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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems no-one wants to admit to gng BB. When u _iew pix on profiles there always appears to be diff cocks all without a cover. Me......i wouldnt go with cpl that do BB. |
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"Don't hold your breath waiting for someone to post... 'Yeah we go bare-back all the time'   "
I agree. I find these threads really boring. They're either pointless, or just an excuse for the usual rants and finger pointing.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't hold your breath waiting for someone to post... 'Yeah we go bare-back all the time'
I agree. I find these threads really boring. They're either pointless, or just an excuse for the usual rants and finger pointing.
Yaaaaaaawn!"
careful when u yawn im not wearing a condom!!!!-spurrrrt! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"do u normally go bareback with strangers?"
There are a large number here that do but would never admit to it. Often though there are giveaways. They are the ones who state condoms aren't the answer and they will rant away that people get complacent if they use them. These are the same people who unfortunately spread things through the community putting people at risk. |
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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple
over a year ago
We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !! |
You are hardly gonna get any responses to this thread admitting that BB is they way as most look down in shock and horror at anybody who admits that they ride BB but with us every1 to thay own we have played with cpls who would have gone BB but weve insisted on wearing a jonny's just for our own peice ov mind but even then with a cover on you can still catch herpies,warts and crabs etc so if ppl want to go BB well good luck to them who are we to judge and if they are fit we would play wi them but with protection ovcourse  |
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"never understand these threads
ive never seen anyone admit to doing it so why ask when you must know even those who do are going to say they dont lol"
Agree. Do sometimes see dont like condoms on profiles but why would they post on here. They know they will probably get nagative remarks. They cant really defend it apart from saying its up to us which indeed it is. Still think they are only able to do it cos the rest of us dont. Imagine if no one did now with all the stuff that is around today. Doesnt bear thinking about.
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As a shareholder in Reckitt Benckiser I strongly urge you all to use as many Durex condoms as you can so that the company can continue to pay me my dividends
By the way Reckitt Benckiser also make Cillit Bang too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a shareholder in Reckitt Benckiser I strongly urge you all to use as many Durex condoms as you can so that the company can continue to pay me my dividends
By the way Reckitt Benckiser also make Cillit Bang too "
We're giving up using Cillit Bang & going back to condoms. Sick to death that every meet we have, some single bloke walks in saying " Hi, I'm Barry Scott..." & ruins the evening.. |
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"As a shareholder in Reckitt Benckiser I strongly urge you all to use as many Durex condoms as you can so that the company can continue to pay me my dividends
By the way Reckitt Benckiser also make Cillit Bang too "
We're giving up using Cillit Bang & going back to condoms. Sick to death that every meet we have, some single bloke walks in saying " Hi, I'm Barry Scott..." & ruins the evening.. |
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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago
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"never understand these threads
ive never seen anyone admit to doing it so why ask when you must know even those who do are going to say they dont lol"
Admit? Does that mean there is something wrong with it?
We prefer it bareback (though we will and *do* use condoms depending on the situation and how others feel or even how we feel about any particular meet)
We have also said so many times on this forum and put so clearly on our profile that we enjoy bareback and there are plenty more on here who say the same.
Does that mean we are an exception to your rule? Apparently we don't even exist as if no one would ever admit it!
And 'admit#' suggests we are even doing anything wrong - yes we accept we are taking a partially greater risk than folks who do unprotected oral but the additional risk is not that great and we can accept the extra risk and live with it.
The simple fact is for example in the case of HIV you are more likely to die or suffer severe injury driving to a safe sex meet than you are accommodating a bareback couple - don't believe it? Then go google the death rates/causes in the UK then come back and tell everyone what you found.
And if you are a smoker then don't even worry yourself about safe sex or bareback!
And we just gotta add - we've been swinging over four years, have check ups from time to time (last one was in Feb) and never contracted anything yet.
Also gotta add if you like to bareback then put it on your profile (wtf isn't there a tick box for it on fab?) and you will find lots of folks who want to play - even if they don't openly state bareback
xXx
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"never understand these threads
ive never seen anyone admit to doing it so why ask when you must know even those who do are going to say they dont lol
Admit? Does that mean there is something wrong with it?
We prefer it bareback (though we will and *do* use condoms depending on the situation and how others feel or even how we feel about any particular meet)
We have also said so many times on this forum and put so clearly on our profile that we enjoy bareback and there are plenty more on here who say the same.
Does that mean we are an exception to your rule? Apparently we don't even exist as if no one would ever admit it!
