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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
Anyone else find it bewildering? Browsing profiles, we are apprehensive in contacting profile's without, frankly I (Mrs) won't engage with zero idea of whether I'd find 'him' attractive..
Frustrating for D too as whilst he has a decent physique, he's no 6 pack sporting, muscled guy but feel we've made the effort.
There's mostly disembodied cock shots, but if that was all I was interested in, we already have multiple, different sized dildo's.. 🤣🤷 |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"That's what puts me off most couples x"
Single guy's too.. Those with verifications, definitely have more than a variety of angles of their penis we note.. 🤔
Honest critique of our representation here? DM if you prefer x |
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Yes, we find the same. Unless it’s only the f of a couple meeting, why not show both? How are you meant to work out if there’s an attraction for a four way meet if you’re only able to see one of them?  |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Yes, we find the same. Unless it’s only the f of a couple meeting, why not show both? How are you meant to work out if there’s an attraction for a four way meet if you’re only able to see one of them? "
Haven't a bloody clue! 🤣 We've even had DM's when we have asked for face pics and 'he' had his blanked out!! Y responded with "honestly I'm not really into headless guy's" 🤷😜 |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Yes, we find the same. Unless it’s only the f of a couple meeting, why not show both? How are you meant to work out if there’s an attraction for a four way meet if you’re only able to see one of them? "
Oh and a public apology!! Just realised we've not responded to you guys!? 😳🙄😘 |
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If there are no photos of him or only ones of his cock we won’t bother with the profile,
We have in the past and then asked for pictures of him to only be sent the same single cock pic and a load of the lady.
Come on how can you expect us ladies to get excited and possibly play with other couples if we can’t see the guys??
Kink (Mrs) |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Guilty of this to a degree. Only one of hubby on the profile. I suppose we should put more up. But he doesn't enjoy posing as much as i do  "
And you do it sooo well!! 🔥 At least you have something and from what we can see, we'd love to see more of him 😉😘 |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"If there are no photos of him or only ones of his cock we won’t bother with the profile,
We have in the past and then asked for pictures of him to only be sent the same single cock pic and a load of the lady.
Come on how can you expect us ladies to get excited and possibly play with other couples if we can’t see the guys??
Kink (Mrs)"
Would appear the frustration is not just ours!! 😘 |
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Urgh, this drives me crazy.
I don't seek to meet couples anymore, getting a photo of the invisible man that isn't a cock is like pulling teeth & if he's not there I'll assume there's a reason (he's ugly)
I've heard every excuse - men don't photo well, he's got tattoos we don't want people to see etc.... men can and do photo well, tattoos can be blurred.
I'm not into blind date & won't meet some random cock because his Mrs is hot.
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Urgh, this drives me crazy.
I don't seek to meet couples anymore, getting a photo of the invisible man that isn't a cock is like pulling teeth & if he's not there I'll assume there's a reason (he's ugly)
I've heard every excuse - men don't photo well, he's got tattoos we don't want people to see etc.... men can and do photo well, tattoos can be blurred.
I'm not into blind date & won't meet some random cock because his Mrs is hot.
Mrs "
Yup, #smokeshow
The other excuse, job.. We know surgeons, Police and Solicitors here so that's bullshit too.. 🙄🤣 |
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We are definitely guilty of this but it’s nothing more than that I love posing for pics and he doesn’t. However if we message anyone we absolutely send face pics within the first 2-3 messages as we totally understand it’s not blind date and there needs to be a mutual attraction between everyone. We don’t see it as a huge problem as we are more than willing to share pics privately. |
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By *ornycougaWoman 4 weeks ago
NOT IN THE UK Wherever I lay my hat |
"We are definitely guilty of this but it’s nothing more than that I love posing for pics and he doesn’t. However if we message anyone we absolutely send face pics within the first 2-3 messages as we totally understand it’s not blind date and there needs to be a mutual attraction between everyone. We don’t see it as a huge problem as we are more than willing to share pics privately. "
It may work for you but it's a big red flag for me. If the couple doesn't send a number of pics of him in their first message then we never get to a second message. |
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"We are definitely guilty of this but it’s nothing more than that I love posing for pics and he doesn’t. However if we message anyone we absolutely send face pics within the first 2-3 messages as we totally understand it’s not blind date and there needs to be a mutual attraction between everyone. We don’t see it as a huge problem as we are more than willing to share pics privately. "
Pretty much mirror this- have to say hasn’t caused us too many issues. However, we obvs cant know how many people we put off from messaging. |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"We are definitely guilty of this but it’s nothing more than that I love posing for pics and he doesn’t. However if we message anyone we absolutely send face pics within the first 2-3 messages as we totally understand it’s not blind date and there needs to be a mutual attraction between everyone. We don’t see it as a huge problem as we are more than willing to share pics privately. "
Hey! No shaming.. If you send them readily we'd have no issue 😘
Really those who expect to see but won't show..
