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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was looking at profiles and peoples feed-backs from others and seeing some have same person on diffrent dates why would thay need to do this ??? is one not good? I have meet some told cant seen me feed back as there fuck buddies will see and dont wish them to know as would get mad them seeing me and thay wish to keep seeing me and telling there fuck buddie nothing ,,, thay think thay are only woman. Find myself in this role again and again married men meeting singles of sites meet me and wish too again but i cant get feed back and told not to tell there swing friend. jo xxxx |
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over a year ago
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I agree on the point about leaving multiple feedback for the same person, there is little point for it.
We always ask our playmates if they want us to leave them feedback or not.
It's not a major problem anyway really because if people don't want anyone to see it, they can either delete it, or just not publish it on profile.
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I would guess the thing to do is not mess with people who are in a relationship of some sort that infringes on their playing solo.
As for more than one feedback from the same person/couple, yes why not, it says ‘reliable’ and it also says ‘it was so good we went back for more’, it also supports the line that sometimes appears on profiles ‘looking to make friends for ongoing fun’.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I would guess the thing to do is not mess with people who are in a relationship of some sort that infringes on their playing solo.
As for more than one feedback from the same person/couple, yes why not, it says ‘reliable’ and it also says ‘it was so good we went back for more’, it also supports the line that sometimes appears on profiles ‘looking to make friends for ongoing fun’.
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Well i meet this man and he said next time be with his Bi lady fu-k bubbie but then called it off ... but gives her loads of feed back and she has other but he dont wish her to know about me. I think she would be hurt if she did reading the feed back she give him thats all x and left me know feeling abit strange I see this as fun.. I know he is playing away from home and meeting singles but why make them feel thay are only ones. |
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over a year ago
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I have more than one verification from the same person, I really don't see it matters and i am not about to hide old ones.
I am personally more wary when someone doesn't have a recent verification and often wonder why they are on here if they are not meeting. |
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"I just feel like the other woman ,, you know when people are having afairs .. and i know its wrong feeling this way."
Don’t really know what to say/suggest to be honest, I don’t mean to go on about it but when there is a ‘someone else’ in the background things tend to get complicated. This is why we don’t knowingly indulge people playing away, its not a moral judgement on our part we just don’t want any of the shit that can go/come with it.
We have a regular playmate, known him for some years now but when we first go together with him there was an ex-girl friend who turned out to be a bunny-boiler. In spite of them being split up she managed to get access to his contacts list and then proceeded to try and abuse us, and no doubt others in his list. So even when you do play it clean and straight you can still end up with some sort of shit from an associate, ex or not, of your playmate. So we do know how you feel  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have more than one verification from the same person, I really don't see it matters and i am not about to hide old ones.
I am personally more wary when someone doesn't have a recent verification and often wonder why they are on here if they are not meeting."
well i had a meet from here friday cant have a feed back really good night too sex in all ways for hours he is wishing to come back and going to chams 23th oct meeting people xx But had this before meeting singles from here for 3 somes.Dont wish there fuck buddies to know. jo x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe as part of your initial chat before meeting you could ask how the guy feels about feedback, perhaps look for those that use the feedback system.
Cheating on a FB is as bad as cheating on a partner in my book, but I have a big book  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe as part of your initial chat before meeting you could ask how the guy feels about feedback, perhaps look for those that use the feedback system.
Cheating on a FB is as bad as cheating on a partner in my book, but I have a big book "
he is married play away with ladys here and i think one he see think she is only one ...just can see her getting so hurt if she found out and his wife, x jo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't believe you can actually cheat on a FB, if you consider it cheating on them I'd suggest that rather than a FB what you actually have is a relationship.
Amongst my verifications I do have a few entries from the same person on my profile, but to be honest I don't see a problem with it, as a previous poster has said, it can be a sign that you can do repeated visits as well as one offs as well as being reliable in turning up for meets. Plus in the rosy post-meet glow that can be experienced, it's nice to let them know how magical it was.... |
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"I just feel like the other woman ,, you know when people are having afairs .. and i know its wrong feeling this way."
He's married and has a FB.... who would only think she is the only one for one of two reasons...
1 - she is insane
2 - he told her she was
So........ you are the other woman.
And if I am totally honest.... if he reads this, I bet he'll be glad he didn't leave any feedback. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and often wonder why they are on here if they are not meeting."
How do you know they're not meeting?!!
Not everyone - myself included - feels the need to memorialise every meet. For me all a verification says is the person turned up for a meet: ergo real person. For me - one will suffice.
My last meet from here was two weeks ago and I'll not be meeting until December after my surgery next week. Should I get off the site until then?!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just feel like the other woman ,, you know when people are having afairs .. and i know its wrong feeling this way."
