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I have yet to come across a male's profile who's looking for a female and stipulating that she must be straight.
However, many female profiles state straight only when it comes to looking for men even if they are bisexual themselves.
What is it ladies that would put you off someone because they are openly bisexual and not fab straight?
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By *oxy jWoman 9 weeks ago
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ots a choice plain and simple swinging is about looking for what you want so if they dont want a bi guy then i dont see the problem know loads of bi wome who are knot interested in bi men..
im bi as is hubs fully bi not the fab bi rubbish but theres a huge group of bi men we wont play with very very select when it comes to bi men |
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I'm aware it's a choice like bbw over slim or hung over average.
But those are clear differences.
What I'm trying to establish is what is it that puts a female off a bisexual guy.
A woman once told me that the difference between a straight male and bisexual male in a MF scenario is whether she's aware that's he bi. If he does not tell her how would she know? |
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We won't knowingly play with bi males. The fellas straight and we're not into guys who play with other guys. We have played with bi guys, but we've normally found out afterwards, but it's not our sexual preference. |
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"We won't knowingly play with bi males. The fellas straight and we're not into guys who play with other guys. We have played with bi guys, but we've normally found out afterwards, but it's not our sexual preference. "
How did that make you feel, finding out afterwards?
If you was a single woman would you still avoid non straight guys? |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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"Because guys tend to shag about a lot, and the thought of their cocks up other mens' arseholes probably don't appeal to a lot of women due to STD's etc."
it's a fair point , I've seen women's profiles here who aren't interested in bi men and I'd guess that's part of the reason but each to their own
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"Because guys tend to shag about a lot, and the thought of their cocks up other mens' arseholes probably don't appeal to a lot of women due to STD's etc."
I'd suspect this is the real reason for many |
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"We won't knowingly play with bi males. The fellas straight and we're not into guys who play with other guys. We have played with bi guys, but we've normally found out afterwards, but it's not our sexual preference.
How did that make you feel, finding out afterwards?
If you was a single woman would you still avoid non straight guys?"
We were fine with it, it happens within the club scene.
Yes I would, not my preference either. |
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"We won't knowingly play with bi males. The fellas straight and we're not into guys who play with other guys. We have played with bi guys, but we've normally found out afterwards, but it's not our sexual preference.
How did that make you feel, finding out afterwards?
If you was a single woman would you still avoid non straight guys?
We were fine with it, it happens within the club scene.
Yes I would, not my preference either. "
Thanks for engaging appreciate it.
So in clubs, unless someone asks the guy, he would be considered as straight.
I actually only go to clubs on bi nights so there'd never be any dishonesty from me. |
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Because if you directly or indirectly come into contact with a bisexual cock, you might end up catching ‘gay’. You’ll be wearing fishnets, listening to ABBA on repeat and cottaging in no time. It’s a slippery slope. A proper minefield. |
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"I'm aware it's a choice like bbw over slim or hung over average.
But those are clear differences.
What I'm trying to establish is what is it that puts a female off a bisexual guy.
A woman once told me that the difference between a straight male and bisexual male in a MF scenario is whether she's aware that's he bi. If he does not tell her how would she know?"
They don’t know any different.
Two main reasons people don’t bi men.
- sex risk as they think they are dirty probably
- worried the guy will touch up their guy (because of course bi men all want to fuck any men lol )
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"I'm aware it's a choice like bbw over slim or hung over average.
But those are clear differences.
What I'm trying to establish is what is it that puts a female off a bisexual guy.
I'm guessing theres a lot of truth there. I get it with couples where hubby is straight but with single females, I'd love to know why.
Shame not many have answered as to why they wouldn't meet a bi man.
A woman once told me that the difference between a straight male and bisexual male in a MF scenario is whether she's aware that's he bi. If he does not tell her how would she know?
They don’t know any different.
Two main reasons people don’t bi men.