Had sooo many try to continue chat and arrange something but unwilling to reciprocally send pictures.
As you say it's not blind date and frankly we both got catfished prior to meeting 🙄 #awkward |
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"Anyone else find it bewildering? Browsing profiles, we are apprehensive in contacting profile's without, frankly I (Mrs) won't engage with zero idea of whether I'd find 'him' attractive..
Frustrating for D too as whilst he has a decent physique, he's no 6 pack sporting, muscled guy but feel we've made the effort.
There's mostly disembodied cock shots, but if that was all I was interested in, we already have multiple, different sized dildo's.. 🤣🤷"
Their profile their choice. But a fair point. When I had a couples profile, she loved posing and I loved snapping. Alternately, I dont love posing and she definitely didn't love snapping. But yes can see it's a challenge if there's nothing of the bloke to go on. |
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"Yes, we find the same. Unless it’s only the f of a couple meeting, why not show both? How are you meant to work out if there’s an attraction for a four way meet if you’re only able to see one of them? "
I think guys are just camera shy or have a lot to lose if someone comes across their pic……..easy to ask for pics tho
Gorgeous couple by the way xxx |
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By *bi HaiveMan 4 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Even if couples are just looking to meet single guys, I've always been put off by profiles where he is invisible.
Both from a point of view of reassuring that it's a genuine couples profile and also to ensure they're being honest in their profile. I once met a couple where they were allegedly of similar ages (mid 30's) and arrived to find a guy who appeared to be definitely eligible for his pension. 🤷♂️ |
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Also when it's a single male profile but all the photos show a female body with a just a small part of the man. I got one the other day that was mostly of a females fully displayed genitalia with just his tongue in. All his photos were similar. None of actually him, not even his cock...
I don't currently actively seek couples, but pass ones by with no photos of male on if I am . |
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Thanks for posting this.
We get lots of couples mailing us with no pics of men on their profile and expect a meet.
When you ask for a pic they go silent.
Drives us bloody crazy. What are we supposed to do? Meet people blindfolded? |
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"Anyone else find it bewildering? Browsing profiles, we are apprehensive in contacting profile's without, frankly I (Mrs) won't engage with zero idea of whether I'd find 'him' attractive..
Frustrating for D too as whilst he has a decent physique, he's no 6 pack sporting, muscled guy but feel we've made the effort.
There's mostly disembodied cock shots, but if that was all I was interested in, we already have multiple, different sized dildo's.. 🤣🤷"
Absolute lunacy this is and it drives us mad.
It goes without saying that 99% of the time our wonderful female better halves are the real star attraction.
However, to not show anything whatsoever of the chap is just ridiculous. |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Even if couples are just looking to meet single guys, I've always been put off by profiles where he is invisible.
Both from a point of view of reassuring that it's a genuine couples profile and also to ensure they're being honest in their profile. I once met a couple where they were allegedly of similar ages (mid 30's) and arrived to find a guy who appeared to be definitely eligible for his pension. 🤷♂️"
And were they surprised you were less than interested?
Appreciate a guy posting something other than a fawning comment!
Yes! Utterly D was a single guy prior to us meeting and has said he'd rather have had a wank than gone through with some meetings..
