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Yours, Pissed Off!!!!
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"@honeypot It's not that we feel the need, we're well enough experienced in this game as you surely know... it's just the situation got so surreal on that particular occasion we thought it may be worth posting about but hey never mind we take that as the answer it is not PC to talk about these things in such detail xxxx ju & rich" Its only because I know you will do your best to keep it confidential, the people involved may well recognise their messages to you posted on here and even though some of us would be dying to know what the circumstances are its not really fair I would'nt like to see my messages to anyone posted on these forums without my knowledge,even if they don't post on here a lot of people read the forums without actually posting xx | |||
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"@honeypot It's not that we feel the need, we're well enough experienced in this game as you surely know... it's just the situation got so surreal on that particular occasion we thought it may be worth posting about but hey never mind we take that as the answer it is not PC to talk about these things in such detail xxxx ju & rich Its only because I know you will do your best to keep it confidential, the people involved may well recognise their messages to you posted on here and even though some of us would be dying to know what the circumstances are its not really fair I would'nt like to see my messages to anyone posted on these forums without my knowledge,even if they don't post on here a lot of people read the forums without actually posting xx" I'd put that under the banner of naming and shaming. At the end of the day, many people have unique typing/posting styles and I would bet my bottom dollar someone would recognise them. After all, who's to say that the reason a meet goes totally tits up isn't genuine. I've heard stories of people turning up and after actually seeing the people in daylight, have run a mile. Would the posting of private mail on an open forum not be up for the same kind of abuse as a naming and shaming policy? Of course it would and only an idiot would think differently. | |||
" Of course it would and only an idiot would think differently." Come down of the fence Maddie! LOL | |||
" Of course it would and only an idiot would think differently. Come down of the fence Maddie! LOL " Sorry Wonky Nips....... and I sitting astride said fence again? I must learn to voice my opinions more forcefully! tusk tusk | |||
" Of course it would and only an idiot would think differently. Come down of the fence Maddie! LOL Sorry Wonky Nips....... and I sitting astride said fence again? I must learn to voice my opinions more forcefully! tusk tusk " mind those splinters!  | |||
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You asked if it was OK to come straight here, we said yes and asked how you would like Ju to dress. That's about where we were up to
almost instant reply
gist of reply
Here we go xxxx 15th is good would like to see ju dressed in .......
we reply straight away
gist of reply
Great. Ju dressed up in ..... can be arranged, by the way there isnt a xxxx 15th it's xxxx 5th OK?
No reply
4 days before meet
we decide to finalise the details but notice their profile is partly removed
we'll put our message exactly here because the reply was so bizarre:
Hi xxxxx Is something wrong? Your profile seems to be down. is there something wrong? So could you please let us know, do we have a meet arrranged for Friday or not? Just so we can organise something else if not.
gist of very quick reply from other couple:
we took profile down as we are fed up with time wasters, No we didn't cancel our date with you but we get the impression that's what you want which is a shame as you seem to be one of the few genuine couples on this site and we would have loved to meet you.
we reply almost instantly
gist of reply:
It obvious something happened outside of our arrangement with you to make you remove your profile details, we most certainly don't want to cancel our meet, we're looking forward to it. We simply wanted to confirm the details with you and found your profile partly down. Let's meet as arranged and we can have a laugh over a few drinks and you can tell us all about it.
no reply.
2 days before meet
gist of our message
Hi you didn't reply to last message so we appreciate you may no longer wish to
meet us but we are still free if you want to. Our phone numbers, if you no longer have them, are xxxxx and xxxx
Message sits in inbox, unread.
day of meet
we decided we couldnt be bothered to try organise anything else with anyone so what the hell we text this couple, 'would you still like to meet'?
no reply.
5pm day of meet
we notice our message of two days earlier that has been sitting in their inbox has very recently been read. Still no reply though.
So we have a nice night in together, get a curry a couple bottles of red and chill out
Late that evening we msg the couple
gist of message
'that was so rude of you to just ignore us, guess we will never know why. what a shame we could have had a lot of fun'
morning after
message received from other couple
gist of message
Mr X has not read your message of last night, it would upset him greatly, We didn't ignore you, we sent you replies to your messages but there is something wrong with the site. We txted you but you didnt' get it. We set out to meet you at 6pm but we got a phone call to say Mr x mother had died so we had to turn back. I know you may not believe me but I swear that is the honest truth
Message from us
gist of message
We're very sorry to hear about that and would love to believe you but it seems very strange that you would set out to travel here at 6pm when
a: you picked up our message at 5pm which showed we didn't even know if we had a meet or not anymore.
b: we had never arranged a time for the meet.
c: You don't have our address do you!!!!
No reply.
