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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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is it when you go to an arranged meet only for the other person to say "can you buy the drinks and meal" or as one did very recently had check to say "can you buy me new Rabbit and new nightie" (it was not fluffy type lol)
Both above examples are true and where at a social meet only....  |
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"is it when you go to an arranged meet only for the other person to say "can you buy the drinks and meal" or as one did very recently had check to say "can you buy me new Rabbit and new nightie" (it was not fluffy type lol)
Both above examples are true and where at a social meet only.... "
Not rude but bloody cheeky yes!  I hope you said NO to both  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"is it when you go to an arranged meet only for the other person to say "can you buy the drinks and meal" or as one did very recently had check to say "can you buy me new Rabbit and new nightie" (it was not fluffy type lol)
Both above examples are true and where at a social meet only....
Not rude but bloody cheeky yes! I hope you said NO to both "
 being totally honest - i bought one round of drinks with first person and left politely and second one (the nightie one) I said feck off in a nice polite way
Its just one of those things and although we had chatted a few times prior to meeting - had either of them asked in advance i would have declined - its hard enough for a single man to meet single women - even harder for a Bi man to meet ..so i just thought what a waste of time grrrrrrrrrrr grrrrrrrr  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When I meet socially at a cafe I will expect the gentleman to pay for me cup of tea or a down the pub...
but no more than that. "
 and thats totally acceptable - but meeting and with a plan in mind seemed like a right carry on to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's rude to expect it by default.
It's also cheeky to say it.
I wouldn't mind buying it, I really wouldn't; ...it just depends how it is said/asked.
If I was to meet someone for a drink, I'd be expecting to pay for at least a drink.
I wouldn't turn up EXPECTING the other person to pay for the drinks, that's just flat out rude imo.
Cheers
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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and I am sure i am not alone here - but i think most men/couples meeting do not have an objection to paying at a meeting or hotel bill sharing - but i think they where taking the piss |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's rude to expect it by default.
It's also cheeky to say it.
I wouldn't mind buying it, I really wouldn't; ...it just depends how it is said/asked.
If I was to meet someone for a drink, I'd be expecting to pay for at least a drink.
I wouldn't turn up EXPECTING the other person to pay for the drinks, that's just flat out rude imo.
Cheers
Ben"
call it old fashioned but if I'm asked out to meet, I expect the guy to pay for drinks... After all only talking 2quid in my case..
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"and I am sure i am not alone here - but i think most men/couples meeting do not have an objection to paying at a meeting or hotel bill sharing - but i think they where taking the piss "
And its their loss!! Great body! 
I would probably expect to be offered the first drink, but the second would be on me!  |
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"is it when you go to an arranged meet only for the other person to say "can you buy the drinks and meal" or as one did very recently had check to say "can you buy me new Rabbit and new nightie" (it was not fluffy type lol)
Both above examples are true and where at a social meet only.... "
What the blue hell? Cheeky buggers! |
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MrsH goes on quite a few dates and mainly social. She takes her own money and is happy to pay for her own drinks or food but quite often the man offers to pay which always goes down well. If I go on a date I would offer to buy the lady drinks, just old fashioned I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I meet socially at a cafe I will expect the gentleman to pay for me cup of tea or a down the pub...
but no more than that. "
why
it should be both parties pay for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The cheeky bitch!!!! Hope you told both to piss off!!
When its a sicial meet both should pay for themselves or if one is coming a fair trek and driving the other should buy a cpl of drinks at least just to chip in but thats it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I meet socially at a cafe I will expect the gentleman to pay for me cup of tea or a down the pub...
but no more than that. why
it should be both parties pay for it"
nope sorry. If a gentleman is taking me out he can pay for drinks.. it's just how I expect it.. and to be honest would find it poor manners if it was not offered... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"and I am sure i am not alone here - but i think most men/couples meeting do not have an objection to paying at a meeting or hotel bill sharing - but i think they where taking the piss
And its their loss!! Great body!
