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Good day all 
Recently returned back on the scene. I get approached often as to how I’ve been succesful.
It’s as simple as this.. Dont be a Dick.. No matter who your messaging if it’s couples address them both. Single Man/Woman add a bit about you and always a photo/s.
Being a single male on here, many has given us a bad name. Saying weird shit, and no wonder you don’t get a reply.
Get photo verified, get verified by going to a club and you are on your way.
Happy Fabbing
The Gentleman
P.s my DM’s are open to couples and single women |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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Don't be a dick should be a checkmark you have to tick when folks make an account on this site.
But well said OP, aome effort and basic decency go a long way |
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"Don't be a dick should be a checkmark you have to tick when folks make an account on this site.
But well said OP, aome effort and basic decency go a long way"
It's one of my favourite things to tell anyone in the lifestyle to be fair lol x
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"Good day all
Recently returned back on the scene. I get approached often as to how I’ve been succesful.
It’s as simple as this.. Dont be a Dick.. No matter who your messaging if it’s couples address them both. Single Man/Woman add a bit about you and always a photo/s.
Being a single male on here, many has given us a bad name. Saying weird shit, and no wonder you don’t get a reply.
Get photo verified, get verified by going to a club and you are on your way.
Happy Fabbing
The Gentleman
P.s my DM’s are open to couples and single women"
It’s crazy me that “saying weird shit” and “don’t be a dick” has to be explained to some people.
I’ve been here 6 weeks (admittedly not my first rodeo) and met a three women. Your profile is the your virtual smile, make sure it’s enticing. Be relaxed and fun to talk to! The rest will take care of itself. |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"Good day all
Recently returned back on the scene. I get approached often as to how I’ve been succesful.
It’s as simple as this.. Dont be a Dick.. No matter who your messaging if it’s couples address them both. Single Man/Woman add a bit about you and always a photo/s.
Being a single male on here, many has given us a bad name. Saying weird shit, and no wonder you don’t get a reply.
Get photo verified, get verified by going to a club and you are on your way.
Happy Fabbing
The Gentleman
P.s my DM’s are open to couples and single women"
thats exactly how I see it when messaging sadly so many have been dickheads on here it stops a lot of people even wanting to open messages. I tend to not send many messages but when I do they are always polite and respectful |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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Hate the way single males get the raw end of the deal on here .. being a dick isn't gender specific there's alot of women on here that's rude obnoxious and down right delusional and think they can get away with talking to men like dirt .. so I'd say women are as much if not more of a dick at times ( disclaimer there is good and bad on both sides ) . |
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"Hate the way single males get the raw end of the deal on here .. being a dick isn't gender specific there's alot of women on here that's rude obnoxious and down right delusional and think they can get away with talking to men like dirt .. so I'd say women are as much if not more of a dick at times ( disclaimer there is good and bad on both sides ) . "
I can vouch for that.
Many women on fab are rude |
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By *ornycougaWoman 40 weeks ago
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"Hate the way single males get the raw end of the deal on here .. being a dick isn't gender specific there's alot of women on here that's rude obnoxious and down right delusional and think they can get away with talking to men like dirt .. so I'd say women are as much if not more of a dick at times ( disclaimer there is good and bad on both sides ) . "
I think the issue is the quantity of dickish behaviour rather than the quality of it. Do many women routinely bombard a man's inbox with unsolicited pics of their gaping gash, tell them they want to ride their cock till it falls off, then abuse them when they delete the message or say "no thanks"? |
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When I sent a message to a couple or a female, I tried to be as honest as possible as nice as possible not because I have to because I want to and I always read profiles. I’m super surprised that not many people do. |
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"Hate the way single males get the raw end of the deal on here .. being a dick isn't gender specific there's alot of women on here that's rude obnoxious and down right delusional and think they can get away with talking to men like dirt .. so I'd say women are as much if not more of a dick at times ( disclaimer there is good and bad on both sides ) . "
This. We get plenty of interactions with single females where it very quickly becomes obvious it is all about them, they get some form of kick about time wasting or are so fickle/grass is always greener they constantly want the new shiny thing an never see anything through.
Men do not have the monopoly on bad behaviour on here.
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Club meets really are a great way to start making new connections.