Only that was a challenge as he struggled to get the image out of his head.. 🤦😳😂 |
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I find it bewildering that so many people are so concerned about what others put on their profile. After all, it's their profile and as long as it works for them they are probably not at all concerned about whether it works for you.
If a profile doesn't work for you just move on to another - there are literally thousands to choose from - just as you would if you found the couple in a profile wasn't to your taste. |
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Fully understand where your're coming from definitely. If your're a couple, then surely some pictures of both of you? Although some profiles these days pictures are so filtered or edited it can be hard to tell what's genuine these days x |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Fully understand where your're coming from definitely. If your're a couple, then surely some pictures of both of you? Although some profiles these days pictures are so filtered or edited it can be hard to tell what's genuine these days x"
Oh but we sooo love the airbrushed complection and mouse ears and nose.. 😏😉 |
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There in lies the question. We don’t have many of me simply because not many give a rats ass about the guys. Maybe we should change that. Oh and your profile OP? Absolutely perfect!! ( faces available on request, Ts&Cs apply!!  ) |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"There in lies the question. We don’t have many of me simply because not many give a rats ass about the guys. Maybe we should change that. Oh and your profile OP? Absolutely perfect!! ( faces available on request, Ts&Cs apply!! )"
Thank you!!  |
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"Thanks for posting this.
We get lots of couples mailing us with no pics of men on their profile and expect a meet.
When you ask for a pic they go silent.
Drives us bloody crazy. What are we supposed to do? Meet people blindfolded?"
Drives us nuts as well. We have been blocked for asking. Being both straight it kind of matters. |
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If people contact us and have no pictures of the guy we either don't respond or politely turn them down, occasionally they will attach some which is fine.
We have found if they don't have pictures of the guy that he isn't interested in the woman of the other couple and just wants to watch his wife of is a reluctant participant. For those reasons we don't contact profiles without pictures of the man.
Of course people can run their profile how they wish but we reserve the same right. |
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As a single guy, even though I'm not going to f#ck the guy, I want to know who I'm meeting.
I find it odd too, when there are only pics of the fairer sex.
And where I see 'the wife', I move on.
At least you don't fit that criterion Dorian |
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Oops
I hate having my photo taken and to be honest don’t play as much as Mrs M.
We would obviously send photos if there were any interest in meeting and most single men we both meet socially before anything further happens anyway |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Oops
I hate having my photo taken and to be honest don’t play as much as Mrs M.
We would obviously send photos if there were any interest in meeting and most single men we both meet socially before anything further happens anyway "
Now you pair are fully aware the comment is not aimed at you!!For the record G and everyone else, you are a very handsome, personable chap..
Also for the record everyone G+M were the first couple weeks played with and have loved bumping into them since!
"DeyeY (39), Couple on 12 December 2021 by Meeting in person:
So three firsts were with this pair of sexy people!! A club, her first woman and our first full swap.. Hat trick!! Great to talk and laugh with, as well as play.. Thank you both for making it an experience we want to remember!! Y&D xx"
Hope you're both well! Love from us both 😘 xx |
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We really need more pics of Ben, it’s just that he does all the photo taking and hates posing for photos.
We need to sort it though, for all those disappointed white women who think the guy in my recent photos is Ben and haven’t actually read our profile |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
All said, (and it was nice to have a couple of moderators comments btw) everyone is entitled to share as little or as much as they are comfortable with.
However many who want to engage with/fuck us (mostly Y let's face it 😏🤣) seemingly wish to do so without sharing the image of the party who's cock would be doing so..
A no thanks for us..
Have a lovely Sunday you naughty lot! 😘 |
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"Oops
I hate having my photo taken and to be honest don’t play as much as Mrs M.
We would obviously send photos if there were any interest in meeting and most single men we both meet socially before anything further happens anyway
Now you pair are fully aware the comment is not aimed at you!!For the record G and everyone else, you are a very handsome, personable chap..
Also for the record everyone G+M were the first couple weeks played with and have loved bumping into them since!