And 'admit#' suggests we are even doing anything wrong - yes we accept we are taking a partially greater risk than folks who do unprotected oral but the additional risk is not that great and we can accept the extra risk and live with it.
The simple fact is for example in the case of HIV you are more likely to die or suffer severe injury driving to a safe sex meet than you are accommodating a bareback couple - don't believe it? Then go google the death rates/causes in the UK then come back and tell everyone what you found.
And if you are a smoker then don't even worry yourself about safe sex or bareback!
And we just gotta add - we've been swinging over four years, have check ups from time to time (last one was in Feb) and never contracted anything yet.
Also gotta add if you like to bareback then put it on your profile (wtf isn't there a tick box for it on fab?) and you will find lots of folks who want to play - even if they don't openly state bareback
xXx
j&r"
It's not just the big ones like HIV, basically your leavin yourself open to a whole host of warts\itches and rot going bareback.
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I have just scanned the thread and it seems to be very naive - there are a lot of bb peeps here and some are very honest about it and i have to give them credit for that although it's not for us some people tell the truth, - if someone wants bb then thats up to them - if we are all honest then we can make decisions based on that Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have just scanned the thread and it seems to be very naive - there are a lot of bb peeps here and some are very honest about it and i have to give them credit for that although it's not for us some people tell the truth, - if someone wants bb then thats up to them - if we are all honest then we can make decisions based on that Z"
I stopped reading the thread ages ago... ive no quams with BB messenger...i dont have a BB tho
oops...meant blackberry |
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I am never a fool and if it is a random I wrap my tool!! However I have been with people long term and have bare backed with them and do prefer it.. There is something about stopping midway that kinda kills the passion so to speak., I do get tested regularly just in case but am in the muddle of a 6 month drought since I split with my long term partner.. So it's condoms all the way now till marriage I guess x |
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"never understand these threads
ive never seen anyone admit to doing it so why ask when you must know even those who do are going to say they dont lol
Admit? Does that mean there is something wrong with it?
We prefer it bareback (though we will and *do* use condoms depending on the situation and how others feel or even how we feel about any particular meet)
We have also said so many times on this forum and put so clearly on our profile that we enjoy bareback and there are plenty more on here who say the same.
Does that mean we are an exception to your rule? Apparently we don't even exist as if no one would ever admit it!
And 'admit#' suggests we are even doing anything wrong - yes we accept we are taking a partially greater risk than folks who do unprotected oral but the additional risk is not that great and we can accept the extra risk and live with it.
The simple fact is for example in the case of HIV you are more likely to die or suffer severe injury driving to a safe sex meet than you are accommodating a bareback couple - don't believe it? Then go google the death rates/causes in the UK then come back and tell everyone what you found.
And if you are a smoker then don't even worry yourself about safe sex or bareback!
And we just gotta add - we've been swinging over four years, have check ups from time to time (last one was in Feb) and never contracted anything yet.
Also gotta add if you like to bareback then put it on your profile (wtf isn't there a tick box for it on fab?) and you will find lots of folks who want to play - even if they don't openly state bareback
xXx
j&r"
Honesty the best policy but you lose me with the ridiculous arguement about other risks in life.... not relevant. Also, how lucky are you that the majority of us wrap up otherwise you would be at a risk that Im pretty sure you would think twice about even comparing it to smoking or driving. Agree about the bb button on profile. Pick a side of the fence and be open about it = lets everyone have a choice. I have suggested it on threads before but people dont seem to agree that there is a point. I guess we all try to defend what we do to others otherwise we dont feel justified in doing it do we?
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"never understand these threads
ive never seen anyone admit to doing it so why ask when you must know even those who do are going to say they dont lol
Admit? Does that mean there is something wrong with it?
We prefer it bareback (though we will and *do* use condoms depending on the situation and how others feel or even how we feel about any particular meet)
We have also said so many times on this forum and put so clearly on our profile that we enjoy bareback and there are plenty more on here who say the same.
Does that mean we are an exception to your rule? Apparently we don't even exist as if no one would ever admit it!
And 'admit#' suggests we are even doing anything wrong - yes we accept we are taking a partially greater risk than folks who do unprotected oral but the additional risk is not that great and we can accept the extra risk and live with it.
The simple fact is for example in the case of HIV you are more likely to die or suffer severe injury driving to a safe sex meet than you are accommodating a bareback couple - don't believe it? Then go google the death rates/causes in the UK then come back and tell everyone what you found.
And if you are a smoker then don't even worry yourself about safe sex or bareback!
And we just gotta add - we've been swinging over four years, have check ups from time to time (last one was in Feb) and never contracted anything yet.