I would probably expect to be offered the first drink, but the second would be on me! "
thanks for compliment and as i said here also - sharing cost and or buying without request are all fine...but pre requests are not same as a dance are they lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When I meet socially at a cafe I will expect the gentleman to pay for me cup of tea or a down the pub...
but no more than that. why
it should be both parties pay for it
nope sorry. If a gentleman is taking me out he can pay for drinks.. it's just how I expect it.. and to be honest would find it poor manners if it was not offered... "
being offered and pre demanding/requesting are nit same though are they - every one expects respect and everyone deserves to be treated right  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't mind paying for the drinks - I am a perfect gent after all!!
But...last week I was chatting to a lady on Fab, swapped numbers and arranged to meet, only for her then to ask if i'd help her pay her rent!!! She's now on my blocked list! |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"When I meet socially at a cafe I will expect the gentleman to pay for me cup of tea or a down the pub...
but no more than that. why
it should be both parties pay for it
nope sorry. If a gentleman is taking me out he can pay for drinks.. it's just how I expect it.. and to be honest would find it poor manners if it was not offered... "
Its a no brainer for me, I always like to pay half as there are no commitments that way....can I ask why you expect it? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"and I am sure i am not alone here - but i think most men/couples meeting do not have an objection to paying at a meeting or hotel bill sharing - but i think they where taking the piss
And its their loss!! Great body!
I would probably expect to be offered the first drink, but the second would be on me! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I meet socially at a cafe I will expect the gentleman to pay for me cup of tea or a down the pub...
but no more than that. why
it should be both parties pay for it
nope sorry. If a gentleman is taking me out he can pay for drinks.. it's just how I expect it.. and to be honest would find it poor manners if it was not offered... Its a no brainer for me, I always like to pay half as there are no commitments that way....can I ask why you expect it?"
way I was brought up.. a man always buys the ladies drink... Same as opening a door etc... |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"is it when you go to an arranged meet only for the other person to say "can you buy the drinks and meal" or as one did very recently had check to say "can you buy me new Rabbit and new nightie" (it was not fluffy type lol)
Both above examples are true and where at a social meet only.... "
We would tell them to buggar off! Nothing should be expected....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I meet socially at a cafe I will expect the gentleman to pay for me cup of tea or a down the pub...
but no more than that. why
it should be both parties pay for it
nope sorry. If a gentleman is taking me out he can pay for drinks.. it's just how I expect it.. and to be honest would find it poor manners if it was not offered... "
wont meet folk who do this |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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I knew I was doing it wrong!
I should be asking for gifts. If anyone would like to buy me some toys I will be more than happy to accept! 
It's getting very expensive buying all these toys and underwear!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it's rude to expect it by default.
It's also cheeky to say it.
I wouldn't mind buying it, I really wouldn't; ...it just depends how it is said/asked.
If I was to meet someone for a drink, I'd be expecting to pay for at least a drink.
I wouldn't turn up EXPECTING the other person to pay for the drinks, that's just flat out rude imo.
Cheers
Ben"
Its odd quite often if i go for a drink or coffee they will get the first and if we have another i will offer to pay for it.
And if its a hotel meet or something i don't mind going half but to ask for a rabbit and a nightie is a bit full on.
Its always nice to be spoiled by a guy but its nice when that spoiling is just done and not asked for or expected.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So the underlying message is :
"If you give me something of value, I may have sex with you"
Which is surely even worse than prostitution? "
not sure its that cut and dry - but see where your coming from.....cheek of old nick i think lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"On a serious note - I always pay half and would not expect any different. However if they have had to pay to travel to see me, I will pay for the hotel. "
agreed .... those that know me here etc, know we often meet up for social meets which include lunch or odd evening meal - with friends i made off here - not all meets need to end up in bed |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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We would tell them to buggar off! Nothing should be expected....
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My view exactly.
I also think that some people take the piss only because other people are daft enough to let them... |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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I work so I pay my way. It seems there are plenty with deep pockets but short arms. I have asked if someone would pick up some milk and I would reimburse them when they arrived, which I did.
