! cause as we know they are a general barometer for life....

just the flippant nature and the brazenness of it is actually really sad.. I am not angry, I actually pity you...."

+1....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jesus died for somebodies sins but not mine....consensual, considerate sex isn`t a sin in our eyes...

Choices sometimes require courage...

A selfless attitude is always to be admired...putting someones welfare ahead of your own..personalities that reflect a self centred attitude are deeply unattractive to us...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

so you use fictional soap characters to back up your arguement.... right.... okay!!! cause as we know they are a general barometer for life....

just the flippant nature and the brazenness of it is actually really sad.. I am not angry, I actually pity you...."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

so you use fictional soap characters to back up your arguement.... right.... okay!!! cause as we know they are a general barometer for life....

just the flippant nature and the brazenness of it is actually really sad.. I am not angry, I actually pity you...."

no need to pity me love....im enjoying my life ...are you ? and if you have nothing intelligent to say,please dont bother with a reply..

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