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By (user no longer on site) OP 5 weeks ago
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Please could the person who rated you also rate me ? |
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I used to be Dom 10 out of 10, now I’m a 7 |
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Kisses is a dom leaning switch but also a brat.
Dory is a bratty sub leaning switch. |
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Been a dom about 12 years
8/10 I’d say now |
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Domme leaning Switch for me
sub leaning Switch for him |
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Define "Dominant" and "submissive", I get confused whether people mean Fab D/s, which means being sexually confident in bed and adding a little "slap and tickle" and aiming to have numerous sex partners, or stereotype D/s with clichéd powerful dominants who are ex forces with pliant submisives secretly looking for someone to save them and to whom they can submit, or those that believe in the 50SOG malarkey, or someone who looks for a relationship that is D/s orientated or any of a dozen or more definitions.
With things kink, labels are a starting point, and assuming you use a term the same way as someone else does not always end with agreement. |
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I’m a straight guy however I have a thing for men telling me what to do |
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By *ularliWoman 5 weeks ago
Worcester |
I’m very much submissive.
I didn’t realise how much so until recently but it definitely has to be with the right person |
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Masochist with no submissive tendency. Occasional Domme in the right circumstances 💜 |
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By *epheusMan 5 weeks ago
Aylesbury |
10/10 submissive love to please who I’m with and satisfy all their desires and fantasies |
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Can you be neither? Neither of us are dominant but I don't think we are particularly submissive either.
We just like having a good time. |
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I like being submissive.
I want to be used. |
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By *scaMan 5 weeks ago
St Albans |
Sometimes one, sometimes the other.
Understanding both roles makes me better at them.
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"Sometimes one, sometimes the other.
Understanding both roles makes me better at them.
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Great answer used to purely dom however since switching I've definitely reflected more on my domming |
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I like to switch between both dependent on my mood and partner |
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90% of the time dominant, the other 10% if I'm with the right lady |
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I've been active in the BDSM scene as a Top / Domme for over 25 years.
I'm not a number. If people like my style then they will play. If they don't, they won't. |
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"I've been active in the BDSM scene as a Top / Domme for over 25 years.
I'm not a number. If people like my style then they will play. If they don't, they won't."
I would agree, dominance is not a competive sport, but a relationship style, which has different forms. |
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I'm switch. Lean towards more Dom when playing with another woman.
Ruby |
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Me Mrs 100% dominant
Mr 100% sub |
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Looking for a Dom wife and a cuckold hub. Or a lady peg! |
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By (user no longer on site) 5 weeks ago
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By *avexxMan 5 weeks ago
cheshire |
im not going to rate myself,, but defo not a sub  |
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"Please could the person who rated you also rate me ?"
from your photos 11/10 but would require a test drive to confirm x
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I can be both depending on my mood. |
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By *icentiousCouple 5 weeks ago
Up on them there hills |
I couldn’t be submissive, not in my nature, L can switch in a playful mode. |
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we aren't big on labels
but if we were we would probably both be switch |
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By *aliWoman 4 weeks ago
Plymouth |
Mostly submissive but happy to switch and be dom if a fun friend asks me to! |
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Both switch, but male half tends more towards dominant, female half is naturally sub with men, domme with women/tgirls |
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Sub 99.99%
When that 0.01% get to play, he's a right bastard, apparently. |
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In our experience the guys that say they’re “dominant” have to tell you that in case you don’t notice.
Setting the stage so to speak. |
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I'm not naturally submissive, but can be for the right person. |
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Sub leaning switch here. Being 6ft 8 brings some really interesting power dynamics |
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"In our experience the guys that say they’re “dominant” have to tell you that in case you don’t notice.
Setting the stage so to speak. "
🤣🤣🤣🤣 |
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"I've been active in the BDSM scene as a Top / Domme for over 25 years.
I'm not a number. If people like my style then they will play. If they don't, they won't."
