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over a year ago
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They either changed there mind about meeting you and didnt want to say why or they are idiots saying they want to meet then blocking guys,in other words messing you about x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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meow.some good comments and some not. i only send face pic on request. not into splashing myself about. it just seems some people have double standards on here. They either want a message or they dont. We cant please everyone with the messages we send. |
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By *b430Man
over a year ago
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"meow.some good comments and some not. i only send face pic on request. not into splashing myself about. it just seems some people have double standards on here. They either want a message or they dont. We cant please everyone with the messages we send. "
It's not double standards - It's their OWN standards and they have every right to run their time on here as they see fit, that includes blocking who they want to for whatever reason they decide to! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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people will block you for just sending a mail introducing yourself politely.
one women who blocked me still looks at my cam in the chatroom.
what a fucking idiot
fuck em move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"people will block you for just sending a mail introducing yourself politely.
one women who blocked me still looks at my cam in the chatroom.
what a fucking idiot
fuck em move on."
How you gonna fuck em if they block you? (Confused of Kent) |
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By *b430Man
over a year ago
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"people will block you for just sending a mail introducing yourself politely.
one women who blocked me still looks at my cam in the chatroom.
what a fucking idiot
fuck em move on."
If she has you blocked; can she really still watch your cam? Or was that just said for effect! |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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"it just seems some people have double standards on here."
Rephrase that to "some people have standards"
" They either want a message or they dont. We cant please everyone with the messages we send. "
Who are you to say they want a message from you, especially a pathetic one.
Who is to say they didn't look at your profile and see you can't accommodate.
Who is to say they didn't look at your profile and just see yet another 'single' bloke with cock pictures everywhere.
Who is to say they didn't read your profile and see the safe sex box ticked but a picture where you obviously do bareback.
Who is to say that the same old boring profile, seen on a million men's profile didn't put them off.
Who is to say that they didn't just block you so that it saves you the trouble of getting in touch with them AGAIN... all in vain.
Who is to say that you have the right to whinge about a couple who obviously don't want anything to do with you.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"it just seems some people have double standards on here.
Rephrase that to "some people have standards"
They either want a message or they dont. We cant please everyone with the messages we send.
Who are you to say they want a message from you, especially a pathetic one.
Who is to say they didn't look at your profile and see you can't accommodate.
Who is to say they didn't look at your profile and just see yet another 'single' bloke with cock pictures everywhere.
Who is to say they didn't read your profile and see the safe sex box ticked but a picture where you obviously do bareback.
Who is to say that the same old boring profile, seen on a million men's profile didn't put them off.
Who is to say that they didn't just block you so that it saves you the trouble of getting in touch with them AGAIN... all in vain.
Who is to say that you have the right to whinge about a couple who obviously don't want anything to do with you.
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I didnt ask to be judged. jeez a mountain out of a mole hill from you. i stopped reading your post so stop ranting. whf. i asked the couple for a time of day when the meet was occuring. Thats it. done. lol. Then they blocked me.
The couples meet has now been with drawn so what does that tell you. Plenty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The couples meet has now been with drawn so what does that tell you. Plenty."
That they now have something arranged?
Was your first message to them just the is it day or night without any other introduction because if so then thats another reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"some people need to grow a pair and get some manners and reply to people instead of blocking... Find that very immature and cowerdley.
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I do too ........ I think its very rude and show people for who thay really are ... He should think himself lucky he never meet this couple ... yes blocking is there for good resons and up to people at times theres just no need too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I made a similar point on another thread: you need to be 'thick skinned' to be on a site like this because there are so many issues that will cause upset if we let them. Basic amongst these is a lack of basic courtesy and manners. I absolutely agree that a quick "No Thanks" takes seconds if you're not interested or a "Sorry have made other plans/changed our minds" if arrangements are still being made. It does also require the rejected party to be big enough to accept rejection without lashing out with abuse. |
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over a year ago
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"some people need to grow a pair and get some manners and reply to people instead of blocking... Find that very immature and cowerdley.
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I disagree with you!
The FIRST sentence of my profile states I'm not meeting until December due to medical reasons. It then goes on to state if you DON'T meet what I'm looking for I wont reply, so don't waste your time.
Now, to make it as simple as I can for the mentally challenged, I've even set out WHAT I'm looking for: tall, single, straight, white, sub, local, men over 45 who can accommodate (I don't do hotels - ever) - easy peasy.