And I have had guys turning up with wine and chocolates which is a lovely thought but certainly not an expectation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I meet socially at a cafe I will expect the gentleman to pay for me cup of tea or a down the pub...
but no more than that. why
it should be both parties pay for it
nope sorry. If a gentleman is taking me out he can pay for drinks.. it's just how I expect it.. and to be honest would find it poor manners if it was not offered... wont meet folk who do this "
I always take the money to pay but if they don't even offer to pay for my drink then I will not meet them.. I just find it ill mannered and old fashioned it maybe but I am very much like that...
however I won't accept gifts from meets via here.. I'm talking about a tea on a social meet.. |
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"When I meet socially at a cafe I will expect the gentleman to pay for me cup of tea or a down the pub...
but no more than that. "
noooooooooooooo.......
sexual equality and all that, when I meet socially at a cafe I expect the woman to buy the first round.
(and no, for you haters, that has never meant a cancelled social meet by the woman) |
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however I won't accept gifts from meets via here.. I'm talking about a tea on a social meet.. "
I don't see anything wrong with accepting gifts - it's asking for them in the first place that I see as wrong.
Although some people may give a gift with a certain level of expectation I suppose... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"is it when you go to an arranged meet only for the other person to say "can you buy the drinks and meal" or as one did very recently had check to say "can you buy me new Rabbit and new nightie" (it was not fluffy type lol)
Both above examples are true and where at a social meet only.... "
Cheeky sods hope your told them where to go |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"When I meet socially at a cafe I will expect the gentleman to pay for me cup of tea or a down the pub...
but no more than that. why
it should be both parties pay for it
nope sorry. If a gentleman is taking me out he can pay for drinks.. it's just how I expect it.. and to be honest would find it poor manners if it was not offered... Its a no brainer for me, I always like to pay half as there are no commitments that way....can I ask why you expect it?
way I was brought up.. a man always buys the ladies drink... Same as opening a door etc... "
But if in a pub Im assuming you offer to buy the next round? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I meet socially at a cafe I will expect the gentleman to pay for me cup of tea or a down the pub...
but no more than that.
noooooooooooooo.......
sexual equality and all that, when I meet socially at a cafe I expect the woman to buy the first round.
(and no, for you haters, that has never meant a cancelled social meet by the woman)"
sexual equality has to me done more harm than good. I wouldn't cancel a meet, but I wouldn't meet again as it would put me off because I was brought up that gentleman always pays for the first drink... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I meet socially at a cafe I will expect the gentleman to pay for me cup of tea or a down the pub...
but no more than that. why
it should be both parties pay for it
nope sorry. If a gentleman is taking me out he can pay for drinks.. it's just how I expect it.. and to be honest would find it poor manners if it was not offered... Its a no brainer for me, I always like to pay half as there are no commitments that way....can I ask why you expect it?
way I was brought up.. a man always buys the ladies drink... Same as opening a door etc... But if in a pub Im assuming you offer to buy the next round?"
well I never stay long enough for a 2nd one but yes. although normally been refused in vanilla life when I offer that. |
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Guess I am old fashioned too, If I invite a lady out I pay, if it is swinging or vanilla, I also open doors for ladies etc..
MrsH meets guys and does not expect gifts of any kind but if the guy does not offer to pay for a couple of drinks then it will go no further, its not like she is going to drink the pub dry as she drives to her meets.
Guys have offered gifts for sex which is a no no for us but having said that guys she meets regular have bought her gifts with nothing expected in return, it is all about mutual respect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always go 50/50 with whoever we are meeting. Travelling to meet regular friends they offered to pay half our petrol when we went to theirs so we did the same when they came to ours.
If we were meeting for a social we would of course offer to buy the first drink but would be a bit miffed if the other party then didn't offer to pay for the second.
I think some (and I mean a minority) of women on here think that because they are so sought after they can make unreasonable demands and make people bend over backwards for them.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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reading some recent replies i think there is a point being made here
Offering to pay for drink/meal is one thing and is just polite and right ....whereas being told you must/you have to/you will etc etc..is a different matter altogether
Glad topic caught your imagination |
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That's a terrible excuse  This is the swinging scene ... not the dating scene. You're both in it for the exact same thing and it's not a date. Socials are not dates. Expecting it is just ludicrous in any swinging situation. We ALWAYS cover the entire cost of a meet with a girl, but if we get the vibe it's expected, we're not even going to waste time on her again. |
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"That's a terrible excuse This is the swinging scene ... not the dating scene. You're both in it for the exact same thing and it's not a date. Socials are not dates. Expecting it is just ludicrous in any swinging situation. We ALWAYS cover the entire cost of a meet with a girl, but if we get the vibe it's expected, we're not even going to waste time on her again."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That's a terrible excuse This is the swinging scene ... not the dating scene. You're both in it for the exact same thing and it's not a date. Socials are not dates. Expecting it is just ludicrous in any swinging situation. We ALWAYS cover the entire cost of a meet with a girl, but if we get the vibe it's expected, we're not even going to waste time on her again."
