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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Much the same was as lots of happy people go fishing or play football.
It's a hobby to be enjoyed. I'd think you'd be less likely to enjoy it if your not happy in your relationship  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To spread the happiness..........among other things
To up the sales of umbrella's in Honeypots case
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Everybody sing along
"im siiiinging in the rain,just siiining in the rain" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people swing when they are completely happy in every way in their relationship, do you & why ?"
are you swinging because youre not happy in your relationship? |
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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago
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Another assumption I held for most of my adult life, that swingers must be pissed off with their existing relationship and using the 'sport' to cling onto the remnants of the marriage by distracting themselves, was blown out of the water when I met my wife... we are absolutely, totally, completely satisfied with each other, but have found we get off on watching our soulmate with another girl/guy (both, either way! ) and, because we enjoy seeing the other person happy and satisfied.
Our private sex life has never been better since we started playing with other people!
M |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i only ask as if its not the case for you why would it be the case for anyone else? im sure some couples do use swinging as a way to try and fix a relationship but i would say it rarely works...this stuff is an addition to an already good relationship as far as im concerned  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I originally got into swinging with my ex hubby and yes for us it was to try and spice up a marriage that had run its course and no it didnt work. Saying that I enjoyed it ,so when my marriage ended i joined as a single fem and met Pete. We swing now because we both enjoy it and find it a huge turn on seeing each other play with other people so for us its an addition to a very happy loving relationship |
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By *wabbitMan
over a year ago
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for the fun you can have great sex with your partner and greatsex with someone else.one is not better than the other. its different sex they way they respond and the way you respond is all different. That is part of the fun.If your not happy in your relationship this lifestyle can split you apart as you will think the grass in greener. they sex maybe but what about every thing else. |
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By *elleCouple
over a year ago
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"we are absolutely, totally, completely satisfied with each other, but have found we get off on watching our soulmate with another girl/guy (both, either way! ) and, because we enjoy seeing the other person happy and satisfied.
Our private sex life has never been better since we started playing with other people!
M"
Couldn't have said it better - exactly why we got into swinging ourselves 
D&H |
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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago
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Curious and Helle
We are with you there. Well put.
You have to build a relationship on a solid foundation. Then you can add all the little refinements as you like, be it tennis club, foreign travel or swinging f. ex.
Jane x |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Why do people swing when they are completely happy in every way in their relationship, do you & why ?"
so are you saying that you are not completly happy then? just curious because of the way that you ask the question and it intrigues me....
I think the couples I have had the most fun with have been the ones in the most trusting relationships, I have seen people in unhappy relationships try it and I think it is the quickest way to tear up a relationship otherwise
I don't think it takes anything away from a relationship at all.... as one couple put it to me:
"we have sex with other people, but we make love to each other"
I think it adds ... what greater turn on for a couple than watching the one you love turned on.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people swing when they are completely happy in every way in their relationship, do you & why ?"
Maybe they are completely happy because they do swing.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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im not sure what being happy and swinging has in common, i know most people outside the swinging sene would think couples who swing have problems but im suprised anyone within the seene would think that  sex has nothing at all to do with love or happiness within a marrage, sex is sex simple as |
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because we both love sex as a game, it's too good to be left to just two people. while we love eachother more each day and our own sex-life is fantastic we are realistic about both being very highly sexed and needing sex with other people. we started swinging together just after we met and since then have got married, but unlike vanilla married couples we don't need affairs or deceit to satisfy our sexual requirements. |
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By *zMaleMan
over a year ago
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My late wife and I were into the scene and we loved every minute of it. As we both loved sex for what it is. We spread our wings from the matrimonial bed as it were and had some great fucks/shags, with some great friends we met along the way. Having said that swinging did not become the norm as that would have taken the FUN out of it. Yes we did have our passionate fucks/shags in the matrimonial bed but on the whole when we were there we made love. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Am happy with partner and that is why we are together. Just different levels of desire between us. But it is a way to deal with it without leaving him and he is very much a part of my life. We finish each other senecnes and know when each need a hug. Other people that join us for fun dont do this so why would I be happy with them. It only a phsyical thing not a mental thing like what have with partner.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I used to go to the clubs I would see quite a few women stocking up the dutch courage before getting involved. It always made me worry they were simply doing it to please their partner.
My late wife came with me to clubs early on on our relationship and she later admitted that she did not mind going but really it was for my benefit as she could tell I was a troubled soul and she wanted to understand me as much as possible. It worked, she unravelled so much of my inner turmoil and saved my life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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swinging can either help a relationship or destroy it if the relationship is not good but if you swing just to try an save a relationship, perhaps you're better off calling it a day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am really sorry your relationship is not as you would like it to be and feel you need to ask this but I will do my best to explain.
We are very happy together, we play because we like the variety, we play because we like the "naughty" excitement that you can't get with your partner, like when we take pictures outdoors in public places, there is a little something bad about it, breaking the rules, going against the norm.
It is because we are so happy with each other that we feel so comfortable playing with others knowing our love is strong enough that sex doesn't interfere with our relationship.
Hopefully your relationship problems will be sorted soon and you will understand exactly what I am saying and know the answer for yourselves.
good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am really sorry your relationship is not as you would like it to be and feel you need to ask this but I will do my best to explain.
