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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We were out drinking Friday night and called a guy we know to come and have a drink with us. He arrived with a couple of friends but at the end of the night he asked if we could drop him home.
Long story short, as soon as we got in the car he suggested we go to a motel (sex hotels here in Brazil) and we thought why not.
Anyway we got there, stripped off and got straight down to the business which involved quite a bit of ass slapping on Aurelia whilst he was fucking her.
After we eventually dropped him home, I asked Aurelia what she thought of the ass slapping and she said she didn't like it too much but didn't want to kill the vibe by telling him.
I guess it's something we need to set straight from the outset when things like that happen in the future.
What do you guys think? Do you like it or not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a rule I wouldn't do it unless it's something we had discussed previously or have been asked to do during, yes some like it but there are others that it is a complete no go, consent is key |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As a rule I wouldn't do it unless it's something we had discussed previously or have been asked to do during, yes some like it but there are others that it is a complete no go, consent is key "
This is the thing I guess.
All of our meets are unplanned and happen when out drinking so we get caught up in the moment.
We need to be more aware in future just to set a couple of boundaries. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just shows how women feel dis-empowered even with a partner present. It's sad she did not feel able to stop it for fear of "killing the vibe" - whose vibe, the male vibe sadly."
True and I will know in future to establish that before any fun starts. |
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By *.T.Man
over a year ago
the Dromara hills |
It's one of those things that when in the heat of the moment can be erotic, but consent is key. He should have picked up cues as you shouldn't have to kill your vibe to protect his.
When the fun stops, stop. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
I wouldn't have tolerated someone slapping or doing something I didn't like. Such a shame she wasn't able to say something like "that's great, but I'm not into slapping", or give you a look so that you knew there was a problem.
Maybe you need a code word for future incidents.
I'd not put up with something I didn't like.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't have tolerated someone slapping or doing something I didn't like. Such a shame she wasn't able to say something like "that's great, but I'm not into slapping", or give you a look so that you knew there was a problem.
Maybe you need a code word for future incidents.
I'd not put up with something I didn't like.
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No, it's definitely something we will learn from as we hadn't really experienced it before in previous bits of fun.
We'll discuss exactly that for anything in the future. |
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By *eastXMan
over a year ago
London |
It is a personal preference. She shouldve said something. She doesnt have to maintain the vibe if she is not comfortable.
Be safe and enjoy it!
Me personally I can get both gentle and rough depending on the vibe and connection. |
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I've found it common and I don't mind it but most guys don't ask. I had one guy the slaps at a time, then pause, then again on my hip bone continually.
Seems a porn move, but if I'm asked, one of the hottest things if done right. |
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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago
just somewhere around here |
I have never understood why men feel that all of us females want our arse to be slapped when having sex? Unless it is something I have asked for i feel it is so cheesy and cliched.
I have had guys do it to me and it really does spoil the moment, it is like they think they are in some porn film and that all women love it.
I think I will start slapping them back now each time they do it without asking  |
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By *ifeOnMarsCouple
over a year ago
somewhere out there |
"I have never understood why men feel that all of us females want our arse to be slapped when having sex? Unless it is something I have asked for i feel it is so cheesy and cliched.
I have had guys do it to me and it really does spoil the moment, it is like they think they are in some porn film and that all women love it.
I think I will start slapping them back now each time they do it without asking "
Exactly this I hate having my arse slapped! |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
No impact (including hair pulling , hands on throat) should be done without clear verbal consent. If a person has not got the confidence or interpersonal skills to ask, they should not be doing it.
No-one should put up or tolerate such behavior.
Also it is so much hotter being given explicit, enthusiastic consent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you need to state what you like/don’t like.
Personally, I really enjoy it, as well as hair pulling, but the husband can tell what kind of mood I’m in.
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
The dot in the i |
I’d have said something, the way they react to my no would tell me a lot
If they blow up, I got out in time
If they’re not bothered, shrug and we continue, they’re the type I can relax with
It’s a good way to find out sooner rather than later |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
"We were out drinking Friday night and called a guy we know to come and have a drink with us. He arrived with a couple of friends but at the end of the night he asked if we could drop him home.
Long story short, as soon as we got in the car he suggested we go to a motel (sex hotels here in Brazil) and we thought why not.
Anyway we got there, stripped off and got straight down to the business which involved quite a bit of ass slapping on Aurelia whilst he was fucking her.
After we eventually dropped him home, I asked Aurelia what she thought of the ass slapping and she said she didn't like it too much but didn't want to kill the vibe by telling him.
I guess it's something we need to set straight from the outset when things like that happen in the future.
What do you guys think? Do you like it or not?"
If anyone slaps my ass it's the end of play. It's far too presumptuous to assume that a new partner is going to enjoy your particular kink or porn movie scene before asking them. |
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"We were out drinking Friday night and called a guy we know to come and have a drink with us. He arrived with a couple of friends but at the end of the night he asked if we could drop him home.