I was going to/would have said exactly what you just said verbatim.
But I was worried about getting bashed as I'm new here.
But I agree 1,000,000% percent with that.
Cheers
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By (user no longer on site)
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"is it when you go to an arranged meet only for the other person to say "can you buy the drinks and meal" or as one did very recently had check to say "can you buy me new Rabbit and new nightie" (it was not fluffy type lol)
Both above examples are true and where at a social meet only.... "
I am sorry but if you ask a woman out you are expected to pay its called male chivalry .
If you agree to go Dutch at the time of the making of a date it's fair enough,
Learn from this and next time make a date for 30 minutes in a coffee shop , make the next date playing pool in a pub that is far enough away from her house she has to have soft drinks, in fact if she drives insist on soft drinks only
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"is it when you go to an arranged meet only for the other person to say "can you buy the drinks and meal" or as one did very recently had check to say "can you buy me new Rabbit and new nightie" (it was not fluffy type lol)
Both above examples are true and where at a social meet only....
I am sorry but if you ask a woman out you are expected to pay its called male chivalry .
If you agree to go Dutch at the time of the making of a date it's fair enough,
Learn from this and next time make a date for 30 minutes in a coffee shop , make the next date playing pool in a pub that is far enough away from her house she has to have soft drinks, in fact if she drives insist on soft drinks only
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well thank you for advice...but after 10 years on scene here and elsewhere - even i draw the line at being told .... "you wanna meet me...you pay" .....which was essentially both scenarios here - but even older dogs learn new tricks occasionally |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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I would never expect anyone to buy my drinks or anything on a social meet. I will happily pay my own way. However, of someone offers to buy my drink, then I make sure I buy the next ones.
Even when I was dating, I always paid my own way... apart from the lovely guy who took me out for dinner - a half of cider and a packet of crisps (didn't even get to choose my own flavour lol)
But back on topic - when I have people meet at my house, I do not expect gifts either, and depending on the circumstances will usually cook a meal, and have a few bottles of wine in. A gift of an extra bottle always goes down well, but is never expected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There are a lot of people who ask for things for free off others, ive seen requests for lingerie on profiles ie 'i love corsets and if you buy one I'll model it for you'.
People ask for jobs to be done around the house or for professional photographers to take their pictures or for the cost of hotels etc.
I do see it as taking advantage of men who may be struggling for meets, but men should toughen up and tell these women and couples to bugger off |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"is it when you go to an arranged meet only for the other person to say "can you buy the drinks and meal" or as one did very recently had check to say "can you buy me new Rabbit and new nightie" (it was not fluffy type lol)
Both above examples are true and where at a social meet only....
I am sorry but if you ask a woman out you are expected to pay its called male chivalry .
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I don't expect anyone to pay for me!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would never expect anyone to buy my drinks or anything on a social meet. I will happily pay my own way. However, of someone offers to buy my drink, then I make sure I buy the next ones.