Are you honestly telling me if you were me and you got a message from a married bi guy who was on business "in my area" who wanted me to dress up in a mini skirt and stockings (I'm a size 24 Domme) and give him a blow job you'd write back?!!
Really?!!  |
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over a year ago
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"some people need to grow a pair and get some manners and reply to people instead of blocking... Find that very immature and cowerdley.
I disagree with you!
The FIRST sentence of my profile states I'm not meeting until December due to medical reasons. It then goes on to state if you DON'T meet what I'm looking for I wont reply, so don't waste your time.
Now, to make it as simple as I can for the mentally challenged, I've even set out WHAT I'm looking for: tall, single, straight, white, sub, local, men over 45 who can accommodate (I don't do hotels - ever) - easy peasy.
Are you honestly telling me if you were me and you got a message from a married bi guy who was on business "in my area" who wanted me to dress up in a mini skirt and stockings (I'm a size 24 Domme) and give him a blow job you'd write back?!!
Really?!! "
A simple "NO THANKS" isnt hard to type. |
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"some people need to grow a pair and get some manners and reply to people instead of blocking... Find that very immature and cowerdley.
I disagree with you!
The FIRST sentence of my profile states I'm not meeting until December due to medical reasons. It then goes on to state if you DON'T meet what I'm looking for I wont reply, so don't waste your time.
Now, to make it as simple as I can for the mentally challenged, I've even set out WHAT I'm looking for: tall, single, straight, white, sub, local, men over 45 who can accommodate (I don't do hotels - ever) - easy peasy.
Are you honestly telling me if you were me and you got a message from a married bi guy who was on business "in my area" who wanted me to dress up in a mini skirt and stockings (I'm a size 24 Domme) and give him a blow job you'd write back?!!
Really?!!
A simple "NO THANKS" isnt hard to type. "
Depends how many messages you get in your inbox every day......  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"some people need to grow a pair and get some manners and reply to people instead of blocking... Find that very immature and cowerdley.
I disagree with you!
The FIRST sentence of my profile states I'm not meeting until December due to medical reasons. It then goes on to state if you DON'T meet what I'm looking for I wont reply, so don't waste your time.
Now, to make it as simple as I can for the mentally challenged, I've even set out WHAT I'm looking for: tall, single, straight, white, sub, local, men over 45 who can accommodate (I don't do hotels - ever) - easy peasy.
Are you honestly telling me if you were me and you got a message from a married bi guy who was on business "in my area" who wanted me to dress up in a mini skirt and stockings (I'm a size 24 Domme) and give him a blow job you'd write back?!!
Really?!!
A simple "NO THANKS" isnt hard to type. "
Well I think you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.
I have specific preferences on my profile and yet still get mail from unsuitable people. I started by replying and saying "thanks for your interest but no thank you" and was surprised and disappointed at the amount of abuse that I received in response. So, that has now got me to the stage where if you are not what I am looking for I no longer respond I just delete.
So I can actually see both sides of this argument. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get 100s of letters most weeks and i dont mail back to all i cant, so say in profile i cant ...... some do mail again and again but do stop in the end i find. I have 1 on my block list. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if this guy messaged this person only once and asked something simple, i still dont see the reason for blocking. A lil reply as i mentioned or ignore the message alltogether would have been as effective. |
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"if this guy messaged this person only once and asked something simple, i still dont see the reason for blocking. A lil reply as i mentioned or ignore the message alltogether would have been as effective."
They have the blocking facility the same as you do....if they choose to block then it's their business, you only have one side of the story to go on so how can you make such a judgement? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"some people need to grow a pair and get some manners and reply to people instead of blocking... Find that very immature and cowerdley.
I disagree with you!
The FIRST sentence of my profile states I'm not meeting until December due to medical reasons. It then goes on to state if you DON'T meet what I'm looking for I wont reply, so don't waste your time.
Now, to make it as simple as I can for the mentally challenged, I've even set out WHAT I'm looking for: tall, single, straight, white, sub, local, men over 45 who can accommodate (I don't do hotels - ever) - easy peasy.
Are you honestly telling me if you were me and you got a message from a married bi guy who was on business "in my area" who wanted me to dress up in a mini skirt and stockings (I'm a size 24 Domme) and give him a blow job you'd write back?!!
Really?!!
A simple "NO THANKS" isnt hard to type. "
So what part of "don't waste your time contacting me if you're not what I'm looking for as I won't reply" don't people get?!! 
If I then go back on my word and reply it sends mixed messages and the mail continues!!