"DeyeY (39), Couple on 12 December 2021 by Meeting in person:
So three firsts were with this pair of sexy people!! A club, her first woman and our first full swap.. Hat trick!! Great to talk and laugh with, as well as play.. Thank you both for making it an experience we want to remember!! Y&D xx"
Hope you're both well! Love from us both 😘 xx"
Hopefully see you both sometime soon 🥰 |
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Yep as a straight woman I find this so frustrating.
If someone messages or winks us and they don't have any pics of the man, it's a delete.
I get it when it's just the lady playing, but otherwise it's a good filter.
Our past experience has shown if they don't send pics of him, there's a reason why and when I do eventually see him, there's often no attraction.
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Yes definitely a bit of a turn off if 50 photos of woman in couple and none (except d in the pics) of the man in any fun pics. On my single profile, I usually have to ask for pics of the man.
Or if profile has loads of group sex photos but I can't see photos of the actual couple.
On the plus side, when I mention it, I received great pics. |
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"Urgh, this drives me crazy.
I don't seek to meet couples anymore, getting a photo of the invisible man that isn't a cock is like pulling teeth & if he's not there I'll assume there's a reason (he's ugly)
I've heard every excuse - men don't photo well, he's got tattoos we don't want people to see etc.... men can and do photo well, tattoos can be blurred.
I'm not into blind date & won't meet some random cock because his Mrs is hot.
Mrs "
I understand your point!
To me, dominant photos of the the women just means their target audience is (predominantly)men. |
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"I find it bewildering that so many people are so concerned about what others put on their profile. After all, it's their profile and as long as it works for them they are probably not at all concerned about whether it works for you.
If a profile doesn't work for you just move on to another - there are literally thousands to choose from - just as you would if you found the couple in a profile wasn't to your taste. "
Awww, great moan; thanks for saying this!
I must say, it's nice to have a moan together about something, even if I'm not waiting in a queue and complaining about the weather!  |
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"Anyone else find it bewildering? Browsing profiles, we are apprehensive in contacting profile's without, frankly I (Mrs) won't engage with zero idea of whether I'd find 'him' attractive..
Frustrating for D too as whilst he has a decent physique, he's no 6 pack sporting, muscled guy but feel we've made the effort.
There's mostly disembodied cock shots, but if that was all I was interested in, we already have multiple, different sized dildo's.. 🤣🤷"
There’s a reason why the couples accounts have no pics of the men and that’s because they are totally banking on the attractiveness of the woman to appeal
This is more prevalent as we get older so I see |
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By *zChiefWoman 4 weeks ago
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My couples profiles evolved into this one and reflects the way we play ... still have the profile but i clearly signpost to his solo one if anyone wanted to look at his photos. Nothing hidden ..we just changed dynamic. |
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I care more on matching chemistry wise than physically... Worse thing in the world is someone attractive being incompetent in everything I enjoy sexually..utter waste of time.. looks do nothing for me if he can't keep my interests |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"We have pics of both of us although she gets the attention "
Roughly 4 time's by my experience.. And the attention I get is 'straight guys' CD's and TV's.. Oh well a compliment is a compliment.. 🤷😉 Mr x |
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Fully aware our profile is unbalanced, but similar to others it is just down to which of us is more likely to pose, but get your point and always want to see a pic or 2 of both members before going further.
We also have more pics of both of us in our friends only list and can send others on request, so not quite as unbalanced as our public profile suggests |
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"Yes definitely a bit of a turn off if 50 photos of woman in couple and none (except d in the pics) of the man in any fun pics. On my single profile, I usually have to ask for pics of the man.
Or if profile has loads of group sex photos but I can't see photos of the actual couple.
On the plus side, when I mention it, I received great pics. "
This. It's sometimes frustrating when there are lots of pics showing men, usually action shots, but it isn't obvious which if any are the Mr of the couple |
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Love this. I Harper feel exactly the same. I think it should be a given if you have a couple profile there is as many AND recent pics of the guy as he is the other half. I don't want a blind date x |
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Yeah it’s the main reason we don’t meet couples.
It’s one sided generally - the guy will be the one chatting but there’s mainly pics of Mrs and only cock pics of Mr.
C doesn’t find a cock attractive until she’s attracted to someone.
Guys don’t really enjoy being told that the attraction is with their partner.