You're a part of a couple though aren't you? Doesn't that also make him the 'other man'? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have more than one verification from the same person, I really don't see it matters and i am not about to hide old ones.
I am personally more wary when someone doesn't have a recent verification and often wonder why they are on here if they are not meeting."
We know a couple who only swing every now and again,the male of the couple is in the Army and is sometimes away for 6 months that does not mean they are not genuine. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just feel like the other woman ,, you know when people are having afairs .. and i know its wrong feeling this way.
He's married and has a FB.... who would only think she is the only one for one of two reasons...
1 - she is insane
2 - he told her she was
So........ you are the other woman.
And if I am totally honest.... if he reads this, I bet he'll be glad he didn't leave any feedback."
well he say on his profile married , lol and i do feel a bit like the other woman here ... just do |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I just feel like the other woman ,, you know when people are having afairs .. and i know its wrong feeling this way.
You're a part of a couple though aren't you? Doesn't that also make him the 'other man'? "
he was other man and told me i was meeting her too night after but said could not as was shagged out after meeting me night before then I look today there feedback he see her night after 2nd feedback... and looks like thay a real lovers and he also mailing to meet me today. I felt a bit gutted to tell the truth. |
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"Maybe as part of your initial chat before meeting you could ask how the guy feels about feedback, perhaps look for those that use the feedback system.
Cheating on a FB is as bad as cheating on a partner in my book, but I have a big book "
ok now I'm confussed? Not only because I'm actually having a problem decifering some of the statements, but that it was my understanding that a FB is just that in that it's someone you meet and play with as a couple and that how can you be cheating by playing with others behind their back? I presumme that they can also do what they want with whom ever they choose? Surely anything else is a couple with emotional ties and as such could be classed as cheating? That's my
understanding, so please which is it? |
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"I just feel like the other woman ,, you know when people are having afairs .. and i know its wrong feeling this way.
You're a part of a couple though aren't you? Doesn't that also make him the 'other man'? he was other man and told me i was meeting her too night after but said could not as was shagged out after meeting me night before then I look today there feedback he see her night after 2nd feedback... and looks like thay a real lovers and he also mailing to meet me today. I felt a bit gutted to tell the truth."
Forgive me if I’m off the mark here but you are starting to sound like you feel you are being cheated on by his wife and or FB. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I just feel like the other woman ,, you know when people are having afairs .. and i know its wrong feeling this way.
You're a part of a couple though aren't you? Doesn't that also make him the 'other man'? he was other man and told me i was meeting her too night after but said could not as was shagged out after meeting me night before then I look today there feedback he see her night after 2nd feedback... and looks like thay a real lovers and he also mailing to meet me today. I felt a bit gutted to tell the truth.
Forgive me if I’m off the mark here but you are starting to sound like you feel you are being cheated on by his wife and or FB."
no i just feel its should be open and his FB should know as i should have been meeting her too i feel a bit of a mug , lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you want to meet his fuck buddy, just write to her profile and meet her on her own.
If he has feedback from her on his profile she must have a live account, or have I missunderstood? |
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"I just feel like the other woman ,, you know when people are having afairs .. and i know its wrong feeling this way.
You're a part of a couple though aren't you? Doesn't that also make him the 'other man'? he was other man and told me i was meeting her too night after but said could not as was shagged out after meeting me night before then I look today there feedback he see her night after 2nd feedback... and looks like thay a real lovers and he also mailing to meet me today. I felt a bit gutted to tell the truth.
Forgive me if I’m off the mark here but you are starting to sound like you feel you are being cheated on by his wife and or FB. no i just feel its should be open and his FB should know as i should have been meeting her too i feel a bit of a mug , lol"
I'd feel a bit of a mug too but you did make the choice to meet a married man - if he can cheat on his wife, why on earth would he give 2 hoots about your feeling? You just seem to be put out that he called off a meeting with you and her - I'd say put up or shut up! Sorry if that sounds harsh but thats my take on the situation! Z |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you want to meet his fuck buddy, just write to her profile and meet her on her own.
If he has feedback from her on his profile she must have a live account, or have I missunderstood?"
Thay have there own profiles xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you want to meet his fuck buddy, just write to her profile and meet her on her own.
If he has feedback from her on his profile she must have a live account, or have I missunderstood?Thay have there own profiles xx"
Well if you want to meet her, just contact her, and maybe tell her not to tell him, see what he feels about that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I just feel like the other woman ,, you know when people are having afairs .. and i know its wrong feeling this way.
You're a part of a couple though aren't you? Doesn't that also make him the 'other man'? he was other man and told me i was meeting her too night after but said could not as was shagged out after meeting me night before then I look today there feedback he see her night after 2nd feedback... and looks like thay a real lovers and he also mailing to meet me today. I felt a bit gutted to tell the truth.
