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The "accommodate" conundrum
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"Ive never had a problem either way, however what does make me laugh is the fact some couples want a A4 message resembling "War and Peace" then complain that it may have been cut and pasted with the names changed, but thats the game we play." That's a whole different thread! Lol x | |||
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"Ive never had a problem either way, however what does make me laugh is the fact some couples want a A4 message resembling "War and Peace" then complain that it may have been cut and pasted with the names changed, but thats the game we play. That's a whole different thread! Lol x " Oops good point sorry lol  | |||
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"Am in the forces and living in SLA (single living accom) so can not accom but at the same time would not expect anybody to accom myself as people's houses are their homes and it is their choice to enjoy swinging and share with others this does not mean they should share their homes. There are swinging clubs all over the country to meet at and hotels also. As for being unable to travel i am off to Afghanistan in the not too distant future so have no car as it will be a waste of money when i am away for 8months of this year, happy to get on a train or a taxi but if it is not local it restricts play time due to travel restrictions. This is supposed to be fun for everyone so enjoy what you can when you can and if people have different curcumstances that do not suit you leave the poor people alone to enjoy themselves, it is YOUR problem and not theirs!" ...could you rotate your profile picture anti clock wise please???? | |||
"Am in the forces and living in SLA (single living accom) so can not accom but at the same time would not expect anybody to accom myself as people's houses are their homes and it is their choice to enjoy swinging and share with others this does not mean they should share their homes. There are swinging clubs all over the country to meet at and hotels also. As for being unable to travel i am off to Afghanistan in the not too distant future so have no car as it will be a waste of money when i am away for 8months of this year, happy to get on a train or a taxi but if it is not local it restricts play time due to travel restrictions. This is supposed to be fun for everyone so enjoy what you can when you can and if people have different curcumstances that do not suit you leave the poor people alone to enjoy themselves, it is YOUR problem and not theirs!...could you rotate your profile picture anti clock wise please???? "Maybe he's got special boots on the allow him to run up walls! Didn't think of that did you?? | |||
"...could you rotate your profile picture anti clock wise please????
Maybe he's got special boots on the allow him to run up walls! Didn't think of that did you?? "hummmm let see what he has to say about that. Oiiiii Ginge tell us your secret | |||
"...could you rotate your profile picture anti clock wise please????
Maybe he's got special boots on the allow him to run up walls! Didn't think of that did you?? hummmm let see what he has to say about that. Oiiiii Ginge tell us your secret "Superman training innit, he'll need all of that off to afdiggastan, so good luck to the bloke, just don't let him invite you over to the stan for a game of freckles. | |||
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"...could you rotate your profile picture anti clock wise please????
Maybe he's got special boots on the allow him to run up walls! Didn't think of that did you?? hummmm let see what he has to say about that. Oiiiii Ginge tell us your secret ....
Superman training innit, he'll need all of that off to afdiggastan, so good luck to the bloke, just don't let him invite you over to the stan for a game of freckles."I just can't believe you said that. How dare you take the opportunity for some people to get free accommodation and travel away? Those who will beready to have a meet on a front line in a very hot place would be queuing right now | |||
"...could you rotate your profile picture anti clock wise please????