- sex risk as they think they are dirty probably
- worried the guy will touch up their guy (because of course bi men all want to fuck any men lol )
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I think if we were blind to STI's in this lifestyle, we would all be foolish, but yes they exist, and that's why the good lord invented condoms. I openly admit to unprotected oral, on both guys and girls, but that's the choice I make and if I was worried about it, like many others I wouldn't be on fabs. |
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"I'm aware it's a choice like bbw over slim or hung over average.
But those are clear differences.
What I'm trying to establish is what is it that puts a female off a bisexual guy.
A woman once told me that the difference between a straight male and bisexual male in a MF scenario is whether she's aware that's he bi. If he does not tell her how would she know?
They don’t know any different.
Two main reasons people don’t bi men.
- sex risk as they think they are dirty probably
- worried the guy will touch up their guy (because of course bi men all want to fuck any men lol )
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I'm guessing theres a lot of truth there. I get it with couples where hubby is straight but with single females, I'd love to know why.
Shame not many single WOMEN have answered as to why they wouldn't meet a bi man. |
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I can only speak for our motives. It has nothing to do with fears of std’s. Nor that a bi guy will suddenly pounce on hubby.
We are on fab to explore the things that excite us and 2 guys getting it on together doesn’t remotely do that. The opposite in fact.
Since there is abundance of straight guys who share our wavelength we don’t feel the need to compromise.
It’s not actually that complicated. |
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"I can only speak for our motives. It has nothing to do with fears of std’s. Nor that a bi guy will suddenly pounce on hubby.
We are on fab to explore the things that excite us and 2 guys getting it on together doesn’t remotely do that. The opposite in fact.
Since there is abundance of straight guys who share our wavelength we don’t feel the need to compromise.
It’s not actually that complicated. "
You've misinterpreted my post. In a mf situation as in a SINGLE female meeting a SINGLE bloke what puts her off him being bisexual?
There is no watching two men as there is only one male and female.
I totally get why a couple wouldnt meet a bisexual guy if hubby is straight. |
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By *asis_dMan 9 weeks ago
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I can’t speak for everyone, but when a couple is very abrasive when replying to me in the past it’s almost like they expect me to pound on the male half wich is absolutely not the case! I understand preference is within everyone’s right, but equally they just can’t look over label and need to get over themselves |
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"I can’t speak for everyone, but when a couple is very abrasive when replying to me in the past it’s almost like they expect me to pound on the male half wich is absolutely not the case! I understand preference is within everyone’s right, but equally they just can’t look over label and need to get over themselves "
“They just can’t look over a label and need to get over themselves “ !
I think that one comment proves yet again that neither side of this debate remotely recognises or understands the other’s opinions.
In one version or another it has gone on for years and changed nobody’s minds. There is too big a gulf. |
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By *asis_dMan 9 weeks ago
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"I can’t speak for everyone, but when a couple is very abrasive when replying to me in the past it’s almost like they expect me to pound on the male half wich is absolutely not the case! I understand preference is within everyone’s right, but equally they just can’t look over label and need to get over themselves
“They just can’t look over a label and need to get over themselves “ !
I think that one comment proves yet again that neither side of this debate remotely recognises or understands the other’s opinions.
