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"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol. "Going by your horny pics and your profile im surprised that yous are not getting lots of meets x  | |||
"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol.
Going by your horny pics and your profile im surprised that yous are not getting lots of meets x "it’s just the same old stuff lol. Exchange pictures and then people just want to chat and then when it comes to a social or arranging a meet it goes silent.  | |||
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"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol. "Sent you a message | |||
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"Yes story of my life. Becoming a nun as we speak. I just dispair at the constant timewasters" starting to worry that our swinging virginity is going to grow back  | |||
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"That is why the club scene is the best place. The people who go, are there because there serious about the lifestyle." we really want to try the club scene! just a bit nervous for it  | |||
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"That is why the club scene is the best place. The people who go, are there because there serious about the lifestyle. we really want to try the club scene! just a bit nervous for it "Everybody is nervous when they go for the first time. If you do your research and find a decent club. They will show you around telling you all about the club. Maybe introducing you to other. The nerve's will vanish in no time. Just use it as a social as you didn't have to play. | |||
"That is why the club scene is the best place. The people who go, are there because there serious about the lifestyle. we really want to try the club scene! just a bit nervous for it
Everybody is nervous when they go for the first time.
If you do your research and find a decent club. They will show you around telling you all about the club. Maybe introducing you to other. The nerve's will vanish in no time. Just use it as a social as you didn't have to play."we’ve been looking at amigos in leicester, but you need a few verifications on here for entry, but when it’s so difficult to get a meet with someone decent it’s a struggle! | |||
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"That is why the club scene is the best place. The people who go, are there because there serious about the lifestyle. we really want to try the club scene! just a bit nervous for it
Everybody is nervous when they go for the first time.
If you do your research and find a decent club. They will show you around telling you all about the club. Maybe introducing you to other. The nerve's will vanish in no time. Just use it as a social as you didn't have to play.
we’ve been looking at amigos in leicester, but you need a few verifications on here for entry, but when it’s so difficult to get a meet with someone decent it’s a struggle! "Come and say hi to me in a couple of weeks and I’ll verify you  | |||
"That is why the club scene is the best place. The people who go, are there because there serious about the lifestyle. we really want to try the club scene! just a bit nervous for it "Go in the daytime Theres 2 close proximity Leicester Club29 & Amigos Wouldn't mind Chameleons, Pretty bored Xtasias never met or fucked there Sure theres some naughty cinemas you can nip into | |||
"That is why the club scene is the best place. The people who go, are there because there serious about the lifestyle. we really want to try the club scene! just a bit nervous for it
Everybody is nervous when they go for the first time.
If you do your research and find a decent club. They will show you around telling you all about the club. Maybe introducing you to other. The nerve's will vanish in no time. Just use it as a social as you didn't have to play.
we’ve been looking at amigos in leicester, but you need a few verifications on here for entry, but when it’s so difficult to get a meet with someone decent it’s a struggle! "I have been to a club and really enjoyed it, was nervous at first but the as the night went on I got so comfortable, unfortunately due to work etc I can’t go often. I struggle with people bailing on meet ups as well | |||
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"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol. "How do you know they are time wasters sbd pic collectors? | |||
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"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol.
How do you know they are time wasters sbd pic collectors? "it just gets really obvious, time wasters, when you try and arrange a meet and it’s always an excuse or a cancellation constantly, and pic collecting is obvious too, all they care about is ‘trading’ or constantly just beg for pictures etc, any mention of a meet gets swept under a rug and they just want pictures again. | |||
"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol.
How do you know they are time wasters sbd pic collectors?
it just gets really obvious, time wasters, when you try and arrange a meet and it’s always an excuse or a cancellation constantly, and pic collecting is obvious too, all they care about is ‘trading’ or constantly just beg for pictures etc, any mention of a meet gets swept under a rug and they just want pictures again. "Maybe they just don’t want to meet though? If you arrange a meet and they don’t turn up, then sure, timewasters But just because they chat and dont want to meet doesn’t make them a time waster. No one owes you a meet because you chatted | |||
"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol.
How do you know they are time wasters sbd pic collectors?
it just gets really obvious, time wasters, when you try and arrange a meet and it’s always an excuse or a cancellation constantly, and pic collecting is obvious too, all they care about is ‘trading’ or constantly just beg for pictures etc, any mention of a meet gets swept under a rug and they just want pictures again.
Maybe they just don’t want to meet though?
If you arrange a meet and they don’t turn up, then sure, timewasters
But just because they chat and dont want to meet doesn’t make them a time waster. No one owes you a meet because you chatted "not once have I said that anybody owes me anything thankyou very much. I’m on a SWINGING website, the point is in the name, and if I think having a conversation over and over and i think that it’s a waste of my time then i can think it’s a waste of my time. were on here to swing and experience new things, im not on here to sit and just trade and exchange pictures, i’ve said above, about meeting and people not turning up, I also think that’s a waste of my time, i’m allowed to have an opinion on what is a waste of my time or not, especially when it’s a reply to a status of arranging a meet etc. thanks | |||
"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol.