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By *1bttmMan 4 weeks ago
Shoreditch east London |
Sub here.....I'm more orientated towards servicing and being used  |
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Switch. is dependent on the situation. |
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Kat (Me) - Dom
Hubby - Sub / Sissy
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I'm a sub, there are aspects visible in all areas of my life. |
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Very much both on different days |
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Both, depends on the dynamic and how I'm feeling that day |
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By *adeiteWoman 4 weeks ago
Stafford |
I think I'm a switch
But all I've known is Domme
Sadly I never asked for a rating when parting ways with subs, I'll remember for next time |
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I think it's harsh rating the person has each person has different qualities . I much prefer personality over beauty giving each other ratings is like comparing a corner shop to harrods |
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By *aymanMan 4 weeks ago
cardiff |
Switch, does depend on the other person and vide at the time |
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I would say I’m quite Dominant with both sex, all though I don’t mind a lady taking charge. The only man i will be submissive to is my husband, when guys have tried in the past it just pisses me off. X |
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Neither. I want sex with an equal, who also sees me as an equal. |
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I’m dominant, I’ve been naturally dominant all my life as i seem to have a presence when I’m in a room and it flows into how I have fun |
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Mostly dom. But depends on situation. With cuck couples can be sub to her. |
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With guys I’m 100% sub. Not a huge amount of experience but keen to serve more |
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By (user no longer on site) 1 week ago
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I think i am more sub, as the couple of meetings i have had i was happy to serve. |
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Mr is Dom... not subbie tendencies at all
Mrs is sub but experienced in the scene and can service Top |
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Sadist/Dominant..
However... big curveball new discovery.. a little/submissive in the bedroom...
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Always been domme, but explored my sub side a few months ago and lean towards that recently...😇😄 |
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"Always been domme, but explored my sub side a few months ago and lean towards that recently...😇😄"
Good Girl😈 |
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70% submissive to 30% dominant.
I prefer to be a sub, but in the Fetish Scene I have been a Dom and enjoyed certain elements of it. #handmethatwhip |
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"Always been domme, but explored my sub side a few months ago and lean towards that recently...😇😄
Good Girl😈"
🤭😇😇 |
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Started as a switch. Now Dominant
That said it’s neither a necessity for me or a requirement
Takes a special someone to bring that side of me out |
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By (user no longer on site) 1 week ago
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80%
I do love a lady to take charge |
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I like to be dominant to top men
I can act passive when the top takes over but I’m really quiet nice man that people think is passive but my soul is too strong |
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"Always been domme, but explored my sub side a few months ago and lean towards that recently...😇😄
Good Girl😈"
Thank you daddy ❤️ 🥵😘😇 |
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Dom 95% but do enjoy being the sub on the off occasion Iv met a dom woman |
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Would love to be dominated but no one has managed it yet 😈 |
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Depends on my mood and my play partner. I get equal pleasure from either end of the spectrum. |
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Miss is submissive 6/10
Mr is 5/10 |
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I like to fluctuate between the pair |
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"Please could the person who rated you also rate me ?"
Those boots make you a 10  |
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"I am dominant 9/10
You?"
20% Domme
Mostly sub slut 💋 |
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Dominant, not a submissive bone in my body (now expecting lots of messages saying I haven’t met the right dom !! ) |
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switch but a bit more on the dom side |
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Oh to be tied up helpless and used xx. So sub I suppose xx
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As we’ve said before M is submissive, R is dominant.
But that’s not the full story.
I wouldn’t be dominant or dream of playing the way we do if it wasn’t for M. She literally asked for it. She told me very early on about some of her needs, a firm hand, and I guess we have taken it from there trying some new experiences like shibari and wax together, moving on from hand spanking to impact toys etc.
It always surprises people when we chat in clubs after they have seen us play. A lot won’t understand, judging by messages we get from guys it is apparent they have little understanding of what being a dominant entails. |
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For a time I did actually have part time work as a dom guy working with my ex gf who was a pro doninatrix. It was an amazing time! I’d love to have another go at it tbh |
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"For a time I did actually have part time work as a dom guy working with my ex gf who was a pro doninatrix. It was an amazing time! I’d love to have another go at it tbh "
Added a couple of public pics for those into it, when I gave my fiancé the experience |
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Both , depends on the mood and situation. But I love to share the Dom sub ratio. |
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By *asha86Couple 1 week ago
walsall |
Mr here Has anyone else tried the bdsm test? We found it good to use but the results change as time goes on and you adapt different tastes as such
I rated 94% dom in my test |
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"Mr here Has anyone else tried the bdsm test? We found it good to use but the results change as time goes on and you adapt different tastes as such
I rated 94% dom in my test "
I think they are interesting and informative when first starting out and definitely provide areas to explore |
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"Mr here Has anyone else tried the bdsm test? We found it good to use but the results change as time goes on and you adapt different tastes as such
I rated 94% dom in my test "
Several times over the years. Tastes evolve |
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Dom by nature, but have certain things that keep that in check too.