Might not happen overnight, but if you do find the confidence to commit to the lifestyle, you will be rewarded, perhaps in ways you didn't anticipate...
And aye: don't be a dick  |
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Also it needs pointing out that no matter how well you act on here, good profile/pictures and being polite in your messages, If you aren't what people are looking for just move on, Being a "good guy" means fuck all if there is no sexual attraction, I've said no thanks to more Women/couples then I've had meets |
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By *astpoetMan 40 weeks ago
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I tend to find the best way to figure it out is to check if the area below the stem is soft to the touch but not too mushy.
No wait...
That's how to tell if an avocado is ripe.
Fucked if i know then |
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"Hate the way single males get the raw end of the deal on here .. being a dick isn't gender specific there's alot of women on here that's rude obnoxious and down right delusional and think they can get away with talking to men like dirt .. so I'd say women are as much if not more of a dick at times ( disclaimer there is good and bad on both sides ) .
This. We get plenty of interactions with single females where it very quickly becomes obvious it is all about them, they get some form of kick about time wasting or are so fickle/grass is always greener they constantly want the new shiny thing an never see anything through.
Men do not have the monopoly on bad behaviour on here.
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Oh. Really?!?
I'm actually a relative newcomer (so to speak ) to Fab, but enjoying the experience very much; some women can be time-wasters too then?
C'est la vie I suppose x |
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"I tend to find the best way to figure it out is to check if the area below the stem is soft to the touch but not too mushy.
No wait...
That's how to tell if an avocado is ripe.
Fucked if i know then"
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"Hate the way single males get the raw end of the deal on here .. being a dick isn't gender specific there's alot of women on here that's rude obnoxious and down right delusional and think they can get away with talking to men like dirt .. so I'd say women are as much if not more of a dick at times ( disclaimer there is good and bad on both sides ) .
I think the issue is the quantity of dickish behaviour rather than the quality of it. Do many women routinely bombard a man's inbox with unsolicited pics of their gaping gash, tell them they want to ride their cock till it falls off, then abuse them when they delete the message or say "no thanks"? "
This is true, however I think some women find other ways to be abusive lol, whether quantity or quality probably best not to be abusive, just an opinion |
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"I tend to find the best way to figure it out is to check if the area below the stem is soft to the touch but not too mushy.
No wait...
That's how to tell if an avocado is ripe.
Fucked if i know then"
How do you know if Brie is ripe?
Ultimately these threads just make me laugh, there isn't a formula to fab, similar that there isn't a formula to a great many things in this world.
Just don't be a dick is pretty much universal in life. |
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"Hate the way single males get the raw end of the deal on here .. being a dick isn't gender specific there's alot of women on here that's rude obnoxious and down right delusional and think they can get away with talking to men like dirt .. so I'd say women are as much if not more of a dick at times ( disclaimer there is good and bad on both sides ) . "
You have a very valid point here |
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"Hate the way single males get the raw end of the deal on here .. being a dick isn't gender specific there's alot of women on here that's rude obnoxious and down right delusional and think they can get away with talking to men like dirt .. so I'd say women are as much if not more of a dick at times ( disclaimer there is good and bad on both sides ) . "
This |
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Do you have any advice on getting meets and verifications? I’m not a dick, photo verified and has a club meet and webcam but haven’t able to get a meet apart from that.
I message but get left unread or deleted. I message complimenting their profile and pics or something related in their bio. |
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"Do you have any advice on getting meets and verifications? I’m not a dick, photo verified and has a club meet and webcam but haven’t able to get a meet apart from that.
I message but get left unread or deleted. I message complimenting their profile and pics or something related in their bio. "
Clubs!
Confidence!
Competence!
And, aye: don't be a dick |
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By *ornycougaWoman 40 weeks ago
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"Hate the way single males get the raw end of the deal on here .. being a dick isn't gender specific there's alot of women on here that's rude obnoxious and down right delusional and think they can get away with talking to men like dirt .. so I'd say women are as much if not more of a dick at times ( disclaimer there is good and bad on both sides ) .
I think the issue is the quantity of dickish behaviour rather than the quality of it. Do many women routinely bombard a man's inbox with unsolicited pics of their gaping gash, tell them they want to ride their cock till it falls off, then abuse them when they delete the message or say "no thanks"?
