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BDSM, yes or no?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 44 weeks ago
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Is it something you enjoy
Yes
Sometimes
Never |
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Yes, not just a play time thing for us. It's how we live, 24/7 TPE. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 44 weeks ago
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"Yes, not just a play time thing for us. It's how we live, 24/7 TPE. " living it is the only way
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Its not a play thing for me but liveing it not always easy when health gets in the way as did with my partner of ten years .then came the opportunity with a new sub and I deceid to go down another route
With her .but in time bdsm will come into things . |
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"Yes, not just a play time thing for us. It's how we live, 24/7 TPE. living it is the only way "
It's really not the only way |
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"Yes, not just a play time thing for us. It's how we live, 24/7 TPE. living it is the only way
It's really not the only way"
Isn't that essex |
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"Yes, not just a play time thing for us. It's how we live, 24/7 TPE. living it is the only way
It's really not the only way
Isn't that essex"
Apparently it is ![](/icons/s/lol.gif) |
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By *hoirCouple 44 weeks ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"Is it something you enjoy
Yes
Sometimes
Never "
Oh yes.
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Yes…. But it does depend on the dynamic…. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Sometimes |
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Not for me. Spanking yes, generalised kinkyfuckery yes, bdsm not really. Seems a lot of preparation, patience and passion for the subject needed. Like another 3ps im not into it. I wouldnt be able to do it justice. ![](/icons/s/biggrin.gif) |
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Sometimes but only with my Mr who is also my Dom. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Yes male or female or both |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"Yes, not just a play time thing for us. It's how we live, 24/7 TPE. living it is the only way "
It's not compulsory |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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YES ![](/icons/s/twisted.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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flogger and paddle at the ready!!
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By *WB85Man 44 weeks ago
Staffordshire |
It's a no for me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Hell yes |
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Yes please xx
Love restraints and paddles and … well the list is toooooo long xx |
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With the right people it's amazing |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Yes but when the mood is right ! |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Yes always loved serving a dominant lady |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Soft Dom for me...I'm Sub mainly xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Yes with Sir ![](/icons/s/biggrin.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Really want to but need to find someone who will slowly build up the relationship and not just cause as much pain as poss on first outing.
Have had this three times now |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Love it, switch at heart so tend to go where my heart leads haha. The deal-breaker for me has always been if they have never heard the word aftercare then I step away |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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From what I’ve experienced yes |
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Yes, sometimes... variety is the spice of life for us x |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Heck yes if that’s an answer lol ![](/icons/s/2/cute.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Oh definitely |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"Heck yes if that’s an answer lol "
Your name gives it away haha |
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By *hoirCouple 44 weeks ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
Very much so but for God's sake only done properly and safely
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Yes but with safe words and actions……
S x |
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By *ythenMan 44 weeks ago
North Co. Dublin |
Haven’t to date but definitely something I’d like to explore more with FM long term partner… shes definitely dropping a lot of hints about same … verbally and physically |
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By *holoMan 44 weeks ago
Hastings |
Yes and I would love to do it today if anyone is near Hastings area |
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"Yes but with safe words and actions……
S x"
Yes, that’s always the best way. |
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"More BD than SM ... "
I'm the same. I enjoy the BD element but the SM side not so much for me. |
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Oh yes!
Naturally dominant. And love to explore sensual and kink play. |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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I’m back on here just to explore it and get more into it! |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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Yes definitely.
New friends welcome to try with us. X |
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Yes.
Love playing in the dungeons at Kestrels and Hellfire. |
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Yes!
In more ways than I envisaged
C |
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"Definite yes from us "
And it's a definite yes from me, as reflected in my Fab name![](/icons/s/wink.gif) |
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Yes with the right lady and after building up a relationship. |
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Hell yes ..... best thing ever |
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Yes yes yes yes yes yes please ![](/icons/s/2/halo.gif) |
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I've been doing bdsm it for over 30 years
And really enjoyed it .but at the moment very happy with vanilla .