Also gotta add if you like to bareback then put it on your profile (wtf isn't there a tick box for it on fab?) and you will find lots of folks who want to play - even if they don't openly state bareback
xXx
j&r
Honesty the best policy but you lose me with the ridiculous arguement about other risks in life.... not relevant. Also, how lucky are you that the majority of us wrap up otherwise you would be at a risk that Im pretty sure you would think twice about even comparing it to smoking or driving. Agree about the bb button on profile. Pick a side of the fence and be open about it = lets everyone have a choice. I have suggested it on threads before but people dont seem to agree that there is a point. I guess we all try to defend what we do to others otherwise we dont feel justified in doing it do we?
Mistress x"
Very well put.We all judge the risks we are willing to take.For me personally with random sex i do not see the point in adding to the statistical risk by not using a condom.It is like crossing a road without looking,yes you might make it safely across,but you will be bloody fecked when you get hit by the lorry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes Siren let's me put a saddle on her back but she draws a line at a bridle and a pony tail butt plug. I quite like her without the saddle though as the straps squash her tits.  |
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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago
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Haha
But really the point of what we meant
Risks are comparitive - you take your choice whether you drink, smoke, drive, use drugs, bareback or umpteen other things we choose to do in our daily lives.
And they are all relative and all relevant.
However it would be better for everyone (in our honest opinion) to have a bareback button on the profile that can be searched - then folks can be more honest and folks can make their choices more wisely and lets face it folks can be more happy
However we never heard why we can't have this feature here and doubt very serious any or admin will care to comment now on it either
xXx
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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago
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Just found this one on the net tonight so felt the desire to share it
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Research carried out by doctors in the USA have found that despite many swingers not using a condom, STD´s (Sexually transmitted diseases) have a lower incidence in the swinging community than in the general population.
Again it comes down to being honest. If a swinger contracts a STD they will almost always know who they played with to contract it, and who they have played with since. If a person outside the scene catches an infection it is usually as the result of a one night stand with someone picked up when d*unk in a bar or club.
Swingers are also more likely alert the people they have played with so that they can all get treated, the casual pick up is often someone who cannot be contacted, and will go on to spread their infection on their next one night stand.
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Comparing risk factors of other activities is relevant to keep things in prospective which is always a problem with this subject.
"It's like playing Russian Roulette" odds 6 to 1. Having sex with an HIV/AIDS victim your risk is something like 1000 to 1. Your chances of having sex with someone infected with HIV/AIDS millions and millions to 1.
It's a matter of keeping the risk in proportion then maybe it would be possible to have a rational debate with out bare-backers being made to feel like monsters!
The pro 'safe-sex' say the risk is VERY high. The bare-backers say the risk is low. While in fact no one really knows the true risks with or without condoms.
But here's one thing you can all be certain of... swinging is everything that 'safe-sex' isn't! ALL swingers are dramatically increasing their risk of contracting an STI/STD by the fact of swinging.
So not one active swinger on the planet is in a good position the shout about 'safe-sex' as you/we all abuse the foundation of the principals of 'safe-sex'
The term 'Safe-sex' shouldn't really be used on the site, just a "Prefer Condoms?" yes/no box. |
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"Comparing risk factors of other activities is relevant to keep things in prospective which is always a problem with this subject.
"It's like playing Russian Roulette" odds 6 to 1. Having sex with an HIV/AIDS victim your risk is something like 1000 to 1. Your chances of having sex with someone infected with HIV/AIDS millions and millions to 1.
It's a matter of keeping the risk in proportion then maybe it would be possible to have a rational debate with out bare-backers being made to feel like monsters!
The pro 'safe-sex' say the risk is VERY high. The bare-backers say the risk is low. While in fact no one really knows the true risks with or without condoms.
But here's one thing you can all be certain of... swinging is everything that 'safe-sex' isn't! ALL swingers are dramatically increasing their risk of contracting an STI/STD by the fact of swinging.
So not one active swinger on the planet is in a good position the shout about 'safe-sex' as you/we all abuse the foundation of the principals of 'safe-sex'
The term 'Safe-sex' shouldn't really be used on the site, just a "Prefer Condoms?" yes/no box."
The figures of how much safer you are with a condom have been quantified and there is variation between Europe and the US ,Europe says you are 5 Times safer with a condom and US says 3 times safer. Of course you have to factor in the 0.4% allowable production failure of condoms which are allowed into shops without recall that is 4000 per million produced are duds ,blowing em up does not show if they are ok as hiv is only 1 micron in size,given that i shrug and think ok 3 times safer is better than no help at all.