This is true, however I think some women find other ways to be abusive lol, whether quantity or quality probably best not to be abusive, just an opinion "
Totally agree with that. If we could all be one happy, respectful, fun loving swinging family it would be awesome!  |
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"Do you have any advice on getting meets and verifications? I’m not a dick, photo verified and has a club meet and webcam but haven’t able to get a meet apart from that.
I message but get left unread or deleted. I message complimenting their profile and pics or something related in their bio.
Clubs!
Confidence!
Competence!
And, aye: don't be a dick "
I do need to go to a club more. There’s a local social I went to which was fun. I messaged about others but out the age limit or was deleted
Confidence and competence when approaching people at these events.
I only have that in my friends only pics |
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"Hate the way single males get the raw end of the deal on here .. being a dick isn't gender specific there's alot of women on here that's rude obnoxious and down right delusional and think they can get away with talking to men like dirt .. so I'd say women are as much if not more of a dick at times ( disclaimer there is good and bad on both sides ) .
I think the issue is the quantity of dickish behaviour rather than the quality of it. Do many women routinely bombard a man's inbox with unsolicited pics of their gaping gash, tell them they want to ride their cock till it falls off, then abuse them when they delete the message or say "no thanks"?
This is true, however I think some women find other ways to be abusive lol, whether quantity or quality probably best not to be abusive, just an opinion
Totally agree with that. If we could all be one happy, respectful, fun loving swinging family it would be awesome! "
Ooft.
Wouldn't it just?
Imagine your main street on a Saturday afternoon. People fucking anywhere and everywhere. And this would be normal!
Soz.
Might be getting a wee bit ahead of myself here |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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Well said OP
Single guys seriously need to ease up on the pressure and hassle, and realise that single women get a huge amount of messages daily/weekly and cannot keep up with everyone who gets in contact..I myself the other day had 1111 unread msgs, plus opened msgs, requests to go on cam,and a life outside of fab to juggle..x
Getting arsey with me, sending me msgs calling me impolite, calling me names is hardly going to make me want to reply and meet up! |
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"Do you have any advice on getting meets and verifications? I’m not a dick, photo verified and has a club meet and webcam but haven’t able to get a meet apart from that.
I message but get left unread or deleted. I message complimenting their profile and pics or something related in their bio.
Clubs!
Confidence!
Competence!
And, aye: don't be a dick
I do need to go to a club more. There’s a local social I went to which was fun. I messaged about others but out the age limit or was deleted
Confidence and competence when approaching people at these events.
I only have that in my friends only pics "
"I only have that in my friends only pics"
So, you have Fab friends mucker. That's a good thing, no? Build on that.
And btw... why do veris mean that much to you?
Is the quality of experience (not the PR 'quantity') not enough?
Shouldn't need saying tbh, but not every hole is a goal 
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"Well said OP
Single guys seriously need to ease up on the pressure and hassle, and realise that single women get a huge amount of messages daily/weekly and cannot keep up with everyone who gets in contact..I myself the other day had 1111 unread msgs, plus opened msgs, requests to go on cam,and a life outside of fab to juggle..x
Getting arsey with me, sending me msgs calling me impolite, calling me names is hardly going to make me want to reply and meet up! "
You lucky lady
I think volume of messages is unfortunately common with women on Fab, from those I know.
And 99.9% BS, right?
Wish I was that popular  |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"Hate the way single males get the raw end of the deal on here .. being a dick isn't gender specific there's alot of women on here that's rude obnoxious and down right delusional and think they can get away with talking to men like dirt .. so I'd say women are as much if not more of a dick at times ( disclaimer there is good and bad on both sides ) .
I think the issue is the quantity of dickish behaviour rather than the quality of it. Do many women routinely bombard a man's inbox with unsolicited pics of their gaping gash, tell them they want to ride their cock till it falls off, then abuse them when they delete the message or say "no thanks"? "
I think you are both right some women on here are are down right rude and not in a good way but i really don't get the Dick pic thing when its not asked for . though if any women would like to send me tit of pussy pics I'm not going to complain but no I would never send any kind of pic unless it was asked for. A polite no thanks or yes please is nice to get but not expected no answer is a kind of answer and on here excepted as women get so much attention. its all about respecting boundary's |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"Do you have any advice on getting meets and verifications? I’m not a dick, photo verified and has a club meet and webcam but haven’t able to get a meet apart from that.
