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Who brings the condoms?
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By *rMrs84 OP Couple 43 weeks ago
Doncaster |
We’re aware that there’s no one size fits all here but wanted to raise the question.
You’re a couple, meeting for a full swap, or pick up a guy at a club. Who do you expect to provide the condoms? We always carry several but we’ve had a few guys come join us in a play room and act as if they forgot them once they get there. They happily accept and put one on when we offer it but we often wonder were they just hoping for bareback or is it assumed the lady provides? |
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"We’re aware that there’s no one size fits all here but wanted to raise the question.
You’re a couple, meeting for a full swap, or pick up a guy at a club. Who do you expect to provide the condoms? We always carry several but we’ve had a few guys come join us in a play room and act as if they forgot them once they get there. They happily accept and put one on when we offer it but we often wonder were they just hoping for bareback or is it assumed the lady provides?"
I always take condoms to a meet when I play solo and when my wife and I play as a couple. Not sure why guys feel the comfort is more important than safety but I dont take the chance with my health or more importantly my wifes. |
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We’d expect them to have some, but our preference is they use ours.
Have your seen some of the screwed up packages stuffed under a wrist watch in a club? No ta . Although to be fair, we’ve probably filtered those out already |
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By *rMrs84 OP Couple 43 weeks ago
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"We’d expect them to have some, but our preference is they use ours.
Have your seen some of the screwed up packages stuffed under a wrist watch in a club? No ta . Although to be fair, we’ve probably filtered those out already "
We’re exactly the same. We know where ours have been.
That said there’s an argument for size appropriateness. |
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We always took our own because I'm sensitive to latex. Everyone except one man brought their own too. He was quite new to swinging, just out of a long marriage and maybe just didn't think they'd be needed. |
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We would always have them with us and would expect other men to do the same, especially as size and type is a personal thing. The only time we've not used our own is when we've played with women who have had latex allergies which we weren't aware of beforehand. |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"We would always have them with us and would expect other men to do the same, especially as size and type is a personal thing. The only time we've not used our own is when we've played with women who have had latex allergies which we weren't aware of beforehand. "
Skyn condoms latex free are always good  |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"The guy should have them. He knows the size and brand fits best for him.
A women gave me a condom once and was to small. "
I had the same problem, killed the fun as the condom wouldn't fit, her husband was visibly smaller than me. I went to get my own from the bag, she sucked me and we continued to the happy end. |
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They were definitely hoping for bareback, in my opinion.
I would expect the guy to have his own condoms (preferably ones that fit him well and that he is used to) but I always have some spare ones, too. |
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"Both of you should, you can't trust the other party to bring some."
Totally this.
If there's any chance I'm going to be using my cock then I take some as I have a preferred brand and I'm a little large. But I'd also expect them to be provided.
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I don’t understand how this is even a question. I always bring my own as I know what fits and how they feel.
I get that some ladies have issues with certain materials so I usually bring a couple of different types if she doesn’t like my first choice. |
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By *ister_EMan 43 weeks ago
Hayling Island |
I only play safe, so I always carry condoms. Before meeting I also check if they have any brand preferences or allergies etc.
On the one occasion I've forgotten them in the car, the couple I was meeting had their own, so it saved me an embarrassing trip out to my car. 
Haven't been to a club or party for years, but I used to carry a couple under an elastic band around my arm.
My thought is, that if you want to use condoms, then you should always have some with you.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"I'd expect both to have them, your sexual health is your own responsibility.
Mrs "
This. However, I can't see a reason that a guy wouldn't have his own unless he intended not to use them. |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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I don't bring any to socials as I don't want my mind get on possibly getting action after rather just a good time go with flow. I rarely go to meets/clubs cause don't have any usually so mmh. So depends on scenario I suppose. But that's just me |
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I think it’s interesting that people are saying that the women should bring them too just in case the guy forgets.
Like, I’m not into encouraging men’s poor behavior. If he thought he was going to get away with potentially putting my health/life at risk and murdering my finances for the rest of my life *without prior negotistion* then honestly he’s not someone I would *want* to have sex with at that point.
Perhaps if more women on the scene put their foot down and said that if the guy doesn’t take a bit of responsibility and actually respect the women he wants to put his willy in then fewer of them would think they could get away with it. |
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By *iasubTV/TS 43 weeks ago
Ilkeston |
Both should. I always have them however if they have a different size or require latex free than thats on them to sort it out
You can tell the ones who “forgot” deliberately and those who genuinely forgot |
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"We’re aware that there’s no one size fits all here but wanted to raise the question.
You’re a couple, meeting for a full swap, or pick up a guy at a club. Who do you expect to provide the condoms? We always carry several but we’ve had a few guys come join us in a play room and act as if they forgot them once they get there. They happily accept and put one on when we offer it but we often wonder were they just hoping for bareback or is it assumed the lady provides?"
