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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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help peeps xxx we seem to have probs geting meets lately sa were only soft swing couple my fella thinks its becouse we wont do full wiv other couples wat do u guys think or are we just pure boreing and smacked with the ugly stick xxxx  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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great pics so hardly the ugly stick.
it probably is soft swop as full swop is more sought after... but there will be others looking for the same. Do you proactively contact couples looking for soft swop? or wait for them to come to you?
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Agree with the above. We started off by soft-swinging for a few months before we felt ready for our first full swap, and still have good long-term friends who are soft swing only. Our attitude is that all group-sex is fun!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Soft swap is difficult to come by as "most" people that message us are looking for full swap.
You need to pic carefully as people think they can convert you, and don't care about your choices and boundaries, rather than just where their next shag will come from (personal experience talking!)
Fab doesn't really cater to soft swappers find other soft swappers, although you can search for a soft interest, many full swap only couples have put this down as a interest.
You need to read others profiles carefully, and check to see if others are specifically soft swap (they do generally say).
Best way to find others are to go to clubs and events. We have found this to be the best way, as lots of people never live up to their photos! If they are at a club, they have made the effort to get there so you know are to likely to mess you about (arrange a meet and never show up).
Just like being at a bar/club, if you sit around waiting for people to come to you, then no one will. You need to be proactive and message others. Identify a few couples and send them a message specifically stating your soft swap and only soft, and if they would be interested in meeting.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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oh, btw - if your a couple then get pics of your guy on your public profile too, even if its just body shots and leave facial shots for private messaging.
We would never respond or contact to "couples" that only show off the female (unless it was only the female going to show of course!), because it usually means the guys not that good looking to have photo space on the profile (sure thats not the case thou)
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"help peeps xxx we seem to have probs geting meets lately sa were only soft swing couple my fella thinks its becouse we wont do full wiv other couples wat do u guys think or are we just pure boreing and smacked with the ugly stick xxxx "
Everyone has limits..stick to what you feel comfortable with and dont budge from that just be accepted..
Our limit is the cam...for various reasons and we are more than happy..its a little excitement for us end of...we definately wont budge from that either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your pics look great, so I would imagine it is the soft swap. There are less on here than full swap, and most who like full don't want a meet with soft swap couples. Try clubs, or private parties, where a couple like you are bound to find someone |
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"Your pics look great, so I would imagine it is the soft swap. There are less on here than full swap, and most who like full don't want a meet with soft swap couples. Try clubs, or private parties, where a couple like you are bound to find someone"
Oh...got it now..thought you was talking about us! lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hiya guys. Were in a similar situation to you guys...if you read our topic 'has our time come to an end' youll see what i mean  sucks that some people out there dont respect boundaries.
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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"help peeps xxx we seem to have probs geting meets lately sa were only soft swing couple my fella thinks its becouse we wont do full wiv other couples wat do u guys think or are we just pure boreing and smacked with the ugly stick xxxx "
I'm going to give you some constructive critisim here, so please take this as it is intended........... to help you out.
You need a picture of the male on your profile, even if it is only a body shot.
Please correct your profile, I couldn't read it after the second line and if it were us looking, I wouldn't bother as I can't read it.
Accept that the majority of people on here will want full swap and make a concious effort to only talk to those that want soft swap.
Accept your massive age difference may be putting many couples off. Unfortunately, regardless of how easy going the majority of the swinging world is....... your age gap will put off a fair few.
Try the clubs, either together as a couple or go together and seperate and try a few different senario's out until you are comfortable that you have hit what you are looking for.
And lastly, swingers, by their own admission, are notoriously picky. It can take up to a year for a single bloke to get a meet and it can take months for a couple to meet the right couple, because, by the law of averages, 4 people meeting and fancying each other is alot harder to get than just adding one more person into the equation.
And by the way, as an aside, if your bloke is telling you it's because you won't full swap, make sure he isn't trying to push you into something you aren't ready for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are a soft play couple and find that clubs are great place to meet as others have said, we make our boundries known, some have tried to move them, but got soon got the message lol.
As others have said 'we' are in the minority.
Stick with it and keep doing whats right for you and don't let anyone tell you differently.
good luck
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