Maybe he's got special boots on the allow him to run up walls! Didn't think of that did you?? hummmm let see what he has to say about that. Oiiiii Ginge tell us your secret
Superman training innit, he'll need all of that off to afdiggastan, so good luck to the bloke, just don't let him invite you over to the stan for a game of freckles."It's a secrete! Never telling  | |||
" I don't want randoms knowing my house and turning up when they are pissed and fancy a fuck (as has happened to some females I know who accommodate) I don't want my nosy neighbours or others in the village knowing who I see and what I do. I don't want it to impinge on my family life in any way shape or form. I know of some single mothers who have had social services investigate because someone with a grudge has sent them to their door. So the upshot of it is, I do not accommodate at home because my family, privacy and safety come before any sexy hobby. I accommodate in hotels as and when I can afford it. " I have no issues with that or anything else, what prompted this would be, FOR ARGUMENTS SAKE ONLY, if you took this attitude for your home life, but refused hotels and insisted your meets all accommodated, and opened themselves up to the very things you seek to avoid. | |||
" I don't want randoms knowing my house and turning up when they are pissed and fancy a fuck (as has happened to some females I know who accommodate) I don't want my nosy neighbours or others in the village knowing who I see and what I do. I don't want it to impinge on my family life in any way shape or form. I know of some single mothers who have had social services investigate because someone with a grudge has sent them to their door. So the upshot of it is, I do not accommodate at home because my family, privacy and safety come before any sexy hobby. I accommodate in hotels as and when I can afford it. I have no issues with that or anything else, what prompted this would be, FOR ARGUMENTS SAKE ONLY, if you took this attitude for your home life, but refused hotels and insisted your meets all accommodated, and opened themselves up to the very things you seek to avoid." I think it is everyone's right to feel the same way as I do, be they a couple or single male or female. I do not think it fair to insist single guys "prove" they are single by allowing strangers into their home either. There are as many bunny-boilers as there are married and playing away people in this game! | |||
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"we can accommodate and travel. as far as single men are concerned after an initial social we prefer to accommodate. we've never been to a single blokes place. Nice rant tho....."  . Thanks god there are still some nice couples here | |||
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"*sure* having kids and other commitments makes things difficult and awkward, been there, got the tee shirt, but that is YOUR problem, not anyone else's. " who said it was anyone elses problem? 
i dont accommodate, i could if i wanted to but i choose not to, im a single woman and i dont want guys off sex sites knowing where i live so they can just turn up whenever they are pissed and want a shag
Some people just choose not to accommodate there dont need to be a reason as to why, i dont have to be married, have kids or house share i could simply not want men of here knowing where i live | |||
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"There is a lot of dubious logic being applied here, I see many couples profiles that; a/ Insist single males accommodate, in order to "prove" that they are single males and not guys cheating on their wives. and b/ ALSO state that they themselves cannot accommodate.. I mean seriously, WTF is that all about? Sure, you can't accommodate 24/7/365, but there are friends / relatives / babysitters / sleepover etc. Bottom line is the single guy is more or less expected to provide a place for the "couple" to fuck, and the perception is because he is a single guy, he CAN accommodate 24/7/365. "Cannot travel" I get, some people can't afford to burn the extra diesel, some people don't drive, some people just don't have the time slots available to travel any distance and have time left to play, have a curfew tag (yes, it did happen to me..lol) etc. "Cannot accommodate" no, that applies equally to all, unless you are in the services in bachelor quarters, in the YMCA, or living with your parents, or are couch surfing homeless. *sure* having kids and other commitments makes things difficult and awkward, been there, got the tee shirt, but that is YOUR problem, not anyone else's. as for cannot accommodate AND cannot travel, WTF is that all about, this is a swinging site for people to meet and hang out and fuck, not pen pals anonymous." That is not how we operate, we will travel and share hotel costs but we do not want to accommodate at our house. It is our marital home, our sanctuary and something we want to keep that way and not have swinging crossing that boundary. There is also a safety risk as far as we are concerned, we do not want people to know where we live, incase it backfired it any way and then we get a stalker! I work a lot from home and most definitely do not want anyone turning up unannounced or not invited. | |||
" That is not how we operate, we will travel and share hotel costs but we do not want to accommodate at our house. It is our marital home, our sanctuary and something we want to keep that way and not have swinging crossing that boundary. There is also a safety risk as far as we are concerned, we do not want people to know where we live, incase it backfired it any way and then we get a stalker! I work a lot from home and most definitely do not want anyone turning up unannounced or not invited. " i relate to that I have kids and tho there are many times when my kids are out and i could invite someone here i wouldnt as this isnt just my home its my childrens home too and i respect that to much to have men off the internet in their home There are many other places to meet, clubs, hotel etc, what i will say tho is i never ask anyone to accommodate me, i dont ask anyone to do what im not prepaired to do and to be honest id sooner go to a hotel than someones house, i just feel its safter, i have on occasion been to guys houses when they have almost insisted and said they would sooner that than get a hotel but id never ask | |||