I message but get left unread or deleted. I message complimenting their profile and pics or something related in their bio.
Clubs!
Confidence!
Competence!
And, aye: don't be a dick
I do need to go to a club more. There’s a local social I went to which was fun. I messaged about others but out the age limit or was deleted
Confidence and competence when approaching people at these events.
I only have that in my friends only pics
"I only have that in my friends only pics"
So, you have Fab friends mucker. That's a good thing, no? Build on that.
And btw... why do veris mean that much to you?
Is the quality of experience (not the PR 'quantity') not enough?
Shouldn't need saying tbh, but not every hole is a goal
So to speak "
Haha that’s true. I like the suspense too. Gotta have some secrets haha
It’s not. More about wanting to meet someone than verifications. It’s helps to show people what you’re like
Haha you’re right there. Finding that special someone is hard
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By *astpoetMan 40 weeks ago
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"I tend to find the best way to figure it out is to check if the area below the stem is soft to the touch but not too mushy.
No wait...
That's how to tell if an avocado is ripe.
Fucked if i know then
How do you know if Brie is ripe?
Ultimately these threads just make me laugh, there isn't a formula to fab, similar that there isn't a formula to a great many things in this world.
Just don't be a dick is pretty much universal in life. "
Don’t take it to seriously, have a laugh and what will be will be.
No one is entitled to anything in life, even less so a place like this, so just sit back and enjoy the ride (or at least have a sense of humour if it doesn’t come) |
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"I tend to find the best way to figure it out is to check if the area below the stem is soft to the touch but not too mushy.
No wait...
That's how to tell if an avocado is ripe.
Fucked if i know then
How do you know if Brie is ripe?
Ultimately these threads just make me laugh, there isn't a formula to fab, similar that there isn't a formula to a great many things in this world.
Just don't be a dick is pretty much universal in life.
Don’t take it to seriously, have a laugh and what will be will be.
No one is entitled to anything in life, even less so a place like this, so just sit back and enjoy the ride (or at least have a sense of humour if it doesn’t come)"
Is tye correct answer, I took this to seriously once upon a time, had a break now I'm back and basically what will be will be. |
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"Do you have any advice on getting meets and verifications? I’m not a dick, photo verified and has a club meet and webcam but haven’t able to get a meet apart from that.
I message but get left unread or deleted. I message complimenting their profile and pics or something related in their bio.
Clubs!
Confidence!
Competence!
And, aye: don't be a dick
I do need to go to a club more. There’s a local social I went to which was fun. I messaged about others but out the age limit or was deleted
Confidence and competence when approaching people at these events.
I only have that in my friends only pics
"I only have that in my friends only pics"
So, you have Fab friends mucker. That's a good thing, no? Build on that.
And btw... why do veris mean that much to you?
Is the quality of experience (not the PR 'quantity') not enough?
Shouldn't need saying tbh, but not every hole is a goal
So to speak
Haha that’s true. I like the suspense too. Gotta have some secrets haha
It’s not. More about wanting to meet someone than verifications. It’s helps to show people what you’re like
Haha you’re right there. Finding that special someone is hard
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Agree 100%.
Finding that special someone really is... hard.
So to speak |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"Hate the way single males get the raw end of the deal on here .. being a dick isn't gender specific there's alot of women on here that's rude obnoxious and down right delusional and think they can get away with talking to men like dirt .. so I'd say women are as much if not more of a dick at times ( disclaimer there is good and bad on both sides ) .
I think the issue is the quantity of dickish behaviour rather than the quality of it. Do many women routinely bombard a man's inbox with unsolicited pics of their gaping gash, tell them they want to ride their cock till it falls off, then abuse them when they delete the message or say "no thanks"? "
I get that but the site is littered with double standards ,I've had my fair share of abusive mails when I've been called a number of names when I've said no thanks , but I've had many more pleasant and respectful mails , the ratio of male to female is heavily set against male so perhaps makes it seem men are worse , but I've come across plenty of rude females when the think it's OK to speak to men like crap all because a guy dares to speak to them , heaven forbid , after all its not as if it's a site geared towards communication (oops it is ) .. the point I was making is that there is rudeness on both parts but with many more men onsite than women maybe seems the fault lies there when it doesn't really . |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"Good day all
Recently returned back on the scene. I get approached often as to how I’ve been succesful.