I totally respect the people who have done the figures, quantified and accepted the risk, Using a condom is safer but is NOT safe sex ,so lets live and let live eh . |
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...and this is where all the stats start to come apart because there are so many variables that people often fail to consider before forming an opinion/policy and or shouting the odds to other people.
For stats to be of any real use it would need controlled test/experiments such as a group of 'clear' people having different types of sexual acts with infected people.
In the real world someone believing that condoms make it safe may have 100 new sex contacts in a year and maybe the bare-backer has say 2... who is most at risk?
There is another angle too that beggers belief... The safe-sex person looks at a new sexual contact and says/thinks 'There is no way in a million years that I will have sex with you without a condom'... WHY? *insert a 1000 health risks* and then, with a condom just for penetrative sex they STILL have SEX with the person, someone who they think might be carrying STI/STD HIV/AIDS believing the condom WILL protect them!!! I just don't understand that!
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"...and this is where all the stats start to come apart because there are so many variables that people often fail to consider before forming an opinion/policy and or shouting the odds to other people.
For stats to be of any real use it would need controlled test/experiments such as a group of 'clear' people having different types of sexual acts with infected people.
In the real world someone believing that condoms make it safe may have 100 new sex contacts in a year and maybe the bare-backer has say 2... who is most at risk?
There is another angle too that beggers belief... The safe-sex person looks at a new sexual contact and says/thinks 'There is no way in a million years that I will have sex with you without a condom'... WHY? *insert a 1000 health risks* and then, with a condom just for penetrative sex they STILL have SEX with the person, someone who they think might be carrying STI/STD HIV/AIDS believing the condom WILL protect them!!! I just don't understand that!
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The two choices you give are not the only ones available. Some of us are incredibly fussy about who we meet and who they meet and not meeting many new people and using protection. Oral unprotected but no guys are allowed to cum in my mouth either. That lowers to chances to odds we are more comfortable with. Works for us. The rest of you will do as you please also. Just annoys me to read such silly comparisons. We are all prepared to take different amount of chances that we are comfortable with. I dont look up odds of driving a car, smoking or eating too much as a reason for our being willing to swing. Its ridiculous and means nothing.... and this from someone who has lost both of her parents due to smoking.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I never met a guy who didn't have to be told, "Condom." This is Edinburgh, former smack/HIV capital of Europe. "It's ok, I'm clean" actually means, "I don't have a clue but I love that zip up the back of your head." |
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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago
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But that 'bareback only' doesn't necessarily mean that they will bareback with everyone and anyone!
We've met couples who bareback only but are extremely fussy and selective about who they will swing with at all
It's just personal choice (though we also believe looking at the various risks is a sensible thing to do if you are going to get this all into perspective in your own head and make an *informed* choice)
So yes we prefer bareback, we do drive to meets (but not always) we do drink and we would never put a cigarette to our lips in our lives
Does that make us any more or less stupid than someone who prefers safe sex and smokes 30 a day?
We are undeniably a lot less at risk of serious (or even fatal) health problems than the safe sex smoker but we don't actually have an issue with them either nor do we think of them as stupid - i n fact we've shagged more than a few
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"ermmmm... i have seen profiles of couples who state 'bareback only' yuk now that is grim, dangerous and down right stupid!.  "
Now that is just the kind of thing I was talking about. Voicing your opinions in this way is just the sort of thing that causes some bare-backers to lie/hide.
Now I'm NOT suggesting for a split second that you shouldn't voice your opinion. I for one have lots of opinions about lots of different subjects but many of them I keep to myself for the simple reason they are never going to be helpful in any way.
If you are going to call bare-backers 'idiots' then some 50 million people will call you an idiot for being a swinger, which totally contravenes safe-sex with or without a condom! |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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We all know there are swingers who go bareback........ that's up to them.
I just wish, when you meet them, either at a party or in a club, they would be honest enough to actually say......... "we normally go bareback"..... in which case it would give those who would never play without condoms the option to walk away.
Would I play with a known barebacker?
NO
But thats MY choice.
Have I ever played with someone who normally barebacks.....?
Probably
But if they weren't honest enough to mention it, even if I've asked, then thats the risk I've had to take.
Otherwise, the only person I would sleep with....... would be ....... myself  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Now you see, I wouldn't bother asking someone if they barebacked as I wouldn't believe them anyway.
I don't think people who go dogging, clubs etc even bother with names, marital status etc let alone if they bareback! The fact you're having sex with strangers makes the question a bit daft in my opinion.
All I can do is protect myself as best I can and take full responsibility for that. If I wanted to have safe sex...well, I wouldn't have sex at all! |
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