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Are we wrong for wanting to share our partners?
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"and they are fans of East-who-shagging-ma-missuss-enders, who do fantasise about having affairs, but won't admit it.
Stay awaaaay from ma fellla, y'hear me?
The hypocrisy of it all  "
Your probably right there . Alot cheat but swinging isn't cheating and something you enjoy as a couple nobodies business |
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There’s a lot about the scene I’m not interested in and can’t understand, and similar to my circle of mates. It’s likely the minority who are into it but probably more than most people think, it’s just not spoken about openly.
That said, I have no personal judgement on it, each to their own  |
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"and they are fans of East-who-shagging-ma-missuss-enders, who do fantasise about having affairs, but won't admit it.
Stay awaaaay from ma fellla, y'hear me?
The hypocrisy of it all
Your probably right there . Alot cheat but swinging isn't cheating and something you enjoy as a couple nobodies business "
I've seen it twice and the turned out to be the jealous types. |
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"Are we the minority? Saw a Facebook post earlier and so many people think swinging is weird and how could you let your wife sleep with another man etc ! 
Live your lives not theirs  "
FB: who needs it? Bin it. |
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"Are we the minority? Saw a Facebook post earlier and so many people think swinging is weird and how could you let your wife sleep with another man etc !
Live your lives not theirs
FB: who needs it? Bin it."
Best place for it |
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"As a society we have been told we must be monogamous but in reality is we are not meant to be.
It's why so many relationships fall apart. "
I think that’s too broad. Monogamy is for some people and not others, the society part is why it’s not spoken about |
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We have some friends who know what me and my wife have done with other people and they think that we are strange for doing it but once we explained everything to them and we had a soft play with them they soon changed their minds |
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By *oxy jWoman 4 weeks ago
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"Who cares what people think, not enough time in this life to be worrying about what others think.
Enjoy yourself, be you.
Jay"
perfectly said....
the scene has alway been small infact id say (ie my opinion) its smaller now than 20/30 years ago that measured on how many swinging couples there are now (unless all hiding)... last thing we need is the scene to get popular as it will just get even more watered down ..
its not hard to see that vanilla women thats 99% of them want the standard fall in love have babies and live happy ever after security hence why women dont join the scene often married or single
bearing in mind 95% of just this site is men also add in the amount of fake couples and womens accounts that are just guys just proves we are a smaller group than we think...
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"Who cares what people think, not enough time in this life to be worrying about what others think.
Enjoy yourself, be you.
Jay"
There are some employers and HR bods that won't like this, despite rainbow flagging their own corporate presence. |
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"Who cares what people think, not enough time in this life to be worrying about what others think.
Enjoy yourself, be you.
Jay
perfectly said....
the scene has alway been small infact id say (ie my opinion) its smaller now than 20/30 years ago that measured on how many swinging couples there are now (unless all hiding)... last thing we need is the scene to get popular as it will just get even more watered down ..
its not hard to see that vanilla women thats 99% of them want the standard fall in love have babies and live happy ever after security hence why women dont join the scene often married or single
bearing in mind 95% of just this site is men also add in the amount of fake couples and womens accounts that are just guys just proves we are a smaller group than we think...
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Your absolutely right ! When something comes overpopulated it's not fun anymore! I thought swinging was bigger than it ever jas been ! Do think if more women and men spoke abojt the idea of it in their relationship they would definitely both be curious to try |
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"Are we the minority? Saw a Facebook post earlier and so many people think swinging is weird and how could you let your wife sleep with another man etc ! "
Simply put, yes you’re in the minority, does it matter, no. |
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I’m sure most people on here have had the same view at some point in their life - I know I have.
It’s only now being in the lifestyle that I appreciate so many more viewpoints and that life isn’t black and white. I couldn’t imagine it being any other way now.
K |
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"I’m sure most people on here have had the same view at some point in their life - I know I have.
It’s only now being in the lifestyle that I appreciate so many more viewpoints and that life isn’t black and white. I couldn’t imagine it being any other way now.
K"
What's the point of being normal and vanilla anyway |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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No we're not odd at all I love sharing my partner if fact I couldn't think of another way of existing.
I know she also loves to be shared it makes us feel alive |
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"I’m sure most people on here have had the same view at some point in their life - I know I have.
It’s only now being in the lifestyle that I appreciate so many more viewpoints and that life isn’t black and white. I couldn’t imagine it being any other way now.
K
What's the point of being normal and vanilla anyway "
A sizeable number of people live perfectly normal lives
They can't all be wrong |
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Nothing weird about it , we are experiencing together something we both get pleasure from , some watch footy for pleasure , others fine dining , do we label them as weird ? ( possibly Man U fans ) |
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For me it makes me prouder because I get PERFECTION anytime I want it and they get to borrow a fraction... With that said I ONLY swing and share if the guy I'm with is capable in all areas of pleasure..that's sexually,physically, mentally, and emotionally.. those guys and types are rare but 20 years of only playing and sharing with that golden buzzer type of MAN and I won't change the standards.. otherwise I'd be disappointing 2 women.. |
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"Who cares what people think, not enough time in this life to be worrying about what others think.
Enjoy yourself, be you.
Jay"
If you go to an islamic country for a holiday and swing, that could cause problems. |
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"Are we the minority? Saw a Facebook post earlier and so many people think swinging is weird and how could you let your wife sleep with another man etc ! "
I've never ever seen a Facebook post related to swinging, I must live in the wrong area lol |
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"Are we the minority? Saw a Facebook post earlier and so many people think swinging is weird and how could you let your wife sleep with another man etc ! I've never ever seen a Facebook post related to swinging, I must live in the wrong area lol"
Just wrong country |
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I absolutely love the idea of my missus fucking other guys it's my number one fantasy but she's far too vanilla and Menopausal now too so it won't happen but l love chatting to guys about what they would do to her |
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"Who cares what people think, not enough time in this life to be worrying about what others think.
Enjoy yourself, be you.
Jay
If you go to an islamic country for a holiday and swing, that could cause problems."
Easily avoided |
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We find it more strange that people would be happier to remain in sexless relationships (we know plenty), or close themselves off from enjoying some amazing new experiences with other people.
Non-monogamy all the way! X |
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We can be alive for a long old time and if no one is getting hurt, there's multiple ways to play the game called life. There's no right or wrong doing. We love our life and our lifestyle and we accept that it doesn't work for everyone.
We've seen people come into this lifestyle as singles and leave to become fully monogamous in a relationship. What works for some may not work for others! |
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This is something I've thought about many times, I'm single and have great difficulty getting responses to messages let alone meets. The few meets that I have managed to arrange have turned out to be no shows.
Personally I couldn't share a partner, that may sound selfish or controlling to some or maybe insecurity.
I met up with a swinger on another site before I found fab and I found that I had a deep admiration for this couple. The fact that they were so secure in their relationship and wanted the other to experience everything that they desired without any sense of jealousy was inspiring.
As I say I couldn't share but that's probably more to do with me than anything else, if it's what you both want then go for it, it doesn't matter what others think. |
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I think it’s actually natural to want to share your partner but insecurities and lack of confidence to admit to wanting this gets in the way.
I have wanted to find a loving partner who would allow me to share her for many years. |
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I guess we are all different. I really understand why someone is happy to share if they have performance issues and want to see their partner happy and fulfilled. That is the ultimate show of trust and/or love. Other than that I'd worry about any partner of mine straying for better as it does happen afterall. Just an opinion.... |
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