So there you go, hope that's all ok, no one identified in any way but a very funny story. Yes we should have given up on it days before but we seemed strangely compelled to see it through for some reason lol.
Comments welcome, we can't really work it out at all unless they are just completely nuts.
xxxxx
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"Seems to be a running theme that anyone with a different point of view to _adchick is branded an idiot. Anyway, i can see a time in the future where someone registers the domain name crapswingers dot com and uses it as a site to allow naming and shaming. Then the shit will really hit the fan. " some one did last year, i cant remember what the name is, but i read it, and it named and shamed a lot. | |||
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"i had a guy cancel on me , said his mum had died, then saw him on the news .....with his mum, lol " What are the chances?
Handy hint, if you're going to lie like that, don't go on tv. | |||
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"Well, we got one reply by PM suggesting their thoughts but we're a bit suprised that no one did on forum, considering how much interest and discussion there has been about alleged time-wasting on here. re: a good example of the events running up to a meet gone wrong we posted above.... would anyone like to suggest what could have been running through this couples minds? Or is it not only beyond our comprehension lol xxxxxx Ju & Rich" Well my first thought was that it sounded like the left arm did'nt know what the right arm was doing We may have done what you did and saw it through to the end just for the comedy value....but im far too lazy and would have given up with them long before that point Then I thought maybe they were just having you on and were just enjoying the game from their end and had no intention of meeting up in the first place When you read some of the horror stories that people tell on here I suppose it could be possible But I guess we'll never know what goes on in some peoples heads lol | |||
"Well, we got one reply by PM suggesting their thoughts but we're a bit suprised that no one did on forum, considering how much interest and discussion there has been about alleged time-wasting on here. re: a good example of the events running up to a meet gone wrong we posted above.... would anyone like to suggest what could have been running through this couples minds? Or is it not only beyond our comprehension lol xxxxxx Ju & Rich" we have that a lot its like they forget the cnversation then you have to start again, alarm bells would have rang for us very early in that situation, i think a lot of couples come on here and get a buzz messaging potential partners have mind blowing sex then put it on the back burner, never intending to meet, apreciate the effort made in writing out that tale tho x | |||
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"You know what lol.. we believe you, totally... Been chatting with a couple this afternoon who have a 'meet me now' thing going.. they read ours we read theres......swap the pics, all fine they want to meet us, us them... then at 7pm they say they are just sorting the kids and will be back to us in a Mo.. we send our number.. shower shave get ready etc..... no call!! Go back online and there they are still... 8.55pm We send a polite thanks for nothing lol.. and they just log off pmsl... Have 6 feedbacks, photo verified.. so not sure what we did wrong lol... Stuff em.. we'll live lol.." Move to Cheltenham...... I guarantee you'd never be let down!  | |||
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"Three weeks ago i drove from Birmingham to Oxford to meet a couple its exactly the same as the first thread phone calls chatted with them both even chatted on msn and saw them both on webcam. After a 70 mile drive i sat in the pub for an hour and it was a no show. I called there number but funny old thing the phone was off. I was gutted as a single guy its hard enough to meet people anyway but for them to say they will meet and just not turn up is unforgivable." I'd find em and bill em lol.... Thats just plain mean! | |||
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"I woud find them...and shoot them! Not that I would take it bad or anything. "do you think shooting them is a bit quick | |||
"I woud find them...and shoot them! Not that I would take it bad or anything.
do you think shooting them is a bit quick "not if you start at the toes and work your way up! | |||
"I woud find them...and shoot them! Not that I would take it bad or anything.
do you think shooting them is a bit quick
not if you start at the toes and work your way up! "God i like your style | |||
"I woud find them...and shoot them! Not that I would take it bad or anything.
do you think shooting them is a bit quick
not if you start at the toes and work your way up!
God i like your style "I love her avitar... Thats pure horn! | |||
"I woud find them...and shoot them! Not that I would take it bad or anything.
do you think shooting them is a bit quick
not if you start at the toes and work your way up!
