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Social or bed directly?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Social initially
How would you know you want to go further without meeting socially?
They're really hot "
Even so, I'd still need to meet socially/no expectations. |
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"Maybe a 30 minute social. Otherwise straight to the room. Why delay the inevitable  "
And what if the “couple” you are supposed to meet is actually a single guy looking to suck cock?
THIS is why I have socials first |
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"Maybe a 30 minute social. Otherwise straight to the room. Why delay the inevitable "
Because it isn't always inevitable. If for instance the slim, dark haired but in the photos aged twenty years, went grey overnight and turns up an hour late. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve done both. I will say the straight play luckily was one of the best meets I’ve had. However wiser now. Don’t want to be in the position where face to face it’s not quite right and you have to say. Risking hurt, financial loss of a hotel is booked or anger from a stranger when as a single woman I’m on my own. It’s not looking for friendship having a social, it’s confirming they are who they say they are, there’s attraction and boundaries can be discussed. I’ve said no after many coffees that would have been awkward if it was straight to play. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only social if that's all we can manage. If I agree to meet someone it means I think they're hot and I want to fuck them. It's worked for me for the past 10 years or so. |
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We like a social first but we always say to a prospective playmate leave the afternoon/evening clear so that if the chemistry is there we can go on straight to play. Fucking on a first date is very exciting but it’s good to have the safety net of having chatted over a coffee. If the guy is really hot the social has been known to last only 10 minutes! |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
Ideally social, then if the chemistry is there onto fun.
We've found on a couple of occasions interest can subside with the pause in proceedings, but straight to play hasn't been our best experiences either.. So guess we're awkward!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always social first. Any hint of it 'turning into more' then I won't meet them at all. Nothing sexual at the social. If they can't behave like a decent human being for a short period of time I won't be getting alone with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Social always. It gives you that pause point to say no and walk away if you aren’t attracted to them. If you just meet with the expectation of sex straight away that’s a hell of an awkward situation to be in if you don’t like them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Social first. ALWAYS.
I need to know I feel safe and that you are who you say you are before I put myself behind closed doors with you."
Beautifully said  |
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I definitely think Forum participants (small % of Fab as we know) are more socially minded than average Fab user - either as in like group socials or want a social/connection before. Not a good thing or a bad thing but an observation. Particularly as a couple the vast majority of people I've come across pretty much get straight down to it after a quick chat and many single ladies the same meeting as single man. Maybe that's just the type of people I've ended up meeting  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I definitely think Forum participants (small % of Fab as we know) are more socially minded than average Fab user - either as in like group socials or want a social/connection before. Not a good thing or a bad thing but an observation. Particularly as a couple the vast majority of people I've come across pretty much get straight down to it after a quick chat and many single ladies the same meeting as single man. Maybe that's just the type of people I've ended up meeting "
The type of people who want to meet and fuck won't want to chat on forums. They just want to fuck. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
If people can't take half an hour from their busy lives to meet for a social we certainly don't have the time to be naughty with them. Surely we all have to find out first if we are going to click and much more importantly, how respectful to others people are going to be  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Social, no intention of doing anything, just see if there's a vibe
I find it makes the tension far more intense.
I did bed straight away and it felt a little empty |
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I think it’s down to personal preference I once received a really abusive message from a guy I’d never had contact with judging me on my veris and how easy it is to have sex with me! Firstly it’s a site for nsa not exchanging knitting patterns , if I’m not for you pass me by, if I’ve chatted with someone a long time maybe by WhatsApp then sometimes I’ll bypass a social or have a social at mine I make it clear there are no guarantees I’ll play & that there’s no pressure on either of us I never assume a guy will fancy me in person lol sometimes I’ll have a coffee date or a drink in a pub all depends |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
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"I’ve done both. I will say the straight play luckily was one of the best meets I’ve had. However wiser now. Don’t want to be in the position where face to face it’s not quite right and you have to say. Risking hurt, financial loss of a hotel is booked or anger from a stranger when as a single woman I’m on my own. It’s not looking for friendship having a social, it’s confirming they are who they say they are, there’s attraction and boundaries can be discussed. I’ve said no after many coffees that would have been awkward if it was straight to play. "
This for us  |
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"If people can't take half an hour from their busy lives to meet for a social we certainly don't have the time to be naughty with them. Surely we all have to find out first if we are going to click and much more importantly, how respectful to others people are going to be "
Exactly this |
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While I’ve done both, given the potential number of fake profiles on fab a social is a good filter, but also gives you a chance to see if their personalities are what you’re looking for. I know it’s sex but I want to like someone as a person as well. It doesn’t mean I’m looking for a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Social
It's always good to build up to sexual connections and when you finally get to it it's more enjoyable...
Saying that straight to it is great if both just need it there then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me even tho I say bed first, no social, it still doesn't guarantee sex. You can still change your mind once there and leave. "
Have you ever turned someone down when they turned up for bed? |
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Well you can imagine what our answer was. He then told us he didn't like our tone and managed to block us before we blocked him. You can't beat a good old 'am an idiot' filter to save us meeting these fools 