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As a straight unicorn it's what puts me off chatting to couples....I'm not interested in her I'm interested in him and her and I pleasuring him mutually. If he's more about filling her needs than having his satisfied too they are not the couple for me.. he should feel worshipped too |
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"Anyone else find it bewildering? Browsing profiles, we are apprehensive in contacting profile's without, frankly I (Mrs) won't engage with zero idea of whether I'd find 'him' attractive..
Frustrating for D too as whilst he has a decent physique, he's no 6 pack sporting, muscled guy but feel we've made the effort.
There's mostly disembodied cock shots, but if that was all I was interested in, we already have multiple, different sized dildo's.. 🤣🤷"
Most ‘couples’ profiles are worse than the single guys. It’s definitely a couple ‘thing’ of the husbands not revealing anything of themselves, maybe just that disembodied cock or finger / hand on her ass. It’s almost like they’re using their good looking wives as bait…
Smoking Hot Wives and distinctly average husbands is a definite lifestyle phenomenon.. |
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"Anyone else find it bewildering? Browsing profiles, we are apprehensive in contacting profile's without, frankly I (Mrs) won't engage with zero idea of whether I'd find 'him' attractive..
Frustrating for D too as whilst he has a decent physique, he's no 6 pack sporting, muscled guy but feel we've made the effort.
There's mostly disembodied cock shots, but if that was all I was interested in, we already have multiple, different sized dildo's.. 🤣🤷
Most ‘couples’ profiles are worse than the single guys. It’s definitely a couple ‘thing’ of the husbands not revealing anything of themselves, maybe just that disembodied cock or finger / hand on her ass. It’s almost like they’re using their good looking wives as bait…
Smoking Hot Wives and distinctly average husbands is a definite lifestyle phenomenon.."
Been wainting to say this for ages but didn’t want to get slated for it… 🫣
Most men are punching waaaay above, haha. Beautiful ladies but very average/below average men. Very frustrating.  |
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There are certainly pictures of both of us in our profile, both together and apart, but the majority is the wife as she photos better and yeah I guess I am punching above well that's what everyone alludes too saying how lucky I am  |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Anyone else find it bewildering? Browsing profiles, we are apprehensive in contacting profile's without, frankly I (Mrs) won't engage with zero idea of whether I'd find 'him' attractive..
Frustrating for D too as whilst he has a decent physique, he's no 6 pack sporting, muscled guy but feel we've made the effort.
There's mostly disembodied cock shots, but if that was all I was interested in, we already have multiple, different sized dildo's.. 🤣🤷
Most ‘couples’ profiles are worse than the single guys. It’s definitely a couple ‘thing’ of the husbands not revealing anything of themselves, maybe just that disembodied cock or finger / hand on her ass. It’s almost like they’re using their good looking wives as bait…
Smoking Hot Wives and distinctly average husbands is a definite lifestyle phenomenon.."
As per your comment on us previously, we'll keep striving to be the "enigma" 😉😘 |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"Anyone else find it bewildering? Browsing profiles, we are apprehensive in contacting profile's without, frankly I (Mrs) won't engage with zero idea of whether I'd find 'him' attractive..
Frustrating for D too as whilst he has a decent physique, he's no 6 pack sporting, muscled guy but feel we've made the effort.
There's mostly disembodied cock shots, but if that was all I was interested in, we already have multiple, different sized dildo's.. 🤣🤷
There’s a reason why the couples accounts have no pics of the men and that’s because they are totally banking on the attractiveness of the woman to appeal
This is more prevalent as we get older so I see "
Quite happy to forward a picture of the both of us, should you be interested.. 😉😘 |
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By *az27Man 4 weeks ago
Wigan |
This genuinely is why I don't have a dick pic on my profile. We all know they're only attractive when you're already in the mood to see one ahah. They only get provided on request now and even then it's only one or two. Gotta leave something for the actual meet. And it lets you get your personality across more too,you actually need to talk about other shit for a change |
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"Anyone else find it bewildering? Browsing profiles, we are apprehensive in contacting profile's without, frankly I (Mrs) won't engage with zero idea of whether I'd find 'him' attractive..