Even when I was dating, I always paid my own way... apart from the lovely guy who took me out for dinner - a half of cider and a packet of crisps (didn't even get to choose my own flavour lol)
But back on topic - when I have people meet at my house, I do not expect gifts either, and depending on the circumstances will usually cook a meal, and have a few bottles of wine in. A gift of an extra bottle always goes down well, but is never expected. "
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For me I'm too independent to ask for anything and i certainly don't expect anything. I work and pay my own way and yes if a guy offers to pay for a drink I'd accept and offer to buy the next one!! Then again as Ive only ever done one social and I arrived first and got my own coffee it's irrelevant lol
Saying that though there are some cheeky mares on here. A guy I know who's new to fab was told by someone that she'd only meet if he fully paid for a decent hotel. When he mentioned going halves she claimed she never pays as there's half a dozen guys who she has that will pay it. Needless to say he declined her offer but I'm sorry more fool the guys that don't!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For me I'm too independent to ask for anything and i certainly don't expect anything. I work and pay my own way and yes if a guy offers to pay for a drink I'd accept and offer to buy the next one!! Then again as Ive only ever done one social and I arrived first and got my own coffee it's irrelevant lol
Saying that though there are some cheeky mares on here. A guy I know who's new to fab was told by someone that she'd only meet if he fully paid for a decent hotel. When he mentioned going halves she claimed she never pays as there's half a dozen guys who she has that will pay it. Needless to say he declined her offer but I'm sorry more fool the guys that don't!!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have a meet with a guy who happens to be staying in a hotel then I wouldn't expect him to ask me to pay for half of the room charge!
If I go to a social meet I'm happy to buy drinks. If going for a meal I always pay my own way as I would expect them to do too.
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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I am sorry but if you ask a woman out you are expected to pay its called male chivalry .
And feminists everywhere turned and said WTF??
Equality. chivalry is dead. Or didn't you get the memo?"
I have, thus far, restrained myself hugely on here. I am just wondering what century we are in - personally, I thought it was the 21st century but I think I slipped through a wormhole or something when I stepped in here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"and I am sure i am not alone here - but i think most men/couples meeting do not have an objection to paying at a meeting or hotel bill sharing - but i think they where taking the piss
And its their loss!! Great body!
I would probably expect to be offered the first drink, but the second would be on me! "
If ive been on a social meet, the guy has bought the first one and ive offered to pay for the 2nd, but asking for money for rabbits etc is a cheek |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had one say to me, before you come round can you pop to asda and get me some fags and then go to Mcdonalds for me.... How about no fuck off you pickey! |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"and I am sure i am not alone here - but i think most men/couples meeting do not have an objection to paying at a meeting or hotel bill sharing - but i think they where taking the piss
And its their loss!! Great body!
I would probably expect to be offered the first drink, but the second would be on me!
If ive been on a social meet, the guy has bought the first one and ive offered to pay for the 2nd, but asking for money for rabbits etc is a cheek "
I agree - she should have asked for a horse and saved herself a fortune in burgers! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had one say to me, before you come round can you pop to asda and get me some fags and then go to Mcdonalds for me.... How about no fuck off you pickey!"
I once asked a guy to pick up milk on his way because I'd run out and he drinks milk in his coffee whereas I don't drink milk at all - does that mean I'm a pickey? I gave him back the 89p for it straight away! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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someone offered to buy me some knickers once(to his liking) and i wouldnt let him, mostly because i wouldnt expect anyone here to spend money on me and also because he mentioned asda and i know they dont come up big enough ...arf arf |
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"is it when you go to an arranged meet only for the other person to say "can you buy the drinks and meal" or as one did very recently had check to say "can you buy me new Rabbit and new nightie" (it was not fluffy type lol)
Both above examples are true and where at a social meet only.... "
I can not believe the cheek.! tell them where to go next time! |
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I have seen some odd things on here, like a status saying 'happy birthday to my daughter' or 'willing to pay for company'
The whole gentleman thing is easy enough, and so is being a lady. A gift for the party host etc is fine, respectful I think....but asked to pay for anything is crazy, unless its splitting equal costs.
Its a swinging site, not a dating or welfare site, keep smiling and swinging x |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"someone offered to buy me some knickers once(to his liking) and i wouldnt let him, mostly because i wouldnt expect anyone here to spend money on me and also because he mentioned asda and i know they dont come up big enough ...arf arf "
That made me laugh |
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"someone offered to buy me some knickers once(to his liking) and i wouldnt let him, mostly because i wouldnt expect anyone here to spend money on me and also because he mentioned asda and i know they dont come up big enough ...arf arf "
Ha ha I should start to get people to buy me knickers to be fair the amount of pairs ive had ripped or left behind over the years |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I am sorry but if you ask a woman out you are expected to pay its called male chivalry .
And feminists everywhere turned and said WTF??