It’s as simple as this.. Dont be a Dick.. No matter who your messaging if it’s couples address them both. Single Man/Woman add a bit about you and always a photo/s.
Being a single male on here, many has given us a bad name. Saying weird shit, and no wonder you don’t get a reply.
Get photo verified, get verified by going to a club and you are on your way.
Happy Fabbing
The Gentleman
P.s my DM’s are open to couples and single women"
All incredibly obvious things all of which I've certainly done over the years at every turn messaging the ladies, but literally a handful of chatty polite women in years of weekly activity on this site. It's really not a place for single guys, not these days. |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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It’s rare on this site that a woman has to approach a guy…HOWEVER….there have been two guys now where I have made the first move. One doesn’t use the forums but the way his profile reads, the pics he chose to display and his verifications had me sold (and I was bang on the money!) and the second…well I’m expecting great things  he’s a no nonsense good guy, and he’s realllllllly nice to look at |
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By *MCMan 40 weeks ago
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"It’s rare on this site that a woman has to approach a guy…HOWEVER….there have been two guys now where I have made the first move. One doesn’t use the forums but the way his profile reads, the pics he chose to display and his verifications had me sold (and I was bang on the money!) and the second…well I’m expecting great things he’s a no nonsense good guy, and he’s realllllllly nice to look at "
Weirds me out when you get soppy about me… Stick to being a dick to me  |
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"It’s rare on this site that a woman has to approach a guy…HOWEVER….there have been two guys now where I have made the first move. One doesn’t use the forums but the way his profile reads, the pics he chose to display and his verifications had me sold (and I was bang on the money!) and the second…well I’m expecting great things he’s a no nonsense good guy, and he’s realllllllly nice to look at
Weirds me out when you get soppy about me… Stick to being a dick to me "
Bold of you to assume  |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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There are also a LOT of females on here that are just really awful! Obnoxious, rude, borderline bullying behavior.
Being a complete shithead isn't gender neutral.. |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"There are also a LOT of females on here that are just really awful! Obnoxious, rude, borderline bullying behavior.
Being a complete shithead isn't gender neutral.."
This is so true! I’ve seen it! There’s an air of entitlement where some people just believe that as we are all here because of similar interest that it’s a free for all brawl…some of us have a little decorum (I do say LITTLE) |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"There are also a LOT of females on here that are just really awful! Obnoxious, rude, borderline bullying behavior.
Being a complete shithead isn't gender neutral.."
Experienced a whole load of that from many of the womenfolk unfortunately hence moving on. |
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By *oxy jWoman 40 weeks ago
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anyone can be nasty anyone can be abusive ive had it from couples before and i can remember a woman once in 30 years on this scene so yes anyone but from my experience its been mainly men but there a reason for that and that the massive number of men on the site that makes men stick out ... some but some of alot is going to be quite a few no point in wetting your pabties over it its just a fact of how the site is badly out numbered with men....
all this oh the bad guys ruin it for us good guys is bolloxs too they ruin it for themselves and nobody else some men would rather hide behind that excuse for getting nowhere rather than admit no one yet has wanted to meet them ... its a attraction rejection scene and with the massive overkill of men on here compared to women and couple thats a hell of alot of rejection that gets handled badly ...
also theres a difference to being confident and to the point blunt to being nasty far far to many get that mixed up ''oh they are nasty because they wont meet me'' its simple if rejection is something you cant handle then dont swing...
and as for asking for advice on how to write a profile on your self well if you dont know no one else will...
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By *MCMan 40 weeks ago
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"It’s rare on this site that a woman has to approach a guy…HOWEVER….there have been two guys now where I have made the first move. One doesn’t use the forums but the way his profile reads, the pics he chose to display and his verifications had me sold (and I was bang on the money!) and the second…well I’m expecting great things he’s a no nonsense good guy, and he’s realllllllly nice to look at
Weirds me out when you get soppy about me… Stick to being a dick to me
Bold of you to assume "
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By *MCMan 40 weeks ago
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"There are also a LOT of females on here that are just really awful! Obnoxious, rude, borderline bullying behavior.
