"Sexless marriages is it because the woman doesnt have a high sex drive or is it because the husband can't satisfy her and she can't be bothered anymore and visa versa? "
From my personal experience OP, I absolutely could be bothered, and tried countless ways to initiate sex or any type of intimacy. My husband just didn't respond. In the end I stopped trying as being turned down time and time again by the one person who is supposed to want you, is awful. So one possibility amoungst no doubt many others, is the fear of rejection, that turns a "dry spell" into a sexless marriage.
It eventually split us up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone has a different perspective on sexless, some might see it as no sex at all and others might see it as don't match their sex drive.
Whatever the reason, everyone should be in a relationship where they feel comfortable enough to express their needs and sort through their issues. |
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By *illanelleWoman
over a year ago
Ryde, Isle of Wight |
"More often menopause has a big effect on sex drive in a woman but a man should always respect that. "
I've been post-menopausal for more than 10 years and it was my ex-partner who lost all interest. He even told me he didn't like kissing me  |
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By *illanelleWoman
over a year ago
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"From my personal experience OP, I absolutely could be bothered, and tried countless ways to initiate sex or any type of intimacy. My husband just didn't respond. In the end I stopped trying as being turned down time and time again by the one person who is supposed to want you, is awful. So one possibility amoungst no doubt many others, is the fear of rejection, that turns a "dry spell" into a sexless marriage.
It eventually split us up. "
This sounds so familiar. My ex wouldn't so much as touch me for years. It was the most utterly soul-destroying thing I've ever experienced. It left me feeling like I must be the most hideous thing in the world.
It's been about a year since we split and I'm starting to heal but it's slow-going and the smallest thing can set me back |
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By *KG12Couple
over a year ago
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Could also be due to a lack of attention away from the bedroom. Im a firm believer that holding the OH leg or hand whilst watching TV, or a cheeky kiss when walking past each other all help keep you connected.
Can't expect sex if no attention has been paid to the OH away from the bedroom |
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"More often menopause has a big effect on sex drive in a woman but a man should always respect that.
I've been post-menopausal for more than 10 years and it was my ex-partner who lost all interest. He even told me he didn't like kissing me "
Sometimes logic fails me  |
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"Marriage is something you both have to work on, sex is just a small part 
Not on about marriages themselves ,just the sex side of it "
Well if other aspects of the marriage is bad and not worked on I would imagine it could majorly put you off having sex with your partner so it's all connected. |
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I was in a sexless marriage as my ex sex drive took a nose dive after our youngest was born, we tried talking and counciling but after 5 years of almost no sex and 4 more of none at all we finally split and we're both much happier now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From my personal experience OP, I absolutely could be bothered, and tried countless ways to initiate sex or any type of intimacy. My husband just didn't respond. In the end I stopped trying as being turned down time and time again by the one person who is supposed to want you, is awful. So one possibility amongst no doubt many others, is the fear of rejection, that turns a "dry spell" into a sexless marriage.
It eventually split us up. "
That's exactly what happened to my marriage (but the other way round) I was always willing, she couldn't be bothered so we divorced. |
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"Sexless marriages is it because the woman doesnt have a high sex drive or is it because the husband can't satisfy her and she can't be bothered anymore and visa versa?
From my personal experience OP, I absolutely could be bothered, and tried countless ways to initiate sex or any type of intimacy. My husband just didn't respond. In the end I stopped trying as being turned down time and time again by the one person who is supposed to want you, is awful. So one possibility amoungst no doubt many others, is the fear of rejection, that turns a "dry spell" into a sexless marriage.
It eventually split us up. "
Exactly what happened to me. Very soul destroying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Having been in this position with an ex who had no sex drive for a very good reason, if one party of a relationship doesn’t want sex and doesn’t want to work on whatever is stopping them it’s not fair to expect the other party to remain celibate and faithful. |
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By *edGrayCouple
over a year ago
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Various factors can influence one's sex drive for both parties. Menopause, Andropause, age, busy lifestyles, children, multigenerational cohabitation, and dare we say, boredom. The list is endless. Keeping a long term relationship passionate is never easy. Which is most probably why some people seak sexual solice outside of their relationships.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sexless marriages is it because the woman doesnt have a high sex drive or is it because the husband can't satisfy her and she can't be bothered anymore and visa versa?