But we get round to bdsm as time goes on . but as long your both happy that's all that counts . |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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Love it always had a sub side to me |
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Bring sub in the moment can be such a release x |
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By *dwalu2Couple 43 weeks ago
Bristol |
In the right circumstances with the right people, most definitely! ![](/icons/rainbow.png) |
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By *ean counterMan 43 weeks ago
Market Harborough/ Kettering |
Definitely yes but only with the right people. Tried it with people who weren't really in to it and it just doesn't work. I had a session with a very experienced dom on Saturday and that definitely worked Still aching now ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif) |
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Nope never ever ever ever. It's naughty and obscene. And and and..
Oh who am I kidding.....
Now get down yer knees, bow down and worship at the feet of your goddess.... ![](/icons/s/twisted.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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Yes love it |
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Absolutely!
Does it need to be 100% of the time. Totally not
Does it enhance sexual adventures. Of course ![](/icons/s/twisted.gif) |
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Yes but not had much experience with it. Love to meet a dom guy to use me regularly. |
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YES
The aftercare is important and they will love you so much more |
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Yes - it’s a regular part of our relationship but not something we do with others |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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Yes please!! |
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Yes but one mans BDSM is another’s vanilla. |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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Yep. |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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It's a big yes from me! |
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Deffo yes, got a set of ropes and cuffs stashed away for a rainy day ![](/icons/s/redface.gif) |
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A defo yes from me and even more so from the missus. Agree with prior comments that must be done with experienced person(s) both for safety and also maximum fulfilment from the experience. |
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"Is it something you enjoy
Yes
Sometimes
Never "
Yes yes yes!!! ![](/icons/s/twisted.gif) |
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Occasionally.....who am I kidding, as often as possible ![](/icons/s/2/cute.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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Only ever done light BDSM with my wife. Just blindfolded and tied to the bed if that counts.
I think that’s as far as she’d go but I’d be willing to try something a bit more hardcore. |
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"Only ever done light BDSM with my wife. Just blindfolded and tied to the bed if that counts.
I think that’s as far as she’d go but I’d be willing to try something a bit more hardcore. "
With you as sub or dom?
The buzz words are SSC Safe, Sane, Consensual are paramount for anyone looking to explore.
Boundaries must be discussed openly before hand for any session to be fun. Also the traffic light system is very useful instead of crazy safe words. |
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I dream of living a bdsm life 24/7 |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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Very appealing to us ![](/icons/s/2/cute.gif) |
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By *icentiousCouple 43 weeks ago
Up on them there hills |
Have been known to partake, however it’s an individual and context bound dynamic. |
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Not hurting anybody are we ? LOL X |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"Yes please Sir "
A respectful answer haha |
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"Have been known to partake, however it’s an individual and context bound dynamic."
Absolutely |
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On occasion it can be very nice - but only if everyone is happy and boundaries are agreed |
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Yes.
We're lifestyle kinksters so it's 24/7 in everyday life. |
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By *ayd100Man 43 weeks ago
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Don't think there should be boundaries, easy opt out |
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"Don't think there should be boundaries, easy opt out "
IT's simply ABUSE without boundaries and consent .! |
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By *ayd100Man 43 weeks ago
clitheroe |
Loses the edge if there are,up to the dom to decide |
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Yes I love it all aspects of it
And I’m prone too being both dominant and submissive during a good BDSM session |
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"Loses the edge if there are,up to the dom to decide "
That would be a red flag to me as a dom if a sub wanted no boundaries.
Far too dangerous.
Mr |
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"Don't think there should be boundaries, easy opt out
IT's simply ABUSE without boundaries and consent .!"
^^^^^^^^
Well said! |
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"Don't think there should be boundaries, easy opt out
IT's simply ABUSE without boundaries and consent .!
^^^^^^^^
Well said!"
All these "DOM"abies really make me mad BDSM is nothing without trust and consent.. from dom and sub |
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By *ty31Man 43 weeks ago
NW London |
Yes, it's good to try new things and it's interesting the sensations that can be experienced |
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"Loses the edge if there are,up to the dom to decide
That would be a red flag to me as a dom if a sub wanted no boundaries.