Equality. chivalry is dead. Or didn't you get the memo?"
Yup, I am happy to pay halvesies on everything. |
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I am sorry but if you ask a woman out you are expected to pay its called male chivalry .
And feminists everywhere turned and said WTF??
Equality. chivalry is dead. Or didn't you get the memo?"
feminists need to stop sticking noses in. Chivalry is worth keeping. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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I am sorry but if you ask a woman out you are expected to pay its called male chivalry .
And feminists everywhere turned and said WTF??
Equality. chivalry is dead. Or didn't you get the memo?
feminists need to stop sticking noses in. Chivalry is worth keeping. "
Chivalry reduces women to helpless morons. I can do without it. Good manners and decency, however, are universal values I consider to be vital. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I am sorry but if you ask a woman out you are expected to pay its called male chivalry .
And feminists everywhere turned and said WTF??
Equality. chivalry is dead. Or didn't you get the memo?
feminists need to stop sticking noses in. Chivalry is worth keeping. "
LOL easy tiger!
You stick with your methods and I'll stick with mine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am sorry but if you ask a woman out you are expected to pay its called male chivalry .
And feminists everywhere turned and said WTF??
Equality. chivalry is dead. Or didn't you get the memo?
feminists need to stop sticking noses in. Chivalry is worth keeping.
Chivalry reduces women to helpless morons. I can do without it. Good manners and decency, however, are universal values I consider to be vital."
see I totally disagree. If I went out even socially and the guy didn't offer to buy the first drink I would think very poorly of him. There is nothing wrong with chivalry... And it's something I would love to see more of. Lucky for me most people I meet agree with me. X |
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I am sorry but if you ask a woman out you are expected to pay its called male chivalry .
And feminists everywhere turned and said WTF??
Equality. chivalry is dead. Or didn't you get the memo?
feminists need to stop sticking noses in. Chivalry is worth keeping.
Chivalry reduces women to helpless morons. I can do without it. Good manners and decency, however, are universal values I consider to be vital.
see I totally disagree. If I went out even socially and the guy didn't offer to buy the first drink I would think very poorly of him. There is nothing wrong with chivalry... And it's something I would love to see more of. Lucky for me most people I meet agree with me. X"
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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I am sorry but if you ask a woman out you are expected to pay its called male chivalry .
And feminists everywhere turned and said WTF??
Equality. chivalry is dead. Or didn't you get the memo?
feminists need to stop sticking noses in. Chivalry is worth keeping.
Chivalry reduces women to helpless morons. I can do without it. Good manners and decency, however, are universal values I consider to be vital."
Ill agree with that one |
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I like my own independence, I like to pay my way and not sponge off someone else and am always amazed at some peoples greed. Guys need to man up and not fall for people who expect as its rude at best. |
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"Have to say that the guys I meet wouldn't allow me to pay, I think as long as you don't take the pee then I don't see anything wrong with it. "
I would be mortified if a girl offered to pay for everything , as I am whenever a girl offers to pay . The worse thing a girl could do to me is open a door.
Sorry some things are a guys domain, and paying on a first meet is one of those things, and guys trust me a couple of games of pool is a lot more fun than a meal and cheaper. And also it gives us guys less chance to open our mouths and fuck it all up by saying something stupid
Girls would you rather go bowling or pool than have a meal out |
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"Oh! Is that what 'have your cake and eat it' means?? 
I always share or participate in one way or another...coffee, car parking! "
Well it is nice when a guy feels like he isn't just there to be made a mug of. But as a nice guy, you always try to be generous. One day I suppose I might meet a lady that wants to treat me - now that would be a first!
Seriously though, it is up to a gent if he wishes to offer, and if it turns out to be one way traffic, you soon get the picture, though it isn't the fact of being hurt in the pocket, but more just being dissapointed if that makes sense! |
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"I like my own independence, I like to pay my way and not sponge off someone else and am always amazed at some peoples greed. Guys need to man up and not fall for people who expect as its rude at best. "
I don't sponge off anyone and I'm far from greedy, I said the men wouldn't allow me to pay. I am able to pay and often do offer. |
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By *urvyKattWoman
over a year ago
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I certainly don't mind a guy opening a door for me but if he buys me a drink then I will buy him one back. When meeting in a hotel I will always pay for half the room cost - common decency really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have seen profiles stating they have a "wish list" with an online vendor for sex toys and sexy lingeries, and any potential meets are free to browse the list etc... |
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By *adkatWoman
over a year ago
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I am sorry but if you ask a woman out you are expected to pay its called male chivalry .