Frustrating for D too as whilst he has a decent physique, he's no 6 pack sporting, muscled guy but feel we've made the effort.
There's mostly disembodied cock shots, but if that was all I was interested in, we already have multiple, different sized dildo's.. 🤣🤷
Most ‘couples’ profiles are worse than the single guys. It’s definitely a couple ‘thing’ of the husbands not revealing anything of themselves, maybe just that disembodied cock or finger / hand on her ass. It’s almost like they’re using their good looking wives as bait…
Smoking Hot Wives and distinctly average husbands is a definite lifestyle phenomenon..
Been wainting to say this for ages but didn’t want to get slated for it… 🫣
Most men are punching waaaay above, haha. Beautiful ladies but very average/below average men. Very frustrating. "
I’ll take your hits flygirl 😂🥊
I went to a Vanilla Alternative couples night and my female friend was looking forward to some husband action.. we were sat near the entrance to the bar and honestly it was a parade of absolutely smoking hot wives….. and less than desirable husbands 💃🧌…💃🧌… 💃🧌….. I was getting all the glances and smiles as the smoke-shows strutted past and my friend got exceedingly annoyed… laughed about it later after lots of harrumphing and comments about it being clearly money not looks, muttering about funding of fake tits... plastic surgery, punching above etc. 😂 |
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There are alot of pics of me on our profile but there are also a few of my hubby too. This is something we find really annoying too.
So many profiles where there are NO male pics of the cpl, like us ladies need to see what is on offer for us too 
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"Whoa! Quite a low opinion of men. There are a lot of men in couples who are very attractive
Not this particular night there wasn’t!
Of course there are many handsome husbands 😂"
I know I've got one .
I think it holds true though that the men who remain in the background either by lack of photos or lack of good presentation don't want to be involved with anyone but their own partner, either watching or playing with them only. If that isn't so why on earth aren't they making an effort? |
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"Whoa! Quite a low opinion of men. There are a lot of men in couples who are very attractive
Not this particular night there wasn’t!
Of course there are many handsome husbands 😂
I know I've got one .
I think it holds true though that the men who remain in the background either by lack of photos or lack of good presentation don't want to be involved with anyone but their own partner, either watching or playing with them only. If that isn't so why on earth aren't they making an effort?"
If the typical male body picture is anything to go by it’s because they look like they’re auditioning for the part of ‘murdered body in the morgue’ in Silent Witness or Waking The Dead… 😂🤣 |
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"Whoa! Quite a low opinion of men. There are a lot of men in couples who are very attractive
Not this particular night there wasn’t!
Of course there are many handsome husbands 😂
I know I've got one .
I think it holds true though that the men who remain in the background either by lack of photos or lack of good presentation don't want to be involved with anyone but their own partner, either watching or playing with them only. If that isn't so why on earth aren't they making an effort?
If the typical male body picture is anything to go by it’s because they look like they’re auditioning for the part of ‘murdered body in the morgue’ in Silent Witness or Waking The Dead… 😂🤣"
Ouch! That's unfair in my opinion.
Maybe women should fab more mens pictures 🤔 |
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Yes, it’s very annoying that the male in the relationship refrains from the camera. When we go window shopping, I like to see what I could buy. There’s a few of my gorgeous hubby on our profile and he definitely catches the eye of the ladies….and men in clubs and socials. |
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Generally I don't engage with profiles where, assuming both parties want to be involved, both aren't represented in their photos. It's almost always a straight delete for me. Such profiles do occasionally attach photos but in the majority of those cases I'll be afforded nothing more than a photo of the guy's cock. It always feels to me like my attraction to them doesn't matter.
I absolutely agree that people should represent themselves however they wish, so I delete and move on if that's in a way that doesn't fit what I'm looking for.