They probably the ones who are playing away 
We always carry them, definitely no glove no love  |
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Condoms are like health and safety in the office. On the one hand, it is everyone's responsibility. On the other, it is very specific people's responsibilities. If you have a penis or want to get with one, carry condoms. It's not difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"Condoms are like health and safety in the office. On the one hand, it is everyone's responsibility. On the other, it is very specific people's responsibilities. If you have a penis or want to get with one, carry condoms. It's not difficult."
Bet me to it. Was gonna say the same thought the exact sane whilst having breakfast this morning. |
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"I think it’s interesting that people are saying that the women should bring them too just in case the guy forgets.
Like, I’m not into encouraging men’s poor behavior. If he thought he was going to get away with potentially putting my health/life at risk and murdering my finances for the rest of my life *without prior negotistion* then honestly he’s not someone I would *want* to have sex with at that point.
Perhaps if more women on the scene put their foot down and said that if the guy doesn’t take a bit of responsibility and actually respect the women he wants to put his willy in then fewer of them would think they could get away with it."
Exactly this! While I always have an assortment of spares, I’m not willing to play with an unsafe player ever. I always politely decline and wish them all the best.
The same goes for oral, I won’t blow raw. If they won’t rubber up if they want oral, I’m not putting my health at risk. It’s just as likely to spread infections and so many don’t test all orifices so go around thinking they’re “safe”. |
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By *oxy jWoman 43 weeks ago
somerset |
the guy who needs them ...its that simple if he turns up and then says ive not brought them then he has 100% wasted his and my time ..
i do keep latex free condoms in just incase guy bring wrong condoms but if he turns up with none then to me that means he simply dont care about his health or others |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"Condoms are like health and safety in the office. On the one hand, it is everyone's responsibility. On the other, it is very specific people's responsibilities. If you have a penis or want to get with one, carry condoms. It's not difficult."
This. |
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"We’re aware that there’s no one size fits all here but wanted to raise the question.
You’re a couple, meeting for a full swap, or pick up a guy at a club. Who do you expect to provide the condoms? We always carry several but we’ve had a few guys come join us in a play room and act as if they forgot them once they get there. They happily accept and put one on when we offer it but we often wonder were they just hoping for bareback or is it assumed the lady provides?"
I always have them with me, club or private meet. I have been asked by couples or women to use Skyn condoms due to allergies though. I think everyone should have them if they are intending to meet and have sex. I think those single guys who turn up without them do intend to have bb, if I have forgotten on the way to a meet, I stop and buy some, simples... |
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"We’re aware that there’s no one size fits all here but wanted to raise the question.
You’re a couple, meeting for a full swap, or pick up a guy at a club. Who do you expect to provide the condoms? We always carry several but we’ve had a few guys come join us in a play room and act as if they forgot them once they get there. They happily accept and put one on when we offer it but we often wonder were they just hoping for bareback or is it assumed the lady provides?"
Yes, yes they were. Nobody goes to a club without condoms hoping to fuck others and "forgets" the condoms. |
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It's best if all people have protection available in case one person accidentally forgets to have them ready etc. the only time I wouldn't use protection is with either a long term partner in regular life or while meeting with a person/couple I had met on multiple occasions previously, built trust between us and all people involved had been fully tested first with evidence provided |
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I always have my own with me, which are comfortable for me, so that I enjoy the experience of it goes on to playtime.
I once used the freebie version in a club, which was too tight on me, and gave me a rash! Ironic to say the least…. |
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We carry a supply of medium large and xl just in case but we would hope that guys bring some too as condoms seem to be a personal choice of which brand and size guys prefer. If we are meeting in hotel and splitting costs we would always offer to pay a bit more to equalise the cost of buying protection |
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All comes down to the communication, we don't play with condoms but back when we did we always took our own and asked before heading to a room (club) or before they came to our place if they had them x |
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Always brought my own even if I expect my partner will have their own. You never know. Sign of respect I believe, even in a small way.
Although one time I had a box in my suitcase (just bought) and the girl I had brought back to my room after meeting said she thought I was really presumptuous and stormed off  |
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I always just ask in first messages "are you on the pill Hun" then decide if bother buying the jonnies. The women love the question, it's like erotic gold to them.
The combo of starting with are you on the pill and Hun gets them wet. |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"I always just ask in first messages "are you on the pill Hun" then decide if bother buying the jonnies. The women love the question, it's like erotic gold to them.
The combo of starting with are you on the pill and Hun gets them wet."
Oh I thought it was my GP trying to find new ways to reach out to avoid an appointment. Huh, who knew |
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