Being a complete shithead isn't gender neutral.."
Pahaha, I could easily name a few… their reaction to rejection is like a child.
The barrage of messages I received the other day was ridiculous, and the fact she’s still writing fab status about me, must have really left an impression |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"It’s rare on this site that a woman has to approach a guy…HOWEVER….there have been two guys now where I have made the first move. One doesn’t use the forums but the way his profile reads, the pics he chose to display and his verifications had me sold (and I was bang on the money!) and the second…well I’m expecting great things he’s a no nonsense good guy, and he’s realllllllly nice to look at
Weirds me out when you get soppy about me… Stick to being a dick to me
Bold of you to assume
You telling me to look at your comment gave it away "
yeah thought you could probably take a hint or 6 from those guys sweetheart  |
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By *MCMan 40 weeks ago
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"It’s rare on this site that a woman has to approach a guy…HOWEVER….there have been two guys now where I have made the first move. One doesn’t use the forums but the way his profile reads, the pics he chose to display and his verifications had me sold (and I was bang on the money!) and the second…well I’m expecting great things he’s a no nonsense good guy, and he’s realllllllly nice to look at
Weirds me out when you get soppy about me… Stick to being a dick to me
Bold of you to assume
You telling me to look at your comment gave it away yeah thought you could probably take a hint or 6 from those guys sweetheart "
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"It’s rare on this site that a woman has to approach a guy…HOWEVER….there have been two guys now where I have made the first move. One doesn’t use the forums but the way his profile reads, the pics he chose to display and his verifications had me sold (and I was bang on the money!) and the second…well I’m expecting great things he’s a no nonsense good guy, and he’s realllllllly nice to look at
Weirds me out when you get soppy about me… Stick to being a dick to me
Bold of you to assume
You telling me to look at your comment gave it away yeah thought you could probably take a hint or 6 from those guys sweetheart
You’ll get praise when you deserve it Princess. "
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"Hate the way single males get the raw end of the deal on here .. being a dick isn't gender specific there's alot of women on here that's rude obnoxious and down right delusional and think they can get away with talking to men like dirt .. so I'd say women are as much if not more of a dick at times ( disclaimer there is good and bad on both sides ) .
I think the issue is the quantity of dickish behaviour rather than the quality of it. Do many women routinely bombard a man's inbox with unsolicited pics of their gaping gash, tell them they want to ride their cock till it falls off, then abuse them when they delete the message or say "no thanks"?
This is true, however I think some women find other ways to be abusive lol, whether quantity or quality probably best not to be abusive, just an opinion
Totally agree with that. If we could all be one happy, respectful, fun loving swinging family it would be awesome! "
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It's just like the wider world on here good and bad I've been lucky I've met some really nice folks on here. I tend not to get hung up if anyone is a bit narky and gravitate to the positive and friendly folk. There are plenty of them about both couples and singles. Happy fabbing everyone |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"Hate the way single males get the raw end of the deal on here .. being a dick isn't gender specific there's alot of women on here that's rude obnoxious and down right delusional and think they can get away with talking to men like dirt .. so I'd say women are as much if not more of a dick at times ( disclaimer there is good and bad on both sides ) . "
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"Hate the way single males get the raw end of the deal on here .. being a dick isn't gender specific there's alot of women on here that's rude obnoxious and down right delusional and think they can get away with talking to men like dirt .. so I'd say women are as much if not more of a dick at times ( disclaimer there is good and bad on both sides ) .
I think the issue is the quantity of dickish behaviour rather than the quality of it. Do many women routinely bombard a man's inbox with unsolicited pics of their gaping gash, tell them they want to ride their cock till it falls off, then abuse them when they delete the message or say "no thanks"? "
I agree about unsolicited pics but in regard to abuse when I say no then yes I've had quite a bit from people who aren't used to being told no.
They may not have bombarded me with pics but they have bombarded me with demands in their opening messages telling me what I had to do to have any hope of ever meeting them and then telling me how they could end my fab journey because of who they were and their standing in the swinging community as soon as I refused.
I don't send messages so these are all people who have contacted me rather than the other way around and they make up the bulk of my block list.