It was the same when we had a couple's profile and we dealt with it the same way. |
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This thread got me (Mr) thinking if we are deliberately misleading anyone… There aren’t a lot of pictures of me on the profile compared to the other half but is only because I’m more body conscious and judgemental about my own appearance. Tina is just a remarkably good looking person and I feel I need to work harder…I go to the gym and try and eat healthy and maybe we aren’t the incredible looking person with shiny abs but we are always truthful and share our pictures on our first or second message in many ways to allow people to “reject” us. It’s not a lack of effort I promise…. Sometimes people just aren’t terribly comfortable with their existing set of pictures |
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"^^ I understand that but if you're not comfortable with your pictures how do you get along in person when it comes to getting naked?
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Believe it or not, I’m absolutely comfortable in an in person interaction and a social meet. I know it’s all in my head about appearances etc but I just wanted to clarify that deception is never ever the intention. |
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"^^ I understand that but if you're not comfortable with your pictures how do you get along in person when it comes to getting naked?
Believe it or not, I’m absolutely comfortable in an in person interaction and a social meet. I know it’s all in my head about appearances etc but I just wanted to clarify that deception is never ever the intention. "
It's funny how our minds work isn't it.
I never for a minute thought you were trying to decide anyone |
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"^^ I understand that but if you're not comfortable with your pictures how do you get along in person when it comes to getting naked?
Believe it or not, I’m absolutely comfortable in an in person interaction and a social meet. I know it’s all in my head about appearances etc but I just wanted to clarify that deception is never ever the intention. "
From what I can see you look great |
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"^^ I understand that but if you're not comfortable with your pictures how do you get along in person when it comes to getting naked?
Believe it or not, I’m absolutely comfortable in an in person interaction and a social meet. I know it’s all in my head about appearances etc but I just wanted to clarify that deception is never ever the intention.
From what I can see you look great "
It’s like getting a giant hug!! Thank you… really appreciate it |
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And what difference does having a photo of him make?
I clearly show me on my wife and i's account (obviously not this account).
Nothing, zip, nanda!
No messages.
So it could be said I'm not attractive to women?
I go to the club (with or without my wife) and I have a great time.
I say this with all due respect but you ladies are rather fickle with how hung up you get about how he looks sometimes. I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I won't pretend I am either (im.pretty average looking i recon) but it's shocking how far I get with being confident, having a sense of humour and being quick enough to keep you guessing. Not on here but in real life.
I mean think about it. Look at Russel Brand. The man looked like he got dragged through a hedge backwards but coild talk you round a ubend and back and was a notorious womaniser.
Pay attention fellas. The online stuff...most of us are invisible. Real life...you just gotta know how to talk.
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"Russell Brand! I was always surprised at how many women fell for his smarmy lines.
Maybe I need to hand my woman card in
What first attracted you to the millionaire Paul Daniels? "
Russel Brand is a sleaze and was before he made money. Paul Daniels seemed on the face of it to be an ok human being. |
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"Russell Brand! I was always surprised at how many women fell for his smarmy lines.
Maybe I need to hand my woman card in
What first attracted you to the millionaire Paul Daniels? "
That was Mrs Merton. Born again cwistian Brand was never that witty. |
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"Russell Brand! I was always surprised at how many women fell for his smarmy lines.
Maybe I need to hand my woman card in
What first attracted you to the millionaire Paul Daniels?
Russel Brand is a sleaze and was before he made money. Paul Daniels seemed on the face of it to be an ok human being. "
“You’ll like it. Not a lot” …. |
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"Mr here...We will share pics of both after chatting. However I tend to look disabled in any posed picture, have much better results meeting people in person. "
I know right?
I can look in the mirror and think "I'm looking good" but if my wife so much as thinks about a camera I turn into Worzel Gummidge .
Oh well..
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We always make sure to have a selection of both of us on our page.
At the end of the day, people will be meeting us as a couple so should have the choice to view myself, just as much as A, to ensure there's some level of attraction all round.
We're always very hesitant when there's not a good representation of both partners as it tends to raise questions/suspicions in our minds.
C x
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"Russell Brand! I was always surprised at how many women fell for his smarmy lines.
Maybe I need to hand my woman card in
What first attracted you to the millionaire Paul Daniels?
Russel Brand is a sleaze and was before he made money. Paul Daniels seemed on the face of it to be an ok human being. "
It may be true he was a sleaze (I'm no Brand fan) but the man got results is all I'm saying.