Hat's off to those that can send "thanks, but no thanks" and the subsequent follow up messages to people they don't want to meet!!
My life wont be long enough to do that - that's why I try to dissuade time wasting from the profile stage! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if this guy messaged this person only once and asked something simple, i still dont see the reason for blocking. A lil reply as i mentioned or ignore the message alltogether would have been as effective.
They have the blocking facility the same as you do....if they choose to block then it's their business, you only have one side of the story to go on so how can you make such a judgement?"
I know its their business, its my opinion, the author of the thread created this topic for opinions.. I gave mine. Get over it. Thanx |
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over a year ago
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"some people need to grow a pair and get some manners and reply to people instead of blocking... Find that very immature and cowerdley.
I disagree with you!
The FIRST sentence of my profile states I'm not meeting until December due to medical reasons. It then goes on to state if you DON'T meet what I'm looking for I wont reply, so don't waste your time.
Now, to make it as simple as I can for the mentally challenged, I've even set out WHAT I'm looking for: tall, single, straight, white, sub, local, men over 45 who can accommodate (I don't do hotels - ever) - easy peasy.
Are you honestly telling me if you were me and you got a message from a married bi guy who was on business "in my area" who wanted me to dress up in a mini skirt and stockings (I'm a size 24 Domme) and give him a blow job you'd write back?!!
Really?!!
A simple "NO THANKS" isnt hard to type.
So what part of "don't waste your time contacting me if you're not what I'm looking for as I won't reply" don't people get?!!
If I then go back on my word and reply it sends mixed messages and the mail continues!!
Hat's off to those that can send "thanks, but no thanks" and the subsequent follow up messages to people they don't want to meet!!
My life wont be long enough to do that - that's why I try to dissuade time wasting from the profile stage!"
As i said, if someone is bombarding u witn messages, its fine, but for u to block him after one, i think its extreme. Its obv ur porogative to deal with things however u wish, i was just stating my opinion on blocking people as first measure.  |
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IT'S NOT RUDE TO BLOCK SOMEONE!
Did I say that loud enough?
It is a site function... do you really think admit would allow a button which sent a "fuck off you munter/twat/freak of nature (delete as appropriate)" message?
Whatever the reason people block other people for, it all boils down to "I don't want to receive a message from you".... that's all.
I rarely use the block button, I prefer being rude to people. But if someone blocks me, I just look at it as they have done me a favour... I won't accidently waste any of my time writing them a message. |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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"it just seems some people have double standards on here.
Rephrase that to "some people have standards"
They either want a message or they dont. We cant please everyone with the messages we send.
Who are you to say they want a message from you, especially a pathetic one.
Who is to say they didn't look at your profile and see you can't accommodate.
Who is to say they didn't look at your profile and just see yet another 'single' bloke with cock pictures everywhere.
Who is to say they didn't read your profile and see the safe sex box ticked but a picture where you obviously do bareback.
Who is to say that the same old boring profile, seen on a million men's profile didn't put them off.
Who is to say that they didn't just block you so that it saves you the trouble of getting in touch with them AGAIN... all in vain.
Who is to say that you have the right to whinge about a couple who obviously don't want anything to do with you.
I didnt ask to be judged. jeez a mountain out of a mole hill from you. i stopped reading your post so stop ranting. whf. i asked the couple for a time of day when the meet was occuring. Thats it. done. lol. Then they blocked me.
The couples meet has now been with drawn so what does that tell you. Plenty."
You will know if I rant.
I stick by everything that is written above. And I'm not judging, I was stating facts.
And the couples meet has been withdrawn? What does it tell us?........ that they withdrew the meet, for their own, personal, reasons.
The block button is there, for everyone to use, at which ever point they wish.
It is NOT rude to not reply.
It is NOT rude to block.
It is NOT rude to refuse a meet.
Why......?
Because it's personal CHOICE. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being blocked is a clear unequivocal message that says very loudly "No Thanks"! In the case originally cited it did seems a rather extreme response to a message simply asking for a clarification of timing.
As a general site tool, however, it does tell you that someone is definitely not interested and does not want to hear from you ever again...absolutely no room for doubt there. |
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"it just seems some people have double standards on here.
Rephrase that to "some people have standards"
They either want a message or they dont. We cant please everyone with the messages we send.
Who are you to say they want a message from you, especially a pathetic one.
Who is to say they didn't look at your profile and see you can't accommodate.
Who is to say they didn't look at your profile and just see yet another 'single' bloke with cock pictures everywhere.