How do you know they are time wasters sbd pic collectors?
it just gets really obvious, time wasters, when you try and arrange a meet and it’s always an excuse or a cancellation constantly, and pic collecting is obvious too, all they care about is ‘trading’ or constantly just beg for pictures etc, any mention of a meet gets swept under a rug and they just want pictures again.
Maybe they just don’t want to meet though?
If you arrange a meet and they don’t turn up, then sure, timewasters
But just because they chat and dont want to meet doesn’t make them a time waster. No one owes you a meet because you chatted
not once have I said that anybody owes me anything thankyou very much. I’m on a SWINGING website, the point is in the name, and if I think having a conversation over and over and i think that it’s a waste of my time then i can think it’s a waste of my time.
were on here to swing and experience new things, im not on here to sit and just trade and exchange pictures, i’ve said above, about meeting and people not turning up, I also think that’s a waste of my time, i’m allowed to have an opinion on what is a waste of my time or not, especially when it’s a reply to a status of arranging a meet etc.
thanks "Good luck, you’ll need it | |||
"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol.
How do you know they are time wasters sbd pic collectors?
it just gets really obvious, time wasters, when you try and arrange a meet and it’s always an excuse or a cancellation constantly, and pic collecting is obvious too, all they care about is ‘trading’ or constantly just beg for pictures etc, any mention of a meet gets swept under a rug and they just want pictures again.
Maybe they just don’t want to meet though?
If you arrange a meet and they don’t turn up, then sure, timewasters
But just because they chat and dont want to meet doesn’t make them a time waster. No one owes you a meet because you chatted
not once have I said that anybody owes me anything thankyou very much. I’m on a SWINGING website, the point is in the name, and if I think having a conversation over and over and i think that it’s a waste of my time then i can think it’s a waste of my time.
were on here to swing and experience new things, im not on here to sit and just trade and exchange pictures, i’ve said above, about meeting and people not turning up, I also think that’s a waste of my time, i’m allowed to have an opinion on what is a waste of my time or not, especially when it’s a reply to a status of arranging a meet etc.
thanks
Good luck, you’ll need it "All i’m saying is, is someone says they’ll meet, arrange a meet, doesn’t turn up, they’ve wasted my time. If someone has messaged me about meeting, and then all they care about is getting pictures off of us, then again it’s a waste of time, in my opinion | |||
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"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol. "Yeah our last meet we had 5 guys but only one turned up a hour late so we normally just go club now as so much easier and less stressful | |||
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"OP. We would recommend Liberty Elite on a Saturday for your first adventure, it's a very relaxed environment and couples only on Saturdays. Nerves are natural on your first visit but once you're through the door you'll be surprised how quickly you relax. However your profile shows one of you being 20, you may need to wait until you are 21. " will have a look into it thankyou  ,
there is a club quite local to us that is 18+ so we’re looking at that atm, just need to get a couple more verifications | |||
"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol. "My friends come and go. I’ve got used to it, it’s s lot of chat and an in-line social network for lots. Just think about it from their point of view, they’re looking for options, you might be there option for photos, and a quick thrill. (Whatever that is). I hope this place begins to attract people who are serious about forming a connection with likeminded people pretty soon. | |||
"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol. "When me and the Mrs used to meet as a couple we met a few couples on here without any issues, the first time we arranged a meet with a single guy the day came and he ghosted us, now I tend to very really even try and arrange a meet on her and if I do get lucky enough I'd opt to meeting at a club but mainly I use Fab as a means to find out who will be at the club when I'm going. | |||
"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol. "We have the same problem. We used to go to clubs when we first started swinging and it was so much easier to meet genuine like minded people. We haven't been to a club since early 2020 and decided to try the social route. Unfortunately that has had zero success for different reasons. We have also found the fact that our profile states we're both bi-curious doesn't help, it hasn't always stated that and seen a change in the people who message us. You'll be surprised at how many couples state on their profile that they won't meet couples where the male is bi or bi-curious. Our profile says we do and can play straight but doesn't make a difference. Definitely try a club or two. Good luck with your search | |||
"We now only meet with very well verified or recommended men. When we’re ready to bring someone into our fun we arrange 3 or 4 socials on the same day and expect at least one to abort. From the socials we’ve so far always managed to get a hotel date sorted with one guy which we then arrange within a day or two so that no one goes off the boil. So far the plan works pretty good. " This
The best meets are the ones that happen quickly
IMHO because they are the most likely to happen. If you plan too far in advance then life can happen and things get in the way. | |||
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"That is why the club scene is the best place. The people who go, are there because there serious about the lifestyle. we really want to try the club scene! just a bit nervous for it
Everybody is nervous when they go for the first time.