From my personal experience OP, I absolutely could be bothered, and tried countless ways to initiate sex or any type of intimacy. My husband just didn't respond. In the end I stopped trying as being turned down time and time again by the one person who is supposed to want you, is awful. So one possibility amoungst no doubt many others, is the fear of rejection, that turns a "dry spell" into a sexless marriage.
It eventually split us up. "
I had the same situation. |
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"More often menopause has a big effect on sex drive in a woman but a man should always respect that. "
It may for SOME women, but by no means all. It had the opposite effect for me - can't get enough |
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"Sexless marriages is it because the woman doesnt have a high sex drive or is it because the husband can't satisfy her and she can't be bothered anymore and visa versa?
From my personal experience OP, I absolutely could be bothered, and tried countless ways to initiate sex or any type of intimacy. My husband just didn't respond. In the end I stopped trying as being turned down time and time again by the one person who is supposed to want you, is awful. So one possibility amoungst no doubt many others, is the fear of rejection, that turns a "dry spell" into a sexless marriage.
It eventually split us up. "
This is exactly my life for a few years now |
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"Sexless marriages is it because the woman doesnt have a high sex drive or is it because the husband can't satisfy her and she can't be bothered anymore and visa versa?
From my personal experience OP, I absolutely could be bothered, and tried countless ways to initiate sex or any type of intimacy. My husband just didn't respond. In the end I stopped trying as being turned down time and time again by the one person who is supposed to want you, is awful. So one possibility amoungst no doubt many others, is the fear of rejection, that turns a "dry spell" into a sexless marriage.
It eventually split us up. "
This is where I am, I dont want to split up but the lack of any intimacy really takes its toll and being rejected again and again can make you feel so low and unloved that it has a serious impact on your mental well being. |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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Seems a lot of us are in the same position.
I am hoping my sex drive in a way disappears as that’s the easiest way to sort it.
I don’t have a massive drive but every few weeks is ok for me.
The lack of kissing and affection is probably the biggest problem. |
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"Sexless marriages is it because the woman doesnt have a high sex drive or is it because the husband can't satisfy her and she can't be bothered anymore and visa versa?
From my personal experience OP, I absolutely could be bothered, and tried countless ways to initiate sex or any type of intimacy. My husband just didn't respond. In the end I stopped trying as being turned down time and time again by the one person who is supposed to want you, is awful. So one possibility amoungst no doubt many others, is the fear of rejection, that turns a "dry spell" into a sexless marriage.
It eventually split us up. "
Exactly this happened to me also. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My experience is pretty much similar to those already posted. At first we had a fabulous sex life but she became ill, and the pain killers meant she lost virtually all interest. When I tried to initiate sex my wife simply doesn't respond and 'turns' on me. I've lost count the number of ways I've tried to initiate sex that in the end I simply stopped trying (like someone said above) with the one person who is supposed to want you, is awful. The rejection does turn into a dry spell, which leads to a sexless marriage.
I'm sure all of us that are in the same position resort to masturbation, but there is only so much fun you can have on your own
The only time we has sex is when she is d*unk and as you can imagine doesn't do much for ones confidence. |
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By *uggiedMan
over a year ago
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"From my personal experience OP, I absolutely could be bothered, and tried countless ways to initiate sex or any type of intimacy. My husband just didn't respond. In the end I stopped trying as being turned down time and time again by the one person who is supposed to want you, is awful. So one possibility amoungst no doubt many others, is the fear of rejection, that turns a "dry spell" into a sexless marriage.
It eventually split us up.
This sounds so familiar. My ex wouldn't so much as touch me for years. It was the most utterly soul-destroying thing I've ever experienced. It left me feeling like I must be the most hideous thing in the world.
It's been about a year since we split and I'm starting to heal but it's slow-going and the smallest thing can set me back "
Your ex must be mad to let such a stunning lady Exit his life |
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