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Kinks, is it just me?
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What you into and What are you kinks?
Both questions for me mean the other person has something in mind they want or really don't want. Usually the former.
But being open to trying stuff, I also have no real idea how to answer |
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"Nah.
Whenever someone asks me what my kinks are I assume they're just looking for wank fodder and dismiss them 💜"
That's a fair point. I just find it a really awkward question
Like most of the things I like are just normal sex acts. I don't see them as kinky lol |
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"Nah.
Whenever someone asks me what my kinks are I assume they're just looking for wank fodder and dismiss them 💜"
This is where we was going wrong and tip toeing around the question being worried about be judged as a bad whore but iv realised im actually a really good whore  |
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"So vanilla which is fine but some of us are more deviant and a bit more neich so best asking at the start because if yous are not sexually compatible what’s the point  "
Haha I wouldn't class myself as vanilla though! I think I'm sexually adventurous, just not kinky
If that makes sense! |
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I'd say if you are a particularly kinky couple/person who wants someone similar, easier to tell them your into X and is that something they are into to.
If they say yes, that's what chatting before a meet is great for. Sussing out those who are bullshitting and will run a mile when you go to do whatever.  |
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What I do is on my profile and I am happy to explain it.
I am moving away from using the term "kink" as it seems to me to have become interchangeable with porn sex or sexual activity that was considered "out there" in 1970s sex comedies. The term " kink", in my view has lost its connection to BDSM and or unusual fetishistic pleasures which do not rely on penetrative sex or foreplay.
As mentioned previously in this thread,"kink" has become wank fodder.
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"So vanilla which is fine but some of us are more deviant and a bit more neich so best asking at the start because if yous are not sexually compatible what’s the point "
I've always found it amusing that one of the most expensive substances that's technically incredibly rare was used as a namesake for "standard" sex. |
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"Nah.
Whenever someone asks me what my kinks are I assume they're just looking for wank fodder and dismiss them 💜
Really? Maybe they're just trying to start a conversation."
It's not a conversation I'm interested in with someone I barely know.
Generally if I'm getting on with someone the conversation comes round to that naturally and feels less gross. |
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"Nah.
Whenever someone asks me what my kinks are I assume they're just looking for wank fodder and dismiss them 💜
Really? Maybe they're just trying to start a conversation.
It's not a conversation I'm interested in with someone I barely know.
Generally if I'm getting on with someone the conversation comes round to that naturally and feels less gross."
Completely agree with this. X |
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"Nah.
Whenever someone asks me what my kinks are I assume they're just looking for wank fodder and dismiss them 💜
Really? Maybe they're just trying to start a conversation.
It's not a conversation I'm interested in with someone I barely know.
Generally if I'm getting on with someone the conversation comes round to that naturally and feels less gross.
Completely agree with this. X"
Same for me. I'd almost rather I brought it up also - it indicates an understanding and respect for boundaries and the ability to talk without having to bring up sex, which is important when you're looking for something more than a quick fuck. |
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