In one version or another it has gone on for years and changed nobody’s minds. There is too big a gulf. "
I mean, (sorry I don’t know your name as you blocked me like I’m going to bombard you with messages) . I mean from a sense of if someone was to articulate themselves better and just say ‘sorry this one’s not for me as the fella isn’t comfortable’ that’s fine but ‘no no & no your bi not for us at all couldn’t think of anything worse’ I just have to laugh it off, in that aspect they really did need to get over themselfves, what do they expect? Me to jump on the fella? I really enjoy my freedom thanks and have absolutely no desire to touch anyone who doesn’t want to be touched, regardless of gender. Last thing I’m going to say, i bet you a good 60% of guys on here label as straight but they are upto all sorts with guys, they will get away with meeting couple who don’t like bi guys, I just choose to be honest to others and more importantly to myself. I just wish more people took things for face value and what you desire opposed to society making sure there is a label on your head because i couldn’t give a shit about a label, i love women more than anything but if things get fluid and there’s some man on man, so be it, anyway |
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"We only play safe so couldn’t care less if the people we play with are bi or straight as long as they understand our boundaries it’s no different to a threesum with a straight guy or bi guy "
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Just speaking personally, Fran here, I couldn't be with a man who fancies other men and who would like sex with another man. We're not worried about a bi guy pouncing on hubby, we expect all those we meet with to be respectful . Bi guys are generally thought to be more promiscuous. STDs are an issue. Even with condoms, there's always a risk. |
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"Just speaking personally, Fran here, I couldn't be with a man who fancies other men and who would like sex with another man. We're not worried about a bi guy pouncing on hubby, we expect all those we meet with to be respectful . Bi guys are generally thought to be more promiscuous. STDs are an issue. Even with condoms, there's always a risk. "
Thanks Fran. Appreciate the input. |
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"I can’t speak for everyone, but when a couple is very abrasive when replying to me in the past it’s almost like they expect me to pound on the male half wich is absolutely not the case! I understand preference is within everyone’s right, but equally they just can’t look over label and need to get over themselves
“They just can’t look over a label and need to get over themselves “ !
I think that one comment proves yet again that neither side of this debate remotely recognises or understands the other’s opinions.
In one version or another it has gone on for years and changed nobody’s minds. There is too big a gulf. "
People need to get over themselves?? Really?
Your profile states you're not after single guys? Why? Do you need to get over yourselves and start playing with single guys?.... No, because it's obviously not your thing, just like bi guys aren't our thing! |
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"ots a choice plain and simple swinging is about looking for what you want so if they dont want a bi guy then i dont see the problem know loads of bi wome who are knot interested in bi men..
im bi as is hubs fully bi not the fab bi rubbish but theres a huge group of bi men we wont play with very very select when it comes to bi men "
Definitely |
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As long as everything is consensual we don't really care what people put as their orientation. The one frustrating thing we find is that despite Mrs A being 100% straight (she's had a kiss with a woman before but would never do more than that and isn't really interested in that either) we still get a lot of single women/couples expecting her to play with them, they don't seem to understand a woman who doesn't like other women.
The funny thing about this is that I'm the more open minded one, never played with a guy myself and would never think about touching another guy on my own but if we're in a group sex/threesome situation and someone asked me to do something I'm up for trying pretty much anything once to see if I like it, how do you know you don't if you don't try?
I suppose what I'm saying is that I find it bizarre that for women bisexuality seems to be some kind of expected norm but for guys it's borderline unthinkable. We dont refuse anyone based on the sexual orientation they put on Fab, we're happy to chat to a lot of different people and see how that goes, no matter the other person's orientation it's more important to make sure you're all on the same page about what you're open to if it ever gets to a meet. |
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"ots a choice plain and simple swinging is about looking for what you want so if they dont want a bi guy then i dont see the problem know loads of bi wome who are knot interested in bi men..
im bi as is hubs fully bi not the fab bi rubbish but theres a huge group of bi men we wont play with very very select when it comes to bi men
Definitely "
Definitely....but then also with the ladies and couples too  |
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Personally we don't have a problem with bi males. We're happy we everyone who is repectful of us and our boundaries. To be fair in our experience in a safe free in environment a lot more men than you'd expect are actually straightish rather than straight anyways.