And feminists everywhere turned and said WTF??
Equality. chivalry is dead. Or didn't you get the memo?
feminists need to stop sticking noses in. Chivalry is worth keeping.
Chivalry reduces women to helpless morons. I can do without it. Good manners and decency, however, are universal values I consider to be vital.
see I totally disagree. If I went out even socially and the guy didn't offer to buy the first drink I would think very poorly of him. There is nothing wrong with chivalry... And it's something I would love to see more of. Lucky for me most people I meet agree with me. X"
Cali hun I agree totally with everything you said maybe we are old fashioned but I do like men to be gentlemen, that's the way I was raised |
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Sorry some things are a guys domain, and paying on a first meet is one of those things, and guys "
Easily one of the most sexist things i've read today. There's no "domain". Men and women are equal, and equally capable of paying for whatever the hell they want. It is called equality. |
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"That's a terrible excuse This is the swinging scene ... not the dating scene. You're both in it for the exact same thing and it's not a date. Socials are not dates. Expecting it is just ludicrous in any swinging situation. We ALWAYS cover the entire cost of a meet with a girl, but if we get the vibe it's expected, we're not even going to waste time on her again."
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Seriously guys, you might be used to paying for ladies because it might have been the guys 'domain' to pay in the 50s, when men were the breadwinners and women stayed at home breeding. But its the 21st century now, and we've had emancipation for 100 years. Let us pay now and then. You might enjoy it. |
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"Seriously guys, you might be used to paying for ladies because it might have been the guys 'domain' to pay in the 50s, when men were the breadwinners and women stayed at home breeding. But its the 21st century now, and we've had emancipation for 100 years. Let us pay now and then. You might enjoy it."
How old do you think the guys are on here if they were around in the 50's?! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Seriously guys, you might be used to paying for ladies because it might have been the guys 'domain' to pay in the 50s, when men were the breadwinners and women stayed at home breeding. But its the 21st century now, and we've had emancipation for 100 years. Let us pay now and then. You might enjoy it.
How old do you think the guys are on here if they were around in the 50's?! "
Some of them are coming across as 100 years old! |
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"someone offered to buy me some knickers once(to his liking) and i wouldnt let him, mostly because i wouldnt expect anyone here to spend money on me and also because he mentioned asda and i know they dont come up big enough ...arf arf "
Excellent |
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"Seriously guys, you might be used to paying for ladies because it might have been the guys 'domain' to pay in the 50s, when men were the breadwinners and women stayed at home breeding. But its the 21st century now, and we've had emancipation for 100 years. Let us pay now and then. You might enjoy it.
How old do you think the guys are on here if they were around in the 50's?!
Some of them are coming across as 100 years old! "
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Seriously guys, you might be used to paying for ladies because it might have been the guys 'domain' to pay in the 50s, when men were the breadwinners and women stayed at home breeding. But its the 21st century now, and we've had emancipation for 100 years. Let us pay now and then. You might enjoy it.
How old do you think the guys are on here if they were around in the 50's?!
Some of them are coming across as 100 years old!
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Good point. |
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"Seriously guys, you might be used to paying for ladies because it might have been the guys 'domain' to pay in the 50s, when men were the breadwinners and women stayed at home breeding. But its the 21st century now, and we've had emancipation for 100 years. Let us pay now and then. You might enjoy it."
There's nothing wrong with men or women paying , what I thinks the point here is that most men or women think a meal is a good way to have a first date or meet.
This turns out to be extremely expensive last time i went for a meal it was over £150 and sometimes not a good investment.
I stand by my comments first date should be pool or bowling and put a time limit on it .
What you should be mindful of when choosing a date if your a rich guy is that some women would see you just for your money as is the case with rich women they also attract men that are only interested in money.