Long story short, as soon as we got in the car he suggested we go to a motel (sex hotels here in Brazil) and we thought why not.
Anyway we got there, stripped off and got straight down to the business which involved quite a bit of ass slapping on Aurelia whilst he was fucking her.
After we eventually dropped him home, I asked Aurelia what she thought of the ass slapping and she said she didn't like it too much but didn't want to kill the vibe by telling him.
I guess it's something we need to set straight from the outset when things like that happen in the future.
What do you guys think? Do you like it or not?"
Something I like (not too hard and anticipation is key) but only after checking in with her first. And would hope that she would say yes or no
Goal is to make sure she’s enjoying so definitely would recommend letting him know next time. He won’t mind and you can do it gently |
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Oh yes some impact play can be fun but never feel you can't say something out of fear it's going to kill the moment. I've let someone carry on with something they where really enjoying, I ended up really hurt by it. |
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"It is a personal preference. She shouldve said something. She doesnt have to maintain the vibe if she is not comfortable.
Be safe and enjoy it!
Me personally I can get both gentle and rough depending on the vibe and connection. "
How about, he should have gained consent.  |
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By *ustylouWoman
over a year ago
Aylesbury |
I do like it at times. But guys please vary where you slap. My arse is big enough you dont have to keep in the same spot. It's fun until it becomes painful and then watch out one day I will slap back. Rubbing it better is just as fun. |
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I dunno I feel like him asking if he can slap my ass takes a bit of something away from it . I’ve never felt like it was ever out of place . Even if it was a bit of a shock or a bit harder than I’m used to, it’s never taken me out of the situation mentally or emotionally. But I guess everyone has a different tolerance or expectation to that kind of thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dunno I feel like him asking if he can slap my ass takes a bit of something away from it . I’ve never felt like it was ever out of place . Even if it was a bit of a shock or a bit harder than I’m used to, it’s never taken me out of the situation mentally or emotionally. But I guess everyone has a different tolerance or expectation to that kind of thing "
Exactly how I feel! I'd be turned off if he asked me first.
I think we have to be ok with people trying things during sex that we might not like, I mean you cant expect a man to ask every time he wants to do something to you. Consent doesn't need to be explicit for every act.
If he does something you don't enjoy and you want him to stop just tell him, or of it's not that bad you let him and then you ask he doesn't do it next time.
It's the same for women on men! |
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"I have never understood why men feel that all of us females want our arse to be slapped when having sex? Unless it is something I have asked for i feel it is so cheesy and cliched.
I have had guys do it to me and it really does spoil the moment, it is like they think they are in some porn film and that all women love it.
I think I will start slapping them back now each time they do it without asking "
Suspect that porn is the root of this. But have never seen slapping back in one...
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"I dunno I feel like him asking if he can slap my ass takes a bit of something away from it . I’ve never felt like it was ever out of place . Even if it was a bit of a shock or a bit harder than I’m used to, it’s never taken me out of the situation mentally or emotionally. But I guess everyone has a different tolerance or expectation to that kind of thing
Exactly how I feel! I'd be turned off if he asked me first.
I think we have to be ok with people trying things during sex that we might not like, I mean you cant expect a man to ask every time he wants to do something to you. Consent doesn't need to be explicit for every act.
If he does something you don't enjoy and you want him to stop just tell him, or of it's not that bad you let him and then you ask he doesn't do it next time.
It's the same for women on men!"
Yeah I feel the same way  |
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"I dunno I feel like him asking if he can slap my ass takes a bit of something away from it . I’ve never felt like it was ever out of place . Even if it was a bit of a shock or a bit harder than I’m used to, it’s never taken me out of the situation mentally or emotionally. But I guess everyone has a different tolerance or expectation to that kind of thing
Exactly how I feel! I'd be turned off if he asked me first.
I think we have to be ok with people trying things during sex that we might not like, I mean you cant expect a man to ask every time he wants to do something to you. Consent doesn't need to be explicit for every act.
If he does something you don't enjoy and you want him to stop just tell him, or of it's not that bad you let him and then you ask he doesn't do it next time.
It's the same for women on men!"
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"We were out drinking Friday night and called a guy we know to come and have a drink with us. He arrived with a couple of friends but at the end of the night he asked if we could drop him home.
Long story short, as soon as we got in the car he suggested we go to a motel (sex hotels here in Brazil) and we thought why not.
Anyway we got there, stripped off and got straight down to the business which involved quite a bit of ass slapping on Aurelia whilst he was fucking her.
After we eventually dropped him home, I asked Aurelia what she thought of the ass slapping and she said she didn't like it too much but didn't want to kill the vibe by telling him.
I guess it's something we need to set straight from the outset when things like that happen in the future.
What do you guys think? Do you like it or not?"
Fair play to her. She was a champ for taking it. She can let him know in advance next time to ease off and all is sorted |
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