We are very happy together, we play because we like the variety, we play because we like the "naughty" excitement that you can't get with your partner, like when we take pictures outdoors in public places, there is a little something bad about it, breaking the rules, going against the norm.
It is because we are so happy with each other that we feel so comfortable playing with others knowing our love is strong enough that sex doesn't interfere with our relationship.
Hopefully your relationship problems will be sorted soon and you will understand exactly what I am saying and know the answer for yourselves.
good luck "
sasha we asked other people why they swing"not" to try and be a a conseller for us we have our own reason the same as everyone else,we just wanted to know there reasons for swinging,think you read to much into this 1.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we play because we are utterly happy with each other and are able to seperate sex from love.
we love the thrill of playing with others but we always go home together
also watching your loved one having fun is an added bonus |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"we play because we are utterly happy with each other and are able to seperate sex from love.
we love the thrill of playing with others but we always go home together
also watching your loved one having fun is an added bonus"
thanks for your comment,we are excatly the same,sex and love to different things,love to watch my lady having fun!! if she is having fun well i am to,we trust each other completely,no matter what we do or who with we always can't wait to get home for even more fun.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a single female, this thread has been a brilliant insight into couples who swing. I have met a few couples who were obviously very happy in their relationship but have always wondered about the dynamics of it all.
If only I could meet someone who swings and wanted a relationship too - how perfect would that be lol!
Thank you for the insight x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In our case, it's because we are happy and therefore feel safe exploring some of our 'darker' desires... Anyone know where we can rent a donkey for the weekend? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As a single female, this thread has been a brilliant insight into couples who swing. I have met a few couples who were obviously very happy in their relationship but have always wondered about the dynamics of it all.
If only I could meet someone who swings and wanted a relationship too - how perfect would that be lol!
Thank you for the insight x "
THANKS XX
we thought this as being a great topic to disguss peoples opinions speally on this topic hopfully we shed a little little to others who and just started swinging or are thinging about doing it..also i bet 1 day you will turn around and there he will be mr man of your dreams hope for you it will be very soon to!!xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sorry if I read too much into it, but in defence your question was like many seen on here in the past, posted by people who don't understand the concepts of swining, why people do it and how they can allow the partners they supposedly love to have sex with others.
I am glad you feel the same way as the rest of us and are enjoying your swinging lifestyle, it is just a misinterpretation of your question, sorry. This happens all too often in the written word where it is easy for that to happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a single female, this thread has been a brilliant insight into couples who swing. I have met a few couples who were obviously very happy in their relationship but have always wondered about the dynamics of it all.
If only I could meet someone who swings and wanted a relationship too - how perfect would that be lol!
Thank you for the insight x
THANKS XX
we thought this as being a great topic to disguss peoples opinions speally on this topic hopfully we shed a little little to others who and just started swinging or are thinging about doing it..also i bet 1 day you will turn around and there he will be mr man of your dreams hope for you it will be very soon to!!xxxx "
Aw thanks xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sorry if I read too much into it, but in defence your question was like many seen on here in the past, posted by people who don't understand the concepts of swining, why people do it and how they can allow the partners they supposedly love to have sex with others.
I am glad you feel the same way as the rest of us and are enjoying your swinging lifestyle, it is just a misinterpretation of your question, sorry. This happens all too often in the written word where it is easy for that to happen."
thanks
i can certainly understand how easy it is to misinterpreate what other mean.i just feel that other peoples comment on why they swing would be great for other who are unsure about swinging,it also gives people who have been doing it a long time the opertunity to give some insight on how they first start,the reasons behind why they swong and the out come of it all..
thanks again sasha xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"better than cheating
Swinging is not cheating."
It is if you keep a couple of aces in your sock...
Or am I thinking of poker.
I don't think the poster was inferring it was cheating to be honest |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"better than cheating
Swinging is not cheating.
It is if you keep a couple of aces in your sock...
Or am I thinking of poker.
I don't think the poster was inferring it was cheating to be honest"
no i never said it was cheating,if i'm there watching with consent how could it be..also bella love your profile,if every ones was like your this site would be so much easier sorry for going off the subject |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have met couples who started swinging to re-kindle there sex lives and in a few case saw it as the last chance to save thier relationship (one even split up not long after we met, but I must add it was not my fault lol). The majority i have met swing because they are so happy and secure together that it enhances their sex lives also. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am married and my wife doesn't know that I have been swinging for the last 10 years - sod the bitch I say it's none of her business.
In defence - yes I have a defence.
She left me 12 years ago and I have never seen her since, one day I might even divorce her but meanwhile it's not worth the effort
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am married and my wife doesn't know that I have been swinging for the last 10 years - sod the bitch I say it's none of her business.
In defence - yes I have a defence.
She left me 12 years ago and I have never seen her since, one day I might even divorce her but meanwhile it's not worth the effort
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You cheating bar steward, hang your head in shame young sir.  |
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"Why do people swing when they are completely happy in every way in their relationship, do you & why ?"
We do, we hsve a great relationship, wonderful sex life together, we just like it! It's a bit like eating a little bit more of that lovely dinner even though you're full up! Z |
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