If your rich and want to impress someone with your financial standing just bring a copy of your banks statement
It is very difficult to get a date who is on a equal financial standing no matter how much you earn wether it's loads or very little
Make it cheap make it fun, your more likely to get a second time if you have a good time rather than fill the date with food and drink . |
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"Seriously guys, you might be used to paying for ladies because it might have been the guys 'domain' to pay in the 50s, when men were the breadwinners and women stayed at home breeding. But its the 21st century now, and we've had emancipation for 100 years. Let us pay now and then. You might enjoy it."
see I think this is half of what is wrong in the world... but that's a whole new thread... But I'm sorry but anyone that did not offer to buy my drink on a social wouldn't get a further meet because I would judge them on it.
however.. remember I'm talking less than 2quid... Not meals.. I would never let anyone spend lots on me...
Maybe it is old fashioned but it's just the way I was brought up... Was also told never to accept jewellery or underwear lol |
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OMG !!!!! a topic that got your heads a thinking lol --- great
Going back to the OP - this is not about chivalry or manners - its more about down right cheek of someone telling you/demanding you MUST pay etc ; is a far cry from being happy and willing to pay without prompting |
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"How old do you think the guys are on here if they were around in the 50's?!
Some of them are coming across as 100 years old!
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Good point. "
Age has nothing to do with education, respect and good manners.
Making ageist comments is discrimination!
Being a liberated/emancipated woman does not mean you are a man's equal, does not give women the right to treat men badly or to be rude to them; Emancipation gives women choice, independance and freedom of actions.
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i've had it the other way round many times, when on meets i've had guys offer to take me shopping, buy me underwear etc
If a woman wants someone to buy them stuff they don't have to ask there's many men out there willing to offer |
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"is it when you go to an arranged meet only for the other person to say "can you buy the drinks and meal" or as one did very recently had check to say "can you buy me new Rabbit and new nightie" (it was not fluffy type lol)
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Neither side should expect the other to pay for anything and certainly not to HAVE to or provide gifts. Most guys will likely offer to pay for drinks and dinner - all women should at least offer to go Dutch. If you're using a hotel room, why shouldnt both parties pick up part of the tab?
This isn't a date, you're not courting, people need to grow up and act like adults and quit treating the swinging scene as a dating site or a place to get paid for sex. 
No one is providing a service here. If you think you are and are wanting gratuties then get yourself set up as a company, have some business cards printed and jog on! |
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This isn't a date, you're not courting, people need to grow up and act like adults and quit treating the swinging scene as a dating site or a place to get paid for sex.
Everyone has their own reasons for using this site.. We choose to use it to get dates and long term boyfriends, not just as a shag fest.. we do not seek rewards or payment so do not judge everyone the same thanks!
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"Oh! Is that what 'have your cake and eat it' means??
I always share or participate in one way or another...coffee, car parking!
A good system, I think it might catch on !
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Yeah if you can remember the bike registration number..Lmaooooo |
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"Oh! Is that what 'have your cake and eat it' means??
I always share or participate in one way or another...coffee, car parking!
A good system, I think it might catch on !
Yeah if you can remember the bike registration number..Lmaooooo "
I know mine, can the same be said for certain other people I wonder.
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"How old do you think the guys are on here if they were around in the 50's?!
Some of them are coming across as 100 years old!
99
Good point.
Age has nothing to do with education, respect and good manners.
Making ageist comments is discrimination!
Being a liberated/emancipated woman does not mean you are a man's equal, does not give women the right to treat men badly or to be rude to them; Emancipation gives women choice, independance and freedom of actions.
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"Everyone has their own reasons for using this site.. We choose to use it to get dates and long term boyfriends, not just as a shag fest.. we do not seek rewards or payment so do not judge everyone the same thanks!
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So what i wrote wouldnt apply to you - so why get your arse in a sling?
Pay attention, there'll be a test at the end! |
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"is it when you go to an arranged meet only for the other person to say "can you buy the drinks and meal" or as one did very recently had check to say "can you buy me new Rabbit and new nightie" (it was not fluffy type lol)
Both above examples are true and where at a social meet only.... "
There is a name for offering sexual services for reward - prostitution.
If you want you give a present then great: if you are asked for one then it is something entirely different.
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