Is it rude to not reply to people and block them straight away if you're not interested? I think it is, but tempted to do so because I'm sick of the hissy fits and stupid remarks if you have to turn someone down. |
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over a year ago
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"Is it rude to not reply to people and block them straight away if you're not interested? I think it is, but tempted to do so because I'm sick of the hissy fits and stupid remarks if you have to turn someone down."
No its not rude, on here its just common sense really. Block away op  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would rather a polite message saying the female in question isn't interested, but I do understand why women don't send them and just delete messages. I don't find it offensive or rude |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it rude to not reply to people and block them straight away if you're not interested? I think it is, but tempted to do so because I'm sick of the hissy fits and stupid remarks if you have to turn someone down."
No it's not rude it's just a way of saying no thanks but easier. X |
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you can't win on here. If I reply to say not my type I get abuse, if I don't reply and ignore I get abuse, if I block they make a new profile just to hurl abuse then delete...so no fixed rules regarding the people who use this site I'm afraid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it rude to not reply to people and block them straight away if you're not interested? I think it is, but tempted to do so because I'm sick of the hissy fits and stupid remarks if you have to turn someone down."
It is not rude at all. It saves both parties' time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think it's rude. The people you're blocking probably will as we see from previous threads here complaining about being blocked, but a lot of people use blocking that way.
Just do whatever works for you OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it rude to not reply to people and block them straight away if you're not interested? I think it is, but tempted to do so because I'm sick of the hissy fits and stupid remarks if you have to turn someone down."
No its not. No reply=no interest. Blocking stops them messaging again in a week or so.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Standard practice on here for you girls otherwise you'd do nothing but reply to messages with a "no thanks" and then even more pointless replies to the "but why" messages. It does come across as blunt and rude but I understand you girls get hundreds of messages so it makes sense really. You do what you feel comfortable with x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're going to block, you might as well just say thanks for your message but not for me and wish them well, its what I used to do but no, its not rude, do what suits you. |
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over a year ago
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"Is it rude to not reply to people and block them straight away if you're not interested? I think it is, but tempted to do so because I'm sick of the hissy fits and stupid remarks if you have to turn someone down."
Your profile, run it as you see fit. You owe no one precisely nothing, nada, zilch, zero on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it rude to not reply to people and block them straight away if you're not interested? I think it is, but tempted to do so because I'm sick of the hissy fits and stupid remarks if you have to turn someone down."
No we don't think so,we've had guys message us for us to politely reply a no thanks only for the same guy to message us the same message a few weeks later,so I think by blocking them your saving both there's and our time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Standard practice on here for you girls otherwise you'd do nothing but reply to messages with a "no thanks" and then even more pointless replies to the "but why" messages. It does come across as blunt and rude but I understand you girls get hundreds of messages so it makes sense really. You do what you feel comfortable with x"
This!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it rude to not reply to people and block them straight away if you're not interested? I think it is, but tempted to do so because I'm sick of the hissy fits and stupid remarks if you have to turn someone down.
Your profile, run it as you see fit. You owe no one precisely nothing, nada, zilch, zero on here "
A good way of looking at it |
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"Is it rude to not reply to people and block them straight away if you're not interested? I think it is, but tempted to do so because I'm sick of the hissy fits and stupid remarks if you have to turn someone down."
I dont think so, I did exactly that back in 2009 when I got a message  |
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"Is it rude to not reply to people and block them straight away if you're not interested? I think it is, but tempted to do so because I'm sick of the hissy fits and stupid remarks if you have to turn someone down."
Not rude at all you are mearly using a tool provided by the site to make your experience of using the place easier xx |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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I tend to block if I get a no thank message you or no reply - I have a very bad memory so it prevents me from accidently remessaging someone a few months later. It also stops them appear on my searches. I don't consider it to be rude. |
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"No we don't think so,we've had guys message us for us to politely reply a no thanks only for the same guy to message us the same message a few weeks later,so I think by blocking them your saving both there's and our time "
This is why I block when I say no thanks |
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"I tend to block if I get a no thank message you or no reply - I have a very bad memory so it prevents me from accidently remessaging someone a few months later. It also stops them appear on my searches. I don't consider it to be rude."