There are 42 on that list and 28 of those are women and couples who have been directly abusive or pestered over a period of time. |
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Good initial advice from the OP and we would add, don't send unsolicited dick pics on your first message...
Its guaranteed for us not to reply and I know a lot of other couples feel the same.
A decent polite message is going to do a lot more for you. |
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"Isn’t what OP said just common sense, or indeed sign of a ‘normal’ person ?
Unfortunately in recent years the quality of people on this site has definitely gone downhill though.
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We were just talking about this last night...So let us tell you about the last couple of days...
On Saturday we were speaking to a single bi guy who was local and had a hand full of veris and a couple of nice piccs...We arranged a social for last night after swapping numbers. Yesterday morning I thought I would drop him a message to confirm all was still on as Mrs was coming back from being away with work and the reply was..."Someone has dropped out of our snooker league and I am playing in that"! Like when was he thinking of telling us??!! Single guys bemoan their lot on here but are happy to fxxk people around like that....  |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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“I get approached often to how I’ve been successful”
This is like influencers saying “a lot of you have been asking…” as an excuse to post, when nobody asked. |
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By *limeyoMan 40 weeks ago
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"Isn’t what OP said just common sense, or indeed sign of a ‘normal’ person ?
Unfortunately in recent years the quality of people on this site has definitely gone downhill though.
We were just talking about this last night...So let us tell you about the last couple of days...
On Saturday we were speaking to a single bi guy who was local and had a hand full of veris and a couple of nice piccs...We arranged a social for last night after swapping numbers. Yesterday morning I thought I would drop him a message to confirm all was still on as Mrs was coming back from being away with work and the reply was..."Someone has dropped out of our snooker league and I am playing in that"! Like when was he thinking of telling us??!! Single guys bemoan their lot on here but are happy to fxxk people around like that.... "
Yep and 2 days I was talking to a couple about meeting yesterday. I changed my day to accommodate. Then complete silence.
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"“I get approached often to how I’ve been successful”
This is like influencers saying “a lot of you have been asking…” as an excuse to post, when nobody asked."
Thanks for that, where in all honesty im just trying to give advice for newbie guys on the scene, to not be a Dick and a perfect example above |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"“I get approached often to how I’ve been successful”
This is like influencers saying “a lot of you have been asking…” as an excuse to post, when nobody asked.
Thanks for that, where in all honesty im just trying to give advice for newbie guys on the scene, to not be a Dick and a perfect example above "
I’m not being a dick, just pointing out the obvious.
you were pretending that everyone’s asking you - which isn’t possible since you block males from messaging you.
This post was a way for you to advertise, as clearly signposted in the end of your post. Nothing wrong with that. We all do it, including me. |
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"“I get approached often to how I’ve been successful”
This is like influencers saying “a lot of you have been asking…” as an excuse to post, when nobody asked.
Thanks for that, where in all honesty im just trying to give advice for newbie guys on the scene, to not be a Dick and a perfect example above "
There have been hundreds of advice threads for men over the years but as many have said, being a dick is an excellent filter and advising people how not to be one is as useless as giving profile advice.
All it does is help people hide their true persona.
In the years I've been using the forums I can only remember one thread offering advice to women and couples and the op got shredded for daring to do so.
The usual old tropes were wheeled out about how women and couples will get inundated with messages regardless of how little effort they put into their profiles so why should they pay any heed to advice threads?
Even the advice about using their filters gets thrown back with a "why should we have to?" response.
And yet how many threads have there been from women and couples about the quality of those thousands of messages they receive or the lack of respect shown by people contacting them.
A lazy profile is a lazy profile regardless and will invite lazy messages.
Demanding or expecting respect while showing none is yet another bugbear for many including most of the single women they feel entitled to a response from.
I'll balance this by saying that I am also one half of a couples profile here and we have tight filters which means we have received less than 40 messages in total in 2 years.
We also chat to people as equals and zero expectations and have had virtually no abuse as a result.
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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"“I get approached often to how I’ve been successful”
This is like influencers saying “a lot of you have been asking…” as an excuse to post, when nobody asked.
Thanks for that, where in all honesty im just trying to give advice for newbie guys on the scene, to not be a Dick and a perfect example above "
Sometimes the point is indeed proven…it fell into your lap with this one |
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