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"Having previously accommodated and having people turn up uninvited on our doorstep at all hours of day and night we choose not to in our new home as this way it keeps me safe when home alone. we meet at clubs mainly or others homes. We would also happily split cost of hotel so no not everyone can accommodate I don't out of safety. " ive had that too Ive only ever accommodated one guy and he abused my trust by turning up at my home uninvited when my kids was in I have never given my address out to anyone since | |||
"There is a lot of dubious logic being applied here, I see many couples profiles that; a/ Insist single males accommodate, in order to "prove" that they are single males and not guys cheating on their wives. and b/ ALSO state that they themselves cannot accommodate.. I mean seriously, WTF is that all about? Sure, you can't accommodate 24/7/365, but there are friends / relatives / babysitters / sleepover etc. Bottom line is the single guy is more or less expected to provide a place for the "couple" to fuck, and the perception is because he is a single guy, he CAN accommodate 24/7/365. "Cannot travel" I get, some people can't afford to burn the extra diesel, some people don't drive, some people just don't have the time slots available to travel any distance and have time left to play, have a curfew tag (yes, it did happen to me..lol) etc. "Cannot accommodate" no, that applies equally to all, unless you are in the services in bachelor quarters, in the YMCA, or living with your parents, or are couch surfing homeless. *sure* having kids and other commitments makes things difficult and awkward, been there, got the tee shirt, but that is YOUR problem, not anyone else's. as for cannot accommodate AND cannot travel, WTF is that all about, this is a swinging site for people to meet and hang out and fuck, not pen pals anonymous." just sounds like someone who isnt getting any and who would be surprised lol | |||
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"We don't accommodate at ours so Our choice is to meet others at their place, just our choice, if others have a problem with that we choose not to meet them. We also don't knowingly play with attached men. Just our choices." Same here | |||
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"My reasons are my reasons, my choice. People don't like it, tough "to right i dont explain my choices to anyone !! | |||
I trust all Forumites are getting the same!
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"There is a lot of dubious logic being applied here, I see many couples profiles that; a/ Insist single males accommodate, in order to "prove" that they are single males and not guys cheating on their wives. and b/ ALSO state that they themselves cannot accommodate.. I mean seriously, WTF is that all about? Sure, you can't accommodate 24/7/365, but there are friends / relatives / babysitters / sleepover etc. Bottom line is the single guy is more or less expected to provide a place for the "couple" to fuck, and the perception is because he is a single guy, he CAN accommodate 24/7/365. "Cannot travel" I get, some people can't afford to burn the extra diesel, some people don't drive, some people just don't have the time slots available to travel any distance and have time left to play, have a curfew tag (yes, it did happen to me..lol) etc. "Cannot accommodate" no, that applies equally to all, unless you are in the services in bachelor quarters, in the YMCA, or living with your parents, or are couch surfing homeless. *sure* having kids and other commitments makes things difficult and awkward, been there, got the tee shirt, but that is YOUR problem, not anyone else's. as for cannot accommodate AND cannot travel, WTF is that all about, this is a swinging site for people to meet and hang out and fuck, not pen pals anonymous." its can be done if its a genuine living together couple but so many fbs on here who live with other partners lol | |||
" its can be done if its a genuine living together couple but so many fbs on here who live with other partners lol" Precisely, but they "market" themselves as a couple who cannot accommodate, so you end up providing them with a place to fuck, since neither of them can accommodate the other either... so MMF it is ;*) | |||
"My profile is honest and upfront about why I can't accommodate, although when I have met people at their home, I always think it is a responsibility of mine to be the perfect guest and not abuse their hospitality. That means as a minimum turning up on time and leaving at an agreed time. I'm happy to meet on neutral ground and I can travel too. I've never had any issues with those criteria. " This | |||
I don't insist that single males must be able to accommodate but I like to know why they cannot as I don't play with cheaters. Some cannot accommodate as they house share, or share custody of children or have children living permanently living with them, I don't have an issue with them at all, like I said, I don't insist as its no big deal
And can accommodate is no proof that someone is single as I found out last week when I chatted to a guy who accommodates when his wife is away  | |||
"I never understand how someone cannot accomodate or travel. To me that reads as not prepared to make any efforts. although I know there are lots of good reasons for both. Also, what counts as 'accomodating'? " In a hotel by some, others it means at someone's home | |||
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