Forgive me if I’m off the mark here but you are starting to sound like you feel you are being cheated on by his wife and or FB. no i just feel its should be open and his FB should know as i should have been meeting her too i feel a bit of a mug , lol
I'd feel a bit of a mug too but you did make the choice to meet a married man - if he can cheat on his wife, why on earth would he give 2 hoots about your feeling? You just seem to be put out that he called off a meeting with you and her - I'd say put up or shut up! Sorry if that sounds harsh but thats my take on the situation! Z"
wel i had 2 men friday and i wishe john to have 2 woman sat a couple i put off lots of meet for this ,,, so yes was a bit peeed off .. just hate people saying one thing and liying, |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you want to meet his fuck buddy, just write to her profile and meet her on her own.
If he has feedback from her on his profile she must have a live account, or have I missunderstood?Thay have there own profiles xx
Well if you want to meet her, just contact her, and maybe tell her not to tell him, see what he feels about that "
my god xxxx lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like he's messing you about abit Jo!
Back on the OP if you wish to give a 2nd or 3rd update; to show the ongoing fun and reliability of someone, then add it and remove the first one! Or is that a silly idea? |
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By *b430Man
over a year ago
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WOW
I haven't read such a confusing thread as this one in a long time!
He is married, he has a FB, he meets others but tells them not to send feedback and doesn't send any himself unless it is to his FB. Am I correct so far?
By the sound of this thread it seems that you are jealous that he thinks more of the FB than you, in that he gives her lots of feedback along with lots more besides too?
It also sounds like he means more to you than a "casual swinging meet". If he didn't you wouldn't be bothering about it so much as to start a thread on here about him and her, who you say are both also members here too! 
To answer the bit of the OP I feel I can; Yes it is ok for anyone to send as much or as little feedback that they want to and to anyone else they want to too! It really isn't anyone elses business apart from the 2 concerned parties.
As always, just my tuppence worth!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"WOW
I haven't read such a confusing thread as this one in a long time!
He is married, he has a FB, he meets others but tells them not to send feedback and doesn't send any himself unless it is to his FB. Am I correct so far?
By the sound of this thread it seems that you are jealous that he thinks more of the FB than you, in that he gives her lots of feedback along with lots more besides too?
It also sounds like he means more to you than a "casual swinging meet". If he didn't you wouldn't be bothering about it so much as to start a thread on here about him and her, who you say are both also members here too!
To answer the bit of the OP I feel I can; Yes it is ok for anyone to send as much or as little feedback that they want to and to anyone else they want to too! It really isn't anyone elses business apart from the 2 concerned parties.
As always, just my tuppence worth! "
lol no i dont have the hotts for him never meet him or chated untill my meet ,,, was going to be a two night meet us 3 them him and her as a 4 ,,, then tex me saying cant go out as shagged out from night before.. lol i see feed back he see her and i had put others off meeting that night and never had my lap top on the boat dont work on there ,, i dont care if i never see him again ,, john said this would happen and it did before all this,, said really its just a way of him getting a meet saying meet him before then meet the two as he will not be so nurves. JO XX |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I always repeat verifications providing i am having lots of fun and he is too there no harm in having more than one verification of the same person , i have had many fb's that i have done that with on a previous profile but it shows that some do like regular meets and are not just into one offs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I always repeat verifications providing i am having lots of fun and he is too there no harm in having more than one verification of the same person , i have had many fb's that i have done that with on a previous profile but it shows that some do like regular meets and are not just into one offs "
I have just not seen it before on others sites more then one feedback from same person ,,, just never see the need thats all ,, But each to there own, JO XX |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was looking at profiles and peoples feed-backs from others and seeing some have same person on diffrent dates why would thay need to do this ??? is one not good? "
Cos its THEIR profile and they can do with it what THEY want.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I was looking at profiles and peoples feed-backs from others and seeing some have same person on diffrent dates why would thay need to do this ??? is one not good?
Cos its THEIR profile and they can do with it what THEY want.
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well i should not do it x but you can if makes you happy x |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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" and looks like thay a real lovers and he also mailing to meet me today. I felt a bit gutted to tell the truth."
Why are you gutted?
You are in a relationship
He is in a relationship (multiple ones by the sound of it)
Swinging is meant to be about fun, NO STRINGS ATTACHED sex.
If you are gutted, maybe you need to work on your own relationship because it sounds to me like you've started to fall for this bloke, with no thought for your own relationship or your man.
And I would suggest that you keep away from those who are cheating or have permanent fuck buddies in their lives...... too bloody complicated. |
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" and looks like thay a real lovers and he also mailing to meet me today. I felt a bit gutted to tell the truth.
Why are you gutted?