It seems to me a couple of common issues some people have with bi men. For one the perception of male promiscuity and risky behaviour, especially with other men (who likewise are the same). Male sexuallity is a lot different from female sexuallity (as a fair generalisation). Genrally the main thing that limits straight males range of sexual partners is the difference in female promiscuity and willingness to be as risky as men. Male sexuallity is genrally different and thus in a male on male environment the nature and volume of sex is different so the risk can be perceived to be more. Now this may seem to be unfair and is for many individuals inaccurate however from purely a numbers/statistical side bi/gay men are a higher STI risk. So I think some are put off by these factors. Personally we risk assess everyone the same in terms of risk regardless of sexual orientation because we all get about a bit (hopefully)
To some women being bi just isn't a manly or desirable trait in the bedroom. That's not to say bi men are not manly (that's an individual characteristic regardless of sexuallity) and not to say say they're outwards homophobic. Just sexual desire, perception and choice. And just the knowledge of a personal characteristic can put some women off, be it bi (in this example) because individual taste is very subjective. Like some people simply are not attracted to people of certain racial features despite having no clear racial hatred. We don't get much choice over our sexual desires, what turns us insanely on and what gives us the complete ick. Now again back to the point of why is this not proportionally the same for men? That's easy, as before (be it nature, socialisation or the combination of both) male sexuallity is on the whole different. When you judge male sexuallity with female sexuallity you're not judging like for like.
That my pondering/suspicions over what I've seen in my life and people/groups I've been exposed to and freinds I've made.
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"Because guys tend to shag about a lot, and the thought of their cocks up other mens' arseholes probably don't appeal to a lot of women due to STD's etc."
But mens cocks up womens arse's dont risk std's🤦♂️ |
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By *illie99TV/TS 9 weeks ago
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"Because if you directly or indirectly come into contact with a bisexual cock, you might end up catching ‘gay’. You’ll be wearing fishnets, listening to ABBA on repeat and cottaging in no time. It’s a slippery slope. A proper minefield."
A lightbulb moment, that must have been what got to me, some dirty indirect contact.
Guilty of the first two, fishnets and ABBA. Now dreading slipping further down that slope to the cottage. Is there any known cure? |
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"Because guys tend to shag about a lot, and the thought of their cocks up other mens' arseholes probably don't appeal to a lot of women due to STD's etc.
But mens cocks up womens arse's dont risk std's🤦♂️"
I mean just anyone shsgging about in swinging fullstop is high risk vs civilians |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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"Because guys tend to shag about a lot, and the thought of their cocks up other mens' arseholes probably don't appeal to a lot of women due to STD's etc.
But mens cocks up womens arse's dont risk std's🤦♂️"
It's far less frequent. Have you ever had a fuck? |
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"Because guys tend to shag about a lot, and the thought of their cocks up other mens' arseholes probably don't appeal to a lot of women due to STD's etc.
But mens cocks up womens arse's dont risk std's🤦♂️"
Lol exactly!! |
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"Because guys tend to shag about a lot, and the thought of their cocks up other mens' arseholes probably don't appeal to a lot of women due to STD's etc.
THIS!!!!!"
The number of new diagnoses is rising. In 2023, the number of HIV diagnoses first made in England increased by 15%. Diagnoses increased by 7% in gay, bisexual and other men who have sex with men, a reversal of the declines seen in recent years. Diagnoses increased by 32% in heterosexual men and women.
but let us all overlook this....dirty dirty bi men with their Promiscuity and STD's |
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By (user no longer on site) 9 weeks ago
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"Because guys tend to shag about a lot, and the thought of their cocks up other mens' arseholes probably don't appeal to a lot of women due to STD's etc.
But mens cocks up womens arse's dont risk std's🤦♂️
Lol exactly!!"
But again... How often do women get butt-fucked? Every guy I know TRIES to get their woman to do it but they won't lol! I mean seriously! Yet gay/bi guys do it all the time and they have far more partners.
A bit of logic for fabs sake... |
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"Because guys tend to shag about a lot, and the thought of their cocks up other mens' arseholes probably don't appeal to a lot of women due to STD's etc.
THIS!!!!!
The number of new diagnoses is rising. In 2023, the number of HIV diagnoses first made in England increased by 15%. Diagnoses increased by 7% in gay, bisexual and other men who have sex with men, a reversal of the declines seen in recent years. Diagnoses increased by 32% in heterosexual men and women.
but let us all overlook this....dirty dirty bi men with their Promiscuity and STD's "
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