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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Still happens to us couples you know! Just not as often. Men on here must have iron cast confidence to not let it get to them, don’t think I could do it.
If we get rejected or ignored by people we like then we just take it on the chin and move on.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Remember they aren't rejecting you as a whole person, most of the time it's a split second decision. They don't know who you are, what you bring to the table or if you profile reflects the real you. That's not rejection, it's preference. Don't let someone else's preference dictate your self esteem. |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
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Easily, I don't see why I need to be bothered about someone who doesn't know me have an effect on my.
Some people I'm drawn to as I sense they are good people and I'm happy to be friends with them. Other people I see through their bullshit and ego, they do not matter in the slightest to me. I'm attracted to the person, not just the physicality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They don’t know you so personally doesn’t bother us.
If it was in a bar or somewhere that wound be different but on here doesn’t really matter.
Don’t let it knock your confidence  |
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By *J nudeCouple
over a year ago
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Almost everyone rejects us that we message or wink. Getting used to it now and almost don't bother. Getting fedup with it all didn't think it would be this difficult. People say they are open minded in the swinging lifestyle think there's as much sizeist and prejudice in people than in the vanilla world. Sorry for rant but pissed off. |
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"Easily, I don't see why I need to be bothered about someone who doesn't know me have an effect on my.
Some people I'm drawn to as I sense they are good people and I'm happy to be friends with them. Other people I see through their bullshit and ego, they do not matter in the slightest to me. I'm attracted to the person, not just the physicality. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Almost everyone rejects us that we message or wink. Getting used to it now and almost don't bother. Getting fedup with it all didn't think it would be this difficult. People say they are open minded in the swinging lifestyle think there's as much sizeist and prejudice in people than in the vanilla world. Sorry for rant but pissed off. "
It’s maybe just down to people’s personal taste? We get people that are not into us but if you let that bother you on here it would be too much and would leave. It’s supposed to be fun and if it happens great if not no big deal
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I can honestly say I've never experienced it in 6 years here.
That doesn't mean I'm irresistible though.
It just means I don't send first contact messages and therefore am never in the position of being rejected.
Plenty of conversations fizzle out but that's the nature of the site.
I'm very fussy in who I meet even for a social so I have said no twice as much as I've said yes but it's always a thanks but no thanks response from me and never rude or sharp. |
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Doesn't bother either of us and we know we won't everyones cup of tea and nor would we want to be as both can't stand fakeness or just shagging for the sake of shagging plus Mr4 is quite happy being a minger and letting Mrs4 be the babe !!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do people handle rejection here?
Looks like women outnumber men here, so there will be lots of heartache  "
You've been here 6 weeks, so just to let you know it's a swingers site profile and a first or a reply to a message, location, body size, height ect all are taken into account, it's not rejecting you as something that doesn't fit what they are looking for.
As for heartache, you're just a guy online, hearts don't come into it
It may seem hard to take but you need an online way of thinking. |
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By *icker2010Man
over a year ago
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"Remember they aren't rejecting you as a whole person, most of the time it's a split second decision. They don't know who you are, what you bring to the table or if you profile reflects the real you. That's not rejection, it's preference. Don't let someone else's preference dictate your self esteem. "
This is good advice and worth remembering. |
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Look at it from this woman's point of view, having read quite a few rejection/no replies/no meets posts by men over the last few weeks, including one in which the OP more or less said if he was going to get rejected there was no point in even being nice to the women on here.
The men on here seriously outnumber women, so they're competing for our attention. Some of them will literally say anything to a woman to capture and hold her attention, with the end goal of having sex.
So how can this woman believe a word they say or if they're even genuine?
At the moment I can't, so not looking to meet anyone currently.
It might also help if he didn't tell the woman in his message that he's messaging someone else and that he's hoping to meet her but her childcare has got in the way. Of course both parties are messaging other people but no need to wave it in front of the other person's face.
This is my opinion and is not intended to represent other women's views on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a couple we rejected loads of singles, claimed singles for various reasons but on the whole it was due to rudeness, imploteness, answering questions with questions and the odd pster as we did not mind those pestered
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