Far too dangerous.
Mr"
Agreed , its always the sub that sets the boundries. |
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By *alsam1Couple 42 weeks ago
Caister |
We met in a bdsm kik group and built from there.
We're always a Dom/sub dynamic but its moved to Stag/vixen these days but once a Dom/sub always a Dom/sub at the core. |
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By *alsam1Couple 42 weeks ago
Caister |
"Loses the edge if there are,up to the dom to decide
That would be a red flag to me as a dom if a sub wanted no boundaries.
Far too dangerous.
Mr
Agreed , its always the sub that sets the boundries."
Shows you're not into the bdsm scene just from that comment |
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"Is it something you enjoy
Yes
Sometimes
Never "
I have been curious to try this for so long. ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif) |
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Yes, very curious, love the dynamics |
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Yes. But unfortunately don’t get to enjoy it enough. Because life |
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Yes live a dom/sub lifestyle as much as family and work will let us |
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Of course! New video up showing some of the equipment |
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"Loses the edge if there are,up to the dom to decide
That would be a red flag to me as a dom if a sub wanted no boundaries.
Far too dangerous.
Mr
Agreed , its always the sub that sets the boundries.
Shows you're not into the bdsm scene just from that comment "
Please tell me you’re not seriously saying you expect subs to have no boundaries?! I really hope I’m misunderstanding but thanks for waving your red flag so energetically. |
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By *xkritTV/TS 42 weeks ago
High Wycombe (ish) |
"Please tell me you’re not seriously saying you expect subs to have no boundaries?! I really hope I’m misunderstanding but thanks for waving your red flag so energetically. "
^this!! All subs have boundaries... Some which are hard limits, some which are more shades of grey!! I'd be super worried if, beyond the fantasy of 'no limits' if a Dom or a sub actually thought play was completely without limitations |
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Hell yeah!
Although, as with everything, the mood and connection has to be right ![](/icons/s/wink.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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"Absolutely YES"
Dude so off topic your username is the best one I’ve seen! |
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Love dominating ladies with my strap on ![](/icons/s/biggrin.gif) |
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By *RWoodyCouple 42 weeks ago
Lincolnshire |
No not our thing at all.
J x |
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By *icentiousCouple 42 weeks ago
Up on them there hills |
"Absolutely YES"
Odd, what defines you over a pillow princess, in a positive way? |
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They’re not hurting anybody are they. |
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By *r_LickCouple 42 weeks ago
aberdeen |
Not really BDSM but Mrs Lick loves me laying on my back as she rides me, then she will put a pillow behind my head to brink it up and she leans forward placing her nipple in my mouth to suck as she rides my cock. This drives her crazy because her nipples are so sensitive.
Then as she cums she pulls my head tighter so I can hardly breathe mmmmmmm
When she’s finished she starts to ride again she slowly pulls up so just the tip of my cock is inside then slowly down again teasing me she knows this is a big turn on for me. She continues to do this and picks up the pace when she hears me moan knowing it won’t be long before I cum. Then as she feels my cock swell and our breathing is all over the place just as I start to cum she will reach round her back and start to slap my balls making my cock jump and twitch as I let go and my cum shoots deep inside her !
But she continues to slap me making my cock pump harder every time she slaps my balls by this time we both are making noises like animals but it’s so good. Balls are aching but cock still pumping with every slap and Mrs Lick is still cumming !
Then she just flops forward on my chest kisses me, gets off and lets my cum dribble out of her over my cock and stomach then says “clean up youre mess you dirty fucker”
I love it when she’s in that mood so I’m hoping she’s going to try more rough things with me ![](/icons/s/twisted.gif) |
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Love it , fell in love with it after my first in person serving a domme ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif) |
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Is there a punishment for the wrong answer? ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif) |
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"Is there a punishment for the wrong answer? " You can dip in and out of everything in life depending on who you meet in this life |
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Yes definitely with the correct people |
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"Is there a punishment for the wrong answer? "
Ha ha brilliant ![](/icons/s/biggrin.gif) |
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