If you pay your £5 you can see if you have messaged them before  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it rude to not reply to people and block them straight away if you're not interested? I think it is, but tempted to do so because I'm sick of the hissy fits and stupid remarks if you have to turn someone down."
I agree! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't find it rude and I certainly don't throw my toys out the pram of it's a no...what I do do, is send a polite thank you for letting me know and wish them all the best |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What I tend to do is to message them back to say I'm not interested, and then imediatly block them.
This is better than just blocking them, since it gives them an indication of why your blocking them, and it avoids any hissy fits. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've found if you don't block they will just send same message again everytime you change your profile pic because they think you're someone new and don't bother looking at your profile. The block button is your friend  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't find it rude and I certainly don't throw my toys out the pram of it's a no...what I do do, is send a polite thank you for letting me know and wish them all the best "
Ahh so you resort to sarcasm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, it's not rude.
It's the best way to say 'no thanks' with no comebacks possible. "
We have tried being polite but a high percentage of time it doesn't work so we do this approach now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't find it rude and I certainly don't throw my toys out the pram of it's a no...what I do do, is send a polite thank you for letting me know and wish them all the best "
This also annoys some, as it's yet another message dropping in the box, that they're trying to clear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't find it rude and I certainly don't throw my toys out the pram of it's a no...what I do do, is send a polite thank you for letting me know and wish them all the best
Ahh so you resort to sarcasm "
Not at all, I was brought up with manners and I'm afraid I won't be changing my ways |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't find it rude and I certainly don't throw my toys out the pram of it's a no...what I do do, is send a polite thank you for letting me know and wish them all the best
This also annoys some, as it's yet another message dropping in the box, that they're trying to clear. "
Again, this is just manners which I was brought up with, sorry to f this upsets people because it fills there box  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it rude to not reply to people and block them straight away if you're not interested? I think it is, but tempted to do so because I'm sick of the hissy fits and stupid remarks if you have to turn someone down."
No it's not rude as for each no thanks response you send you'll receive a question why or abuse. It's about fun and there no fun in reading and replying to all these messages. You just need to find a system that works for you not others. |
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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago
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"Is it rude to not reply to people and block them straight away if you're not interested? I think it is, but tempted to do so because I'm sick of the hissy fits and stupid remarks if you have to turn someone down."
No, it's not rude. You don't know them from Adam and you don't owe them anything. That's actually a nice way for you to help them so they don't keep messaging you again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually reply with a nice 'sorry, but I'm not the one for you' and explain that I will block them because I don't want to keep wasting their time and my time by looking at their profile every time it comes up.
I do the same if someone tells me 'no thanks' - I block them after I've confirmed they don't want to continue chatting, etc.
Do it nicely and I think people welcome it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Every unsolicited message has no inherent compulsion to reply and nobody should be offended when there is no reply when there are so many messages to answer, and as we already know, a large number of them bear no resemblance to how the profile is phrased.
In an ideal world we would reply politely to every message, but a see know fabs, is less than ideal. |
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"Is it rude to not reply to people and block them straight away if you're not interested? I think it is, but tempted to do so because I'm sick of the hissy fits and stupid remarks if you have to turn someone down."
I don't think it's rude..I do it sometimes to save me messaging them again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, it's not rude.
It's the best way to say 'no thanks' with no comebacks possible.
We have tried being polite but a high percentage of time it doesn't work so we do this approach now "
Yep we just block now as you get rude comments back so no point... block block block |
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By *omez42Man
over a year ago
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I would much rather have a polite no than be blocked, but I can understand why people block when they get abuse. It can be frustrating when you see a status, respond to it, then never hear anything. Then you see the member moan about not getting any!
But then, the problem should be split into the real cause.
Replying with a "no thanks" is just good manners.
Sending abuse after receiving a polite turn down, is unacceptable and should be reported every single time.
If I were in the position of getting a lot of mail, ( be the other sex ), I would respond politely.
Any abuse whatsoever would be reported and blocked. We need to get the abusers off the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always respond with a polite thanks but no thanks and never had any problems (guessing it could be different for me being a guy).
I have had a few people ignore me which while I'm not gutted it's still nice for someone to acknowledge the message but say no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people seem to forget the fab rules
You aren't obligated to reply to anyone
No reply means not intersted"
This is spot on and I think most of people understand this but the small percentage of people who don't sour the experience for others. |
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