You can find it on youtube if you want to see it but there's an interview he did with a couple of American newsreaders from 15 or 16 years ago when he was trying to make a name for himself in the states.
The interviewer starts off incredibly hostile towards him saying he looks weird and scruffy to be more or less squirming in her knickers biting her lip ready to take off her wedding ring 14 mins later (she really does start to fidget with it).....and you cant not see it in the video. Brand even calls her out for it and she just giggles.
All I'm saying is what I said originally....looks aint everything. Attitude and approach is.
As a long time club goer I've seen gym fit Adonis looking blokes walk in and get nowhere because they sat quietly in the corner whilst the guy who you think might struggle to look at him is sat cracking jokes making the women laugh and then heading off to the play rooms with them.
I've just seen it happen to many times now to see it any other way.
Women say they like looks (which yes, there has to be a level of attraction) but I think confidence is the real thing they like.
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"Russell Brand! I was always surprised at how many women fell for his smarmy lines.
Maybe I need to hand my woman card in
What first attracted you to the millionaire Paul Daniels?
Russel Brand is a sleaze and was before he made money. Paul Daniels seemed on the face of it to be an ok human being. "
true that, complete manipulative sleaze bag. Grifter, has now found god, yeah, that old chestnut lol |
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So many great profiles on this thread, it's so nice to see the guys represented!!! Us ladies are also visual creatures and like to see what's in the shop window
We don't take ourselves too seriously, so our pictures just tend to be a mix of both of us in all our weird and sexy glory |
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"That's what puts me off most couples x
Single guy's too.. Those with verifications, definitely have more than a variety of angles of their penis we note.. 🤔
Honest critique of our representation here? DM if you prefer x"
To be fair you're absolutely right - and I'm a single guy myself. I've never had cock shots there for public consumption and definitely don't attach them to messages, partly because I'd like to think I'm a 'high value' man with more to offer.
As for your profile the photos of both of you are outstanding. Both really fantastic looking (and I'm straight!) and the photos themselves say 'We're classy people'. Bravo!  |
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"And what difference does having a photo of him make?
I clearly show me on my wife and i's account (obviously not this account).
Nothing, zip, nanda!
No messages.
So it could be said I'm not attractive to women?
I go to the club (with or without my wife) and I have a great time.
I say this with all due respect but you ladies are rather fickle with how hung up you get about how he looks sometimes. I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I won't pretend I am either (im.pretty average looking i recon) but it's shocking how far I get with being confident, having a sense of humour and being quick enough to keep you guessing. Not on here but in real life.
I mean think about it. Look at Russel Brand. The man looked like he got dragged through a hedge backwards but coild talk you round a ubend and back and was a notorious womaniser.
Pay attention fellas. The online stuff...most of us are invisible. Real life...you just gotta know how to talk.
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I make no apologies - I need to find the person I'm fucking attractive. I don't care how marvellous their personality is, or how great their line in witty repartee...if they aren't physically attractive TO ME then it's not happening.
As for Russell Brand, I think he has an incredibly attractive face |
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"Urgh, this drives me crazy.
I don't seek to meet couples anymore, getting a photo of the invisible man that isn't a cock is like pulling teeth & if he's not there I'll assume there's a reason (he's ugly)
I've heard every excuse - men don't photo well, he's got tattoos we don't want people to see etc.... men can and do photo well, tattoos can be blurred.
I'm not into blind date & won't meet some random cock because his Mrs is hot.
Mrs
Yup, #smokeshow
The other excuse, job.. We know surgeons, Police and Solicitors here so that's bullshit too.. 🙄🤣"
A hundred per cent! |
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By *eyeY OP Couple 4 weeks ago
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"We always make sure to have a selection of both of us on our page.
At the end of the day, people will be meeting us as a couple so should have the choice to view myself, just as much as A, to ensure there's some level of attraction all round.
We're always very hesitant when there's not a good representation of both partners as it tends to raise questions/suspicions in our minds.
C x
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Yes we know, just a fucking sod we're so far apart!! 🤣🔥😈😘 |
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