Switching and transferring power, helps me to understand what everything feels like.
And id never try anything on anyone else that I hadn’t practiced on myself, or had done to me.
And for me, at the very least a social contract is a must - if not, written. You want to play? It’s got to be fully trusting to achieve any kind of D/s dynamic. |
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Sexually submissive, even more so now |
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By *adeiteWoman 6 days ago
Stafford |
Only ever known being Domme, but I'm a switch |
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Mr: Dom
Mrs: Sub (poss switch but not with Mr) |
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when me and the wife play, i can only be submissive feels right, cant see how you can switch when you are what you are |
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By *eyeYCouple 6 days ago
Nr Leicester |
Both switch though D is more likely to be Dom than I 😈 |
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Dominant Bull
Pleasure guaranteed
Sexual fantasy & kinks
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Dominant in my work (Army Sergeant Major) which leads to being dominant in my personal life |
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Dominant adds extreme pleasure both ways |
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Switch, depending on the dynamic of the situation  |
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By *overtMan 6 days ago
Preston |
Mostly on the submissive side but can definitely have the dominance when the right submissive is presented
Xandra xx |
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Naturally and enthusiastically dominant. With women and couples. |
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MJ is dominant, Ouizzi is submissive to him.
Occasionally switch a little, and Ouizzi has in the past domme'd. |
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I am an obedient submissive bi guy to assertive males, but can be dominant with younger or sub females.
I love to please alpha and versatile males but can be quite assertive with women ! |
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I'm naturally quite dominant, but have switched on extremely rare occasions |
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I've never realised it till now but I'm both lol |
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Primarrily dom but maybe a little leaning to switch depending on situation and dynamic
X |
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Definitely submissive . My wife is always wanting me to be rough but I can’t. It’s so embarrassing. |
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"Definitely submissive . My wife is always wanting me to be rough but I can’t. It’s so embarrassing. "
Tony …. hold my pint |
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I’m 99% dominant… then I have days like today where I want to try being totally submissive |
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Mr says I'd make a great dominatrix, he says it's my eastern European demeanor and accent,,, but I hate it, I love being a sub and so does Mr
"Do what you want to me" is Mr's favourite thing to hear |
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I’m a submissive definitely not dominant at all lol |
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Dom for me and Lucy loves being submissive. |
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Mrs- I’m only submissive for Hubby, I can on the occasion be so with ladies but other guys definitely Dom.
Mr- I wouldn’t call myself Dominant in the traditional sense but do like to take control - I like to take the lead in giving pleasure to play partners That said women scare me but i’m not submissive. |
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I think I'm 6/10 leaning towards sub more.
Love it when a woman takes charge and enjoys spanking me and being rough (choking me, scratching, biting etc)
But I also don't mind switching it up as well and repaying the favour x |
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I can be a dominant bitch ..but never really submissive unless I m really turned on xx |
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I've always been Dom, got the equipment and a kinky mind to match!
HOWEVER! top of my bucket list for 2025 is to be someone's kinky sub slut. So if anyone needs a kinky hung willing submissive to use for your pleasure, DM me! |
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Dominant although finding a woman to try be a switch might be a pleasureable experiance... however noting as yet |
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By *apio51Man 4 days ago
Edinburgh ish |
Probably more submissive than dominant but don’t really go in for it in a big way. Would prefer to be submissive if I’m honest. |
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By *scaMan 2 days ago
St Albans |
100% both.
Kind of
(one informs the other, it’s not so complicated really) |
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"Can you be neither? Neither of us are dominant but I don't think we are particularly submissive either.
We just like having a good time."
As above each enjoying each other |
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90% sub - especially with a couple |
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"Both submissive "
Mrs look fab x
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By *tuvyMan 1 day ago
bedford |
Depends on who I’m with and their ages |
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Switch, depending on circumstances and who I meet. I do enjoy dom role but must admit being sub to a lady has had benefits |
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"Love being told what to do xx"
As a switch I love being told what to do, or telling someone what to do. Also love being in bondage with no control, conversely having full control! |
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