If you do your research and find a decent club. They will show you around telling you all about the club. Maybe introducing you to other. The nerve's will vanish in no time. Just use it as a social as you didn't have to play.
we’ve been looking at amigos in leicester, but you need a few verifications on here for entry, but when it’s so difficult to get a meet with someone decent it’s a struggle! "I wonder if there's a call for some of us newbies to start arranging avowedly non-sexual meets, literally grabbing a coffee etc for half an hour, for the purpose of verifying each other? I didn't know clubs had that policy, though I see it makes sense! Just adds to the Catch-22... | |||
"That is why the club scene is the best place. The people who go, are there because there serious about the lifestyle. we really want to try the club scene! just a bit nervous for it
Everybody is nervous when they go for the first time.
If you do your research and find a decent club. They will show you around telling you all about the club. Maybe introducing you to other. The nerve's will vanish in no time. Just use it as a social as you didn't have to play.
we’ve been looking at amigos in leicester, but you need a few verifications on here for entry, but when it’s so difficult to get a meet with someone decent it’s a struggle! "You should try Jaydees there is a newbie night on the 8th October I think couples don't even have to book having to have verifications to go to a club is a bit, not everyone uses Fab | |||
"Interesting to notice from reading these comments it’s across the board that are struggling for meets…couples/guys/girls too…who knew? lol think that says more about the site in the fact that it’s no longer(I’m sure it was initially) people who are really into the lifestyle but timewasters and people getting kicks in a strange way….verified people would be safest option….I know that doesn’t help newbies…suppose still all down to choice hey? " We've been on the scene for about 10 years and have seen a change in how the site works. But like most things, they do change. Some people assume because they've joined a swinging site that everyone on here will have sex with anybody and we all know it doesn't work like that. Organised socials are a great way to meet people, plenty of them in the forums | |||
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"Interesting to notice from reading these comments it’s across the board that are struggling for meets…couples/guys/girls too…who knew? lol think that says more about the site in the fact that it’s no longer(I’m sure it was initially) people who are really into the lifestyle but timewasters and people getting kicks in a strange way….verified people would be safest option….I know that doesn’t help newbies…suppose still all down to choice hey? " We’ve been on here a month, only really looking for couples. Had 3 meets so far and a fair few in the pipeline.
Maybe we’ve just got lucky | |||
"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol. "We struggle to find the courage to message people on our hotlist as we use that to keep track of people that we think are out of our league. You've been on our hotlist for a while 
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"We've given up on meets as they always cancel on us. Just clubs for us now." Are they mad? | |||
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"Our failure rate here is about 90%. We’d have more success asking strangers in Tesco! " | |||
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"I am new on this site and have tried. I am not pushy but how does one get a verification if they can't meet. I know going to club meets but that is not always possible." We have actually arranged to meet someone in the past for a social just to verify him at his request. He was local and we had some spare time for a coffee. He didn’t turn up! Feel for you mate but it’s mad here. | |||
"I am new on this site and have tried. I am not pushy but how does one get a verification if they can't meet. I know going to club meets but that is not always possible. We have actually arranged to meet someone in the past for a social just to verify him at his request. He was local and we had some spare time for a coffee. He didn’t turn up! Feel for you mate but it’s mad here. " He does not know what he missed out on I guess...your lovely | |||
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" We have actually arranged to meet someone in the past for a social just to verify him at his request. He was local and we had some spare time for a coffee. He didn’t turn up! Feel for you mate but it’s mad here. " Ha ha. That’s insane, cold feet? I think everyone loves the thought of it all, it’s easy when you’re behind a keyboard but reality is different. Our first social was literally organised so quickly, we didn’t have time to think about it, turned out to be great fun as have all the others. I think we may have been lucky so far as have heard a few horror stories  | |||
"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol.
We struggle to find the courage to message people on our hotlist as we use that to keep track of people that we think are out of our league.
You've been on our hotlist for a while
(Bry)"Hope you guys pluck up the courage to message some of the people on your hot list otherwise how are you ever going to know you will either get a yes or no from them but until you messages them to find out it will always be a no. Nick | |||
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"Yes story of my life. Becoming a nun as we speak. I just dispair at the constant timewasters" We are not all timewasters but there is plenty of them on here and not just the singles there are plenty of couples too. I think its just part of the lifestyle? | |||
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"does anyone really struggle to arrange a meet on here? constantly met with timewasters and people who just quite clearly want to pic collect, frustrating us now lol. "Same but with with women no issues with men at all and not that I’m complaining but sometimes I crave another woman’s pussy | |||
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"we all get our share of timewasters on here. "We certainly do sadly | |||
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