You are in a relationship
He is in a relationship (multiple ones by the sound of it)
Swinging is meant to be about fun, NO STRINGS ATTACHED sex.
If you are gutted, maybe you need to work on your own relationship because it sounds to me like you've started to fall for this bloke, with no thought for your own relationship or your man.
And I would suggest that you keep away from those who are cheating or have permanent fuck buddies in their lives...... too bloody complicated."
Did meet him fiday with john as he said he was nurves and would be better the night after with her there. it is complicated she wink at me last week as she is looking for her first bi thing ,, I am told not to mail her about us seeing him friday .. and we should have all meet sat but he called it off john said he would, I dont wish to be made to feel like this from no one ..Just feel i let john down too i know its silly and he told me so Lets face it he is a player. lol x |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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I am a great believer in that if something doesn't quite feel right then go with your gut feeling.... it tends not to let you down.....
with regards to several feedbacks from the same person..... 1 we can all understand.... 2 if can understand... good enough to see again, ect ect....
but more than 2 is where I then have the problem..... nah.... it is like someone is then leaving a message for everyone else by saying "back off... mine!!!"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I am a great believer in that if something doesn't quite feel right then go with your gut feeling.... it tends not to let you down.....
with regards to several feedbacks from the same person..... 1 we can all understand.... 2 if can understand... good enough to see again, ect ect....
but more than 2 is where I then have the problem..... nah.... it is like someone is then leaving a message for everyone else by saying "back off... mine!!!"
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your right and thats just how i see it too. But each to there own here i know xx |
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By *adchickCouple
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but more than 2 is where I then have the problem..... nah.... it is like someone is then leaving a message for everyone else by saying "back off... mine!!!"
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I sooooo totally agree. We won't meet those with multiple feedbacks from the same woman, gushing about how gorgeous and cool and sexy they are.
Spells trouble. That's either a FB relationship or more to it than meets the eye. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would guess the thing to do is not mess with people who are in a relationship of some sort that infringes on their playing solo.
As for more than one feedback from the same person/couple, yes why not, it says ‘reliable’ and it also says ‘it was so good we went back for more’, it also supports the line that sometimes appears on profiles ‘looking to make friends for ongoing fun’.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So there is only one thing you can do if this is making you feel guilty – END IT. You shouldn’t be feeling bad about his behaviour the guy is a rat and that is all there is to it."
he he, well said again.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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if something dont feel right dont meet them
If someone wanted to meet me but told me not to tell anyone i simply wouldnt meet them you dont hide stuff from a fuck buddie, a fuck buddie is just that its someone you have no strings sex with, the minuit you start lieing to them about who you are meeting then it becomes more than a fuck buddie, because you have no reason to lie to someone you have no commitment to
Saying that i think lots of guy would lie to a female fuck buddie because they dont want to miss out on any meets so make agreements to only meet together to stop the female having any fun without him but more than happy to meet without her if the offer comes up |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So there is only one thing you can do if this is making you feel guilty – END IT. You shouldn’t be feeling bad about his behaviour the guy is a rat and that is all there is to it.
he he, well said again. "
Well i had mail yesterday monday saying he was passing ner my home could be come around see me........ I said no And told john last night ... I am very happy married over 28 years from a young girl to same man he spoiles me loves me and we just do this now and again to spice up our sex lifes .. Dont get alot of free weekends alone so its a treat when we do meet. So can go weeks even months thats fine. JO XX |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"if something dont feel right dont meet them
If someone wanted to meet me but told me not to tell anyone i simply wouldnt meet them you dont hide stuff from a fuck buddie, a fuck buddie is just that its someone you have no strings sex with, the minuit you start lieing to them about who you are meeting then it becomes more than a fuck buddie, because you have no reason to lie to someone you have no commitment to
Saying that i think lots of guy would lie to a female fuck buddie because they dont want to miss out on any meets so make agreements to only meet together to stop the female having any fun without him but more than happy to meet without her if the offer comes up"
Yes i think you have it right good post x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always repeat verifications providing i am having lots of fun and he is too there no harm in having more than one verification of the same person , i have had many fb's that i have done that with on a previous profile but it shows that some do like regular meets and are not just into one offs "
We could not have put this any better. This very much applies to us.(Repeat feedback) Nothing at all wrong with meeting the same couples again and again. Nothing wrong with one time meets at all, but meeting more than once is so much better. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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but more than 2 is where I then have the problem..... nah.... it is like someone is then leaving a message for everyone else by saying "back off... mine!!!"
I sooooo totally agree. We won't meet those with multiple feedbacks from the same woman, gushing about how gorgeous and cool and sexy they are.
Spells trouble. That's either a FB relationship or more to it than meets the eye."
how i see it too. When i see loads from same person on a profile i am put of meeting them and maybe thats what some are doing it for To put others off. |
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