Who is to say they didn't read your profile and see the safe sex box ticked but a picture where you obviously do bareback.
Who is to say that the same old boring profile, seen on a million men's profile didn't put them off.
Who is to say that they didn't just block you so that it saves you the trouble of getting in touch with them AGAIN... all in vain.
Who is to say that you have the right to whinge about a couple who obviously don't want anything to do with you.
I didnt ask to be judged. jeez a mountain out of a mole hill from you. i stopped reading your post so stop ranting. whf. i asked the couple for a time of day when the meet was occuring. Thats it. done. lol. Then they blocked me.
The couples meet has now been with drawn so what does that tell you. Plenty.
You will know if I rant.
I stick by everything that is written above. And I'm not judging, I was stating facts.
And the couples meet has been withdrawn? What does it tell us?........ that they withdrew the meet, for their own, personal, reasons.
The block button is there, for everyone to use, at which ever point they wish.
It is NOT rude to not reply.
It is NOT rude to block.
It is NOT rude to refuse a meet.
Why......?
Because it's personal CHOICE."
O god , I do love the its their 'personal choice' answer to most threads on here. You can apply that logic to any situation, its a lazy and overused response.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"some people choose to fart in lifts.
yes , its their choice! some people choose to fart in your face, again their choice, doesnt make it right though"
my point exactly. |
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"And some people take being blocked personally and start calling blockers rude... don't make that right either."
Agreed, But we could use the old 'its their personal choice ' response. For example I could send an aBusive email to someone and justify it By stating its my 'personal choice', I just find it a lazy way to explain someones actions |
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I wonder if when admin thought about having a block function they thought:
a) that would be handy for people to be able choose who they are contacted by.
b) I know let's have a 'fuck off you spaz-faced arse stain' button for rude people to piss other people off with... oh hold on, we had better not call it that thought.... the spaz-faced arse stains might get pissed off with us.... shall we call it a block button. |
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"And some people take being blocked personally and start calling blockers rude... don't make that right either."
of course it is rude if they don't ask them if they mind being blocked first. tut |
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"And some people take being blocked personally and start calling blockers rude... don't make that right either.
Agreed, But we could use the old 'its their personal choice ' response. For example I could send an aBusive email to someone and justify it By stating its my 'personal choice', I just find it a lazy way to explain someones actions "
When it is a function provided by the site (which is optional to use or not use) then what else is it but personal choice as to whether you use it ir not? |
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"And some people take being blocked personally and start calling blockers rude... don't make that right either.
Agreed, But we could use the old 'its their personal choice ' response. For example I could send an aBusive email to someone and justify it By stating its my 'personal choice', I just find it a lazy way to explain someones actions
When it is a function provided by the site (which is optional to use or not use) then what else is it but personal choice as to whether you use it ir not?"
Your right, however thats not realy very helpfull and like I said , it can
Be applied to allmost any situation. Iam not suggesting its wrong , just an overused response |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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O god , I do love the its their 'personal choice' answer to most threads on here. You can apply that logic to any situation, its a lazy and overused response. "
It may be, in your opinion, an over used and lazy response, but it is still free choice, free will and choice.
We choose to block those that write to us with one liners, barebackers etc and those that we would never choose to meet in a thousand years.
We don't want the abuse we have suffered in the past by those that we have refused. We don't want the copy and paste brigade getting in touch with us yet again and it's what WE choose to do. It's no one else's business and it certainly isn't lazy or over used.
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By *ugby 123Couple
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"And some people take being blocked personally and start calling blockers rude... don't make that right either.
Agreed, But we could use the old 'its their personal choice ' response. For example I could send an aBusive email to someone and justify it By stating its my 'personal choice', I just find it a lazy way to explain someones actions
When it is a function provided by the site (which is optional to use or not use) then what else is it but personal choice as to whether you use it ir not?
Your right, however thats not realy very helpfull and like I said , it can
Be applied to allmost any situation. Iam not suggesting its wrong , just an overused response "
But a response that is the only one at times...a bit better than saying
" oh FFS get a grip and stop acting like a whiney child who didn't get your own way, someone blocked your mail, big f***ing deal, if that is the only thing that you have to worry about in life then you are doing ok"
At least with the " it is peoples choice" ( which it is )they are getting a response to their post and not being ignored that way too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i used to think this site was nice and friendly and free of keyboard warriors and people that try to make u think their opinion is the only one tha matters and should be taken seriously.......... Then i came to use the forums! |
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