God i like your style
I love her avitar... Thats pure horn!" | |||
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"I know we don't have a name & shame policy on this site but surely something can be done to safeguard the inegrity of the genuine swingers on here or else this site will simply get known for it's timewasters. I agree with the N&S rule if no cost, inconvenience or time has been incurred but someone goes to the trouble of arranging sitters or, even worse, travelled some distance for a meet, only to be stood up without any explanation either immediately afterwards or later, then a reporting facility should be available to deal with the matter. If the same names keep cropping up then something can be done about the couple/individual concerned." That would depend entirely upon ones definition of what a time waster is ? Lots seem to think that cash spent defines wether time has been misused ? We have in the past spent many an hour talking with others through msn etc only to discover, that these people are not what their profiles claim. No baby sitters arranged, no distance travelled and no cash spent, yet time wasted due to a complete lack of honesty by these 'unintentional deceivers' that choose to keep major preferences a secret. I wonder wether others would agree that an intentional omission within a profile should be seen as time wasting? | |||
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"There are lies, and there are white lies! But it really is getting to the stage when the management here have to listen and act accordingly! If there is a cost involved in peoples' time in keeping some form of list then surely some regulars here could be approached and asked to take on the job of collating and maintaining a list of timewasters. Then, as has already been suggested, the same person(s) reported so many times and they're added to the list, and then that list is published!! As has also been said, if action isn't taken then people will start voting with their feet and going elsewhere. Now I've never been on a pay site, but I suspect that there isn't the same timewasters problem there, but why should the bulk of people here, decent and genuine, have to start paying because of a minority of rude and moronic individuals who apparently struggle with the basics of social etiquette!! Come on management, time to start managing!!" The amount of 'timewasters' doesn't vary from free site to paying site. Time wasters are timewasters regardless of whether they pay to use the site or not. In fact, one of the biggest pay sites has an inordinate amount of timewasters on it......... I know, I used to use it and I used to book 3 singles or two couples per night I was meeting, just in the hope that one would turn up. More often than not, none would turn up. The trouble is, the term timewaster is subjective and what may be a timewaster to you may not be to me. As we've had said before, one couple think that a timewaster is someone who chats to them and then disappears, WITHOUT ever arranging a meet. They obviously just decide they don't want to talk any more. How would that work on a name & shame policy or a list thats collated for admin purposes? | |||
"Well, we got one reply by PM suggesting their thoughts but we're a bit suprised that no one did on forum, considering how much interest and discussion there has been about alleged time-wasting on here. re: a good example of the events running up to a meet gone wrong we posted above.... would anyone like to suggest what could have been running through this couples minds? Or is it not only beyond our comprehension lol xxxxxx Ju & Rich Well my first thought was that it sounded like the left arm did'nt know what the right arm was doing We may have done what you did and saw it through to the end just for the comedy value....but im far too lazy and would have given up with them long before that point Then I thought maybe they were just having you on and were just enjoying the game from their end and had no intention of meeting up in the first place When you read some of the horror stories that people tell on here I suppose it could be possible But I guess we'll never know what goes on in some peoples heads lol" Also... could it be that only one half of the cpl you were in contact with were really up for it? Perhaps they got to the comp first and deleted certain msgs, then let their partner assume it was you that wasnt staying in touch..... just a thought. | |||
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" My proposed solution to the name and shame debate: once an arrangement between two parties has been made for a meet both parties (privately ) must submit to the site support their intention to meet including the time and intended location . Upon receiving confirmation from both parties , that meet is now a verified meet . if subsequently either party fails to meet or fails to contact the other with their excuses , they can in my view be automatically classed as timewasters. This could be an additional service offered via the site, perhaps to gold and silver members as its an additional burden on time and servers etc .Timewaster profiles can then perhaps display a red flag indicating their status to other members and there can also be an appeal process adjudicated by support where decisions can be reversed subject to proof. we can put a man on the moon , surely this shouldnt be beyond our capabilities." And what happens when one couple turns up, the other doesn't but the ones that don't file the 'they didn't turn up' report? Or they both turn up and Mrs A doesn't like Mr B so they don't play and then Mr B files a 'they didn't turn up report' Or what happens when Mr B turns up, without Mrs B and then Mr B files the 'they didn't turn up' report? It will never work because too many people could and will abuse the system. I've been on the other site where there is a star system, I also know one bloke who was stalked by a couple and had his stars wrecked by them. Ebay is open to many problems, one at the moment being that sellers can't leave buyers negative feedback and that's why buyers are now leaving in droves and ebay profits are plummeting (they not long done a fee hike to try and counteract this)....... just read the forums on ebay and the 'other' site and you will see just how open to abuse a rating system is! If the site introduced this....... I would be one, among many, who would leave. | |||
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"its a forum its 4 discussing things " True But the amount of times Guys on here get shot down and slagged off for moaning is unreal. | |||
"its a forum its 4 discussing things True But the amount of times Guys on here get shot down and slagged off for moaning is unreal. " cos its a way of people venting off just like u r doing | |||
"its a forum its 4 discussing things True But the amount of times Guys on here get shot down and slagged off for moaning is unreal. cos its a way of people venting off just like u r doing" LOL Yeah, but its the 'Oh poor us' couples who get everyone flocking to comfort them thats got my back up. | |||
"its a forum its 4 discussing things True But the amount of times Guys on here get shot down and slagged off for moaning is unreal. cos its a way of people venting off just like u r doing LOL Yeah, but its the 'Oh poor us' couples who get everyone flocking to comfort them thats got my back up. " calm down honey its only cos only certain people post on here | |||
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